I'm currently in the middle of this exact process and this thread has been a lifesaver! After reading everyone's experiences, I called my local SSA office this morning around 10 AM and finally got through to a real person. The representative told me that while their official policy requires certified copies, they do accept clear faxed copies to initiate the application, but they reserve the right to request certified copies later if needed. She gave me her direct extension and said to call her back after faxing to confirm receipt. I'm planning to fax my documents tomorrow and then follow up as suggested. It's reassuring to see that so many people have successfully navigated this process, even with all the inconsistencies. For anyone still struggling to get through to their local office, I found that pressing "0" repeatedly during the automated menu eventually connected me to a live person instead of getting stuck in the phone tree. Fingers crossed my experience goes as smoothly as some of the success stories shared here!

Based on everyone's experiences here, it's clear that SSA policies vary significantly between offices and even between representatives at the same office. I'm planning to apply for spousal benefits myself and this thread has been incredibly helpful in understanding what to expect. It seems like the safest approach is to prepare for both scenarios - have high-quality copies ready to fax if your local office accepts them, but also be prepared to mail certified copies if needed. The consistent advice about calling your local office directly (not the 1-800 number) during mid-morning hours and getting a specific representative's name and extension seems crucial. I'm also going to follow the suggestion about getting any policy confirmations in writing via email to avoid the runaround that several people experienced. Thanks to everyone who shared their real experiences - both the successes and the frustrations. It's unfortunate that something this important has so much variability in how it's handled, but at least now I know what questions to ask and what documentation to prepare!

so confused lol. why would SSA let us do this? seems like theyd have to pay out more money this way

This is such valuable information! I had no idea this option existed for divorced surviving spouses. I'm 58 and my ex-husband passed away two years ago after we were married for 12 years. I've been dreading the thought of claiming early and getting reduced benefits, but it sounds like I could potentially claim survivor benefits at 60 and then switch to my own higher benefit at 70. Does anyone know if there are any earnings restrictions while collecting survivor benefits? I'm still working full-time and won't be ready to fully retire for several more years.

jsut be careful with those casino winnings cause they might make your SS benefits taxable if you win too much. happened to my brother last year and he was shocked when he had to pay taxes on his SS

I just went through this process last month! For 2024 income, I put "estimated" and entered my best guess. The online system accepted it without any issues. One tip: have all your documents ready before you start the online application. The system times out after a while, and you might lose your progress if you have to go hunting for information mid-application. I learned this the hard way!

This is such an important topic to plan ahead for. I went through something similar with my husband a few years ago. One thing I'd add that hasn't been mentioned much is the importance of understanding how survivor benefits work if your wife has her own Social Security record too. Since she's currently working and contributing to Social Security, she'll have her own benefit calculation when she reaches retirement age. The strategy many widows use is called "restrict and switch" - she could potentially claim the survivor benefit first (either at 60 with reduction or later at full amount), then switch to her own retirement benefit at 70 if it would be higher due to delayed retirement credits. Also, regarding that gap period before she turns 60 - I'd strongly recommend looking into increasing any life insurance you have specifically to cover those missing months of income. When my husband passed, I was 57 and that 3-year gap was financially devastating even though we thought we were prepared. The combination of funeral expenses, reduced household income, and having to wait for any Social Security help was overwhelming. One last tip: have her start tracking all of her work earnings and Social Security statements now. When the time comes to apply, having organized records of both your earnings histories will make the process much smoother.

I'm so glad you're thinking ahead about this - it shows how much you care about your wife's financial security. From reading everyone's experiences here, it's clear that the gap period between your passing and when she turns 60 is really the biggest challenge to prepare for. One thing I'd suggest is also looking into whether your wife might qualify for any pension survivor benefits through your work history, if you have any. Sometimes people focus so much on Social Security that they forget about other potential sources of survivor income. Also, since she's still working and building her own Social Security record, you might want to run some calculations to see what her own benefit would be at different claiming ages versus the survivor benefit. The my Social Security website has calculators that can help with this. Sometimes the math works out better to claim her own reduced benefit at 62 and then switch to survivor benefits later, depending on the amounts involved. The document preparation advice everyone's given is spot on. I'd also add that you should make sure she knows where all your important financial accounts are located and has access to them. When grief hits, even simple tasks become overwhelming, so having everything clearly organized and accessible will be a huge help.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Connor. You're asking really smart questions about planning ahead. Just wanted to add one more consideration that might be helpful as you think about your timeline: if you're still working and earning income, there's an earnings test that applies to survivor benefits claimed before your full retirement age. If you claim survivor benefits at 60 but are still working, you might have benefits reduced if you earn over the annual limit (around $22,320 for 2024). This is temporary though - any benefits withheld due to earnings get added back to your benefit amount once you reach full retirement age. This might factor into your decision about when to claim, especially if you plan to keep working. The good news is you have 8 years to plan this out and see how your financial situation evolves. Your kids will be 16 and 19 by then, so your expenses and needs may be quite different.

I'm truly sorry for your loss, Connor. You're being so thoughtful in planning ahead for your family's financial security. I wanted to add something that might help with your long-term planning: since you're 52 now, you have time to potentially maximize your own Social Security benefit by continuing to work. Social Security calculates your benefit based on your highest 35 years of earnings, so if you're currently earning more than you did in some earlier years, those additional work years could replace lower-earning years in your calculation. This is especially relevant given the claiming strategies others mentioned. If you can build up your own benefit significantly over the next 10-15 years, you might be able to claim a reduced survivor benefit at 60, then switch to your own (potentially higher) benefit at your full retirement age of 67. Also, don't forget that both benefits will receive annual cost-of-living adjustments, so even though your husband's benefit won't "grow" in the traditional sense, it will keep pace with inflation. You're asking all the right questions and planning well ahead. Consider meeting with a fee-only financial planner who specializes in Social Security strategies when you get closer to 60 - they can run detailed scenarios to help you optimize your claiming strategy.