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just remember social security office is IMPOSSIBLE to deal with. my friend wants to apply for her widows benefits and shes been trying for a month to get an appointment!!
That's unfortunately very common right now. The SSA is severely understaffed and their phone systems are overwhelmed. If your friend is still having trouble, have her check out claimyr.com - they'll connect her directly to an agent without the wait. It saved me weeks of frustration when I was trying to sort out my Medicare enrollment issues.
As someone who went through a similar decision with my spouse, I can share some perspective. We ended up having my husband delay until 70 while I claimed my own benefits at 63. It was the right call for us. One thing that helped us make the decision was calculating the total lifetime benefits under different scenarios. We used the SSA's life expectancy calculator and factored in family health history. Even if my husband only lives to 78 (below average), the combination of his delayed benefits plus my eventual higher survivor benefit still comes out ahead compared to both of us claiming early. The psychological aspect is real though - it's hard to "leave money on the table" those 8 years. What helped us was setting up automatic investments with the money we would have received from SS, so we felt like we were still building wealth during the delay period. One practical tip: start the application process a few months before his 70th birthday. The SSA system is overwhelmed right now and you don't want delays to cost you benefits. Also consider working with a fee-only financial planner who specializes in Social Security strategies - the rules are complex and the stakes are high.
This is really helpful practical advice! I hadn't thought about automatically investing the "lost" Social Security money during the delay period - that's a smart way to make it feel less like we're missing out on income. The point about starting the application process months early is especially important given all the stories here about how difficult it is to get through to SSA. Did you use any particular service or just keep calling until you got through? Also, when you mention working with a fee-only financial planner, about how much should we expect to pay for Social Security strategy planning? We've been hesitant to hire someone but given the long-term financial impact, it might be worth the investment.
Honestly all this math and planning is great but nobody can predict how long they'll live. The perfect plan means nothing if you pass away at 71. My husband delayed and then only collected for 14 months before he passed. I wish we'd taken the money earlier and gone on that Alaska cruise we always talked about. Just something to think about.
Another angle to consider is filing a "restricted application" strategy, though this might not apply in your specific case. Since you're already at FRA, you could potentially file and suspend your own benefits while allowing your wife to claim spousal benefits on your record (if that would be higher than her own). This lets you capture some family benefits now while still earning those delayed retirement credits until age 70. However, given that your wife is only 61 and her income is substantial, she might want to wait until her own FRA to maximize her benefits. It's worth running the numbers on different combinations of timing for both of your claims to see what optimizes your total household Social Security income over your lifetimes.
Thank you all for the helpful responses! I feel much better knowing that my actual SS benefit amount won't be reduced just because my husband is working. I'm going to look into having some taxes withheld using that W-4V form someone mentioned, and I'll definitely check if I might qualify for a higher spousal benefit when my husband claims in a couple years. I tried calling the SSA office yesterday but gave up after being on hold for 45 minutes. Might try that Claimyr service someone mentioned if I can't get through soon. Thanks again for all the advice!
I'm glad I found this thread! I'm in a similar situation - I'm 67 and have been collecting Social Security for a year. I just got engaged and we're planning to marry next spring. My fiancé is 65 and still working part-time making about $30,000 a year. Reading through all these responses has been really helpful, especially learning that our benefits won't be directly reduced since we're both past full retirement age. The tax implications are definitely something I hadn't fully considered though. One question for those who have been through this - when you say "up to 85% of benefits may be taxable," does that mean 85% of the actual dollar amount gets added to your taxable income, or does it mean you pay 85% tax rate on the benefits? I want to make sure I understand this correctly when I talk to a tax professional. Also, has anyone had experience with getting help from their local SSA office versus calling the main number? Wondering if it's worth trying to visit in person rather than dealing with those long phone wait times.
Welcome to the community! To clarify the tax question - when they say "up to 85% of benefits may be taxable," it means that up to 85% of your Social Security benefit dollars get added to your regular taxable income and taxed at your normal income tax rate. So if you receive $2,000/month in SS benefits, up to $1,700 of that could be counted as taxable income and taxed at whatever your regular tax bracket is (not an 85% tax rate). Regarding SSA offices - I've had mixed experiences with local offices. Some people have better luck in person, but many offices now require appointments and the wait times can still be long. You might want to call your local office first to see if they're taking walk-ins or if you need to schedule ahead. The phone system is frustrating, but sometimes calling right when they open (8am) gives you better odds of getting through. Congratulations on your engagement! It sounds like you're being smart to plan ahead for the tax implications.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Going through this at 54 must be incredibly difficult, especially while trying to navigate all these benefit rules during such a painful time. From what I understand, you're unfortunately in that gap where you're too young for regular survivor benefits (which start at 60) but don't qualify for the earlier exceptions since you don't have young or disabled children in your care. The disability status of your late husband doesn't change the age requirements for you as the survivor. One thing you might want to explore is whether you could qualify for disabled widow benefits starting at age 50. The criteria are strict - you'd need to become disabled within 7 years of his death (or within 7 years of when mother's benefits would end if you had been receiving them). It's a long shot given that you're currently working full-time, but if your health situation changes, it could be worth investigating. Also, make sure when you do eventually apply for survivor benefits that you understand how it will interact with your own Social Security record. You'll want to run the numbers to see whether it makes more sense to take survivor benefits first and switch to your own later, or vice versa, depending on which would be higher. Hang in there - I know these next 6 years are going to be challenging financially and emotionally.
