Discovered spouse forged my signature on tax returns & refund checks during divorce - what legal options do I have?
I'm in the middle of a divorce and just discovered something disturbing about our tax situation. Throughout our marriage, we both worked full-time except for 2023 when I stayed home with our first child. During our marriage, whenever I'd ask my soon-to-be-ex about our tax returns, he'd be super evasive. I'd ask if I needed to sign anything, and he'd say no. When I'd ask about our refunds, he'd claim we never got any. I never pushed harder on this (huge mistake, I know), but now during divorce proceedings, I've found out that the tax documents DID require my signature every year, and the refund checks also needed my signature to be deposited. He was forging my signature and putting the money in his personal account! If that's not bad enough, I discovered he's been applying for Medicaid every year despite our household income being way over the qualifying threshold. Is this considered tax fraud since he forged my signature? What can I do about this now? Are there legal options I should pursue? He's suddenly doing everything by the book for 2023 taxes using an accountant because our divorce attorneys will be reviewing all documentation.
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Leo Simmons
Yes, this is absolutely concerning behavior and potentially fraudulent. When you file a joint tax return, both spouses must sign unless one spouse authorizes the other to sign on their behalf. Forging a signature on tax documents and government checks is illegal. You have several options to address this situation: You can report this to the IRS by filing Form 14157 (Complaint: Tax Return Preparer) and possibly Form 3949-A (Information Referral) to report the suspected fraud. The IRS takes these matters seriously, especially when identity theft and forgery are involved. For the Medicaid fraud, that should be reported to your state's Medicaid fraud control unit. That's a separate but equally serious issue. Since you're already in divorce proceedings, make sure your attorney knows about this situation immediately. They can help ensure these fraudulent activities are properly addressed in your settlement and potentially refer you to a tax attorney if needed. You may also want to consider filing for innocent spouse relief with the IRS using Form 8857, which could protect you from tax liabilities resulting from your ex's actions.
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Lindsey Fry
•Do you think the IRS would go after the ex specifically or would they hold both parties responsible? I'm worried about getting caught up in penalties myself since technically it was a joint return even though I never actually signed it.
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Leo Simmons
•The IRS generally treats a married couple as one unit for tax purposes, but the innocent spouse relief exists specifically for situations like yours. Form 8857 allows you to claim that you didn't know about or have reason to know about the improper reporting, and it wouldn't be fair to hold you responsible. With documented evidence that your signature was forged and you weren't given access to the returns or refunds, you have a strong case for innocent spouse relief. The IRS would focus enforcement actions on your ex rather than you if they determine you qualify for this protection.
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Arnav Bengali
Everyone's talking about the tax fraud but don't forget about the Medicaid fraud! That's a huge deal and can involve state criminal charges. My sister works for our state's Medicaid office and says they take this very seriously. Make sure you report this to your state's Medicaid fraud control unit - you can usually find them by googling "[your state] Medicaid fraud report". They have investigators who specifically handle cases where people misrepresent their income to qualify. You should also protect yourself by making it clear you weren't aware of these applications. Your soon-to-be-ex could be facing some serious consequences beyond just the tax issues.
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Lilly Curtis
•Thank you for bringing this up - I've been so focused on the tax fraud part that I hadn't fully processed the Medicaid angle. Should I be worried about being implicated in this too since we were married? I genuinely had no idea he was applying for Medicaid.
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Arnav Bengali
•You should definitely clarify with the Medicaid fraud unit that you were unaware of the applications. Provide them with the same information you're giving the IRS about not having access to or knowledge of these filings. Most states understand that one spouse can commit fraud without the other's knowledge. Document everything - the fact that he hid tax returns from you, forged your signature, and kept refunds secret all supports your case that you weren't knowingly participating in Medicaid fraud. Your divorce proceedings actually help establish that there was deception occurring within the household.
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Sayid Hassan
Just want to add - make sure you pull your credit reports ASAP from all three bureaus. When my ex was forging my signature on tax docs, he was also opening credit cards in my name. The behavior often doesn't stop at just tax fraud. You can get free weekly reports from annualcreditreport.com (the official site authorized by federal law). If you see anything suspicious, immediately dispute it and consider placing a credit freeze.
