How to contest my ex claiming me as a dependent on his taxes - what options do I have?
I've been separated (not legally) from my husband since 2016 and haven't lived with him for all that time. We've been filing separately for years, but I just found out he claimed me as a dependent on his taxes this year! I'm in Idaho and completely support myself - the only thing he pays for is my health insurance. This isn't the first time he's pulled something like this. He's repeatedly claimed our kids on the wrong years or after they aged out at 18. I usually just let it slide when he does this with the kids, but claiming ME as a dependent crosses the line. I think he's doing this because he owes the IRS a lot of money from capital gains, and he's using me to reduce his tax burden. I filed as "married filing separately" the last few years, but he filed first this time and included me as a dependent! I don't even know where to start with contesting this. Do I need to hire a lawyer? Pay for a CPA? File some kind of injured spouse form? I'm not sure what my options are or how to prove I shouldn't be claimed as his dependent. Any advice would be really appreciated!
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Jamal Brown
You definitely have grounds to contest this. Your ex cannot claim you as a dependent if you provide more than half of your own support, regardless of your marital status. The fact that he only pays for your health insurance isn't enough to qualify you as his dependent. Here's what you should do: File your own tax return as you normally would (either single or married filing separately, depending on your situation). Since you're filing a paper return after he's already claimed you, the IRS will notice the discrepancy and send both of you notices. You'll need to provide evidence that you support yourself - bank statements, rent/mortgage payments, utility bills, etc. You don't necessarily need an attorney or CPA at this stage, but if the IRS audit becomes complicated, you might want professional help. The form you're thinking of (injured spouse) is actually for situations where a joint refund is being applied to a spouse's separate debt, which isn't your situation.
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Mei Zhang
•Thanks for the info. If I file my own return now, do I need to mention somewhere that I'm being incorrectly claimed as a dependent? And how long does this process usually take to resolve?
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Jamal Brown
•When you file your return, you'll simply check the box that indicates no one can claim you as a dependent. You don't need to provide any additional information on your tax return itself. The IRS system will automatically flag the discrepancy when they see two returns with conflicting information about your dependent status. The resolution time varies, but typically expect 3-6 months. The IRS will send letters to both you and your ex requesting documentation to support your respective positions. Make sure to respond promptly with your evidence showing you're self-supporting.
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Liam McConnell
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Amara Oluwaseyi
•How exactly does this service work? Do you upload your tax documents and it tells you what to do? I'm dealing with something similar with my sister claiming my dad as a dependent when I provide most of his care.
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CosmicCaptain
•Sounds like an ad. Does this actually work or is it just another tax service trying to upsell you on premium features once you start using it?
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Liam McConnell
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CosmicCaptain
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Giovanni Rossi
After dealing with the IRS for years as a tax professional, I can tell you that contacting them directly about this will be necessary but extremely frustrating. I've had clients in similar situations who spent weeks trying to get through to someone who could actually help. If you want to speak with an actual IRS agent about this situation, I'd recommend using https://claimyr.com - they'll wait on hold with the IRS for you and call you when an actual agent is on the line. You can see how it works here: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c I was skeptical at first, but it saved one of my clients almost 3 hours of hold time last week when dealing with a dependent dispute. Given how backed up the IRS is right now, having someone else deal with the hold times is a huge help when you're trying to resolve something urgent like incorrect dependent claims.
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Fatima Al-Maktoum
•Wait, how is this even possible? They just wait on hold for you? What's the catch?
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Dylan Mitchell
•This sounds too good to be true. The IRS wait times are insane lately, but having someone else wait on hold seems sketchy. How do they even access your tax info if they're not you?
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Giovanni Rossi
•They use a call system that waits on hold in your place and then calls you when a real person answers. There's no magic to it - they're literally just taking the burden of waiting on hold away from you. When they call you, you're connected directly to the IRS agent who answered. They don't access your tax information at all. You're the one who speaks directly with the IRS agent once connected. It's completely legitimate - they just handle the frustrating hold time part of the process. The service exists because the average IRS hold times are now over 90 minutes, which is unbearable for most people.
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Dylan Mitchell
So I was totally skeptical about that Claimyr service mentioned above, but I broke down and tried it yesterday after spending 2 hours on hold with the IRS and getting disconnected. Got a call back in about 45 minutes with an actual IRS agent on the line! The agent confirmed that my ex can't claim me as a dependent just because he pays for health insurance. She advised me to paper file my return immediately with the correct information, and they'll automatically trigger a review. She also gave me a specific reference number for the case so I can check on it. Wish I'd known about this service years ago when dealing with other tax issues. Having someone else handle the hold time was such a relief.
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Sofia Gutierrez
The dependent rules are actually very specific. For someone to claim you as a dependent as a "qualifying relative" (which would be the only way since you're an adult): 1. You must have lived with them the entire year (you clearly didn't) 2. They must have provided more than half your total support (they clearly didn't) 3. Your income must be below certain thresholds 4. You can't file a joint return with someone else Just him paying your health insurance doesn't come close to meeting these requirements. File your own return and let the IRS sort it out. When they send the notice, respond with documentation showing you support yourself (rent/mortgage payments, utility bills, etc).
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Zoe Kyriakidou
•Thanks for breaking down the requirements. I definitely don't meet those criteria - we haven't lived together since 2016 and I pay for everything myself except health insurance. Do you know if there's any specific form I need to fill out to contest his claim, or do I just file my taxes normally and wait for the IRS to contact me?
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Sofia Gutierrez
•You should just file your taxes normally, claiming yourself (check the box that says no one can claim you as a dependent). You don't need to fill out any special forms at this stage. The IRS computer system will automatically flag the discrepancy when they see you've been claimed on two returns. When the IRS contacts you, they'll send a letter asking for documentation. That's when you'll want to provide your evidence - bank statements showing you pay your own expenses, utility bills in your name, rental agreement or mortgage statements, etc. The burden of proof will actually be more on your ex, as he's the one making the dependent claim.
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Dmitry Petrov
Has anyone else successfully dealt with this? I'm going through something similar with my mother claiming me when I've been completely independent for years. Filed my return and now waiting for the IRS to sort it out but it's been 2 months already with no communication.
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StarSurfer
•I went through this exact situation last year. The IRS sent us both letters about 3 months after I filed. I had to send copies of my rent payments, utility bills, and a statement explaining my situation. It took about 2 more months, but they eventually ruled in my favor and processed my return. My mom got hit with an additional tax bill though.
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Norman Fraser
I went through almost the exact same situation with my ex-spouse two years ago. He claimed me as a dependent when we'd been separated for over a year and I was completely self-supporting. The key thing to understand is that you have every right to file your own return claiming yourself, even if he's already filed. The IRS will automatically flag this as a duplicate Social Security Number issue and start an investigation. When you file, make sure to check the box indicating that no one else can claim you as a dependent. Keep copies of everything that proves you support yourself - rent/mortgage payments, utility bills, grocery receipts, bank statements showing your income, etc. You'll need this documentation when the IRS requests it. In my case, it took about 4 months total to resolve, but I eventually got my full refund plus interest. My ex had to file an amended return and pay back the incorrect dependent credit he claimed. The IRS was actually pretty straightforward to work with once I provided the documentation. Don't let him get away with this - it's tax fraud and you shouldn't have to suffer financially because of his dishonesty. File your return as soon as possible so the IRS can start the review process.
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