Thank you for the thoughtful response and condolences. You're right that this timing is particularly difficult - both emotionally and practically. I hadn't considered the disabled widow benefits option, though like you said, it seems unlikely since I'm currently able to work without limitations. But it's good to know that's potentially available if my health changes in the coming years. The strategy about comparing my own Social Security record versus survivor benefits is something I definitely need to research more. I have a feeling this is going to require sitting down with someone who really understands all these calculations to figure out the optimal approach.
I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing a spouse at such a young age while trying to navigate these complex benefit rules must be overwhelming. Just to clarify one important point that others have touched on - while your husband being on SSDI doesn't change the age requirements for you to receive survivor benefits, it does confirm that he had sufficient work credits for you to eventually be eligible. The fact that he was receiving $2,150/month in SSDI is also helpful information for estimating what your survivor benefit might be when you do become eligible. One thing I'd suggest is requesting a copy of his Social Security Statement (if you don't already have one) when you contact SSA. This will show his complete earnings history and can help you or a financial advisor calculate what your survivor benefit would be at different claiming ages (60 vs full retirement age). Also, while you're waiting until 60, don't forget to keep track of your own earnings and work credits. If your income has increased significantly since his disability began, your own Social Security benefit at retirement might end up being higher than the survivor benefit, giving you more options for when to claim each one. The six-year wait is tough, but having a clear understanding of your options will help you make the best financial decisions when the time comes.
Thank you so much for this detailed information. Getting a copy of his Social Security Statement is a great idea - I honestly hadn't thought of that but it would really help me understand what to expect. You make a good point about my own earnings potentially being higher now. Since his health declined, I've had to take on more hours and even got a promotion last year to help cover his medical costs. It would be ironic if my own benefit ends up being better than the survivor benefit after all this stress about waiting until 60. I really appreciate everyone's advice here - it's helping me think more strategically about the next few years instead of just panicking about the immediate financial gap.
Aaron Boston
I'm experiencing this exact same confusion! I'm 65 and was planning to wait until 70 based on that 8% annual increase, but seeing similar discrepancies in my projections has me second-guessing everything. What's particularly confusing is that the SSA website doesn't clearly separate the guaranteed delayed retirement credits from their estimated COLAs and other adjustments. After reading through all these responses, it sounds like the 8% DRC is definitely still there - it's just getting mixed up with other factors in the projection tool. I think I'm going to try calling SSA during off-peak hours like someone suggested, and maybe download the PDF statement instead of relying on the slider tool. It's frustrating that something so important for retirement planning isn't more transparently calculated on their website! Has anyone found any third-party calculators that might give a clearer breakdown of just the delayed retirement credits without all the other projections mixed in?
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Sophia Gabriel
•I've been wrestling with this same issue! What helped me was realizing that the SSA's online projections are trying to give you a "real world" estimate rather than just the math on delayed credits. The 8% is absolutely still there - it's just that they're also factoring in estimated COLAs, potential earnings updates, and other adjustments that can make the percentage look different. For a cleaner breakdown, I'd recommend focusing on your Primary Insurance Amount (PIA) at FRA and manually calculating the 8% annual increase on that base amount. That gives you the guaranteed minimum increase from delayed retirement credits, separate from all the other variables. The AARP and Fidelity websites have some decent calculators that let you isolate just the DRC effects if you want to double-check the math yourself.
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Tyler Murphy
I'm new to this community but dealing with this exact same issue right now! I'm 66 and have been planning my claiming strategy around that 8% delayed retirement credit, but my MySocialSecurity projections are showing similar confusing numbers. Reading through all these responses has been incredibly helpful - it sounds like the 8% DRC is definitely still being applied, but the online calculator is mixing it with COLA estimates and other factors. What I'm taking away from this discussion is that I should download the actual PDF Social Security Statement rather than relying on the slider tool, and maybe try calling during off-peak hours to get a clearer explanation. The suggestion about Claimyr sounds interesting too if I can't get through the regular way. It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one confused by how these projections are displayed - the SSA website really could be more transparent about breaking down the different components of the calculation!
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