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Rachel Tao
•This is really good advice. I'd also recommend setting up an IRS Identity Protection PIN. It's free and prevents anyone from filing a tax return in your name without that PIN. Google "IRS IP PIN" and you can create an account to get one assigned.
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Emma Wilson
I'm so sorry you're going through this - what a betrayal on top of an already difficult divorce. This is definitely fraud, and you have multiple avenues to pursue. For immediate protection, I'd recommend: 1. Contact the IRS Taxpayer Advocate Service (1-877-777-4778) - they can help coordinate your case across different IRS departments and ensure you're protected while investigations proceed. 2. File Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit) with the IRS to establish that your identity was stolen for tax purposes. This creates an official record that someone else was filing with your information. 3. Request transcripts of all your past tax returns from the IRS using Form 4506-T so you can see exactly what was filed in your name. Since you're in divorce proceedings, your attorney should definitely know about this immediately. They may want to subpoena banking records to trace where those refund checks went, which could impact your property division. The fact that he's suddenly using an accountant for 2023 taxes shows he knows what he was doing was wrong. Document everything and keep copies of all communications. This level of deception suggests there may be other financial surprises hiding. Stay strong - you're taking the right steps to protect yourself and your child's future.
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Nia Davis
This is absolutely devastating and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this betrayal during an already difficult time. What your ex did constitutes multiple federal crimes - signature forgery on tax documents, check fraud, and potentially wire fraud if he deposited those checks electronically. Beyond the excellent advice already given about IRS forms and innocent spouse relief, I'd strongly recommend documenting everything chronologically. Create a timeline of when you asked about taxes, what his responses were, and any evidence you have of being deliberately kept in the dark. This pattern of deception will be crucial for both your divorce proceedings and any criminal referrals. Also consider requesting a fraud alert be placed on your Social Security number through the Social Security Administration. If he was comfortable forging your signature on tax documents, he may have used your SSN for other fraudulent purposes. One thing that might help immediately - ask your divorce attorney about requesting an emergency court order requiring your ex to provide banking records showing where all tax refunds were deposited. This could reveal additional hidden assets or fraudulent activity that impacts your settlement. The silver lining is that his pattern of financial deception will likely work strongly in your favor during divorce proceedings. Courts don't look kindly on spouses who commit fraud and hide assets. Stay strong and keep fighting for what's rightfully yours.
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Ava Williams
•This is such valuable advice about documenting everything chronologically. I'm realizing I need to be more systematic about this - right now I just have bits and pieces of evidence scattered everywhere. The timeline idea is brilliant because it shows the pattern of deception wasn't just accidental oversight. Every time I asked about taxes and he deflected or lied, that's another piece of evidence that he knew what he was doing was wrong. I hadn't thought about the Social Security fraud alert either. You're absolutely right that if he was comfortable forging my signature on federal documents, there's no telling what else he might have done with my personal information. Better to be proactive now than discover more surprises later. Thank you for the reminder about this working in my favor during divorce proceedings. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by all the fraud and betrayal that I forget this actually strengthens my case for a fair settlement.
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StarSailor
I'm so sorry you're going through this - discovering financial fraud during a divorce is incredibly traumatic. You've received excellent advice here, and I want to emphasize a few key points: First, yes, this is absolutely tax fraud. Forging someone's signature on federal tax documents is a serious federal crime, as is fraudulently endorsing and depositing Treasury checks. The fact that he kept you in the dark about refunds while you were legally entitled to that money makes this even worse. Beyond the forms others have mentioned (8857 for innocent spouse relief, 14039 for identity theft), I'd also recommend filing Form 911 to request Taxpayer Advocate Service assistance. They can help coordinate your case across different IRS departments and provide an advocate who will work specifically on your behalf. For the Medicaid fraud, document any conversations where he discussed healthcare coverage or finances. If you have text messages, emails, or witnesses who can confirm you weren't aware of these applications, gather that evidence now. Most importantly, please don't blame yourself for not pushing harder about the taxes. Financial abusers are skilled at deflection and creating situations where questioning them feels uncomfortable or futile. You trusted your spouse - that's normal and healthy behavior in a marriage. Your ex's sudden switch to using an accountant for 2023 taxes is actually great evidence that he knew his previous behavior was wrong. An honest person doesn't suddenly feel the need for professional help unless they were cutting corners before. Stay strong - you're taking all the right steps to protect yourself and your child.
