My ex-husband's tax lien is on my house - how can I sell without paying his debt?
I finalized my divorce back in early 2022, and I'm dealing with a nightmare situation with my house. In our divorce settlement, I was awarded full ownership of our home, and my ex was supposed to handle a tax lien that was in his name. According to what was explained to me and my divorce lawyer during proceedings, the lien was attached to him personally and he was required to clear it as part of our agreement. Fast forward more than two years, and he's done absolutely nothing about it. I've been wanting to refinance to take advantage of better rates, so I finally called the IRS myself to figure out what's going on. Turns out the lien isn't just on him - it's specifically attached to the property too! This means I literally can't refinance or sell without paying off HIS tax debt, which has been growing with penalties and interest for these additional years. I'm beyond frustrated. I just submitted Form 8821 with his signature (that was a whole ordeal getting him to sign it) so I can actually discuss the balance with the IRS. I also sent in Form 14135 Certificate of Discharge to see if they'll remove the lien from my property. My backup plan is to resubmit and ask if they'll consider the value of his equity in the house at the time of divorce as sufficient payment, rather than the full amount now. Has anyone dealt with something similar? Any advice on how to navigate this mess or other options I should consider?
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Lilah Brooks
This is actually a fairly common issue with tax liens, unfortunately. The IRS files what's called a Notice of Federal Tax Lien (NFTL) that attaches to all property owned by the delinquent taxpayer at the time the lien is filed. Even though your divorce decree awarded you the house, the IRS isn't bound by that agreement - they see a debt and collateral for that debt. You're on the right track with the forms you've submitted. The Form 14135 Certificate of Discharge is exactly what you need. There are several grounds for discharge, but in your situation, you'll likely want to focus on either "property subject to a non-attachment" or "value of property exceeds tax liability." Make sure you include your divorce decree and any documentation showing the value of the house at the time of divorce versus your ex's equity portion. If the value of your ex's interest in the property at the time of the transfer is less than the home's fair market value, you have a strong case. Also, don't forget that if the IRS doesn't approve your request, you can appeal their decision. Sometimes it takes persistence to get through the process.
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Owen Jenkins
•Thank you for the detailed explanation! You mentioned focusing on either "property subject to a non-attachment" or "value of property exceeds tax liability" - which do you think would be stronger in my case? The house has appreciated quite a bit since the divorce. Also, how long does the Certificate of Discharge process typically take? I'm worried about how much more the penalties and interest will add up while I'm waiting.
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Lilah Brooks
•In your situation, I'd recommend focusing on "value of property exceeds tax liability" since it's generally easier to demonstrate with clear numbers. Provide a current appraisal showing the home's value, documentation of any mortgages or loans, and then show that after satisfying those debts, there's still enough equity to cover your ex's tax liability. The Certificate of Discharge process typically takes 30-45 days from when the IRS receives a complete application with all required documentation. However, if they request additional information or if the case is complex, it could take longer - sometimes up to 90 days. I'd suggest following up with the IRS after about 3 weeks if you haven't heard anything.
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Jackson Carter
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Kolton Murphy
•How exactly does the service work? Do you upload documents and they review them, or is it just general advice? I'm dealing with something similar but mine involves a state tax lien from California that my ex never disclosed during our divorce.
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Evelyn Rivera
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Jackson Carter
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Evelyn Rivera
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Julia Hall
If you need to actually speak with someone at the IRS about this lien (which you probably will), good luck getting through on your own. After my ex left me with a similar tax nightmare, I spent DAYS trying to reach someone knowledgeable at the IRS. Always busy signals or disconnects after waiting on hold forever. I finally used Claimyr (https://claimyr.com) after seeing someone recommend it, and they actually got me through to a real IRS agent in about 20 minutes. You can see how it works here: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c. It's basically a system that navigates the IRS phone tree and waits on hold for you, then calls you when an actual human picks up. The IRS agent I spoke with walked me through exactly what documentation I needed to include with my Certificate of Discharge (which turned out to be different than what I had prepared). Saved me from having my application rejected and starting over.
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Arjun Patel
•How does this actually work? Do they just call the IRS for you or what? I'm so confused about how some service can get you through when the IRS lines are always busy.
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Jade Lopez
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Julia Hall
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Jade Lopez
I need to eat my words and apologize to Profile 8. After being completely stuck with a similar tax lien issue and failing to reach the IRS for weeks, I reluctantly tried Claimyr yesterday. Not only did it work, but I was connected to an IRS agent in 17 minutes (after spending hours trying on my own last week). The agent was able to pull up my case file and found that my ex had actually entered into a payment plan two years ago but stopped making payments after three months. This was information I never had access to before. She walked me through the exact documentation needed for my Certificate of Discharge application and gave me her direct line for follow-up questions. I'm still in shock that I actually got real help instead of automated messages and hold music. Should have tried this months ago instead of being so stubborn.
