Will Social Security return my original marriage and divorce documents after verification?
I need to apply for spousal benefits next month and I'm nervous about sending in my original marriage certificate and divorce decree. Does Social Security actually return these documents? How long does it typically take? I've heard horror stories about government agencies losing important papers, and these would be nearly impossible to replace since they're from the 1980s and from a different state. Has anyone gone through this process recently? Did you get your originals back in decent condition? Should I send them certified mail with tracking?
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Ethan Brown
Yes, SSA will return your original documents! I submitted my marriage certificate, birth certificate, and divorce papers last year when applying for retirement benefits. They returned everything within about 3 weeks. I'd definitely recommend sending them certified mail with tracking just for peace of mind. Also take clear photos of everything before you send them, just as backup.
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GalacticGladiator
•Thank you! 3 weeks isn't too bad. Did they send your documents back with any kind of tracking, or just regular mail? I'm worried about them getting lost on the return trip.
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Yuki Yamamoto
they sent back mine but took FOREVER like 2 months and no tracking when they sent them back just showed up in my mailbox one day
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GalacticGladiator
•Oh no, 2 months is a long time to be without those documents! I guess I should apply well before I actually need the benefits to start then.
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Carmen Ruiz
I NEVER got my divorce decree back from them 3 YEARS AGO!!! Had to pay $75 to get another certified copy from the county clerk. SSA claimed they sent it but NO PROOF. Now I make COPIES of everything and take the copies AND originals to the local office so they can verify the copies match the originals right there!!!
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GalacticGladiator
•That's awful! I'm so sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately my local office is still appointment-only and the next available appointment is 3 months away. That's why I was planning to mail everything.
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Andre Lefebvre
If you're concerned about mailing original documents (which is totally understandable), there's a service I used called Claimyr that helped me get through to SSA on the phone in less than 5 minutes instead of waiting for hours. I was able to ask about alternatives to mailing originals and they told me I could bring them to the local office for verification instead. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU
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Zoe Dimitriou
•does this actually work? ive been trying to call SS for like 2 weeks and cant get thru
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QuantumQuest
Social Security Administration does return original documents, but there are better approaches than mailing them: 1. Visit your local Social Security office in person with both originals and photocopies. They can certify the copies on the spot and return your originals immediately. 2. If you must mail them, use USPS certified mail with return receipt for tracking. 3. Some documents can now be uploaded through the my Social Security portal for certain application types. 4. If your documents were issued in the same state where you now live, SSA can sometimes verify them electronically with vital records offices. The return time for mailed documents varies widely from 2-8 weeks depending on current processing volumes.
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GalacticGladiator
•Thank you for such detailed information! I didn't know about the electronic verification option. My documents are from out of state, but I'll check the mySocialSecurity portal to see if uploading is an option for spousal benefits.
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Jamal Anderson
my aunt sent her marriage certificate to them when applying for widows benefits after my uncle passed and they sent it back in about a month. she was worried about it too but it came back fine.
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Yuki Yamamoto
also make sure ur sending to right address!!! my friend sent her stuff to wrong office and took 3 months to get sorted out
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GalacticGladiator
•That's a good point! I'll double check the address before I send anything.
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Ethan Brown
Just a follow-up to my earlier comment - they returned my documents via regular first-class mail, not tracked. That's why I suggested certified mail when sending them - at least that way you know they received it. For what it's worth, everything arrived back safely, but I was nervous until they showed up!
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Zoe Dimitriou
i brought mine to the office and they made copies and gave me back originals right away. way better than mailing if u can get appointment
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Jamal Anderson
•that's exactly what I did too! no way was I letting those documents out of my sight lol
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Brandon Parker
I had a similar experience when I applied for disability benefits last year. SSA did return my original documents, but it took about 6 weeks and they came back with some minor creasing. If those documents from the 1980s are truly irreplaceable, I'd strongly recommend trying to get an in-person appointment even if it means waiting the 3 months. In the meantime, you could also contact the vital records office in the state where you were married/divorced to see if they can issue new certified copies as backup - sometimes older records are available even when you think they're not. That way you'd have peace of mind either way.
