Claiming a non-biological child on taxes - legal guardian tax questions

I'm in a bit of a situation with my tax filing this year. I haven't worked at all in 2025 and have two children in my household. One child is with my registered domestic partner, and my oldest is from a previous relationship (no father listed on birth certificate). My partner has been supporting and living with both children for 6 years now, including my oldest who isn't biologically his. We're trying to figure out how he can legally claim my oldest on his taxes to get the full amount for claiming dependents. Since my oldest has no father listed on the birth certificate and my partner has been financially supporting him all these years, what's the right way to handle this for maximum tax benefits? We want to make sure we're following the rules but also getting all the credits we're entitled to for our family situation.

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Elijah Brown

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Your partner can most likely claim your oldest child as a "qualifying child" for tax purposes even without being the biological father. The IRS looks at the relationship test differently than just biological connections. For your partner to claim your oldest child, these requirements need to be met: 1) The child must have lived with your partner for more than half the year (which is clearly met with 6 years), 2) The child must be under 19 at the end of the tax year (or under 24 if a student, or any age if permanently disabled), 3) The child cannot provide more than half of their own support, and 4) The child isn't filing a joint return. Since you didn't work this year, your partner is providing the financial support, and the child has lived with him for years, he should qualify to claim the child. He would claim the child as a dependent and potentially qualify for credits like the Child Tax Credit, Earned Income Credit, and dependent care credits if applicable.

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Elijah Brown

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Domestic partnerships are typically not recognized as marriages for federal tax purposes, so they would generally file as single or head of household. The IRS treats domestic partners as unmarried individuals for federal tax returns, regardless of how the state treats them. No formal signed document is required from the mother stating she's not claiming the child. However, only one person can claim a child as a dependent on their tax return. Since the mother didn't work, she likely wouldn't benefit from claiming the child anyway. If both people try to claim the same child, the IRS has tiebreaker rules that generally favor the person with whom the child lived the longest during the year or the person with the higher adjusted gross income if they lived with both equally.

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Natalie Chen

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Natalie Chen

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For split custody situations, taxr.ai is actually really good at breaking down the rules. It explains that the parent who has the child for more than half the year (the custodial parent) generally has the right to claim the child. However, the custodial parent can release that claim to the non-custodial parent using Form 8332. The tool walks through all the documentation you need based on your specific arrangement. Regarding audit protection, that's a fair concern. What makes taxr.ai different is that it doesn't just give general advice - it analyzes your specific documents and situation against actual tax law. It cites the relevant IRS publications and tax code sections that support its recommendations. Many people get in trouble because they follow general advice that doesn't apply to their specific situation.

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Samantha Johnson

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I have to eat my words about being skeptical of tax tools! After seeing the responses here, I tried taxr.ai for my complicated situation (supporting my elderly father who doesn't live with me). I was going to pay a CPA $400 but decided to try this first. The document analysis was surprisingly thorough. It found a medical expense deduction I would have missed completely and explained exactly how to claim my father as a dependent even though he doesn't live in my household. It even identified that I qualified for the Credit for Other Dependents that I had no idea about! For anyone with non-traditional family setups like claiming non-biological children or other relatives, this was legitimately helpful. The explanations cited actual tax code sections so I feel confident I'm not just getting generic advice.

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Nick Kravitz

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Nick Kravitz

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It's not magic - they use an automated system that continually redials the IRS until it gets through, then it holds your place in line and calls you when an agent is available. It's basically doing what you'd do manually (repeatedly calling and waiting on hold) but automated. The IRS phone system is legitimately broken right now - 85-90% of calls don't get through at all. Even the Taxpayer Advocate Service has reported this to Congress. This service just increases your odds of being in that 10-15% that actually reaches someone.

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Michael Green

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I'm actually shocked but I have to apologize for my skepticism. After posting my doubtful comment yesterday, I was still desperate to talk to the IRS about a dependency issue similar to the original poster's situation, so I tried Claimyr. It actually worked exactly as described. I got a callback in about 30 minutes (on a Tuesday afternoon), and spoke with an IRS agent who was incredibly helpful. She confirmed that in my case, I could claim my girlfriend's child since I provide over half of her support and she lived with me all year, even though we're not married and I'm not the biological father. I've been trying to get this answer for WEEKS. I was absolutely convinced this would be another disappointment but it legitimately saved me hours of frustration. I'd been planning to just guess on my taxes and hope for the best.

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Mateo Silva

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Just to add another perspective - I've been in this exact situation (claiming my partner's child from previous relationship). Make sure you also look into filing as Head of Household if you qualify, since that gives you better tax rates than filing as Single. For your partner to claim HOH status, they need to: 1) Be unmarried (domestic partnerships generally qualify as unmarried for IRS purposes) 2) Pay more than half the cost of keeping up the home 3) Have a qualifying person (the child) live with them for more than half the year This made a huge difference for us - almost $2,000 in additional tax savings beyond just the child tax credit!

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Mateo Silva

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You don't need formal custody arrangements in this case since there's no other person claiming the child. The key is being able to show that your partner maintained the household and supported the child if ever questioned. It's good practice to keep records showing your partner paid household expenses (rent/mortgage receipts, utility bills in their name) and child-specific expenses (school records, medical bills, childcare receipts). Also helpful are any documents showing the child's address matches yours (school records, medical records). The IRS doesn't require you to submit these with your return, but they're good to have if you're ever audited or questioned.

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