Called them yesterday and got hung up on twice. Their customer service is straight garbage

I'm in the same boat! Filed mine in late January and still nothing. The "Where's My Refund" tool just keeps saying "processing" with no timeline. Really frustrating especially when you're counting on that money. At least now I know it's not just me dealing with these crazy delays.

One thing to consider is how your kids' tax benefits would change. If you get married, both of you would claim the kids on a joint return. If you stay unmarried, only one person can claim each child for things like Child Tax Credit and Earned Income Credit.

Based on your situation, getting married before December 31st would likely save you money on taxes. With your boyfriend earning $96k as the sole income and you staying home with the kids, you'd probably benefit from the married filing jointly status. The key factors working in your favor: the MFJ standard deduction ($27,700) is significantly higher than what he currently gets as Head of Household ($20,800), plus you'd potentially move into lower tax brackets with the combined filing. The new house purchase adds another layer of potential savings through mortgage interest deductions. However, I'd strongly recommend running the actual numbers before making such an important decision. You could use a tax calculator to compare Head of Household vs Married Filing Jointly scenarios, or better yet, try to get official guidance. Don't let the wedding timing be driven solely by taxes though - there are many other financial and legal implications to consider with marriage! The December 31st timing does work tax-wise since the IRS considers your marital status as of the last day of the year for the entire tax year.

I believe I can speak to this from personal experience, though individual situations may vary somewhat. Last year, I found myself in a nearly identical position. My refund showed as funded in SBTPG on a Thursday, and I realized I needed to amend my return for a missed education credit. I cautiously filed the 1040X that same day, concerned about potential complications. My original refund deposited without issue the following Monday, and approximately 14 weeks later, I received the additional refund from my amendment. The systems appear to operate independently, at least in my experience.

Your refund is safe! 🙂 When SBTPG shows "funded," that's actually great news - it means the IRS has already completed all their processing and verification of your original return. The money has been released from the IRS systems and is now just going through the final banking steps to reach your account. I went through something similar last tax season when I had to amend for a forgotten 1099-INT. Filed my 1040X about 2 days after my refund showed funded status. The original refund hit my account right on schedule, and the amendment was processed months later as a completely separate transaction. The key thing to remember is that once your return reaches the funded stage, you've essentially cleared all the IRS hurdles. Your amendment will go into their separate queue for manual review, but it won't interfere with what's already been approved and sent out. Congratulations on getting through your first tax season as head of household - that status change can definitely make things feel more complicated, but it sounds like you handled it well!

Be careful with FPHCI! I completely missed reporting some foreign dividend income a few years ago because I didn't understand these rules. Ended up with penalties and had to file amended returns. Make sure you're tracking ALL passive income from any foreign corps where you have significant ownership.

Another thing to keep in mind is that FPHCI rules can interact with PFIC (Passive Foreign Investment Company) rules in complicated ways. If your foreign corporation qualifies as both a CFC (triggering FPHCI rules) and a PFIC, you generally apply the CFC rules instead of PFIC rules - but this can vary based on your ownership percentage and other factors. Also, don't forget about the potential impact of GILTI (Global Intangible Low-Taxed Income) rules if you're dealing with post-2017 tax years. Some income that might have been treated as FPHCI under the old rules now falls under GILTI instead, which has different calculation methods and tax rates. I'd strongly recommend working with a tax professional who specializes in international taxation if you're dealing with significant foreign investments. The interaction between all these different regimes (FPHCI, PFIC, GILTI, etc.) can get extremely complex very quickly.

I'm dealing with a very similar situation right now with my late father's estate. One thing I learned that might help - even though your mom's assets were distributed through beneficiary designations, the IRS can still pursue what's called "transferee liability" against the beneficiaries if there were unpaid taxes at the time of transfer. The key is getting proper authorization to deal with the IRS on her behalf. Form 56 is definitely the right path, but make sure you're sending it to the correct IRS processing center for your state. I made the mistake of sending it to the wrong location initially and it delayed everything by months. Also, document everything with the IRS phone calls - dates, times, agent names/ID numbers. The inconsistent information you're getting is unfortunately typical, but having records helps if you need to escalate later. You might also want to request a manager or supervisor when you call back, as they tend to be more knowledgeable about deceased taxpayer procedures. The $12,300 won't just disappear, but you do have options for penalty abatement and possibly even an offer in compromise if the total distributed assets were less than the tax debt. Don't let the interest and penalties keep accumulating while you're stuck in this bureaucratic maze.

I went through this exact nightmare when my grandmother passed in 2022. The IRS bureaucracy around deceased taxpayers is absolutely maddening, but here's what finally worked: First, you're right that the tax liability doesn't just disappear. Since your mom's assets were distributed through beneficiary designations, you and your siblings could potentially be liable as transferees if the IRS can prove the tax debt existed when you received the assets (which it sounds like it did). The Form 56 route is correct, but here's the key - you need to establish yourself as the "informal fiduciary" since no formal estate was opened. Include a cover letter explaining that all assets were distributed via beneficiary designations and that you're acting on behalf of the deceased taxpayer to resolve outstanding tax matters. Also, when you call the IRS, specifically ask for the "Deceased Taxpayer" unit - don't let them transfer you to general collections. The regular agents literally don't have training on these situations, which explains the ridiculous advice about getting a power of attorney from a dead person. Once you get Form 56 processed, you can request penalty abatement for reasonable cause (accountant error) and potentially set up a payment plan if needed. The actual tax plus interest will likely still be due, but you can eliminate the penalties which are usually a big chunk of these bills. Don't ignore this - the IRS has up to 10 years to collect and can absolutely pursue transferee liability against beneficiaries. Better to deal with it now before more penalties and interest accumulate.