Don't fear calling the IRS if you're behind on taxes - they're willing to work with you
I've been sitting on a massive tax debt after my restaurant franchise went under during 2022. Everything spiraled out of control when our locations had to close for months, and I made some truly awful financial decisions trying to keep things afloat. Eventually I had a complete breakdown and spent two months in treatment for depression and anxiety. For almost a year, I've been avoiding IRS notices and letting them pile up unopened. Everyone kept telling me horror stories about wage garnishment and property seizures. The anxiety was eating me alive. Finally last week, I gathered my courage and called the IRS directly. I was prepared for the worst - some heartless bureaucrat who would threaten immediate collection. I waited on hold for about 90 minutes, and when someone finally answered, I was shocked. The agent was incredibly understanding and patient. I explained my situation honestly - the business failure, mental health issues, and my current efforts to get back on track. Instead of threats, she walked me through my options and approved a 6-month extension before any collection actions would start. This gives me time to finish filing my back taxes properly, potentially sell my vacation property, and set up a reasonable payment plan. Having this breathing room has been life-changing for my stress levels. When I sell the property, I plan to work with a tax resolution specialist to see if I can get some penalties reduced and pay off a significant portion in one lump sum. Bottom line: don't be terrified of the IRS. Even their payment plans are surprisingly reasonable compared to credit card companies or payday lenders. My tax debt is approaching $130,000, and I'm still finding workable solutions. I'm embarrassed about the choices that led me here, but I'm grateful for the chance to take responsibility and move forward. Looks like I'll be moving in with my brother's family to save money at age 45, but at least I have a path forward now.
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Omar Hassan
As a tax resolution consultant, I can confirm this is absolutely true. The IRS has several programs designed specifically for taxpayers in financial hardship. Most people don't realize the IRS would rather work with you than against you - collection activities cost them money and resources. The key is to be proactive rather than reactive. When you reach out first (before they have to track you down), they're much more likely to be accommodating. Some options to consider: An Installment Agreement can spread payments over 72 months in many cases. For larger debts, they may accept partial payment plans based on what you can reasonably afford after necessary living expenses. If your financial situation is truly dire, you might qualify for Currently Not Collectible (CNC) status, which temporarily pauses collection while you get back on your feet. For substantial tax debts, an Offer in Compromise might be possible, allowing you to settle for less than the full amount owed. These aren't easy to get approved, but with proper documentation of financial hardship, they're absolutely possible. The worst thing you can do is nothing. The IRS has a 10-year statute of limitations on collecting most tax debts, but that clock only starts when you've filed. Unfiled returns can haunt you indefinitely.
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Chloe Taylor
•This is really helpful. Do you know if they consider medical hardship situations? My wife was diagnosed with cancer last year and our medical bills are insane, plus I had to reduce my work hours to care for her. We owe about $22,000 from 2023 and I'm terrified of what happens next. Also, do they typically require financial documentation for hardship claims?
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Omar Hassan
•Medical hardships are absolutely considered by the IRS, especially for serious conditions like cancer. The IRS has what they call "allowable living expenses" that include necessary medical care. With proper documentation, they can be quite accommodating in these situations. I've had clients with cancer treatment costs who qualified for Currently Not Collectible status until their medical situation stabilized. Yes, they will require financial documentation for hardship claims. This typically includes recent pay stubs, bank statements, medical bills, rent/mortgage statements, and utility bills. They use these to determine your actual ability to pay. Be prepared to submit Form 433-A or 433-F, which is a collection information statement detailing your financial situation.
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ShadowHunter
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Diego Ramirez
•Did it actually help with reducing the amount owed at all? I'm sitting on about $55k from 2022-2023 and wondering if there's any way to get that number down. I heard offers in compromise are nearly impossible to get approved.
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Anastasia Sokolov
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ShadowHunter
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Anastasia Sokolov
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Sean O'Connor
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Zara Ahmed
•How does this actually work? Is it just autodialing or something? Seems weird that a third party could somehow get you through faster than calling directly.
