Confused about Social Security survivor benefits - mom only getting $535 after dad's death with $3400 benefit
My father passed away 3 months ago at age 85, and I'm trying to help my mom (76) navigate her Social Security benefits. The situation doesn't make sense to me. Before Dad died, he received about $4200/month in Social Security. Mom only gets around $440/month because she didn't work enough quarters for full benefits (she took early retirement at 62). After Dad died, Mom received a letter from SSA saying she'd get the $255 death benefit plus survivor benefits of only $670/month. That's nowhere near Dad's benefit amount! When she called SSA, the representative just said "you're already getting what you're entitled to" without explanation. I've heard from several friends that widows typically get their spouse's full benefit amount if it's higher than their own. Mom's new total is just a tiny increase from what she was getting before. Does SSA gradually increase survivor benefits over time before reaching the higher amount? Or should she have immediately received something closer to Dad's $4200? I feel like something's wrong here but can't get a straight answer from SSA. Any insights from those who've been through this process would be deeply appreciated.
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Anastasia Popov
When I went through this with my mom last year, we discovered she was eligible for close to my father's full benefit amount. It sounds like your mom might be caught in what's called the "Government Pension Offset" (GPO) or "Windmill Exclusion Provision" (WEP) if she ever worked for a government job where she didn't pay into Social Security. Or there might be confusion because she was already receiving spousal benefits while your dad was alive. I highly recommend using Claimyr (claimyr.com) to get through to a real SSA agent who can explain exactly what's happening. I wasted weeks trying to get through on my own, but Claimyr got me connected to an agent in under 20 minutes. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU You need to speak with a tier 2 specialist who can review her exact situation - the frontline reps often don't fully understand these calculations.
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NeonNinja
•Thank you for this suggestion. Mom never worked a government job, just part-time retail for about 15 years, so I don't think it's WEP or GPO. I'm starting to think maybe she was already getting the maximum spousal benefit while Dad was alive? But that doesn't make sense either because she was only getting $440, which is nowhere near half of his $4200. I'll check out Claimyr - at this point I'm desperate to talk to someone who can explain what's happening.
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Sean Murphy
I think I know what's happening here. Your mother was likely already receiving a spousal benefit while your father was alive, not her own retirement benefit. When a spouse has a small benefit on their own record, SSA automatically gives them a "top up" to bring them to 50% of their spouse's benefit (reduced if they claimed early). This is called the spousal benefit. When your father passed away, your mother would switch from getting a spousal benefit (up to 50% of his amount) to a survivor benefit (up to 100% of his amount). BUT - and this is crucial - the survivor benefit is ALSO reduced if she claimed ANY benefits before her Full Retirement Age (FRA). Since she claimed at 62, which is well before her FRA of probably around 66, her survivor benefits are permanently reduced by a significant percentage (potentially 28-30%). So the calculation is likely: 1. Dad's benefit: $4200 2. Reduction for early claiming: ~30% 3. Resulting survivor benefit: ~$2940 But wait - you said she's only getting $670? That still seems way off unless there's another reduction factor. Was your father already receiving reduced benefits because HE claimed early?
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Zara Khan
•this is exactly it ^^^ happens all the time people think they get the full amount but early claiming means permanent reduction and you cant switch back
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Luca Ferrari
I went through EXACT same thing with my husband!!!!!! The SS office told me I was CRAZY when I said I should get more after he passed!!! Turns out they had ME WRONG in their system!!!! They had me down as taking benefits at 62 but I WAITED till 65!!!! Made a HUGE difference when they fixed it. DEMAND to talk to a supervisor and have them review EVERY DETAIL!!!! They make MISTAKES all the time!!!!
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NeonNinja
•Oh wow, that's concerning. I'll definitely ask them to double check her claiming age in their system. Mom did claim at 62, but maybe there's some other error like what happened to you. How long did it take to get it fixed, and did they backpay you the difference?
