Social Security strategy for 9-year age gap - Delaying until 70 to maximize survivor benefits for younger spouse?
I'm trying to figure out the best Social Security strategy for our unusual situation. My wife is 51 and I'm 60, running a successful business that basically runs itself now with minimal oversight. We're financially comfortable with solid retirement savings. I'm planning to sell the business in a few years, but until then we're maxing out retirement contributions. My tentative plan is to delay taking Social Security until I'm 70 because: 1) We don't need the extra income now 2) Taking SS early would subject me to income limits since we still have business income 3) I want to maximize the survivor benefit for my wife since she's so much younger Is this smart thinking? Or am I missing something important about spousal/survivor benefits with this big age gap? I understand my wife can eventually claim either her own benefit or a percentage of mine, but I'm fuzzy on all the details around timing and maximizing our combined lifetime benefits. Any insights from folks who've navigated this?
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Isabella Russo
You've got the right approach. Delaying until 70 will give you a 32% increase over your Full Retirement Age (FRA) benefit, and since your wife is 9 years younger, those survivor benefits will likely be paid for many years. One thing to check is whether your wife will qualify for her own SS retirement - if her benefit would be less than half of yours, she could get spousal benefits when she reaches her FRA. But the survivor benefit is 100% of your benefit (including the delayed retirement credits) if she's at her FRA when she claims it.
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ApolloJackson
•Thanks for confirming! My wife has worked on and off through the years, but mostly in our business, so her own benefit would definitely be lower than half of mine. One question though - does she have to wait until her own FRA to claim the survivor benefit if I pass away before then? Or can she start taking that earlier (with a reduction)?
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Rajiv Kumar
Have you considered that you might be LEAVING MONEY ON THE TABLE??? My financial advisor told me that the 'break-even' point for delaying SS is somewhere in your early 80s. If you pass away before that, you've essentially LOST money by waiting. And the government WANTS you to delay so they don't have to pay you as much over your lifetime! I took mine at 62 and have been enjoying the money for years while I'm healthy enough to use it!
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Aria Washington
•not everyone's situation is the same though. OP is thinking about his wife's survivor benefit which makes a huge difference in the calculation
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Aria Washington
i did something similar with my wife (7yr difference). the survivor benefit thing is HUGE if your wife outlives you by a lot. Just remember her survivor benefit is reduced if she claims it before her FRA. she can claim as early as 60 but gets less
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ApolloJackson
•That's really helpful to know. Do you happen to remember the reduction percentage if she claims survivor benefits early? I should probably do some calculations based on different scenarios.
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Liam O'Reilly
Your strategy makes perfect sense given your specific circumstances. Just to add some additional points to consider: 1) If your wife's own benefit at her FRA would be less than half of your PIA (Primary Insurance Amount), she could claim a spousal benefit when she reaches her own FRA. 2) Survivor benefits can be claimed as early as age 60 with a reduction, or at her FRA for the full 100% of your benefit (including delayed retirement credits). 3) One often overlooked strategy: If she's collecting her own retirement benefit when you pass away, she can switch to the survivor benefit if it's higher (or vice versa). 4) Have you consulted the SSA benefit calculators on their website to run some specific numbers? That might help you visualize the difference in monthly payments under different scenarios.
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ApolloJackson
•Thank you for these details! I didn't realize she could switch between her own benefit and the survivor benefit. I'll definitely check out the SSA calculators to run some numbers.
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Chloe Delgado
I was in almost your exact situation 5 years ago - 8 year age gap with my wife, owned a business, delayed SS. I'm now 72, and it was DEFINITELY the right choice for us. One thing nobody mentioned yet - because of the SECURE Act, you also have to think about Required Minimum Distributions from your retirement accounts which kick in at 73 now. I'd recommend working with a financial planner who specializes in retirement income strategies to coordinate your business sale, Social Security timing, AND your RMDs to minimize taxes over the long term. It's complicated but worth figuring out.
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ApolloJackson
•Great point about RMDs! I hadn't even connected those dots. I'll definitely talk to our financial advisor about coordinating all these pieces together.
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Ava Harris
My husband and I have 11 years between us and we did exactly what you're planning. He waited till 70 and passed away last year. I'm now getting his full benefit as a survivor which is $4,300/month instead of the $2,800 he would've gotten at 66. Best decision ever!!!
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Chloe Delgado
•I'm sorry for your loss but glad to hear the strategy worked out financially. It's always helpful to hear real-world confirmation of these planning approaches.
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Jacob Lee
Just be careful with all this planning - the government can change the rules anytime they want! My sister-in-law had a whole strategy worked out and then they eliminated file-and-suspend which totally messed up her plans. Nothing is guaranteed with Social Security!
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Liam O'Reilly
•While it's true that regulations can change, major changes to Social Security typically include grandfathering provisions for those near retirement. The file-and-suspend strategy was eliminated in 2016, but survivor benefit rules have remained consistent for decades. Planning with current rules is still valuable, especially when you're this close to retirement age.
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Aria Washington
have you tried contacting SSA to discuss your specific situation? they can give you personalized advice based on both your earnings records
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ApolloJackson
•I've tried a few times but keep getting disconnected after waiting for hours. I guess everyone is calling with questions about the recent COLA announcement.
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Chloe Delgado
I was having the same problem reaching SSA about my benefit questions. I discovered a service called Claimyr that got me through to a live person at Social Security in about 20 minutes instead of waiting for hours. I used it to discuss my spousal benefit options and it saved me so much frustration. You can see how it works in their video demo at https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU or check their website claimyr.com. It was definitely worth it to get my specific questions answered by an actual SSA representative.
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ApolloJackson
•Thanks for the tip! I'll check that out. Would be great to talk to someone who can answer my specific questions instead of trying to piece everything together myself.
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Rajiv Kumar
DO YOU REALIZE that the SSA has TRILLIONS in unfunded liabilities??? They're going to cut benefits for everyone eventually, so waiting until 70 might mean you get less than promised! Better to get what you can NOW!!!
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Isabella Russo
•The Social Security Trustees Report projects that even without any changes, the program would still be able to pay approximately 76% of scheduled benefits after the trust fund depletion (currently projected for 2033-2034). Any reforms would most likely protect those already near or in retirement. Planning based on fear rather than the current rules and projections isn't typically advisable.
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Liam O'Reilly
One additional planning consideration: When you sell your business, will it be a lump sum or structured payout? If it's a lump sum, that year might have very high income and potentially cause more of your Social Security to be taxable if you're already collecting. Another reason delaying could be beneficial in your situation - you can coordinate the timing of the business sale and Social Security start to minimize overall taxation. Up to 85% of your SS benefits can be subject to income tax depending on your combined income.
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ApolloJackson
•That's an excellent point I hadn't considered. We're looking at a lump sum sale, so delaying SS until after that transaction would definitely help with the tax situation. I appreciate that insight!
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Lucas Adams
As someone new to this community, I'm really impressed by the depth of knowledge shared here! Your strategy sounds very sound given your circumstances. One thing I'd add that I learned from my own research is to also consider the impact of Medicare premiums (IRMAA) when coordinating your business sale with Social Security timing. High income years can increase your Medicare Part B and D premiums for up to two years later. Since you're planning a lump sum business sale, delaying SS until after that transaction could help minimize both income taxes on SS benefits AND avoid higher Medicare premiums down the road. It's yet another piece of the puzzle that reinforces your approach of waiting until 70.
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