Confused about how to fill out my W-4 after major life changes??

Congrats on the new jobs and home! The W-4 can definitely be confusing, especially with the redesign they did a few years back. For married couples with both spouses working, you'll want to check the "Married filing jointly" box on both of your W-4 forms. However, since both of you have fairly high incomes, you should definitely complete Step 2 of the form to account for being a two-earner household. Otherwise, you'll likely owe taxes when you file. You have three options in Step 2: (a) use the IRS estimator (I know you found it frustrating, but it's the most accurate), (b) use the Multiple Jobs Worksheet provided with the W-4, or (c) simply check the box in Step 2(c) on both forms, which applies a standard withholding rate. Option C is easiest but less precise. Given your situation with new jobs and a new home, you might also have itemized deductions from mortgage interest. You can account for these in Step 4(b) to reduce withholding.

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One thing nobody mentioned yet - if you and your wife have similar incomes (which it sounds like you do), you might consider using the Multiple Jobs Worksheet instead of just checking the box in Step 2(c). The worksheet is more accurate for couples with similar income levels. Also, don't forget that buying a house changes your tax situation! If you're planning to itemize deductions for your mortgage interest and property taxes, you should estimate those annual amounts and put them on line 4(b) of the W-4. This will reduce your withholding to account for those deductions.

Just my two cents - I messed up my W-4 last year and ended up owing $4,200 at tax time! Don't underestimate how important it is to get this right. My wife and I both checked the "Married filing jointly" box without doing Step 2, and it was a disaster because the system assumed each of us was the only income earner.

Based on your situation, I'd strongly recommend taking the time to work through the IRS withholding calculator even though it's tedious. With your combined income of $153K and the new homeownership, getting this wrong could be costly. Here's a simplified approach: Both of you should select "Married filing jointly" and complete Step 2. Since your incomes are relatively close ($72K vs $81K), the Multiple Jobs Worksheet will be more accurate than just checking the box in Step 2(c). Complete the worksheet once together and enter the result on your wife's W-4 (higher earner) in Step 4(c), while you just check the box in Step 2(c). For your new home, estimate your annual mortgage interest and property taxes, then enter that amount in Step 4(b) on ONE of your forms (don't double up). This will reduce withholding to account for itemizing. Pro tip: Update your W-4s again once you have kids - the child tax credit will significantly change your optimal withholding strategy. Better to adjust multiple times throughout the year than owe thousands in April!