Is my girlfriend filing her taxes incorrectly? Nurse making $78K getting tiny refund - need expert opinions!
So my girlfriend and I have been arguing about her tax situation and I'm hoping someone can settle this once and for all. She's a registered nurse who's actually the director of nursing at her facility. On paper she makes around $105,000 per year before taxes. She has no debt collections or anything like that impacting her finances. She also picked up some part-time work this year for about 6 weeks and made roughly $3,200 before taxes from that gig. Here's the issue: when she filed her taxes this year, she only got back $33 as a refund. She claims this is normal for her - that she never gets much back. I keep telling her something must be wrong with how she's filing because that seems way too low for someone in her income bracket and position. I'm convinced she's missing some deductions or credits she should be claiming. Can anyone with tax knowledge please weigh in here? Is it more likely that she's filing incorrectly or is it actually normal for someone in her situation to get such a tiny refund? Thanks for any insight you can provide!
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Oliver Schulz
Getting a small refund isn't necessarily a sign of filing incorrectly - it could actually be a sign of proper tax withholding throughout the year. The goal of tax withholding isn't to get a big refund but rather to match your tax liability as closely as possible. If your girlfriend's W-4 is filled out accurately, her employer should be withholding close to the correct amount from each paycheck. This means when tax time comes, she's already paid most of what she owes, resulting in a small refund or small payment due. A large refund actually means you've been giving the government an interest-free loan all year. For a nursing director making $105K plus additional income, her tax situation might be pretty straightforward if she doesn't have many deductions beyond the standard deduction. Without dependents, mortgage interest, substantial charitable giving, or other major deductions, there might not be much opportunity to reduce her tax liability.
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Amina Diallo
•But I always get back like $2,500 and I only make about $45,000. How is it possible that someone making more than double what I make gets back so much less? Doesn't that seem fishy?? Also, do you think she should be talking to a tax professional instead of just using TurboTax or whatever? Would they find deductions she's missing?
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Oliver Schulz
•The amount you get back is primarily determined by how much was withheld from your paychecks compared to what you actually owe, not by how much you earn. You're getting $2,500 back because you're having too much withheld from each paycheck throughout the year. Your girlfriend is having almost exactly the right amount withheld, which is actually ideal from a financial perspective. A tax professional might find additional deductions if her situation is complex, but if she has a straightforward tax situation with standard deduction and no significant investments, property, education expenses, or business expenses, there may not be much a professional can do that tax software can't. However, a consultation couldn't hurt if you're concerned - they might identify adjustments to her W-4 that better align with her preferences.
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Natasha Kuznetsova
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AstroAdventurer
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Natasha Kuznetsova
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Javier Mendoza
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Isabella Santos
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Ravi Gupta
Can I just add something that no one's mentioned? Your girlfriend is a Director of Nursing - she's in a professional position with presumably good benefits. Many employers like hospitals offer benefits that can impact tax withholding. Is she contributing to a 401k, HSA, or healthcare FSA? These all reduce taxable income. Is she paying for benefits pre-tax? Does her employer offer any tuition reimbursement or loan assistance that affects her taxes? Small refunds aren't bad - they mean you've calculated your withholding correctly. But if you both want to look at her full tax situation, check her benefits package and W-4 first before assuming something's wrong.
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GalacticGuru
•This is such a good point! When I became a nurse manager, my hospital offered an HSA that immediately reduced my taxable income by $3,600/year. My tax return amount dropped dramatically but my actual tax burden was lower! People forget that refund size ≠ tax optimization.
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Ravi Gupta
•Exactly! Healthcare employers often have excellent benefits that can significantly impact taxes. The HSA alone can reduce taxable income by up to $3,850 for individuals or $7,750 for families in 2023, plus most hospitals offer strong retirement matching which further reduces taxable income. The key thing to understand is that getting a refund isn't "winning" at taxes - it means you overpaid. If your girlfriend has properly calculated her withholding to match her actual tax obligation, she's actually handling her finances more efficiently than someone getting a large refund.
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Freya Pedersen
Just throwing in my 2 cents as a CPA - a $33 refund is actually IDEAL. It means she's not loaning money to the government all year like you are with your $2,500 refund. If she has a straightforward tax situation (W-2 income, standard deduction), and she filled out her W-4 correctly, there's nothing wrong with a small refund. She's maximizing her take-home pay throughout the year instead of waiting for a lump sum. If you want to "check" if she's doing it right, look at line 24 of her Form 1040 - that's her total tax. Then compare it to typical tax brackets for her income level. If they align, she's doing fine.
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Amina Diallo
•Thanks for explaining! I never really thought about it that way. So you're saying she's actually being smarter with her money by getting it throughout the year instead of waiting for a refund? That makes sense when you put it that way. Stupid question maybe, but could we both be doing things "right" but just differently? Like if I prefer getting a lump sum and she prefers maximizing her paychecks, are both approaches valid?
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Freya Pedersen
•You've got it exactly right! You're both doing things "correctly" but with different preferences. Some people prefer larger paychecks throughout the year (like your girlfriend), while others prefer a forced savings mechanism that results in a larger refund (like you). Neither approach is wrong - it's just personal preference. If you like getting that lump sum refund, that's perfectly fine as long as you recognize it means you're taking home less in each paycheck during the year. The only "wrong" way would be if someone unexpectedly owes a large amount they can't pay, or if they're getting refunds so large they're struggling financially during the year.
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CosmicVoyager
As someone who's been through this exact situation with my partner, I totally get the confusion! But honestly, your girlfriend is probably doing everything right. A $33 refund means she's nailed her withholding - she's not giving the government an interest-free loan like most people do. I used to think bigger refunds meant you were "winning" at taxes until I learned that it actually means you're losing out on having that money in your pocket all year long. Your girlfriend, making $105K as a nursing director, likely has her W-4 set up perfectly to match her actual tax liability. The real question isn't whether she's filing wrong - it's whether you want to adjust YOUR withholding to keep more money throughout the year instead of waiting for that $2,500 refund. You could be earning interest on that money or using it for expenses rather than letting the IRS hold onto it! If you're still concerned, maybe suggest she run her numbers through a withholding calculator on the IRS website just for peace of mind, but I'd bet money she's doing it exactly right.
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