As a newcomer to this community, I wanted to add my support to what everyone else has been saying - the SSA representative definitely gave you incorrect information about your CIC benefits stopping at 16 for your disabled daughter. I recently went through this exact situation with my nephew who has intellectual disabilities. The first three representatives I spoke with all gave me different (and wrong) answers. It wasn't until I got connected with someone in the disability determination unit that I learned about the exception for disabled children. One thing that really helped me was preparing a simple one-page summary before calling that included: my nephew's name and SSN, the fact that he's receiving survivors benefits, his documented disability, and specifically that I was calling to "request a childhood disability determination for continued CIC benefits beyond age 16." Having this written down helped me stay focused during the call and made sure I didn't forget to mention any key details. Also, if you encounter resistance, don't hesitate to mention that you're aware this is covered under CFR 404.350(a)(5) and that you'd like them to document in your file that you're requesting this determination. Sometimes mentioning specific regulations helps demonstrate that you've done your homework and aren't going to accept incorrect information. Keep advocating for your daughter - the law is absolutely on your side here, and you shouldn't have to worry about losing benefits you're legally entitled to receive. This community is proof that with persistence and the right information, these situations can be resolved successfully!

As a newcomer to this community, I wanted to reach out and offer my support after reading about your situation. What the SSA representative told you is absolutely incorrect, and I'm so glad you trusted your instincts to question it! I went through almost the identical situation with my disabled son who has Down syndrome. When he was approaching 16, I got the same wrong information from SSA about losing my CIC benefits. It took three different phone calls and finally getting transferred to a disability specialist before I found someone who actually knew the rules for disabled children. The key thing that worked for me was being very specific about what I was requesting right from the start of the call. I said: "I need to request a formal childhood disability determination to maintain my Child-in-Care survivors benefits for my disabled son who is turning 16." This seemed to trigger the right response and got me to the right department much faster. One practical tip: when you call tomorrow, have your daughter's Social Security number, your case number if you have it, and a brief summary of her specific disability ready. They'll need to access her file and review the medical information they already have on record. Don't let them rush you off the phone or give you vague answers. If someone tells you the benefits will stop, ask them to cite the specific policy manual section they're referencing. Most of the time, they can't, which is your cue to ask for a supervisor or specialist. You're doing everything right by advocating for your family. The system is confusing and even their own employees often don't understand these less common situations. But you have the law on your side, and with persistence, this will get resolved in your favor. Keep us updated on how it goes!

As a newcomer to this community, I want to add my voice to thank everyone for this incredibly thorough and educational discussion! I'm currently helping my elderly aunt navigate some Social Security questions, and reading through this entire thread has been like taking a masterclass in retirement benefit planning. What really impresses me is how this conversation demonstrates the critical importance of getting personalized advice from SSA directly rather than relying on general information. The Claimyr recommendation seems like it could save people so much frustration - I'm definitely sharing that resource with my aunt and bookmarking it for my own future needs. I'm also struck by how these remarriage rules create such heart-wrenching dilemmas for seniors. The fact that people have to choose between love and financial security after already contributing to the system for decades feels fundamentally unfair. While the individual strategies shared here (comprehensive financial planning, early SSA consultations, considering all interconnected factors) are incredibly helpful, it also seems like these policies themselves might benefit from legislative reform. For the original poster - I truly hope you were able to find a path forward that honors both your financial needs and your desire for companionship. This community's willingness to share knowledge and support each other through these complex decisions is really remarkable. Thank you to everyone who contributed their experiences and expertise!

As a newcomer to this community, I'm incredibly grateful for this comprehensive and supportive discussion! Reading through everyone's experiences has been so educational about the complexities of Social Security remarriage rules. What really stands out to me is how this thread has become a valuable resource not just for the original poster, but for anyone facing similar decisions. The practical advice shared here is outstanding - especially the Claimyr recommendation for reaching SSA representatives quickly, and the emphasis on getting exact benefit calculations rather than making assumptions. I'm bookmarking these resources for future reference! What strikes me most is how these policies force people into impossible choices between financial security and personal happiness. It seems particularly unfair that seniors who've contributed to the system for decades have to weigh love against their economic survival. While the individual strategies discussed here are incredibly helpful (comprehensive financial planning, early SSA consultations, considering Medicare and tax implications), it also highlights how these remarriage penalty rules might benefit from policy reform. To the original poster - I hope your SSA consultation and financial discussions with your fiancé helped you find a solution that works for your unique situation. Whatever path you choose, you're making it with excellent information thanks to this community's support. Thank you to everyone who shared their knowledge and experiences - this is exactly the kind of mutual aid that makes navigating complex systems more manageable!

As someone who's also new to Social Security and still learning about all these regulations, this discussion has been absolutely enlightening! I had similar concerns about whether various financial transactions might impact my benefits, and I'm so grateful for all the detailed explanations everyone has provided. What really stands out to me is how specific the earnings test is - I had no idea it only applied to wages and self-employment income, not capital gains from home sales. As a newcomer to this system, I was worried that ANY incoming money might somehow affect my benefits, so learning about these important distinctions has been incredibly valuable. I especially appreciate everyone mentioning SSA Publication No. 05-10069 - having that official reference gives me confidence that I can always verify these rules directly with SSA if questions arise. It's also reassuring to see confirmation from so many different perspectives, including real estate professionals and people with family connections to SSA. This community has made navigating these complex benefit rules so much less overwhelming for those of us who are new to the system. Thank you all for creating such a supportive environment where we can learn about these important financial decisions without fear of making costly mistakes!