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Luca Conti
•This sounds like total BS. If it was possible to "skip the line" with the IRS, everyone would be doing it. I'm calling scam on this one. They probably just take your money and you still end up waiting forever or never getting through.
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Sean O'Connor
•It's not autodialing - it's a system that navigates through the IRS phone menu options for you and holds your place in the queue. When their system detects that an actual human IRS agent has answered, it immediately calls you and connects you to that agent. You don't talk to Claimyr at all - they're just the technology that holds your place in line until an actual IRS person answers. It doesn't skip the line or get you through faster than the actual wait time - you're still in the same queue as everyone else. The difference is that YOU don't have to sit there with a phone to your ear for hours. Their system does the waiting, and you only get called when there's an actual agent ready to talk. And regarding the skepticism, I felt the same way but was desperate enough to try. I wouldn't have come back to recommend it if it hadn't actually worked for me.
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Luca Conti
I need to publicly eat my words about Claimyr. After posting that skeptical comment last week, my tax situation became urgent when I received a Notice of Intent to Levy. In desperation, I tried the service despite my doubts. Shockingly, it actually worked exactly as advertised. Their system held my place in the queue, and I got a call back when an IRS agent was on the line. Total wait was still about 70 minutes, but I didn't have to sit there listening to that awful hold music the entire time. The IRS agent I spoke with was able to put a 45-day hold on collections while I submitted financial information for a payment plan. This literally saved me from having my accounts frozen. Sorry for the harsh skepticism - sometimes desperate situations require desperate measures, and in this case, it paid off. If you're struggling to reach the IRS by phone, this is legitimately helpful.
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Nia Johnson
Just wanted to add another perspective - I've been on a payment plan with the IRS for about 2 years now for a $47,000 debt from my failed construction business. The monthly payment is just $450, which is way less than I'd pay for a similar loan from a bank. The key is to be absolutely transparent about your financial situation. Don't try to hide assets or income - they have ways of finding that stuff anyway. When you're honest about what you can afford, they're usually pretty reasonable. Also, don't forget about requesting penalty abatement! If you have a clean history of compliance before your tax issues, you might qualify for First-Time Penalty Abatement, which can significantly reduce your overall debt. In my case, it knocked almost $8,000 off the total.
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CyberNinja
•Did you use a tax professional to help set up your payment plan or did you negotiate it yourself? I'm in a similar situation ($56k debt) but worried about saying the wrong thing if I try to handle it myself.
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Nia Johnson
•I initially tried to set it up myself, but I made some mistakes on the financial forms that got my first proposal rejected. After that frustration, I hired a tax resolution specialist who helped me properly document my financial situation and negotiate terms that worked for my actual circumstances. It cost about $1,800 for their services, but they saved me way more than that by properly structuring everything. If your situation is straightforward and you're comfortable with financial forms, you might be able to handle it yourself. But in my experience, having a professional who knows exactly what the IRS is looking for made a huge difference in both the monthly payment amount and my stress level. They also helped identify which penalties could be abated, which I wouldn't have known to ask about.
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Mateo Lopez
Warning about tax relief companies though - many of them are complete scams! They charge thousands up front and promise to settle your debt for "pennies on the dollar", then basically just put you on a standard payment plan you could have set up yourself. If you need help, look for an Enrolled Agent or CPA who specializes in tax resolution. They charge reasonable fees and won't make outlandish promises. Ask for their credentials and check reviews carefully. The IRS website actually has a ton of resources too: https://www.irs.gov/payments/payment-plans-installment-agreements
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Aisha Abdullah
•100% this. My parents got scammed by one of those "we'll settle your tax debt for pennies on the dollar" companies. They paid $4500 upfront and got literally nothing but a standard installment agreement they could have set up with a 20-minute phone call. Complete ripoff.
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Ethan Davis
•Is there a specific credential or certification I should look for when hiring someone to help with tax debt? I see all these different titles - tax attorney, CPA, EA, tax resolution specialist - and don't know which is most appropriate.
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