Can I set up a tiny house for my adult disabled child on my property while preserving her SS benefits?
My daughter with disabilities is turning 18 next month and desperately wants some independence. She can't live completely on her own due to her condition, but I'm thinking about placing a small trailer or tiny house on our property so she can have her own space while I'm still nearby as her caregiver. I'm confused about how this affects her benefits when she transitions from child disability to adult DAC (Disabled Adult Child) benefits. Would charging her a flat monthly rent ($500 including utilities) affect her SSI/SSDI? Should we use the same mailing address or request separate designations (Unit A/B)? I want to support her independence but don't want to accidentally reduce her benefits. Has anyone navigated similar living arrangements with SSA?
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Hunter Edmunds
This is a great question about SSI living arrangements! What matters most is whether SSA considers this a separate household or not. For DAC benefits (on your work record), the living arrangement doesn't affect the payment amount. However, if she receives SSI, it absolutely matters. A few important points: 1. If you charge fair market value rent (look at what small apartments/rooms cost in your area), it helps establish a separate household 2. Having separate entrance, kitchen facilities, and utilities can help document it's truly separate 3. For mail, definitely request Unit A/B designation to establish separate addresses Be prepared to document everything - the rent payments, lease agreement (yes, write one up), and the fair market value research.
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Jade O'Malley
•Thank you! She'll be getting DAC benefits based on my work record, but might need SSI too depending on the DAC amount. I didn't realize the distinction between how living arrangements affect different benefits. Should I have a formal rental agreement even though she's my daughter? And would bank transfers work as proof of rent payment?
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Ella Lewis
DON'T do this unless you talk to a benefits specialist first!!! My cousin tried something similar and his daughter lost almost $200/month in benefits because SSA decided it wasn't TRULY independent living. The SSA is LOOKING for reasons to reduce benefits and they ask VERY detailed questions about kitchens, bathrooms, who buys food, etc. They wanted to know if they share MEALS together even though separate houses!!! Total nightmare trying to get it fixed.
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Andrew Pinnock
•While I understand your concern, this isn't entirely accurate. SSA isn't looking to reduce benefits, but they do have specific rules about living arrangements that affect SSI (not SSDI or DAC benefits). The key is proper documentation and charging fair market value rent. A WIPA (Work Incentives Planning and Assistance) counselor can provide free guidance specific to your situation before making any changes.
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Brianna Schmidt
my daughter has her own place on our property too! she gets DAC benefits. as long as u have separate entrance and she pays rent ur good. we just made it unit A and unit B for mail.
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Jade O'Malley
•That's really reassuring to hear! How did you handle the rent payments? Did you need to show proof to SSA that she was paying you regularly?
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Alexis Renard
I've helped several clients navigate this exact situation. The most important distinction is between SSI and DAC benefits: - DAC benefits (based on parent's work record): Living arrangements generally DON'T affect benefit amount - SSI (needs-based): Living arrangements CAN significantly affect benefit amount If your daughter will receive only DAC benefits, the main concern is establishing that she's paying her fair share of household expenses. If she'll receive SSI (alone or with DAC), then you need to establish a true landlord-tenant relationship with fair market rent. For documentation: 1. Create a formal lease agreement 2. Set up a separate mailing address (Unit A/B works fine) 3. Maintain records of all rent payments 4. Document that the space has separate living facilities 5. Charge fair market value rent I also recommend contacting your local SSA office BEFORE making these changes to ensure you understand exactly how they'll evaluate the living arrangement in your specific case.
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Camila Jordan
•so wait... i'm confused... does she need to pay rent or not? my son gets ssi and lives with me but i don't charge him anything because his check is so small.
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Tyler Lefleur
The mail thing is super important! My adult disabled son moved into our converted garage, but we didn't change the mail address and SSA found out during his review and said it was the same household. Get the post office to officially recognize it as unit A/B or whatever BEFORE you submit any paperwork to SSA. Trust me on this one!
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Jade O'Malley
•Good to know about the mail! Did you have any issues getting the post office to recognize the separate units? I'm worried they might need some kind of official documentation from the county.
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Andrew Pinnock
I work with disabled adults transitioning to independent living, and this is a common scenario. Here's what's critical: 1. For DAC benefits (SSDI based on your record), the living arrangement won't affect her monthly amount. 2. For SSI (if she qualifies for that too), living arrangements absolutely matter. To maintain full benefits under SSI, you need to establish: - She pays her fair share of household expenses - Or pays fair market value rent if treated as a separate household 3. Documentation is crucial: - Written rental agreement - Proof of rent payments (receipts, bank transfers) - Separate mailing address (Unit A/B designations work well) I strongly suggest contacting your local Community Work Incentives Coordinator (CWIC) through the WIPA program. They provide free benefits counseling specifically for these situations and can help you plan the transition properly.
