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I'm also dealing with survivor benefits and downsizing, and this discussion has been such a lifeline for me! I'm 59 and lost my husband 7 months ago, and I've been putting off selling anything because I was terrified of somehow jeopardizing my benefits. What's given me the most confidence is seeing how many people here have actually been through this exact situation successfully. The clear distinction between selling personal belongings versus running a business makes perfect sense when explained the way everyone has here. I'm particularly grateful for all the specific strategies shared - keeping simple records, spacing out listings, taking photos for documentation, and thinking of this as "liquidating personal assets." These approaches seem both practical and protective. The emotional validation has been just as important. Going through a lifetime of shared possessions while grieving really is overwhelming, but hearing that others found parts of the process therapeutic and freeing gives me hope that this can be healing rather than just another burden. Thank you all for creating such a supportive space to discuss these concerns. This thread has transformed my anxiety about this process into actual confidence that I can handle both the practical and emotional aspects responsibly. Time to start that simple spreadsheet and begin reclaiming my space!
Welcome to this supportive community, and my deepest condolences on the loss of your husband. Seven months is still so recent, and it's completely understandable that you've been hesitant to tackle this overwhelming task while dealing with grief and benefit concerns. I'm also new here but have found this discussion incredibly enlightening and reassuring. Like you, I was paralyzed by the fear of accidentally affecting my benefits, but seeing so many consistent experiences from people who have successfully navigated this exact situation has been transformative. Your plan to start with a simple spreadsheet sounds perfect - it's exactly the kind of manageable, protective approach that others have recommended. The fact that you're thinking of this as "liquidating personal assets" rather than selling shows you really understand the important distinction that keeps coming up in this thread. I love your perspective about transforming anxiety into confidence and reclaiming your space. That reframing from burden to healing resonates so much with me. The emotional aspects of this process are just as important as the practical ones, and it sounds like you're approaching both thoughtfully. Best of luck as you begin this journey - you've got all the knowledge and strategies you need to do this successfully and safely. Take it one step at a time and be gentle with yourself throughout the process!
I'm new to this community and currently navigating survivor benefits myself at age 63. This entire discussion has been incredibly helpful and reassuring! I've been hesitant to start selling some of our accumulated belongings because I wasn't sure about the benefit implications, but reading all these consistent experiences has given me so much confidence. What really stands out to me is how clear the distinction is between disposing of personal property versus running a business. The practical strategies everyone has shared - simple record keeping, spacing out listings, taking photos for documentation - seem so manageable and smart. I'm also grateful for the emotional support in this thread. The downsizing process after losing a spouse really is overwhelming, but hearing that others found parts of it therapeutic gives me hope. Thank you all for sharing your experiences so openly - this community is exactly what I needed to find the courage to start this necessary but difficult process!
Welcome to the community! I'm so sorry for your loss and glad you found this discussion helpful. As someone who's also new here and dealing with survivor benefits, I've been amazed by how supportive and knowledgeable everyone is in this group. You're absolutely right that the distinction between personal property disposal and business activity is so clear when explained the way people have here. Before reading this thread, I was also worried about accidentally affecting my benefits, but seeing so many consistent positive experiences has been incredibly reassuring. The practical strategies really do seem manageable - I especially like the idea of keeping a simple spreadsheet and spacing out listings. And you're so right about the emotional aspect being just as important. It's comforting to know that others have found parts of this process healing rather than just overwhelming. This community really has provided exactly the guidance and encouragement needed to approach this necessary task with confidence. Best of luck as you begin your downsizing journey - it sounds like you have all the knowledge and support you need to handle this successfully!
I'm in a very similar situation to yours! Just turned 65 and originally planned to wait until 67, but life has thrown some curveballs. What really helped me make the decision was talking to a local SSA representative who walked me through the exact dollar amounts - seeing the specific numbers for my situation made it much clearer than just hearing percentages. One thing I wish I'd known earlier is that you can actually call SSA and ask them to do a phone consultation before you officially apply. They'll go over your benefit amounts at different ages and help you understand the implications. It's free and there's no obligation - they just want to make sure you have all the information you need to make the best decision for your circumstances. Given your health concerns, starting at 65 might very well be the right choice. The peace of mind alone could be worth more than the extra monthly dollars you'd get by waiting. You know your situation better than anyone else!
I didn't know about the phone consultation option - that sounds incredibly helpful! As someone new to all this Social Security stuff, having an actual person walk through my specific numbers would be so much better than trying to figure it out from online calculators. Do you remember how you scheduled that consultation? Was it through the main SSA phone number or did you have to go through your local office? I'm definitely going to look into this before I make my final decision. It's reassuring to hear from someone in such a similar situation who's been through this process recently.
