I went through a very similar situation with my disabled daughter a few years ago. One thing that might be worth considering is the timing of when your husband applies versus when you apply. Since you're the higher earner, your son's potential CDB benefit on your record will likely be significantly higher than on your husband's record. Here's what we learned: If your husband files first at 62, your son can immediately switch from SSI to CDB on his record. Then later when you file for retirement (whenever that is), your son can potentially switch again to the higher benefit on your record if it's more advantageous. The key is that once someone is receiving CDB, they can usually switch to a higher-paying parent's record when that parent becomes eligible. Also, don't forget that when your son switches from SSI to CDB, he'll no longer be subject to those strict SSI asset and income limits, which can be a huge relief for the whole family's financial planning. We were finally able to help our daughter save some money and have a small inheritance without it affecting her benefits. Definitely get those calculations from SSA - the difference in potential benefits between your record and your husband's could be substantial given the earnings gap you mentioned.

I work as a benefits counselor and see families in your exact situation regularly. A few additional points that might help: First, regarding the timing strategy - since you mentioned your husband just turned 62, you have some flexibility here. One approach to consider: your husband could file for his retirement benefits now (even with the reduction) to get your son immediately onto CDB benefits and off the restrictive SSI program. This gives your son 5 extra years of the higher CDB payments and eliminates the SSI asset/income restrictions right away. When you reach 62 in 7 years, you can evaluate whether your son should switch to CDB on your higher-earning record. The math might work out favorably even with your husband's reduced benefit, especially considering your son gets those extra years of higher payments. Also, make sure to ask SSA about retroactive benefits when your son switches from SSI to CDB - sometimes there can be back payments involved if the application process takes time. One last thing - if your son is currently receiving Medicaid through his SSI eligibility, switching to CDB shouldn't affect his Medicaid in most states, but definitely confirm this with your local Medicaid office as healthcare coverage is crucial. The system is complex, but you're asking all the right questions. Good luck!

One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is the potential impact on your Medicare decisions down the road. If you're planning to claim Social Security at 64, you'll need to consider how this affects your Medicare enrollment timeline at 65. Also, since your husband earns above the maximum taxable limit, his Social Security benefit calculation is already maxed out for the current year in terms of the formula. Any additional earnings beyond $173,100 won't increase his Social Security benefit further for 2025, but they will continue to improve his highest 35 years of earnings if this year replaces a lower-earning year in his calculation. The key insight many people miss is that Social Security claiming is really about optimizing household income over your joint lifetimes, not just individual benefits. Given the significant income disparity you've described, the early claiming strategy likely makes sense, but definitely run the numbers on the tax impact first. You might find that even with higher taxes, the extra years of benefits still come out ahead mathematically.

The strategy you're considering makes a lot of sense mathematically, especially given the significant earnings difference between you and your husband. Since he's earning above the maximum taxable limit ($173,100 for 2025), his Social Security benefit is already being calculated at the highest possible level for this year. Here's what I'd focus on in your situation: 1. **Spousal benefit timing**: When your husband files at 70, you'd potentially receive the higher of your own benefit OR 50% of his full retirement age benefit amount (not his delayed retirement credit amount). Since his benefit will be substantial, this could mean a nice boost for you. 2. **Survivor benefit consideration**: By having your husband delay until 70, his benefit grows by 32% beyond his FRA due to delayed retirement credits. This also maximizes your potential survivor benefit if he passes away first - a crucial factor many couples overlook. 3. **Tax planning opportunity**: Since you mentioned his income is well above the taxable limit, you'll definitely want to model the tax impact. Your Social Security benefits will likely be 85% taxable given your combined income, but even with taxes, claiming early often still provides a net positive over the claiming period. The calculator is probably right, but definitely run a comprehensive analysis that includes taxes before deciding. Have you considered using a fee-only financial advisor who specializes in Social Security optimization?