As someone who's also new to understanding Social Security benefits, I want to thank everyone for such a comprehensive and reassuring discussion! I was initially very concerned about how different types of financial transactions might impact my benefits, especially since the rules can seem so complex when you're first learning about them. The clear distinction everyone has made between wages/self-employment income (which count toward the earnings test) versus capital gains from selling your primary residence (which don't count) has been incredibly helpful. It's reassuring to see such consistent information from people with various backgrounds - from those with personal experience to real estate professionals to someone with a family member working at SSA. I particularly appreciate the mention of SSA Publication No. 05-10069 - having that official reference gives me confidence that I can verify these rules directly if needed. It's also comforting to know that major life decisions like selling your home to move closer to family won't negatively impact your Social Security benefits. This community has been invaluable for helping newcomers like me navigate these benefit systems with confidence. Thank you all for being so generous with your knowledge and creating such a supportive environment where we can learn about these important rules without fear of making costly mistakes!

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ethan. This is an incredibly difficult situation to navigate while grieving, and I admire how thoughtfully you're approaching these complex decisions. One additional consideration I haven't seen mentioned yet: make sure to ask about your eligibility for any lump-sum death benefit ($255) when you visit SSA. While it's not much, every bit helps during this transition period. Also, since you mentioned your husband was on SSDI from age 52-65, there might be Medicare implications to discuss as well. If he was receiving Medicare due to his disability, you'll want to understand how your survivor benefits might affect your own future Medicare eligibility and timing. When you visit your local SSA office, I'd recommend bringing: - Your husband's death certificate - Your marriage certificate - Your most recent tax return and W-2s - Your husband's Social Security card and any benefit statements - Your own Social Security card and birth certificate - Pay stubs from the last few months to show your variable income pattern The seasonal nature of retail work actually gives you a good case for requesting that monthly earnings test during your first year. Document those income fluctuations clearly so they understand why the monthly calculation would be more appropriate for your situation. You're being incredibly thorough in your research, and that preparation will serve you well. Wishing you clarity and peace as you work through these important decisions.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ethan. Having been through a similar situation with survivor benefits while working, I wanted to share a few additional insights that might help. One thing I learned the hard way is that SSA's definition of "monthly earnings" can be tricky with retail work. They look at when you actually receive the pay, not when you earn it. So if you work extra hours at the end of one month but get paid in the following month, that affects which month they count the earnings toward. This can be especially important when you're trying to stay under that $1,860 monthly limit. Also, regarding the survivor benefit calculation - since your husband's SSDI converted to retirement benefits at his FRA, any cost-of-living adjustments (COLAs) he received during those retirement years would be included in your survivor benefit calculation. Make sure to ask SSA for his complete benefit history so you can see the exact amount. One more tip: when you visit the SSA office, ask them to print out a detailed breakdown of how they calculated your survivor benefit amount. Sometimes there are errors in their records, and having that documentation helps you verify everything is correct. I caught a mistake in my case that would have cost me $200/month. The fact that you're doing so much research beforehand shows you're approaching this thoughtfully. That preparation will definitely pay off in getting the answers you need. Best of luck with your appointment!

I'm new to this community and wanted to first express my heartfelt condolences on your father's passing. I recently joined after my own family started navigating Social Security issues, and I've been incredibly impressed by the depth of knowledge and support shared in this thread. While I don't have personal experience with DAC benefits yet, I wanted to add something I learned when helping my neighbor with her SSA case last year. She found it really helpful to bring a small digital recorder (with permission from the SSA staff) to record important parts of the conversation, especially when they were explaining benefit calculations or timelines. This way she could review everything later without worrying about missing crucial details during what can be a stressful appointment. Also, if you're concerned about getting through on the SSA phone lines to schedule an appointment, many local offices allow you to schedule appointments online through your my Social Security account at ssa.gov. This can sometimes be faster than trying to call during peak hours. Reading through everyone's experiences here has been so educational - from the specific forms to request to the importance of asking for survivor benefit specialists. Your brother clearly has a strong case for increased benefits, and with all the excellent preparation advice shared here, you're in great shape to advocate effectively for him. Wishing you both the best of luck with this process!

I'm new to this community and wanted to first offer my sincere condolences on your father's passing. I recently joined after my own family started dealing with Social Security issues, and I've been following this entire thread with great interest and appreciation for how supportive everyone has been. While I don't have personal experience with DAC benefits myself, I wanted to share something that might be helpful based on what I learned when assisting my elderly parents with their Social Security matters. Consider bringing a trusted friend or family member who can serve as a witness to the appointment - not just for emotional support, but someone who can also verify later what was promised or discussed if there are any discrepancies in how your case is handled. Also, I'd suggest taking a photo of any paperwork they give you before you leave the office, just as a backup in case anything gets lost in the mail or during processing. Given how many people have mentioned lost paperwork being an issue with SSA, having that extra layer of documentation protection seems wise. The collective wisdom shared here about DAC benefits, specific forms to request, timing considerations, and advocacy strategies has been absolutely invaluable. It's clear your brother has an excellent chance for increased benefits, and with all the thorough preparation advice everyone has provided, you're well-equipped to navigate this successfully. Best of luck, and I hope you'll update us on how everything goes!