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Jamal Washington

Can I claim Head of Household filing status if I live with unmarried partner and we each claim one child?

So here's my situation - my girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years, have two kids, but we're not married. We're trying to figure out our taxes for next year and wondering about filing statuses. I was thinking I could file as Head of Household since I provide more than half the financial support for our household (I pay the mortgage, utilities, and most groceries). I want to claim our daughter as my dependent, while my girlfriend wants to claim our son on her taxes. We share the same house, but I definitely cover well over 50% of our household expenses. She works part-time while I have a full-time job that pays about $72,000 a year. I've heard mixed things about whether I can claim HOH if we live together... some people say we both can claim it if we each claim a different kid, others say neither of us can. Can anyone clear this up for me? I really don't want to mess up and trigger an audit or something.

Mei Wong

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This is actually a common situation, but there's some confusion about the rules. To qualify as Head of Household, you need to meet several requirements: 1) You must be unmarried or considered unmarried at the end of the year 2) You must have paid more than half the cost of keeping up your home for the year 3) A qualifying person must have lived with you in the home for more than half the year The tricky part is that when unmarried parents live together, the IRS generally considers this a shared household. In this situation, only ONE of you can claim Head of Household status, not both. This is because you're maintaining a single home together. Since you pay more than 50% of the household expenses, you would likely qualify for HOH if you claim your daughter as a dependent (assuming she meets the qualifying person test). Your girlfriend would likely need to file as Single, even though she's claiming your son.

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Thanks for explaining! So it matters that we're technically maintaining one household together, not two separate ones within the same physical house? That makes sense. If I'm understanding right, since I pay more than half the expenses, I should be the one to claim HOH. Would it make any difference tax-wise if we somehow divided the house expenses differently? Like if she paid certain bills directly instead of me covering most things?

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Mei Wong

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You're exactly right - the IRS views this as one household being maintained, not two separate ones within the same physical house. If you significantly changed how you divide expenses so that she paid more than half the total household costs, then she could potentially qualify for HOH instead of you. However, simply rearranging who pays which bills without changing the overall proportion wouldn't change the situation. The key is the total percentage of household expenses, not which specific bills each person pays. Remember that for either of you to claim HOH, you'd need to have a qualifying dependent and cover more than 50% of the total household costs.

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Sofia Gomez

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Just a heads up - I'm a tax preparer and see this situation often. Something important to consider: if you claim HOH and your girlfriend files as Single while living in the same household, there's a decent chance of triggering an IRS letter. The system sometimes flags this as suspicious when it sees two taxpayers at the same address with dependent children but different filing statuses. Not saying it's wrong in your case - sounds like you do qualify for HOH based on paying more than half the expenses. Just make sure you keep good documentation of household expenses showing your contribution level in case questions come up. Things like rent receipts, utility bills, grocery receipts, etc.

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That's really helpful to know! What kind of documentation would you recommend keeping? Should I save every receipt, or would bank statements showing regular payments for mortgage and utilities be enough?

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Sofia Gomez

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Bank statements showing your regular payments for mortgage and utilities are definitely a good start. I also recommend creating a simple spreadsheet that tracks household expenses throughout the year - listing who paid what and calculating the percentages. For major expenses, keep the actual receipts or bills, especially for things like property taxes, home repairs, and major household purchases. For recurring expenses like groceries, you don't need every single receipt, but consider keeping a representative sample from throughout the year and document the typical spending pattern. The key is being able to clearly demonstrate that you paid more than 50% of the qualifying expenses for maintaining the home. If you're ever questioned, having this organized documentation makes the process much smoother.

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StormChaser

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does it matter which parent claims which kid? like if you make more money should you claim the kid that has more expenses or something? or does it not matter as long as you each claim one?

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Dmitry Petrov

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It can actually make a big difference financially depending on your income levels! Generally, the higher-earning parent might benefit more from claiming the child tax credit because they have more tax liability to offset. But there's also child care expenses, education credits, and other factors to consider. If one child has significantly higher medical costs or educational expenses than the other, it might make sense for the parent who can claim those additional deductions/credits to claim that child. You might want to run the numbers both ways to see which arrangement saves the most money overall for your household.

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Ava Williams

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Since no one mentioned it yet - don't forget that 2025 tax rules now allow each qualifying child to potentially get you up to $2,000 in tax credits (that's the increased amount after the recent tax law changes). So make sure whoever claims each child can actually benefit from the full credit amount. If your girlfriend doesn't have enough tax liability due to her part-time work, she might not be able to claim the full child tax credit amount even though she's eligible to claim your son. Something to consider when deciding who claims which child!

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Miguel Castro

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Small correction - part of the Child Tax Credit is refundable (the Additional Child Tax Credit), so even if she doesn't have enough tax liability, she could still get some benefit. But you're right that maximizing the non-refundable portion is important for the overall household finances!

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Ava Williams

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You're absolutely right about the refundable portion - thanks for the correction! The Additional Child Tax Credit can provide up to $1,600 as a refundable credit even if tax liability is lower. Still, for maximum household benefit, it's worth calculating which arrangement gives the best overall result when factoring in both the refundable and non-refundable portions. Every family situation is different, and running the numbers through tax software both ways (with each parent claiming different combinations of children) can often reveal the optimal filing strategy.

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