You can schedule the consultation by calling the main SSA number at 1-800-772-1213. When you call, just tell them you're considering applying for retirement benefits and would like to speak with someone about your options before filing. They'll either do it right then if they have time, or schedule a callback appointment. I found it really helpful because they could pull up my actual earnings record and show me exactly what my benefit would be at 65, 66, 67, etc. - not just estimates. They also explained some nuances I hadn't thought about, like how working part-time might affect things. The whole conversation took about 20 minutes and really helped me feel confident in my decision. One tip: have your Social Security number and maybe your last few years of tax returns handy when you call, just in case they need to verify some information.
Just wanted to add my perspective as someone who made this exact switch! I originally planned to wait until 67 but ended up starting my benefits at 65 due to unexpected health issues. The application process was actually much simpler than I expected - no enrollment periods to worry about like with Medicare. I applied online in January and received my first payment in March. The hardest part was just making the decision, not the actual paperwork. One thing that helped me was calculating my "break-even" point. For me, I'd need to live past age 83 for waiting until 67 to be financially better than starting at 65. Given my health situation, starting earlier made sense. Sometimes the peace of mind and immediate financial help outweigh the potential for higher future payments. If you're still unsure, I'd recommend creating that my Social Security account online that others mentioned - seeing your actual numbers rather than estimates really helps clarify things. Best of luck with whatever you decide!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Your break-even calculation approach is really helpful - I hadn't thought about framing it that way. At 83, that would give me 18 years to enjoy the benefits, and honestly with my current health concerns, having that financial security sooner rather than later is looking more and more appealing. It's reassuring to hear from someone who went through the same decision-making process and has no regrets about starting at 65. I think I'm leaning more toward applying next month after reading all these responses. The peace of mind factor you mentioned really resonates with me.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Sadie. Going through this process while grieving is incredibly difficult. I wanted to add one more thing that might be helpful for others reading this thread - when you receive your first survivor benefit payment, double-check the amount against what they told you during your appointment. Sometimes there can be small discrepancies due to Medicare premiums being deducted or other adjustments. Also, keep all your paperwork from SSA in a safe place - you'll need it for tax purposes since survivor benefits are generally taxable income. It sounds like you handled everything really well and asked all the right questions. Your experience will definitely help other widows and widowers who find themselves in this confusing situation.
This is such valuable advice about checking the payment amounts and keeping paperwork organized! I hadn't thought about the tax implications - that's something I'll definitely need to discuss with my accountant. The Medicare premium deduction is a good point too since I'm still a few years away from Medicare eligibility myself. Thank you for taking the time to share these practical tips. It's reassuring to know there are people in this community who understand what we're going through and are willing to help guide us through all these details we might not think of while we're grieving.
I'm sorry for your loss, Sadie. Reading through this thread has been really educational - there's so much conflicting information out there about survivor benefits timing! It's great that you got direct clarification from SSA during your appointment. One thing I wanted to mention that I don't see covered here is that you might want to ask about potentially switching to your own retirement benefits later if they would be higher than your survivor benefits. Since you're 61 now, you could potentially file for your own reduced benefits at 62 and then switch strategies later. The SSA representative should be able to run some projections for you to see what makes the most sense long-term. Also, if you haven't already, consider reaching out to a local SHIP (State Health Insurance Assistance Program) counselor - they can help navigate Medicare decisions when you become eligible, especially since survivor benefits can affect those choices too.
I went through this same confusion last year! The key thing to remember is that the SSA calculator is trying to show you your "real world" benefit estimate, not just a simple math calculation. The 8% delayed retirement credit IS being applied, but it's being applied to your Primary Insurance Amount (PIA) from your FRA, then they layer on estimated COLAs and any earnings record updates. What helped me was downloading my actual Social Security Statement PDF (not just using the slider tool) and looking at the detailed breakdown. You can also try calling during off-peak hours - I had better luck getting through around 10am on weekdays. The phone agents can walk through your specific calculation and show you exactly how the DRC is being applied versus what adjustments they're making for projected inflation. The bottom line is you ARE getting that 8% credit - it's just that the final number you see includes other factors too. Don't let it derail your retirement planning!
This is really helpful! I'm new to navigating Social Security benefits and was getting overwhelmed by all the different factors that go into the calculation. The advice about downloading the actual PDF statement instead of just using the slider tool is great - I didn't even know that was an option. It's reassuring to know that the 8% delayed retirement credit is still there, just mixed in with other adjustments. Thanks for sharing your experience!