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Jade O'Malley
•Thank you for the detailed advice! I hadn't heard of the WIPA program before. Is there a website where I can find my local CWIC? Also, would text message rent payment reminders count as documentation if we also have bank transfer records?
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Camila Jordan
I tried calling Social Security to ask something similar and was on hold for 2 HOURS only to get disconnected!! so frustrating. does anyone know a better way to talk to someone there?
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Alexis Renard
•I recently discovered a service called Claimyr that helps you get through to SSA much faster. Instead of waiting on hold for hours, they navigate the phone system and call you when they have an agent on the line. I used it last month to sort out my Medicare premium issue and it saved me hours of frustration. Their website is claimyr.com and they have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU - definitely worth it when you need to talk to a real person at SSA.
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Brianna Schmidt
make sure u think about food too! if ur buying all her groceries SSA might say ur "providing support" even if shes paying rent. my daughter buys her own food with her own snap benefits and we keep receipts just in case.
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Jade O'Malley
•I hadn't even thought about food! That's a really good point. Maybe she should apply for SNAP benefits separately too.
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Ella Lewis
CAREFUL about putting a trailer on your property!! Check zoning laws first!!! Our neighbor tried this for their disabled son and the county made them REMOVE it because it violated some stupid rule about "accessory dwelling units" and cost them thousands!!! The SSA benefits part worked fine but they got in trouble with local government.
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Hunter Edmunds
•This is excellent advice. Many counties and municipalities have specific regulations about accessory dwelling units (ADUs) on residential properties. Some areas have actually relaxed these rules to help with housing shortages, but it varies widely. Definitely check with your local zoning department before installing anything permanent.
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Tyler Lefleur
Has anyone mentioned how this affects Medicaid? My daughter gets her medical coverage through Medicaid and when she moved into our backyard apartment it triggered some kind of review and we had to reapply. The whole process was a nightmare.
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Andrew Pinnock
•You've raised an important point. Medicaid eligibility is often connected to SSI in many states, so any change that affects SSI can potentially impact Medicaid coverage. However, even if SSI is reduced or lost due to living arrangements, there are Medicaid continuation provisions like 1619(b) that can protect medical coverage. This is another reason why consulting with a WIPA benefits planner before making changes is so important.
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Ethan Scott
This is such a thoughtful way to support your daughter's independence! I'm in a similar situation with my 19-year-old son who has autism. We ended up converting our detached garage into a small apartment for him. Here's what I learned from our experience: 1. Start with your local zoning office BEFORE SSA - some areas require permits for ADUs or have restrictions 2. For the SSA piece, we found that having a completely separate entrance was key to establishing it as a separate household 3. We set up automatic bank transfers for rent ($450/month in our case) and keep screenshots of every transaction 4. The Unit A/B mailing address designation was surprisingly easy - just had to fill out a form at the post office One thing that caught me off guard was that SSA asked very specific questions about whether we share meals together during his review. We had to document that he has his own kitchen facilities and buys his own groceries (he gets SNAP benefits separately now). The independence has been amazing for him, and his DAC benefits weren't affected at all. Just make sure to document everything from day one - it's much easier than trying to recreate records later if SSA has questions!
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Paolo Rizzo
•This is incredibly helpful, thank you so much! I'm curious about the SNAP benefits piece - did your son apply for those separately from your household, or were you able to split your existing benefits? Also, when SSA asked about sharing meals, did they want documentation or just your word that you don't eat together regularly? I'm trying to prepare for all the potential questions they might ask during reviews.
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Ethan Wilson
As someone who went through this exact process with my daughter last year, I can't stress enough how important it is to get everything documented properly from the start. We made the mistake of being casual about it initially and had to scramble to create proper records when SSA did their review. A few practical tips that really helped us: - Create a simple rental agreement template (you can find free ones online) and have it notarized - Set up a separate checking account just for her rent payments - makes tracking so much easier - Take photos of the separate entrance, kitchen facilities, and living space for your records - Keep a simple log of any maintenance or utilities you handle separately The $500 rent you mentioned sounds reasonable, but definitely research comparable studio/efficiency rentals in your area first. SSA will want to see that it's fair market value, not just a token amount. Also, don't forget to notify your homeowner's insurance about the additional dwelling - some policies require notification or coverage adjustments for accessory units. The independence piece is so worth it though! My daughter has thrived having her own space while still having support nearby. Best of luck with the transition!