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Nia Davis
Your mother's situation is actually fairly common, though confusing. Here's what's likely happening: 1. Your mother was already receiving what's called a "deemed spousal benefit" while your father was alive. This means SSA was already giving her both her earned benefit (~$440) plus a supplement to reach the maximum she was entitled to as a spouse. 2. Because she claimed at 62, her maximum potential spousal benefit while your father was alive would have been around 32.5% of his PIA (Primary Insurance Amount) instead of the full 50% she'd get if she claimed at her FRA. 3. Now that your father has passed, she's eligible for survivor benefits, but again, claiming any benefits before her FRA results in a permanent reduction. The exact reduction depends on how many months before FRA she claimed. 4. There's also a limit called the RIB-LIM (Retirement Insurance Benefit Limitation) that can come into play with survivor benefits when someone claimed early retirement. I recommend requesting an appointment with an SSA Claims Specialist specifically. Regular representatives often don't understand these complex situations. Ask them to explain the RIB-LIM calculation if it applies to your mother's case.
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Mateo Martinez
•What the heck is a RIB-LIM? I've never heard of this and my husband died last year. Now I'm worried I'm not getting the right amount either!
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QuantumQueen
My aunt just went thru this mess. If ur mom was getting spousal benefits while ur dad was alive, then she already WAS getting a portion of his benefits. When someone dies, the smaller benefit between the couple goes away completely. Sounds like ur dad's big check died with him and ur mom just continues with her smaller amount plus maybe a bit more. Super unfair but thats how they do it. Social Security is VERY confusing!!!
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Nia Davis
•Actually, that's not quite right. When a spouse dies, the survivor is entitled to the higher of their own benefit or their deceased spouse's full benefit (subject to reductions if claimed early). The smaller benefit doesn't simply continue - there's a specific calculation for survivor benefits. In this case, there appear to be multiple reduction factors at play, including the mother claiming early at 62. This permanently reduces both her retirement benefit and any future survivor benefits she might claim.
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Mateo Martinez
i had similar issue. took 5 calls to finally get someone who knew what they were talking about. turns out my wifes benefit was reduced by my pension from old job where i didnt pay into SS. its called GPO or WEP or something. maybe check if that applies?
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Sean Murphy
•You're referring to either the Government Pension Offset (GPO) or the Windfall Elimination Provision (WEP). These only apply if someone worked in a job not covered by Social Security (typically certain government positions). From what the OP described, their mother worked in retail, which would have been covered employment with Social Security taxes withheld, so GPO/WEP likely doesn't apply in this case.
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NeonNinja
Thank you all for the helpful replies! I'm learning so much. I've scheduled another call with SSA for later this week and I'm going to ask specifically about: 1. The early claiming reduction (mom did claim at 62) 2. Whether the RIB-LIM is affecting her case 3. Verification of all her claiming dates and work history I'll update when I learn more. It's frustrating that something so important to seniors is this complicated!
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Luca Ferrari
•GOOD LUCK!!!! Bring NOTES!!! They will try to RUSH you off the phone!!! Don't let them!!!! Ask to SPEAK TO A SUPERVISOR if they can't explain it CLEARLY!!!
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Anastasia Popov
Just wanted to circle back - did you try Claimyr to get through to SSA? I found their service so helpful when dealing with my mom's benefits. The regular SSA phone line had me on hold for hours, but Claimyr got me through in minutes. Definitely worth checking out at claimyr.com if you're still having trouble getting answers.
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NeonNinja
•I'm going to try it tomorrow! I tried calling SSA directly again today and got disconnected twice after waiting over an hour each time. This is so frustrating when we're just trying to understand Mom's benefits. I'll let you know how it goes with Claimyr.
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Nia Davis
One more important thing to mention: Make sure you're talking to a Claims Specialist who understands the "maximization of survivor benefits" calculations. The $670/month figure still seems unusually low unless there are other factors at play. Be sure to ask them to explain exactly how they calculated her new benefit amount, including any applicable reductions for early claiming. Request a detailed breakdown in writing - this is your right as a beneficiary. Also, if they determine there has been an error, be aware that SSA can typically only pay retroactive benefits for up to 6 months, so it's important to get this resolved quickly if there is indeed a mistake.