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Finley Garrett
•Thank you so much for this compassionate and thorough response. I really needed to hear that I shouldn't blame myself for trusting my spouse - it's been eating at me that I didn't push harder when he was being evasive about our taxes. You're absolutely right about Form 911 for the Taxpayer Advocate Service. I hadn't heard of that one yet, and having a dedicated advocate sounds like exactly what I need right now with so many different issues to coordinate. The point about his sudden switch to using an accountant is really validating. My gut told me that was suspicious, but I second-guessed myself thinking maybe he just wanted to be more careful during the divorce. But you're right - if everything was above board before, why the sudden need for professional help? I'm going to start gathering all those text messages and emails where he deflected my questions about taxes. Looking back, there's a clear pattern of him shutting down those conversations or changing the subject whenever I brought up our financial situation. This community has been incredibly helpful - I feel like I actually have a roadmap now instead of just feeling overwhelmed and not knowing where to start. Thank you for taking the time to help a stranger navigate this mess.
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Dmitry Ivanov
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this betrayal during an already difficult time. What you've described is absolutely tax fraud and identity theft - forging signatures on federal tax documents and Treasury checks are serious federal crimes. Here's what I'd recommend as immediate next steps: 1. **Secure your identity**: Place fraud alerts with all three credit bureaus and request an IRS Identity Protection PIN to prevent future fraudulent filings in your name. 2. **Document everything**: Create a detailed timeline of every conversation about taxes, including his evasive responses. This pattern of deception will be crucial evidence. 3. **File the right forms**: Submit Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit), Form 8857 (Innocent Spouse Relief), and Form 911 (Taxpayer Advocate Service Request) with the IRS. The Taxpayer Advocate can help coordinate your case across departments. 4. **Get tax transcripts**: Use Form 4506-T to request official transcripts of all returns filed in your name so you can see exactly what was submitted. 5. **Report Medicaid fraud**: Contact your state's Medicaid fraud control unit immediately. Make it clear you had no knowledge of these applications. 6. **Inform your divorce attorney**: They need to know about this pattern of financial deception, as it could significantly impact your settlement and they may want to subpoena banking records to trace those refund deposits. The fact that he's suddenly using an accountant for 2023 taxes shows he knows his previous actions were wrong. You have strong grounds for innocent spouse relief given the documented pattern of keeping you in the dark about your own tax obligations. Don't blame yourself for trusting your spouse - that's normal in a marriage. You're taking all the right steps now to protect yourself and your child's future.
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Paolo Ricci
•This is such a comprehensive and well-organized response - thank you for breaking everything down into clear action steps. I was feeling overwhelmed by all the different agencies and forms I need to deal with, but having it laid out like this makes it feel much more manageable. I especially appreciate you mentioning the IRS Identity Protection PIN. I keep seeing people talk about credit freezes, but I hadn't realized there was a specific IRS protection available too. Given that he was comfortable forging my signature on federal documents, getting that PIN seems crucial to prevent him from filing anything else in my name. The timeline documentation is something I'm going to start working on this weekend. Looking back, there were so many red flags - times when I'd ask simple questions about our taxes and he'd get defensive or change the subject entirely. At the time I thought he was just stressed about money, but now I realize he was probably panicking about getting caught. Your point about not blaming myself really hits home. I keep replaying all those conversations and thinking "I should have known something was wrong" but you're right - trusting your spouse about shared financial obligations is completely normal. He's the one who chose to betray that trust and commit crimes. I'm going to print out your response and use it as my action plan. Having everything organized like this makes me feel like I can actually handle this situation instead of just being a victim of it.
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Haley Stokes
I'm so sorry you're going through this devastating betrayal on top of an already difficult divorce. What your husband did absolutely constitutes multiple federal crimes - signature forgery on tax documents, fraudulent endorsement of Treasury checks, and identity theft. The advice you've received here is excellent, but I want to emphasize one additional step: consider requesting copies of the actual tax returns and refund checks from the IRS. You can use Form 4506 to get copies of the actual documents filed, not just transcripts. Having physical copies showing the forged signatures could be powerful evidence for both criminal referrals and your divorce proceedings. Also, when you contact the Taxpayer Advocate Service, specifically mention that this involves domestic abuse through financial fraud. They have special protocols for cases involving spousal abuse and can provide additional protections during their investigation. For your divorce, make sure your attorney knows that financial crimes were committed during the marriage. This could impact spousal support calculations and asset division - courts often award larger shares to the victim of financial fraud. One more thing - if you have any joint bank accounts, consider closing them immediately after consulting with your attorney. If he was comfortable depositing fraudulent refund checks, he might attempt other unauthorized transactions. You're being incredibly strong by taking action to protect yourself and your child. This pattern of deception will likely work in your favor both legally and in divorce court. Don't let his sudden "legitimate" behavior for 2023 taxes fool anyone - it's just evidence that he knew what he was doing was wrong all along.