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Giovanni Marino
•This is exactly the kind of detailed, practical advice I was hoping to find! Thank you for sharing your experience. The idea about creating a separate checking account just for rent payments is brilliant - it would make record-keeping so much cleaner. I'm also glad you mentioned homeowner's insurance because that's something I hadn't even considered yet. Did you have any issues with your insurance company, or were they pretty accommodating about the additional dwelling? And when you say "fair market value," did SSA actually ask to see your research comparing local rental prices, or was it more of a reasonableness check during the review process?
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Justin Chang
•This is really comprehensive advice! I'm starting to feel more confident about moving forward with this plan. The separate checking account idea is genius - it would definitely make things cleaner for record-keeping. Can I ask what kind of rental agreement template you used? Did you find one specifically for family members or just use a standard landlord-tenant agreement? Also, when you mention taking photos for documentation, did SSA actually ask to see those during the review, or was it more for your own peace of mind? I want to make sure I'm not over-documenting things, but also don't want to be caught unprepared if they have detailed questions.
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Ryan Andre
I'm new to navigating disability benefits but wanted to share what I learned from a similar situation with my nephew. One thing that really helped was contacting our state's Protection and Advocacy agency - they have disability rights attorneys who can provide free guidance on benefits preservation during housing transitions. They explained that for SSI purposes, what matters most is establishing that your daughter is truly responsible for her own living expenses, not just paying rent. This means she should ideally handle her own utilities, groceries, household supplies, etc. Even if you help coordinate these services, having them billed directly to her or having her reimburse you with clear documentation makes a big difference. Also wanted to mention that some areas have "granny flat" or ADU ordinances that actually make this easier now - especially post-COVID many municipalities relaxed rules to help with housing shortages. Definitely worth checking if your area has any recent changes that might work in your favor. The independence aspect is so important for young adults with disabilities. Sounds like you're being really thoughtful about balancing her need for autonomy with practical benefit considerations. Good luck with the transition!
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William Schwarz
•This is really helpful information, especially about the Protection and Advocacy agencies - I had no idea those resources existed! The point about your daughter being responsible for ALL her living expenses, not just rent, is something I need to think through more carefully. Right now I handle most of the household utilities and shopping, so I'll need to figure out how to transition those responsibilities to her in a way that's both manageable for her disabilities and properly documented for SSA. The mention of recent ADU ordinance changes is encouraging too - I'll definitely check with our city planning department to see if there have been any recent updates that might make this process smoother. Thank you for sharing your nephew's experience!
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Lucas Schmidt
I'm going through something very similar with my 20-year-old daughter who has developmental disabilities. We're in the planning stages of setting up a small ADU on our property for her. One thing I learned from talking to our local disability resource center is that timing matters a lot - they recommended making all the housing changes BEFORE her 18th birthday review if possible, since it's easier to establish the living arrangement from the start rather than changing it later. Also wanted to mention that we found it helpful to create a "household expenses worksheet" that breaks down exactly what she'll be responsible for versus what we'll continue to handle. This helped us figure out a fair rent amount and also gives us documentation if SSA asks detailed questions about the living arrangement. The emotional side is just as important as the benefits side - seeing how excited my daughter gets when we talk about having her own space makes all the paperwork worth it. It sounds like you're approaching this really thoughtfully and your daughter is lucky to have such a supportive parent helping her transition to independence!
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NeonNova
•This is such great advice about timing - I wish I had thought about doing this before her 18th birthday! Unfortunately, we're already past that point since she turns 18 next month, but it's good to know for anyone else reading this thread. The household expenses worksheet idea is brilliant and something I definitely need to create. It would help me figure out not just the rent amount, but also make sure we're being consistent about what expenses she's responsible for versus what I continue to handle as her caregiver. Did you find any particular template or format that worked well for breaking down those expenses? I'm trying to balance being thorough for SSA documentation while keeping it simple enough for my daughter to understand her responsibilities. The emotional piece really resonates with me too - seeing how much she wants this independence is what's driving me to figure out all these complex benefit rules!
