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I'm so sorry for your loss, Honorah. I know this process feels overwhelming right now, but you're asking all the right questions. One thing I wanted to add that I haven't seen mentioned yet - if your husband was in the military or worked for the government, there might be additional survivor benefits available through those programs that work alongside Social Security. Also, some employers offer life insurance or pension survivor benefits that you should check into if you haven't already. The Social Security CIC benefits everyone has explained are definitely your priority right now, but don't forget to also contact his former employer's HR department to ask about any other survivor benefits you might be entitled to. Sometimes these additional benefits can really help bridge the gap, especially during that period when your CIC benefits stop at 16 but before you're eligible for widow benefits at 60. Take care of yourself during this difficult time - the paperwork and applications will get sorted out, but make sure you're getting the emotional support you need too.
This is such great advice about checking for additional benefits - thank you! I hadn't even thought about contacting his employer's HR department. He worked for a utility company for 15 years, so there might be something there I don't know about. I'll add that to my list of things to follow up on once I get the Social Security applications started. It's so helpful to think about that gap period between when CIC benefits end and widow benefits begin - that's still several years away for me, but planning ahead makes sense. Thank you for also mentioning the emotional support aspect. I've been so focused on the financial logistics that I sometimes forget I need to take care of myself too. This community has been incredibly helpful in both ways - practical guidance and emotional support from people who truly understand what this process is like.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Honorah. I wanted to share something that might help with the application process - if you're comfortable with technology, you can actually create a my Social Security account online at ssa.gov and start some of the paperwork there. It won't replace the need to speak with someone for survivor benefits, but it can help you get organized and familiar with the system. Also, I've found that Tuesday through Thursday mornings tend to have shorter wait times than Mondays or Fridays when calling SSA. And if you do get disconnected (which happens unfortunately), don't give up - the system is frustrating but the benefits are absolutely worth it. One more thing - when you do speak with a representative, ask them to send you a written summary of what benefits you've applied for and the timeline for processing. This gives you something to reference later and helps ensure nothing falls through the cracks. You're being so strong advocating for yourself and your children during such a difficult time. The CIC benefits will provide some financial stability while you're navigating this new chapter. Take it one day at a time.
This is really helpful advice about creating the online account and the timing for calls - thank you! I'll definitely try calling Tuesday through Thursday mornings, and the tip about asking for a written summary is something I wouldn't have thought to request but seems really important for keeping track of everything. Setting up the my Social Security account online sounds like a good first step to get familiar with the system before I dive into the phone calls. I really appreciate the encouragement too - some days it's hard to feel strong when everything feels so overwhelming, but knowing that others have successfully navigated this process gives me confidence that I can do it too. Thank you for taking the time to share these practical tips!
Good plan. Make sure to specifically ask them to calculate both amounts for you before making a final decision. Sometimes the difference can be very small, and it's worth understanding exactly what you'll receive. Best of luck with your appointment!
One thing to add that might help with your planning - if you're still working and earning income, be aware of the earnings test rules even though you're at FRA. Since you've reached your full retirement age, there's no earnings limit that would reduce your Social Security benefits, so you can work and collect your full benefit amount without any penalties. This is different from people who claim benefits before their FRA. Also, when you do file, make sure to ask SSA to provide you with a written breakdown showing exactly how they calculated both your own retirement benefit and the ex-spouse benefit amount. Having this documentation can be really helpful for your records and future planning. The whole process can feel overwhelming, but you're asking all the right questions!
Thank you all for your helpful responses! I didn't realize this was so complicated. I'm going to try to reach the SSA to get the exact calculation based on our specific situation. It sounds like I might get a small increase but probably not as much as I was hoping for. I'll update when I find out more information!
I went through this exact same situation two years ago! I was 65, on SSDI for 6 years, and my husband was already collecting his Social Security. The key thing to understand is that you're not really "switching" - you're applying for what's called "auxiliary benefits" on your husband's record. SSA will pay you whichever amount is higher: your SSDI or the spousal benefit. In my case, I ended up getting about $300 more per month, which has been a huge help with rising costs. The process took about 6 weeks once I finally got through to them. One tip: try calling SSA first thing in the morning right when they open - I had much better luck getting through that way. Also, have all your documents ready including your marriage certificate and both of your Social Security numbers. Good luck!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! $300 more per month would make a real difference for us. I really appreciate the tip about calling first thing in the morning - I'll definitely try that. It's encouraging to hear from someone who actually went through this process successfully. Did you need to provide any other documents besides the marriage certificate and Social Security numbers?