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JacksonHarris
•This is incredibly helpful advice about getting the actual document copies with Form 4506 rather than just transcripts. Having physical evidence of the forged signatures will be so much stronger than just my word against his, especially if this ends up in criminal court. I hadn't thought about mentioning the domestic abuse angle to the Taxpayer Advocate Service, but you're absolutely right that financial fraud is a form of abuse. The way he systematically kept me in the dark about our own tax situation while stealing money that was legally mine - that's not just fraud, it's controlling and abusive behavior. Your point about joint bank accounts is scary but important. I've been so focused on the tax fraud that I haven't fully considered what other financial damage he might be capable of. I'm going to talk to my attorney first thing Monday about closing those accounts safely without jeopardizing the divorce proceedings. It's validating to hear that his sudden switch to legitimate tax filing for 2023 actually works in my favor as evidence. Sometimes I worry that people will think "well he's doing it right now" and not take the previous fraud seriously. But you're right - honest people don't suddenly need accountants unless they were cutting corners before. Thank you for the reminder about how this could impact spousal support and asset division. I've been so overwhelmed by the criminal aspects that I hadn't fully considered how this strengthens my position in the divorce itself. He stole from our family and committed crimes - the court needs to take that into account when dividing our assets.
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Dmitry Petrov
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this betrayal during such a difficult time. What you've described is absolutely serious federal tax fraud - forging signatures on tax documents and Treasury checks are felony offenses that the IRS takes very seriously. Here are some immediate steps I'd recommend: **Protect yourself first:** File Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit) with the IRS immediately to establish that your identity was stolen for tax purposes. Also request an IRS Identity Protection PIN online to prevent future fraudulent filings in your name. **Gather evidence:** Request copies of all tax returns filed in your name using Form 4506 (not just transcripts - actual copies showing the forged signatures). Document every conversation where he was evasive about taxes. This pattern of deception will be crucial evidence. **File for protection:** Submit Form 8857 for Innocent Spouse Relief. Given that he deliberately kept you in the dark and forged your signature, you have a strong case. Also file Form 911 to request Taxpayer Advocate Service assistance - they can coordinate your case across IRS departments. **Criminal reporting:** Report the Medicaid fraud to your state's fraud control unit. Make it clear you had no knowledge of these applications. **Divorce implications:** Make sure your attorney knows about this immediately. Courts don't look kindly on spouses who commit financial crimes, and this could significantly impact your settlement in your favor. The fact that he's suddenly using an accountant for 2023 taxes is actually evidence that he knew his previous behavior was illegal. You're taking all the right steps - stay strong!
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Cedric Chung
•This is such a comprehensive and helpful response - thank you for breaking everything down into clear action items. As someone new to dealing with tax fraud, having step-by-step guidance like this is invaluable. I'm particularly glad you emphasized getting the actual document copies with Form 4506 rather than just transcripts. Having physical evidence of the forged signatures will be crucial if this goes to criminal court or if I need to prove my case for innocent spouse relief. The point about his sudden switch to using an accountant being evidence of guilt is really important. I was worried people might see that as him "doing the right thing now" but you're absolutely right - it's actually proof that he knew what he was doing before was wrong. I'm going to start with Form 14039 and requesting that Identity Protection PIN today. It's scary to think about what other damage he might be capable of if he was comfortable forging federal documents, so getting those protections in place ASAP seems critical. Thank you for the encouragement at the end. This whole situation has been overwhelming and sometimes I feel like I'm in over my head, but responses like yours help me feel like there's actually a clear path forward to protect myself and my child.