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Libby Hassan
I went through this exact situation last year when applying for spousal benefits! SSA did return my original marriage certificate and divorce decree, but it took about 5 weeks. What really helped ease my anxiety was calling ahead to confirm they received my documents - you can reference your tracking number when you call. I also kept detailed photos of every page before sending them. One tip: if you're really worried, you could try calling the vital records office in the state where your documents were issued first - sometimes they have digitized older records and can issue new certified copies faster than you'd expect, even from the 1980s. That way you'd have a backup plan if anything goes wrong.
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Royal_GM_Mark
•Thanks for sharing your experience! That's really helpful to know. I hadn't thought about calling the vital records office first - that's a great idea about them possibly having digitized the older records. Even if they can't issue new copies right away, at least I'd know if it's possible. Did you end up getting certified copies as backup, or just rely on the photos you took?
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JacksonHarris
I just went through this process a few months ago! SSA did return my original documents, but it took about 7 weeks which was longer than I expected. They came back in good condition, just in a regular envelope with no tracking. One thing that really helped me was making high-quality color copies before sending them - I took them to a UPS store and had them make certified copies on their good equipment. That way I had something official-looking as backup while waiting. Also, I called SSA about 4 weeks after sending to confirm they had received and processed my documents, which gave me peace of mind. The wait was nerve-wracking but everything worked out fine in the end!
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Brielle Johnson
•That's reassuring to hear! 7 weeks is a long time to wait, but at least they came back safely. The certified copies from UPS store is a smart idea - I didn't think about having professional-quality backup copies made. Did calling after 4 weeks actually help you get through to someone, or did you have to wait on hold forever? I'm dreading trying to call them but it would be worth it for the peace of mind.
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Chloe Taylor
I just went through this exact process 6 months ago for my own spousal benefits application! SSA did return my original marriage certificate and divorce decree, and they were in perfect condition when they came back. It took exactly 4 weeks for me. I was super nervous too since my divorce papers were from 1987 and from a different state. Here's what I did that might help: I sent everything via certified mail with signature confirmation, took high-resolution photos of every page (front and back), and included a cover letter with my contact info requesting they return the documents to the same address. When I called to check status after 3 weeks, the representative was actually really helpful and confirmed they had processed everything. The documents came back in a protective envelope, not just a regular one. I know the horror stories are scary, but in my experience they were very careful with the originals. Good luck with your application!
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Amina Bah
•This is so helpful to hear from someone who went through the exact same situation! The fact that your 1987 divorce papers came back in perfect condition gives me a lot more confidence. I really like your idea about including a cover letter with contact info - that seems like it might help ensure they handle everything more carefully. Did you have any trouble getting through when you called after 3 weeks, or were you able to reach someone relatively quickly? I keep hearing mixed things about wait times when calling SSA.
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Connor O'Neill
I actually work for a local SSA office (can't give specific advice for your case, but can share general info). We do return original documents, but processing times vary a lot right now - anywhere from 3-8 weeks depending on the office workload. A few tips: always send certified mail with return receipt, take clear photos before sending, and include a cover letter with your name, SSN, and return address clearly marked. We don't provide tracking when we mail documents back, so that's the scary part for most people. If you're really concerned about irreplaceable 1980s documents, calling ahead to see if your local office has any walk-in verification hours might be worth it, even if regular appointments are booked out. Some offices do limited walk-in services for document verification only.
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Zane Hernandez
•Thanks for the insider perspective! It's really helpful to know that some offices do walk-in verification hours even when appointments are booked out - I had no idea that was even a possibility. I'm definitely going to call my local office tomorrow to ask about this option. The 3-8 week timeframe is pretty wide, but at least now I know what to expect. I feel much better about the whole process knowing that SSA employees are aware of how nerve-wracking this is for people and that you handle the documents carefully. The cover letter tip is great too - I'll make sure to include all that info clearly marked.
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Luca Conti
I went through this same situation about 8 months ago when applying for spousal benefits, and I completely understand your anxiety! SSA did return my original documents - marriage certificate from 1983 and divorce decree from 1985. It took about 5 weeks, and they came back in good condition, just a bit of normal handling wear. What really helped me was doing a few things: I made high-quality scans and kept them on my computer, sent everything certified mail with signature required, and wrote my phone number clearly on the cover letter. The hardest part was just waiting and trusting the process. One thing I learned afterward - if you have time before you need the benefits to start, you could try requesting certified copies from your original state's vital records office first. I found out later that my state had digitized records going back to the 1970s, so I could have gotten backup copies if needed. But honestly, SSA handled my originals very professionally. The wait was nerve-wracking but worth it in the end!