Yes, you should contact SSA when your wife approaches 62 to evaluate the spousal benefit option. While she can't receive both her own SSDI and spousal benefits simultaneously (she'll only get the higher of the two), the calculation can be complex and depends on your specific earnings histories. Regarding your earlier question about avoiding IRMAA increases: Yes, there's a process for this. When you receive the IRMAA determination (usually in November/December for the following year), you can file for a reconsideration using Form SSA-44, citing the backpay as a one-time income event. This form specifically allows for reporting "life-changing events" that make your current income lower than what appears on your tax return from two years prior. Finally, I highly recommend keeping detailed records of when the backpay is received and how it's spent, especially for any medical expenses which might be deductible.

Congratulations on your wife's approval! As someone new to this community, I wanted to add that you might also want to check if your state has any additional resources for people receiving SSDI backpay. Some states offer financial counseling services specifically for disability recipients who receive large lump sums. Also, if you're planning to use any of the backpay for home modifications or medical equipment, keep those receipts - they could be tax deductible medical expenses. The Medicare.gov website has a tool called the "Medicare Plan Finder" that can help you estimate how premium changes might affect your Part D costs too. Good luck navigating all of this - it sounds overwhelming but you're asking all the right questions!

As a newcomer to this community, I'm incredibly grateful to have found this thread! My foster son turns 18 in July and I've been getting so much conflicting information from SSA that I was starting to panic. Reading through everyone's experiences here has been more helpful than months of trying to navigate this system on my own. A few things I wanted to add from our recent experience: **Documentation is EVERYTHING** - I started keeping a detailed log after our first SSA call where they told us three different things in one conversation. Now I record the date, time, representative name/ID, and exactly what they told us. This has already saved us twice when follow-up calls contradicted previous advice. **Local office vs phone** - We've had much better luck with our local SSA office than the national phone line. Yes, appointments are hard to get, but the in-person staff seem to have better training on foster care transitions. They also gave us printed copies of relevant forms instead of us having to hunt them down online. **School coordination** - Make sure your foster daughter's school counselor understands this isn't just a standard transcript request. We had to educate our school about the specific SSA requirements for continued benefits. They initially wanted to just provide a basic enrollment letter, which wouldn't have been sufficient. Starting 4 months early was absolutely the right call. The horror stories about delays and lost paperwork in this thread are unfortunately very real, but being proactive gives you the best chance of avoiding those pitfalls. Thank you to everyone who shared their experiences - this community is invaluable for those of us trying to help these kids navigate such a complex system!

As a newcomer to this community, I'm finding this discussion incredibly valuable! My foster daughter is in a very similar situation - she'll be turning 18 in a few months and we're dealing with the same confusing and contradictory information from SSA representatives. What strikes me most about this thread is how consistent everyone's experience has been with the system being backlogged and representatives giving different answers. It's both frustrating and reassuring to know we're not alone in this struggle. I wanted to ask about something I haven't seen mentioned yet - has anyone dealt with complications when the foster child's birth state is different from where they currently live? We're in California now, but she was born in Texas, and I'm wondering if that adds any additional complexity to the survivor benefits transition process. Also, for those who successfully got through this process - approximately how long did it take from submitting the advance notice paperwork to actually seeing the benefits start flowing to the new payee after they turned 18? I'm trying to set realistic expectations for my foster daughter about potential delays. Thank you to everyone who has shared their experiences here. The detailed, practical advice is so much more helpful than anything we've received from official channels. It's clear that starting early and being persistent is absolutely the right approach, despite what some SSA representatives might suggest.

Oh that's a good point. I'm on my husband's insurance through his employer (he's 64 and still working). I'll have to check with his HR department about this. Thanks for bringing it up!

Hope you recover quickly! Just wanted to add that if you do end up needing someone to help you apply, make sure they have all your personal information ready - Social Security number, birth certificate info, work history for the last couple years, and your bank account details for direct deposit. The SSA website also lets you create a "my Social Security" account ahead of time which can speed up the process. If your daughter is helping with the laptop, she could even help you set that up first. Wishing you a smooth application process and speedy recovery!