Can I get survivor benefits from second husband after short marriage while keeping SSDI? Remarriage questions!

You have a few options here. First, yes, you potentially qualify for survivor benefits from your second husband despite the short marriage because you're over 60 and disabled. The 10-year marriage rule applies to divorced spouse benefits, but for widow(er) benefits, you only need to have been married 9 months (with some exceptions). However, since your marriage ended in divorce, this gets complicated. The fact that he died just one week after the divorce could matter - SSA might consider special circumstances. As for your first marriage, those potential divorced spouse benefits remain an option (since it was over 10 years), but you can only receive one benefit - whichever is higher. If you remarry now (after 60), you can still collect widow's benefits from either ex-spouse. But definitely talk to SSA directly about your specific situation - this is pretty complex.

im in a kinda similar spot and was told by ssa that if ur divorced when they die u DONT qualify for survivor benefits no matter how long the marraige was. but maybe check with them directly bc ur disability might change things. good luck!

The previous replies are confusing things a bit. Since you were DIVORCED when your second husband died, you would NOT qualify for widow's benefits from him, regardless of how soon after the divorce he passed away. The 9-month marriage duration rule only applies if you were still married at the time of death. For your first husband, you could potentially claim divorced spouse benefits when you reach FRA since that marriage lasted over 10 years, but ONLY if those benefits would be higher than your current SSDI. If you remarry now, you would still keep your SSDI (disability isn't affected by marriage), but you would lose potential divorced spouse benefits from your first marriage until/unless that new marriage ends.

my cousin went thru something like this and there ARE exceptions!! if the divorce was because of abuse or some other special circumstances the SSA might still consider you eligible!! worth asking them directly!!

I went through HELL trying to sort out a similar situation with SSA last year. Called literally 30+ times over 2 months, constant disconnections, agents giving me different answers each time. My advice? Use Claimyr.com to get through to SSA quickly. They helped me skip the wait and get a real person on the line who actually knew the rules. Their video shows how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU For your specific situation: being divorced at time of death usually means no survivor benefits from that person (some rare exceptions exist). Your SSDI continues regardless of marital status, and you can potentially claim on your first ex-spouse's record at retirement age. But seriously - get a concrete answer from SSA directly since your case has unusual timing aspects.

My understanding is once your divorced nobody gets nothing after their ex spouse dies!!!!! Thats why people stay married even when miserable cause at least they get benefits when spouse dies. Wish I had better news but SSA doesnt care about us!!

Let me clarify the rules that apply in your specific situation: 1) Survivor benefits from 2nd husband: Unfortunately, since you were legally divorced when he passed away, you don't qualify for survivor benefits from him regardless of how shortly after the divorce he died. The law is very specific that you must be married at the time of death (or meet very rare exceptions). 2) Benefits from 1st husband: Since your first marriage lasted over 10 years, you qualify for divorced spouse benefits when you reach full retirement age (FRA). However, you would only switch to these if they're higher than your SSDI. 3) Remarriage: If you remarry now, your SSDI benefits continue unchanged, but you would lose potential divorced spouse benefits from your first husband. After age 60, remarriage doesn't affect survivor benefits, but since you don't qualify for those in this case, it's not relevant. My recommendation: Schedule an appointment with SSA to review your projected benefit amounts. This will help you understand whether your SSDI is higher or lower than potential divorced spouse benefits from your first husband, which impacts whether remarriage would affect your financial situation.

wait i just remembered something important - if ur getting SSDI now, when u hit full retirement age it automatically converts to regular retirement benefits at the same amount. so u need to check if ur ex-husbands benefit would give u more than ur current SSDI payment!

I think everyone's missing an important point here. At 60, you're already eligible to claim REDUCED survivor benefits if you qualified for them (which you don't in this case because of the divorce). But when you reach 62, you become eligible for reduced divorced spouse benefits from your first husband while continuing to receive your SSDI. That's because the rule changed a few years ago - you can now receive both SSDI and reduced divorced spouse benefits at the same time if you're at least 62 but below FRA. This is called the 'deemed filing rule exception' for disabled beneficiaries.

Just to address your last question: If you decide to remarry now, you will definitely continue receiving your SSDI benefits (these are based on your own work record and are not affected by marriage). However, you would give up the potential to claim divorced spouse benefits from your first husband until/unless your new marriage ends. Since you're already 60, if you wait until 62, you could compare your SSDI amount with potential divorced spouse benefits and choose the higher option - but ONLY if you remain unmarried. This is why getting those specific benefit amounts from SSA is so important to your decision-making process.