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Tony Brooks
Another option you might consider is filing for "innocent spouse relief" using Form 8857. This isn't just for joint returns - it can sometimes help in situations where an ex-spouse's tax liability is affecting your property rights after divorce. I went through this about a year ago and while it took some time, it eventually worked for me. Make sure you gather as much evidence as possible showing that the tax liability was solely your ex's responsibility and that you had no knowledge or financial benefit from whatever created the liability. The more documentation you have from your divorce proceedings that specifically addresses tax responsibilities, the better.
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Owen Jenkins
•Thanks for suggesting this! I hadn't even considered innocent spouse relief. Did you need to hire a tax attorney to help with your filing, or were you able to handle it yourself? I'm trying to avoid more legal fees if possible.
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Tony Brooks
•I handled it myself initially, but ended up consulting with a tax attorney for about two hours (cost me $650) when the IRS sent back questions. The key was organizing all my documentation before filing - I created a timeline showing when the tax issues occurred, when I became aware of them, and excerpts from our divorce decree that showed he was solely responsible. If your divorce decree clearly states the tax responsibilities, you might be able to handle it yourself. The IRS publication 971 has a good walkthrough of the process. Just be prepared for it to take 6-8 months for a decision, so it's not a quick fix. Also keep copies of EVERYTHING you send and get confirmation numbers for all submissions.
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Ella rollingthunder87
Has anyone mentioned the Taxpayer Advocate Service yet? They're an independent organization within the IRS that helps taxpayers resolve problems. Since you're dealing with a situation where regular IRS channels haven't resolved your issue after 2+ years, you might qualify for their help. And it's free! I used them when I had a similar issue with an ex's business tax lien that was affecting property I received in our divorce. They assigned me a specific advocate who actually called me back and helped navigate the process. You can reach them at 877-777-4778 or look up your local office.
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Yara Campbell
•I second this advice! The Taxpayer Advocate saved me from a nightmare situation. One tip: when you call, be very specific about the financial hardship the situation is causing you (inability to refinance, potential loss of property value, etc.) as that helps qualify your case for their assistance.
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Nia Thompson
I'm dealing with a very similar situation right now - my ex-husband had a federal tax lien that I discovered was attached to our marital home after our divorce was finalized. Like you, I was awarded the house in the settlement but had no idea the lien would follow the property. One thing I learned that might help you is to request a copy of the original Notice of Federal Tax Lien filing from the county recorder's office where your property is located. The filing date is crucial because it determines what property the lien attaches to. If the lien was filed before you received the house in the divorce, it's attached to the property. But if it was filed after the divorce decree was recorded, you might have stronger grounds for discharge. Also, when you're working on your Form 14135, make sure to include a current certified appraisal of the property. The IRS needs to see that there's enough equity to satisfy the tax debt from your ex's portion of the home's value. Don't just estimate - get professional documentation. The waiting is honestly the worst part. I've been dealing with this for 8 months now and the stress of not being able to refinance or sell is overwhelming. Hang in there - it sounds like you're taking all the right steps.
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Katherine Hunter
•Thank you so much for sharing your experience - it's both reassuring and frustrating to know I'm not alone in this mess! Your point about checking the filing date of the original lien is brilliant and something I hadn't thought to verify yet. I'm definitely going to request that documentation from the county recorder's office this week. You're absolutely right about getting a certified appraisal. I was planning to use online estimates, but professional documentation will carry much more weight with the IRS. The cost will be worth it if it helps get this resolved faster. Eight months sounds exhausting - I can't imagine dealing with this stress for that long. Are you still waiting on a response to your discharge application, or have you had to resubmit anything? I'm trying to prepare myself mentally for this being a long process, but hoping my case might move quicker since I have a clear divorce decree spelling out the tax responsibilities. The inability to refinance is killing me financially with these current rates, so I really feel your pain on that front.
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Jamal Edwards
I've been following this thread closely because I'm dealing with a somewhat similar situation, though mine involves a business tax lien from my ex-wife's failed restaurant that's now affecting our former rental property that I was awarded. One thing I want to add that hasn't been mentioned yet is the importance of documenting any improvements or payments you've made to the property since the divorce. The IRS considers these when evaluating your equity position for discharge applications. Keep receipts for mortgage payments, property taxes, maintenance, and any capital improvements you've funded solely from your own resources. Also, if your ex-husband has any other significant assets, it might be worth including documentation of those with your Form 14135. The IRS is more likely to discharge a lien from your property if they can see other avenues for collection from the actual debtor. Bank accounts, other real estate, vehicles, retirement accounts - anything that shows he has the means to satisfy the debt without your property being involved. The whole process is incredibly frustrating, but from what I've learned, persistence and thorough documentation are key. I'm about 6 months into my own battle with this, so I completely understand the stress you're going through.
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