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NeonNinja
•That's really helpful advice about requesting the calculation in writing. I'll definitely do that. And I didn't know about the 6-month limit on retroactive payments - that creates some urgency to get this figured out. Thank you!
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StarStrider
I'm so sorry for your loss and the stress this is adding during an already difficult time. As someone who recently helped my elderly neighbor navigate a similar situation, I wanted to share a few things that might help. First, the $670 amount does seem surprisingly low given your father's $4200 benefit. Even with early claiming reductions, your mom should typically receive a higher survivor benefit than what she's getting now. One thing to double-check: Was your father receiving his full benefit amount, or was his $4200 already reduced because he claimed early too? This would affect the base amount used for calculating your mom's survivor benefits. Also, I'd recommend asking SSA to provide you with a copy of your mom's complete earnings record and benefit calculation worksheet. Sometimes there are errors in their system regarding work history or claiming dates that can significantly impact benefit amounts. The fact that multiple representatives have given you the runaround without a clear explanation is unfortunately common, but don't give up. You have the right to understand exactly how they calculated her benefits. If needed, consider filing an appeal or requesting a formal review of her case. Keep detailed notes of every conversation, including names and reference numbers. This documentation can be crucial if you need to escalate the issue. Your persistence could make a real difference in your mom's financial security.
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Sean Doyle
•Thank you so much for this compassionate and detailed response. You're absolutely right that this is adding stress during an already difficult time, and I really appreciate the practical advice. I hadn't considered that Dad's $4200 might have already been reduced from early claiming - that's a great point I need to verify. He started collecting at 65, but I'm not sure if that was considered "early" for his birth year. The suggestion about getting Mom's complete earnings record and calculation worksheet is excellent. I've been trying to piece together information from different phone calls, but having everything in writing would be so much clearer. I'm definitely going to start keeping detailed notes going forward. I wish I had started doing that from the beginning, but better late than never. The idea of filing a formal review if needed gives me hope that there are still options if we keep hitting roadblocks. Your neighbor is lucky to have someone like you advocating for them. It really does take persistence to navigate this system, doesn't it?
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Jeremiah Brown
I'm really sorry for your loss and the confusion you're dealing with during such a difficult time. As someone who works in benefits administration, I wanted to add a few technical points that might help explain what's happening. The key issue here is likely the interaction between early claiming penalties and the specific type of benefits your mom was receiving before your dad passed. If she was already getting a "deemed spousal benefit" (which combines her own small earned benefit with a spousal supplement), the transition to survivor benefits isn't as straightforward as many people expect. Here's what I'd specifically ask SSA to clarify: 1. What was your mom's Primary Insurance Amount (PIA) before any reductions? 2. What percentage reduction is being applied due to her claiming at 62? 3. Was she receiving spousal benefits or just her own earned benefit while your dad was alive? One often-overlooked factor is that if your mom was already receiving the maximum possible spousal benefit while your dad was alive, and that amount was close to what she's getting now as a survivor, it might actually be correct - just not what you'd intuitively expect. Also, definitely request form SSA-1099 for both your parents for the past few years. This will show exactly what benefits were being paid to whom, which can help clarify the situation. Don't give up - you're doing the right thing by advocating for your mom!
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QuantumQuest
•This is incredibly helpful, thank you! As someone new to navigating Social Security benefits, I really appreciate the technical breakdown. The concept of a "deemed spousal benefit" is something I hadn't heard explained so clearly before. Your point about the SSA-1099 forms is brilliant - I never thought to look at the historical payment records to understand what benefits were actually being paid to each parent. That could really help clarify whether mom was getting spousal benefits or just her own earned amount. The questions you've outlined are exactly what I needed. I've been going into these SSA calls without knowing the right terminology to use, which probably hasn't helped my case. Now I feel much better prepared to have a productive conversation with them. One quick follow-up question: when you mention the "maximum possible spousal benefit" - is there a cap on how much someone can receive as a spousal benefit even if their spouse had a very high earning record? I'm wondering if that could explain the gap between dad's $4200 and mom's current amount.
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