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Lucas Adams
I'm so sorry you're going through this - discovering financial fraud during a divorce is absolutely devastating. What your ex did is definitely serious federal tax fraud, and you have every right to pursue legal action. One thing I want to add that hasn't been mentioned yet - make sure you also file a police report for the check fraud. When he forged your signature on those Treasury refund checks, that's a separate criminal offense from the tax fraud itself. Having a police report on file creates an official record and may be required by your bank if you need to dispute any deposits or transactions. Also, consider reaching out to your state's Attorney General's office. Many states have consumer protection divisions that handle identity theft and financial fraud cases, and they can sometimes coordinate with federal agencies like the IRS to ensure your case gets proper attention. The most important thing right now is protecting yourself going forward. Change passwords on any shared financial accounts, monitor your credit reports weekly, and make sure all mail is being sent to a secure address he can't access. You trusted your spouse with shared financial responsibilities - that's completely normal in a marriage. The fact that he systematically betrayed that trust while committing multiple crimes says everything about his character and nothing about your judgment. Stay strong and keep fighting for what's rightfully yours!
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QuantumQuester
•This is excellent advice about filing a police report for the check fraud specifically. I hadn't realized that was a separate criminal offense from the tax fraud itself, but you're absolutely right - forging someone's signature on any check, especially a Treasury check, is its own crime that should be documented with local law enforcement. The point about contacting the state Attorney General's office is really smart too. Having multiple agencies aware of the case could help ensure nothing falls through the cracks, and they might have resources or victim assistance programs I haven't heard about yet. Your advice about changing passwords and securing mail is so important. I've been so focused on the past fraud that I haven't fully thought through protecting myself from future financial damage. If he was comfortable committing federal crimes for years, there's no telling what he might try as the divorce gets more contentious. Thank you for the reassurance about trusting my spouse being normal. I keep second-guessing every financial conversation we ever had, wondering how I missed all the red flags. But you're right - the problem isn't that I trusted him, it's that he systematically betrayed that trust while committing crimes. I need to remember that this reflects on his character, not mine.
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Kylo Ren
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this betrayal during an already difficult divorce. What you've discovered absolutely constitutes tax fraud and identity theft - forging signatures on federal tax documents and Treasury checks are serious federal crimes. As others have mentioned, you should definitely file for innocent spouse relief using Form 8857, but I also want to suggest documenting absolutely everything in writing. Keep records of every conversation where he was evasive about taxes, any emails or texts related to your financial situation, and create a timeline showing his pattern of deception. Since you mentioned he's suddenly using an accountant for 2023 taxes "because divorce attorneys will be reviewing documentation," that's actually strong evidence that he knew his previous behavior was wrong. An honest person doesn't suddenly need professional help unless they were cutting corners before. One practical tip - make sure you request an IRS Identity Protection PIN immediately to prevent him from filing any future fraudulent returns in your name. You can do this online through the IRS website. Please don't blame yourself for not pushing harder about the taxes. Financial abusers are skilled at deflection and making their victims feel like questioning them is inappropriate. You trusted your spouse about shared financial obligations - that's completely normal and healthy behavior in a marriage. Stay strong - the fact that you're taking action now shows incredible courage, and this pattern of financial deception will likely work strongly in your favor during divorce proceedings.
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Matthew Sanchez
•This is such important advice about documenting everything systematically. I'm realizing I need to be much more organized about preserving evidence - right now I have bits and pieces scattered across different emails, text messages, and my own memories, but having it all compiled into a clear timeline will be so much more powerful. You're absolutely right about his sudden use of an accountant being evidence of guilt rather than responsibility. When I first found out he hired a tax professional for 2023, part of me actually thought "maybe he's finally taking our finances seriously." But now I see it for what it really is - he knows he's about to be scrutinized and needs professional help to avoid getting caught doing what he's been doing for years. I'm going to get that IRS Identity Protection PIN set up today. The thought that he could still be filing things in my name even as we're going through divorce proceedings is terrifying. At least with that PIN in place, I'll have some control over my own tax identity going forward. Thank you for the reminder not to blame myself for trusting him. I keep replaying conversations and thinking "I should have pushed harder when he was being evasive" but you're right - expecting honesty from your spouse about shared finances isn't naive, it's normal. He's the one who chose to exploit that trust and commit crimes. Having supportive responses like this really helps me feel less alone in dealing with this mess. Thank you for taking the time to help a stranger navigate such a complicated situation.