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Lucas Bey
•This is really reassuring to hear from someone with documents from the same era! I'm definitely feeling better about this after reading everyone's experiences. The idea about checking with my state's vital records office first is brilliant - I had no idea they might have digitized records going back that far. Even if they can't provide copies right away, at least I'd know if it's even possible. I think I'll call them first thing Monday morning before I send anything to SSA. Thanks for sharing your experience and all the practical tips! It's so helpful to hear from people who actually went through this successfully.
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Bethany Groves
I just completed this process about 2 months ago when I applied for spousal benefits, and I totally get your nervousness! SSA did return my original documents safely - it took about 4 weeks total. My marriage certificate was from 1982 and my divorce papers from 1986, so similar vintage to yours. They came back in excellent condition, actually better protected than I expected in a sturdy envelope. What helped me feel more secure was: 1) Taking detailed photos of every document before mailing, 2) Using certified mail with signature confirmation, 3) Including a brief cover letter with my contact info and specifically requesting the documents be returned to my address, and 4) Calling SSA after 3 weeks to confirm receipt and processing status. The waiting period was definitely stressful, but looking back I'm glad I went the mail route since my local office appointments were backed up for months. One pleasant surprise - the SSA representative I spoke with when checking status was actually very helpful and understanding about my concerns. She even noted in my file that the documents were original/irreplaceable so they'd handle them with extra care. Hope this helps ease some of your worries!
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Lauren Wood
•Thank you so much for sharing your experience with documents from almost the same time period as mine! It's incredibly reassuring to hear they came back in excellent condition and that the SSA representative actually made a note about them being irreplaceable. I really appreciate all the detailed steps you took - I'm definitely going to follow your approach with the photos, certified mail, cover letter, and calling after 3 weeks to check status. The fact that they used a sturdy envelope gives me a lot more confidence too. It sounds like despite all our worries, SSA really does handle these documents professionally. Thanks again for taking the time to share such helpful details!
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Darren Brooks
I went through this exact process last year when applying for spousal benefits! I was terrified about sending my original marriage certificate from 1979 and divorce decree from 1981 - they're basically irreplaceable at this point. But SSA did return them safely after about 6 weeks. Here's what I learned: definitely send everything certified mail with signature confirmation, take high-resolution photos of every page (including the backs), and include a cover letter with your contact information. The documents came back in a protective envelope and were in the same condition I sent them. I also called after about a month to confirm they had received and processed everything, which gave me peace of mind during the waiting period. The whole process was nerve-wracking but ultimately went smoothly. One tip - before sending anything, I contacted my state's vital records office to see if they could issue new certified copies as backup. Turned out they had digitized older records, so I knew I had options if something went wrong. Good luck with your application!
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Isaiah Thompson
•This is so helpful to hear from someone with documents even older than mine! The fact that your 1979 marriage certificate came back safely after 6 weeks is really encouraging. I love the idea about contacting the state's vital records office first to check on digitized records - that's such smart planning to have a backup option before sending the originals. The protective envelope detail is reassuring too. I'm definitely going to follow your approach with the certified mail, photos, cover letter, and calling after a month to check status. Thanks for sharing your experience and for the practical tip about checking with vital records first!
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Raul Neal
I just went through this process about 3 months ago and understand your anxiety completely! SSA did return my original documents safely - my marriage certificate from 1984 and divorce papers from 1988. It took exactly 5 weeks for me to get them back, and they were in perfect condition when they arrived. Here's what I did that really helped: I made high-quality color copies at a local print shop, took detailed photos with my phone as backup, sent everything via certified mail with return receipt, and included a clear cover letter with my full contact info. The documents came back in a sturdy manila envelope (not just a regular one) which was reassuring. I also called SSA at the 3-week mark to confirm they had received everything, and the representative was actually very helpful - she even made a note in my file that these were original documents that needed careful handling. The waiting period was definitely stressful, but everything worked out perfectly. One thing I wish I had done first was check with my state's vital records office to see if they had digitized copies available as backup - found out later they actually did! Good luck with your application!