I'm dealing with the exact same confusion right now! I'm 66 and trying to figure out the optimal claiming strategy. What's really frustrating is that the SSA website doesn't clearly break down HOW they're calculating these projections. I've been assuming I could count on that 8% increase each year I delay, but seeing these lower percentages makes me wonder if I'm better off just claiming at FRA instead of waiting. Has anyone found a reliable way to calculate what your ACTUAL benefit would be with delayed retirement credits, separate from all the COLA estimates and other adjustments? I want to make sure I'm not leaving money on the table by waiting if the real increase isn't going to be as much as expected.
I totally understand your frustration - I'm going through the same decision process! One thing that's helped me is to focus on the guaranteed 8% delayed retirement credit as a baseline. Even if the SSA calculator is confusing with all the COLA projections mixed in, that 8% annual increase on your PIA is locked in by law. From what I've learned reading through this thread, you might want to try that Claimyr service others mentioned to get a direct explanation from an SSA agent about your specific situation. Also, comparing your current projected benefit to what it would be at age 70 might give you a clearer picture - the 32% total increase from FRA to 70 is substantial even accounting for inflation estimates. The key seems to be getting someone to break down your individual calculation rather than trying to decipher the online tool. Good luck with your decision!
Emma Davis
This is such a comprehensive discussion - you're all covering so many important angles! As someone new to this community, I'm learning a lot from reading through everyone's experiences and advice. One thing I wanted to add that I don't think has been mentioned yet: if you do decide to work part-time between 60-67, keep in mind that Social Security has an earnings test that applies before you reach full retirement age. Since you're planning to wait until 67 to claim, this won't affect you, but it's worth knowing about in case you change your mind and decide to claim earlier. Also, I've found that many people don't realize you can actually start your Social Security application up to 4 months before you want your benefits to begin. So if you're planning to claim at exactly 67, you could start the application process a few months early to avoid any delays. The psychological benefits that several people have mentioned really resonate with me too. Sometimes the financial "optimal" choice isn't the best choice for your overall well-being and happiness. It sounds like you're being very thoughtful about balancing all these factors!
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Aiden Rodríguez
•Welcome to the community! Thanks for bringing up the earnings test - that's definitely good information to have even if it won't apply to the original poster's situation. I didn't know about being able to start the Social Security application 4 months early either, so that's a helpful tip for avoiding potential delays. You're absolutely right that sometimes the financially optimal choice isn't the best overall choice. This whole thread has really reinforced for me how many different factors there are to consider beyond just maximizing the benefit amount - taxes, health insurance, mental health, spousal benefits, and just general quality of life. It's encouraging to see so many people who've successfully navigated these decisions sharing their experiences and perspectives.
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Zara Rashid
I've been following this discussion as someone who's also navigating early retirement planning, and I wanted to share something that might be helpful. Beyond all the excellent technical advice about calculations and benefit optimization, don't underestimate the value of doing a "practice run" of your retirement budget before you actually stop working. What I mean is: try living on your projected retirement income (including that estimated Social Security benefit) for 6-12 months while you're still working. Put the difference in savings. This will help you identify any gaps in your planning and give you real confidence about whether your numbers work in practice, not just on paper. I did this exercise and discovered I was spending more on healthcare and home maintenance than I had budgeted for, but I was spending way less on work-related expenses (commuting, professional clothes, eating out) than I expected. It completely changed how I thought about the trade-offs between working longer for a higher benefit versus retiring early with a slightly smaller one. Also, if you do find that part-time work might boost your benefit by replacing some low-earning years, consider whether that part-time work could be something you'd actually enjoy rather than just tolerate. The extra income is nice, but if it's work you find meaningful, it serves double duty for both your finances and your sense of purpose in retirement. You're clearly putting a lot of thought into this decision - that preparation will serve you well regardless of what you ultimately choose!
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Brian Downey
•This is such practical advice about doing a "practice run" of retirement income! I never would have thought to actually live on my projected budget beforehand, but it makes complete sense. You're right that there are probably expenses I'm not accounting for and savings I'm not anticipating. The point about finding meaningful part-time work rather than just any work is really insightful too. If I'm going to work during those gap years, it might as well be something I actually want to do rather than just chasing dollars to replace low-earning years. That could make the whole early retirement transition feel more intentional and fulfilling. I'm definitely going to try that budget exercise over the next few months. It would be much better to discover any planning gaps now while I still have time to adjust, rather than after I've already left my full-time job. Thanks for sharing such a thoughtful approach to retirement planning!
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