As someone who works in benefits administration, I wanted to add a few practical tips for your AFLAC claim process. Make sure you get all your medical documentation ready BEFORE you submit - doctor's notes stating you're unable to work, surgery date confirmation, and expected recovery timeline. AFLAC typically requires a "elimination period" (waiting period) before benefits start, usually 0-14 days depending on your policy. Also, if you have both accident and disability coverage through AFLAC, the accident policy might pay a lump sum for the surgery itself while the disability policy covers your lost wages during recovery. Don't assume one policy covers everything - read both carefully or call them to clarify which benefits apply to your situation.

I went through something similar with my shoulder surgery a couple years ago. One thing that really helped me was creating a detailed budget beforehand to see exactly how much income I'd need during recovery versus what AFLAC would actually pay out. Most AFLAC short-term disability policies only pay around 60-70% of your wages, and there's usually a weekly maximum benefit cap. Since you're working part-time at 20 hours/week, your AFLAC benefit might be lower than you expect. I'd also suggest asking your surgeon's office if they have a patient financial counselor - they often know about programs or payment plans that can help bridge any income gaps during your recovery period. The good news is that knee replacements really do have great outcomes these days, and most people are glad they did it once they're healed up!

I went through this process last year and want to echo what others have said - definitely apply online and start early! I applied exactly 4 months before my intended start date and it worked out perfectly. The online application saved me so much time compared to my friends who went in person. One thing I didn't see mentioned yet: make sure you have your most recent tax return handy when you apply. They asked me about my previous year's earnings during the application process. Also, create your my Social Security account online beforehand if you haven't already - it makes the application process smoother and you can track the status afterward. Good luck with your retirement!

As someone who just went through this process 6 months ago, I can't stress enough how important it is to apply early! I applied exactly 3 months before my target date (which is what SSA officially recommends) and everything went smoothly. The online application was surprisingly user-friendly - took me about 45 minutes total, including gathering my documents. One tip that really helped me: before starting the application, I called SSA to verify my earnings record was accurate. There was actually a small discrepancy from 2019 that they were able to fix quickly, which could have delayed my application if I'd discovered it later. Also, don't forget that your first payment won't arrive until the month AFTER your benefits begin - so January benefits come in February. This caught me off guard with my budgeting! Overall, the 3-month timeline worked perfectly for me, but if you're anxious about it, 4 months gives you extra cushion.

Based on all the information shared so far, here's what I would recommend: 1. Contact SSA to get a precise calculation of your benefit amounts. Ask specifically about what your benefit would be without the ex-spouse portion, and whether you would qualify for any additional spousal benefits once your new husband files. 2. If the numbers confirm you'll permanently lose that $450/month with no way to recover it through spousal benefits on your new husband's record, you have a financial decision to make. 3. Options to consider: - Postpone marriage until your fiancé claims benefits (though based on the calculations, this may not help) - Proceed with marriage but understand the permanent financial impact - Explore whether other financial benefits of marriage might offset the SS reduction This is ultimately a personal decision balancing financial and emotional factors. Some couples in your situation choose alternative arrangements like a commitment ceremony without legal marriage to preserve benefits.

I'm a benefits counselor and want to add one more consideration that hasn't been fully addressed: survivor benefits. When you remarry, you're not just thinking about current spousal benefits - you're also potentially gaining access to survivor benefits from your new husband's record if he passes away first. Given that his benefit at age 70 will be $3,200/month, if you outlive him, you could potentially receive 100% of that amount as a survivor benefit (minus any reduction for your own benefit). This could be significantly more valuable long-term than the $450/month you're losing from your ex-spouse benefit. The survivor benefit calculation is different from spousal benefits - it's based on what he was actually receiving (including delayed retirement credits), not just his PIA. So while you might not gain anything from spousal benefits due to your own benefit amount, the survivor benefit could be substantial. This doesn't change the immediate financial impact, but it's an important factor in your overall financial planning as a couple. You might want to factor this into your decision-making process.

Going back to your original questions: 1) If you stop working now, your SS benefit will be based on your highest 35 years of earnings. With 33 years of work history, you'd add 2 years of zeros to your calculation. This will lower your benefit some, but probably not drastically. 2) You can create a my Social Security account and use the retirement calculator to see exactly how different scenarios would affect your benefit amount. 3) When you file for benefits, you'll automatically receive either your own retirement benefit OR the spousal benefit (up to 50% of your husband's PIA), whichever is higher. 4) If your husband passes away, you'd be eligible for survivor benefits equal to 100% of his benefit amount (including any delayed retirement credits if he waited past FRA to claim). You absolutely can receive benefits based on your own record if that amount is higher than the spousal benefit. Your work history counts!

I'm in a similar situation and wanted to share what I learned from meeting with a local SSA office representative (after multiple failed phone attempts!). One thing that might help with your decision: if you do decide to work part-time, even earning just $10,000-15,000 per year would be much better than complete zeros in your earnings record. Every little bit helps when they're calculating your benefit based on those highest 35 years. Also, I discovered that the SSA website has a really helpful publication called "When To Start Receiving Retirement Benefits" (Publication No. 05-10147) that walks through scenarios similar to yours. It includes examples of how spousal benefits work and calculations for different claiming strategies. The key takeaway that gave me peace of mind: having your own work record gives you options and protection. Even if the spousal benefit ends up being higher, your own earnings record serves as a safety net and ensures you have retirement benefits in your own right. Good luck with whatever you decide - sounds like you've gotten some great advice here!

Wait I'm confused. If he's still working at 78 doesn't that mean he delayed taking SS past his full retirement age? If so wouldn't he be getting more than if he took it at regular retirement age? And does THAT affect what you'd get as a survivor?

This thread has been incredibly helpful! I want to add one more important point for anyone reading - make sure to keep good records of all your Social Security correspondence and benefit statements. When dealing with survivor benefits, having documentation of both spouses' earnings histories and benefit amounts can make the process much smoother. Also, if you're uncomfortable navigating this alone, many senior centers offer free assistance with Social Security matters, and some have volunteers who are trained to help with these applications. The peace of mind knowing you understand your benefits is worth the effort to get informed now rather than trying to figure it out during an already difficult time.