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Zoey Bianchi
•Thank you for sharing such a detailed account of your experience! It's really reassuring to hear about someone with documents from the same time period (1984/1988) getting them back in perfect condition. I especially appreciate you mentioning that they used a sturdy manila envelope rather than just a regular one - those little details really help ease my anxiety about this whole process. The tip about the SSA representative making a note about careful handling is brilliant, and I'll definitely mention that when I call to check status. I'm also going to follow your advice about checking with vital records first for digitized copies as backup. It's so helpful to hear from people who've actually been through this successfully!
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Tami Morgan
I just went through this process 4 months ago when I applied for spousal benefits, and I completely understand your nervousness! SSA did return my original documents safely - my marriage certificate from 1983 and divorce decree from 1987. It took about 5.5 weeks, which felt like forever, but they came back in excellent condition in a protective envelope. Here's what I did: took high-resolution photos of every page, sent everything certified mail with signature confirmation, included a detailed cover letter with my contact info and a note requesting careful handling of irreplaceable documents, and called after 4 weeks to check status. The SSA representative was actually very understanding and confirmed they had processed everything. One thing that really helped my peace of mind was calling my state's vital records office first to confirm whether they had digitized records from that era - turns out they did have them on file as backup! Even though the waiting was stressful, SSA handled my documents very professionally. I'd definitely recommend the certified mail route with all the precautions, and don't hesitate to call and check on status after a few weeks. Good luck with your application!
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Dmitry Ivanov
•This is exactly the kind of detailed experience I was hoping to hear about! Having documents from 1983/1987 that came back in excellent condition after 5.5 weeks gives me so much more confidence about sending mine from the 1980s. I really appreciate you mentioning the protective envelope - it's those specific details that help calm my nerves about this whole process. The idea about calling the state's vital records office first to check for digitized backups is brilliant, and I'm definitely going to do that before I send anything. It's such a relief to hear from multiple people who've been through this successfully with older documents. Thank you for taking the time to share such helpful details!
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Clay blendedgen
I'm going through the exact same situation right now and reading all these experiences has been incredibly helpful! I'm planning to apply for spousal benefits in the next few weeks and have been terrified about sending my original marriage certificate from 1985 and divorce papers from 1989. It's so reassuring to see multiple people with documents from the same era getting them back safely. I'm definitely going to follow the advice here about certified mail, taking detailed photos, including a cover letter requesting careful handling, and checking with my state's vital records office first about digitized backups. The detail about SSA using protective envelopes and representatives making notes about careful handling really helps ease my anxiety. Thanks to everyone who shared their experiences - it's made this whole process feel much less scary!
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QuantumLeap
•I'm in a very similar boat! My documents are from 1986 and 1990, so reading all these success stories from people with documents from the 80s has really helped calm my nerves too. It sounds like SSA is actually pretty careful with these older, irreplaceable documents. I'm especially glad to see multiple people mention that the representatives will make notes about careful handling when you call - that's such a smart thing to ask for. The certified mail with photos backup plan seems to be the consensus approach, and checking with vital records first for digitized copies is brilliant. We've got this! Thanks for posting about your situation too - it helps to know others are going through the same worries.
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Jamal Brown
I just went through this exact process about 4 months ago! SSA definitely returned my original marriage certificate (from 1988) and divorce decree (from 1991), and they came back in great condition after about 6 weeks. I was absolutely terrified to mail them since they're basically irreplaceable at this point. Here's what worked for me: I sent everything certified mail with return receipt requested, took high-quality photos of every single page (front and back), and included a cover letter with my contact info specifically asking for careful handling of irreplaceable original documents. When I called at the 4-week mark to check status, the representative was really understanding and actually made a note in my file about the documents being originals that needed special care. They returned them in a sturdy protective envelope, not just a regular one. The waiting was nerve-wracking, but SSA handled everything professionally. One thing I wish I'd done first was contact my state's vital records office to see if they had backup copies available - definitely worth checking before you send your originals! Good luck with your application!
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Eduardo Silva
•This is so reassuring to hear! Your experience with documents from 1988/1991 sounds very similar to what I'm facing. I really appreciate you mentioning that the representative made a note about special care for original documents - that's such a smart thing to ask for when calling to check status. The detail about the sturdy protective envelope is also really comforting. I'm definitely going to follow your approach with certified mail, detailed photos, and the cover letter requesting careful handling. The tip about checking with vital records first for backup copies is something several people have mentioned now, so I'll definitely do that before sending anything. Thanks for sharing your successful experience - it really helps calm the nerves about this whole process!
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