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Daniel Price
I'm so sorry you're going through this devastating situation. What you've described is absolutely tax fraud and identity theft - forging signatures on federal documents and Treasury checks are serious federal crimes that carry significant penalties. Based on what you've shared, here are the key steps I'd recommend: **Immediate protection:** File Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit) with the IRS and get an Identity Protection PIN to prevent future fraudulent filings. Also place fraud alerts with all three credit bureaus. **Gather evidence:** Request actual copies (not just transcripts) of all tax returns filed in your name using Form 4506. These will show the forged signatures. Document every conversation where he was evasive about taxes - this pattern of deception is crucial evidence. **File for relief:** Submit Form 8857 for Innocent Spouse Relief. Given the documented forgery and deliberate concealment, you have a very strong case. Also file Form 911 to request Taxpayer Advocate Service assistance. **Report all fraud:** Contact your state's Medicaid fraud control unit about the healthcare fraud. File a police report for the check fraud as well - forging Treasury checks is a separate criminal offense. **Divorce strategy:** Make sure your attorney knows immediately. This financial criminality could significantly impact asset division and spousal support in your favor. The fact that he suddenly hired an accountant for 2023 taxes is actually evidence that he knew his previous actions were illegal. You're taking exactly the right steps to protect yourself and your child. Don't blame yourself for trusting your spouse - that's normal in a healthy marriage. He's the one who chose to betray that trust and commit federal crimes. Stay strong - you've got this!
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Zara Ahmed
•This is such a thorough and well-organized response - thank you for laying out all the action steps so clearly. As someone who's never dealt with tax fraud before, having everything broken down like this makes what seemed like an impossible situation feel actually manageable. I'm especially grateful you mentioned filing a separate police report for the check fraud. I hadn't realized that forging Treasury checks was its own criminal offense distinct from the tax fraud. Having multiple official reports on file seems like it will strengthen my case across all the different agencies I need to work with. The point about requesting actual document copies with Form 4506 rather than just transcripts is crucial. Having physical evidence of the forged signatures will be so much more powerful than just my testimony, especially if this ends up in criminal court. Your reminder that his sudden use of an accountant is evidence of guilt rather than responsibility really helps me see the situation clearly. When I first discovered he hired a tax professional for 2023, I almost gave him credit for "finally being responsible." Now I understand it's actually proof he knew what he was doing all along was wrong. Thank you for the encouragement at the end. Some days I feel completely overwhelmed by all of this, but responses like yours remind me that I'm not powerless - I'm taking the right steps to protect myself and my child's future. Having this community's support means everything right now.
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Sophia Long
I'm so sorry you're going through this terrible situation. What you've described is absolutely tax fraud, identity theft, and potentially wire fraud - these are serious federal crimes that the IRS prosecutes aggressively. The pattern you've described - being kept in the dark about tax returns, forged signatures, hidden refunds - is textbook financial abuse. You have strong grounds for multiple types of relief and protection. Here's what I'd prioritize immediately: **Document everything now:** Create a detailed timeline of every conversation about taxes where he was evasive or deflective. Save any texts, emails, or other communications. This pattern of deliberate concealment will be crucial evidence. **Protect your identity:** File Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit) with the IRS today and request an Identity Protection PIN online. This prevents him from filing anything else in your name. **Get the evidence:** Use Form 4506 to request actual copies of all tax returns filed in your name - not just transcripts, but the physical documents showing the forged signatures. This will be powerful evidence for both innocent spouse relief and any criminal prosecution. **Multiple agency approach:** Report the Medicaid fraud to your state's fraud control unit and file a police report for the check fraud specifically - forging Treasury checks is a separate criminal offense. His sudden switch to using an accountant for 2023 is actually evidence that he knew his previous actions were illegal. No innocent person suddenly needs professional help unless they were cutting corners before. You trusted your spouse with shared financial responsibilities - that's completely normal and healthy. The betrayal and criminality here is entirely on him, not you. Stay strong - you're taking exactly the right steps to protect yourself and your child.