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GalaxyGazer
As someone who recently went through this exact transition with my son who has autism, I wanted to add a few practical considerations that might help. We successfully set up a converted garage apartment and maintained his benefits, but there were some unexpected details that came up. First, keep detailed records of EVERYTHING from day one - not just rent payments, but also any repairs, maintenance, or improvements you make to the space. SSA asked surprisingly specific questions during his review about who paid for what. Second, consider having your daughter open her own bank account if she doesn't already have one. This makes the rent payment trail much cleaner and also helps establish her financial independence in SSA's eyes. Third, don't forget about state and local disability services that might be affected by the address change. We had to update his regional center services and transportation assistance when his address changed to the ADU. The independence has been incredible for him - he's gained so much confidence having his own space while still having support nearby. The paperwork was worth it! Feel free to reach out if you have specific questions about the process.
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Miguel Ortiz
•This is incredibly thorough and practical advice! I hadn't thought about keeping records of repairs and maintenance - that's such a good point about SSA asking who paid for what. The separate bank account idea makes total sense too, and it would probably help my daughter feel more independent having her own account for the first time. I'm curious about the state and local services piece - did you have to go through a lengthy process to update all those services, or was it mostly just paperwork? I'm worried about disrupting her existing support services during the transition. Also, when you mention transportation assistance being affected by the address change, did that create any gaps in her services while everything got updated? I want to make sure I plan for those kinds of details so the transition is as smooth as possible for her.
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Christopher Morgan
I'm just starting to navigate this world of disability benefits and housing arrangements, so this thread has been incredibly educational! Reading everyone's experiences has helped me understand how complex but manageable this process can be. One question I haven't seen addressed yet - for those who successfully set up separate living arrangements, how did you handle emergency situations? I'm thinking about scenarios where your adult child might need immediate assistance due to their disability. Does having a formal landlord-tenant relationship create any legal complications if you need to enter their space during an emergency? Also, I'm wondering about the long-term implications. If your daughter's condition changes over time (either improves or requires more support), how flexible is this arrangement in terms of modifying the living situation while preserving benefits? Thank you to everyone who has shared their experiences - it's clear that with proper planning and documentation, this can be a wonderful way to support independence while maintaining crucial benefits. The practical tips about separate bank accounts, detailed record-keeping, and getting everything properly documented from the start are so valuable!
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ApolloJackson
•These are really thoughtful questions that I hadn't considered! For emergency situations, I think including an emergency access clause in the rental agreement would be smart - something that allows immediate entry for health/safety emergencies while still maintaining the formal arrangement for SSA purposes. The flexibility question is huge too. I'm wondering if anyone has experience with what happens if the adult child's needs change significantly over time. Like, if my daughter's condition requires more intensive support later, would we need to restructure the whole arrangement? Or if she improves and wants to move to fully independent housing elsewhere, how does that transition work with benefits? This thread has been such an eye-opener about all the details involved. I'm feeling more prepared but also realizing there are so many nuances to consider beyond just the basic rent and separate address setup!
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Connor Murphy
This thread has been incredibly helpful! As someone just starting to research this for my 17-year-old son with intellectual disabilities, I'm taking notes on all the practical advice shared here. One thing I'm curious about - has anyone dealt with this situation where the adult child receives both DAC and SSI? From what I'm reading, it sounds like the living arrangement might not affect the DAC portion but could definitely impact SSI. Is that correct? Also, I'm wondering about the transition period. When you first set up the separate living arrangement, did SSA require any kind of inspection or just accepted your documentation? I'm trying to understand if they physically verify the separate household setup or if it's mainly based on the paperwork you provide. The point about checking zoning laws first is so important - I definitely need to look into our local ADU regulations before getting too far into planning. Thanks to everyone sharing their real experiences rather than just general advice!
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Drake
•You're absolutely right about the distinction between DAC and SSI! DAC benefits (based on the parent's work record) generally aren't affected by living arrangements, but SSI is very much impacted since it's needs-based. If your son gets both, you'll need to be extra careful about documenting the separate household arrangement to protect the SSI portion. From what I've seen in this thread and my own research, SSA typically doesn't do physical inspections for living arrangement verification - they rely on the documentation you provide (lease agreements, rent payment records, separate mailing address, etc.). However, they can be very detailed in their questioning during reviews, so having everything well-documented from the start is crucial. Starting your research now while your son is still 17 is smart! You'll have time to get all the zoning approvals, set up the physical space properly, and establish the documentation trail before his transition to adult benefits. The timing advice from earlier comments about setting this up before the 18th birthday review seems really valuable if you can manage it.
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