Can I get any tax breaks for financially supporting non-qualifying dependents in my household?

I've been filing as Head of Household for years while living with my adult daughter who qualified as my dependent since she was a full-time student. For the upcoming tax year, my situation has changed significantly. My daughter got a full-time job this year, so she no longer meets the qualifying child tests, even though I'm still covering about 75% of her living expenses so she can save up to eventually move out on her own. To complicate things further, my girlfriend and her 12-year-old daughter moved in with me six months ago. My girlfriend works as an independent contractor but only brings in about $24,000 annually. I'm paying for roughly 70% of their expenses including housing, utilities, groceries, and other costs. Her daughter splits time equally between our home and her father's place (50/50 custody arrangement). From what I understand, the father works exclusively for cash and hasn't filed tax returns in several years. So now I have this situation where I'm financially supporting three people in my household - my adult daughter, my girlfriend, and her daughter - but none of them appear to qualify as dependents under the tax code. Are there any potential tax advantages or deductions available to me given that I'm providing significant financial support for all three of them? I'll still qualify as HOH, but wondering if there's anything else I can claim.

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18 comments

Dominic Green

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You're in a complex but not uncommon situation! Let me break this down: For your daughter: Even though she's working full-time, she might still qualify as your dependent if her gross income is below $4,500 for the year and you provide more than half her support. The student exemption applies only to the age test, but the income test still matters. Regarding your girlfriend: Unfortunately, the IRS doesn't recognize unmarried partners as qualifying relatives unless they lived with you the entire year. Since she moved in six months ago, she wouldn't qualify this year, but might next year if she continues living with you and meets the income test. For her daughter: This is tricky with 50/50 custody. Since she's not your biological child, she would need to live with you for more than half the year to potentially qualify. With the current arrangement, neither you nor the biological father can claim her as a qualifying child. Your girlfriend would typically have the right to claim her. My suggestion: Consider seeing if your girlfriend qualifies for Earned Income Credit as an independent filer with a qualifying child. This might be more beneficial than you trying to claim either of them.

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Hannah Flores

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Thanks for the breakdown. One question though - you mentioned the girlfriend's daughter needs to live with OP for more than half the year, but if she's there 50% of the time with mom and mom lives with OP full-time now, wouldn't that technically count as living with OP for more than half the year? Or does the custody agreement override the physical location? Also, what about the Medical Expense deduction? If OP is paying medical bills for any of these people, could that be deductible even if they aren't qualifying dependents?

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Dominic Green

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The custody arrangement is what matters for determining where the child officially "lives" for tax purposes, regardless of the mother's residence. So with 50/50 custody, neither parent meets the "more than half the year" test automatically. Typically, the parents would need to agree on who claims the child, or it defaults to the parent with higher AGI. Regarding medical expenses, that's an excellent point! You can deduct medical expenses you pay for anyone you consider a dependent, even if they don't qualify as your dependent for tax purposes due to the gross income or joint return tests. However, you'd need to itemize deductions, and only medical expenses exceeding 7.5% of your AGI would be deductible.

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Victoria Charity

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Not sure if this applies, but look into the "member of household" test for qualifying relatives. If your girlfriend and her daughter live with you the entire following tax year, they might qualify as dependents under that test even if they don't meet the qualifying child test. Also, sometimes it makes more sense tax-wise to get married if you're already living together and financially intertwined. Run the numbers both ways - sometimes marriage penalty hits hard but with income disparity like yours it often benefits.

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Victoria Charity

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For the daughter with 50/50 custody, she wouldn't meet the member of household test because she doesn't live with you year-round. However, your girlfriend could potentially qualify as a dependent if she lives with you the entire year and her gross income is below the threshold (around $4,500). For marriage tax calculations, I recommend the Tax Policy Center's marriage calculator or TurboTax's free tax calculator - both let you run scenarios as married vs. single/HOH. With your income disparity and supporting multiple people, you'd likely benefit from marriage tax-wise, but it's worth running the actual numbers. Married filing jointly often benefits couples where one person earns significantly more than the other.

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