I'm a newcomer to this community but wanted to share what I learned when helping my uncle with a similar situation last year. One thing that really helped us was downloading the SSA-11 form ahead of time from the Social Security website and filling it out completely before going to the office. This saved us a lot of time and the SSA staff seemed to appreciate that we came prepared. Also, I'd suggest asking the nursing home for a written statement explaining exactly how much they expect to receive monthly and how they'll handle the personal needs allowance. Having this documentation helped us when we met with the SSA representative - they wanted to see that we understood the financial arrangement. The whole process felt overwhelming at first, but breaking it down into steps made it manageable: 1) Get all documents together, 2) Fill out the form, 3) Visit SSA office, 4) Coordinate with nursing home. Don't hesitate to ask questions at each step - everyone we worked with was more helpful once they saw we were actively trying to do things correctly.
This is such practical advice! I really appreciate you mentioning downloading the SSA-11 form ahead of time - I hadn't thought about preparing everything in advance like that. Your suggestion about getting a written statement from the nursing home about their expectations and personal allowance handling is brilliant too. I can see how having all that documentation would make the SSA visit much smoother and show that I'm taking this seriously. Breaking it down into those four clear steps makes the whole process feel much less overwhelming than it did when I first posted. Thank you for taking the time to share your experience - it's exactly the kind of step-by-step guidance I was hoping to find!
I'm new to this community but wanted to share my recent experience since I just went through this exact process with my grandmother three months ago. The nursing home staff kept using confusing terminology that made everything sound more complicated than it needed to be. Here's what I wish someone had told me upfront: You're essentially becoming your sister's "financial representative" for Social Security purposes, which is separate from your POA. Think of it as SSA's own version of power of attorney specifically for benefits. A few practical tips that saved me time: - Bring a medical statement from your sister's doctor confirming she cannot manage her own affairs (this speeds up approval) - Get the nursing home's exact banking information in writing before your SSA appointment - Ask specifically about your state's personal needs allowance amount so you know what to expect The nursing home social worker should be helping you with this transition - if they're not being helpful, ask to speak with their financial coordinator or administrator. This is literally part of their job since they handle Medicaid residents regularly. Don't let them rush you, but also don't delay too long. Most facilities are understanding if they see you're actively working on the process. You're doing everything right by seeking information and asking questions!
Declan Ramirez
I'm in a very similar situation! I started collecting my benefits at 63 (needed the income after losing my job) and just turned 74. My ex and I were married for 16 years, and I never remarried either. Reading through these responses has been so helpful - I had no idea I might be eligible for divorced spouse benefits even though I'm already collecting my own reduced benefits. One thing I'm wondering about that I haven't seen mentioned yet - does anyone know if there's a time limit on how long after your divorce you can apply for these benefits? We've been divorced for almost 20 years now, and I'm worried I might have waited too long to look into this option. Also, for those who have successfully switched or supplemented their benefits - how long did the whole process take from application to receiving the increased payments? I'm hoping it's not a months-long wait since I'm living pretty tight on my current benefit amount. Thanks to everyone sharing their experiences here - this community is such a valuable resource!
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Amun-Ra Azra
•Hi Declan! Great questions. There's no time limit on when you can apply for divorced spouse benefits after your divorce - the fact that you've been divorced for 20 years doesn't disqualify you at all. As long as you meet the basic requirements (10+ year marriage, both over 62, you haven't remarried), you can apply anytime. As for processing time, in my experience it took about 6-8 weeks from when I submitted my application to when I saw the first increased payment. Some people report faster processing, especially if you have all your documentation ready (marriage certificate, divorce decree, etc.). The key is having everything organized when you apply. Given that you're 74 and were married for 16 years, you should definitely look into this! Even a small increase can make a big difference over time. I'd recommend calling SSA at 1-800-772-1213 to get the ball rolling. Good luck!
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Mason Lopez
I'm in a somewhat similar situation - took early retirement benefits at 64 and wondering about divorced spouse benefits now. Reading through all these responses has been incredibly educational! One thing I'd like to add for anyone considering this: make sure you gather ALL your paperwork before contacting SSA. I learned this the hard way when dealing with disability paperwork years ago. Having your marriage certificate, divorce decree, and any other relevant documents organized beforehand can really speed up the process. Also, don't be discouraged if the first person you speak with isn't fully knowledgeable about divorced spouse benefits - as several people mentioned, the rules are complex and not all representatives are equally informed. Be prepared to explain your situation clearly and don't hesitate to ask to speak with a supervisor or specialist if needed. Sophia, I really hope this works out for you! Even a modest increase can make such a difference in monthly budgeting. Keep us posted on how it goes - your experience could help others in similar situations.
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Aisha Abdullah
•This is such valuable advice, Mason! I'm just starting to look into this myself and had no idea about the importance of having all the paperwork ready upfront. Do you happen to know if there are any other documents besides the marriage certificate and divorce decree that might be needed? I want to make sure I'm fully prepared before I make that first call to SSA. Also, your point about not getting discouraged by the first representative is really reassuring - it sounds like persistence can really pay off in these situations!
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