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Chloe Davis
•This is exactly the kind of comprehensive guidance I needed to see. You've laid out everything so clearly and I really appreciate how you emphasized that this is financial abuse, not just tax mistakes. That framing helps me understand that what happened wasn't just about money - it was about control and deception. I'm going to start with that timeline documentation today. Looking back, there were so many conversations where I'd ask simple questions about our tax situation and he'd either change the subject, get defensive, or give vague non-answers. At the time I thought maybe he was just stressed about money, but now I can see it was a deliberate pattern of keeping me away from information I had every right to know. The multiple agency approach makes a lot of sense too. I was initially thinking I needed to pick just one place to report this, but you're right that each type of fraud needs to be reported to the appropriate agency. Having official reports on file with the IRS, state Medicaid office, and local police creates a comprehensive record of his criminal behavior. Your point about his accountant being evidence of guilt is so validating. I kept second-guessing myself thinking maybe I was being too suspicious, but you're absolutely right - honest people don't suddenly need professional help handling taxes unless they were doing something wrong before. Thank you for the reminder that trusting my spouse was normal and healthy. This whole experience has made me question my judgment about everything, but you're right - the problem isn't that I trusted him, it's that he systematically betrayed that trust while committing federal crimes.
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Miguel Harvey
I'm so sorry you're experiencing this betrayal during an already difficult time. What you've described absolutely constitutes federal tax fraud - forging signatures on tax documents and Treasury checks are serious crimes that can result in both civil and criminal penalties. Here's what I'd recommend as your immediate action plan: **Secure your tax identity first:** File Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit) with the IRS immediately and request an IRS Identity Protection PIN online. This prevents any future fraudulent filings in your name. **Document the fraud systematically:** Request actual copies of all tax returns using Form 4506 (not just transcripts) - these will show the forged signatures as evidence. Create a detailed timeline of every conversation where he deflected questions about taxes. **File for protection:** Submit Form 8857 for Innocent Spouse Relief - given the documented pattern of deception and forged signatures, you have an excellent case. Also file Form 911 to request Taxpayer Advocate Service assistance for coordinated help. **Report to multiple agencies:** Contact your state's Medicaid fraud control unit about the healthcare fraud, and file a police report specifically for the check fraud (forging Treasury checks is a separate criminal offense). **Leverage in divorce:** Make sure your attorney knows about this pattern of financial crimes immediately - courts typically rule in favor of the victim of financial fraud during asset division. The fact that he suddenly hired an accountant for 2023 taxes actually works in your favor as evidence that he knew his previous behavior was illegal. You did nothing wrong by trusting your spouse about shared financial obligations - that's completely normal in a marriage. He's the one who chose to systematically betray that trust and commit federal crimes. Stay strong - you're taking exactly the right steps to protect yourself and your child's future.
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Zoe Papadopoulos
I'm so sorry you're going through this devastating betrayal during what's already an incredibly difficult time. What your ex-husband did absolutely constitutes multiple federal crimes - signature forgery on tax documents, fraudulent endorsement of Treasury checks, and identity theft are all serious offenses that the IRS prosecutes aggressively. The pattern you've described of being deliberately kept in the dark about your own tax returns while he forged your signature and stole refunds is textbook financial abuse. This isn't just about tax mistakes - it's about systematic deception and control. Here are my recommendations for immediate action: **Protect yourself first:** File Form 14039 (Identity Theft Affidavit) with the IRS today and get an IRS Identity Protection PIN online to prevent any future fraudulent filings in your name. **Gather concrete evidence:** Use Form 4506 to request actual copies of all tax returns filed in your name - not just transcripts, but the physical documents showing his forged signatures. This will be crucial evidence. **Document the pattern:** Create a detailed timeline of every conversation where you asked about taxes and he deflected or gave evasive answers. This shows deliberate concealment. **File for multiple protections:** Submit Form 8857 for Innocent Spouse Relief and Form 911 for Taxpayer Advocate Service assistance to coordinate your case across IRS departments. **Report all fraud:** Contact your state's Medicaid fraud control unit and file a separate police report for check fraud - forging Treasury checks is its own criminal offense. His sudden decision to use an accountant for 2023 taxes is actually evidence that he knew his previous actions were illegal. You did nothing wrong by trusting your spouse with shared financial responsibilities - that's completely normal behavior in a marriage. He chose to exploit that trust and commit federal crimes. This pattern of financial deception will likely work strongly in your favor during divorce proceedings. Stay strong - you're taking exactly the right steps to protect yourself and your child.
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