Has anyone used any of these online tax programs like TurboTax or H&R Block online? I've been thinking about just doing my taxes myself to avoid these kinds of issues with preparers, but I'm worried I'll miss deductions or make mistakes.

This is definitely not normal and I'd strongly advise against it. I'm a CPA and percentage-based fees tied to refund amounts are considered highly unethical in our profession. The National Association of Tax Professionals explicitly states that fees should be based on the complexity and time required for the work, not on the tax results. When a preparer's pay depends on maximizing your refund, they have a financial incentive to take aggressive positions that might not hold up under IRS scrutiny. I've seen clients get burned by this - they pay higher fees and then face audits because their preparer claimed questionable deductions to inflate the refund. A legitimate tax professional should charge a flat rate or hourly fee regardless of whether you owe money or get a refund. The fact that she's framing this as "aligning interests" is a red flag - a good preparer's interest should be preparing an accurate, compliant return, not maximizing your refund for their own benefit. I'd recommend shopping around for a new preparer who charges transparent, flat fees. Your $150 flat rate was actually quite reasonable for most returns.

One thing to consider is the timing of when your son plans to sell these investments. Since he'll inherit your cost basis (what you originally paid ~14 years ago), he'll owe capital gains tax on the full appreciation when he sells. Given that the investments have grown from $9,000 to $105,000, that's potentially significant capital gains tax. If he's planning to hold these investments long-term anyway, the gift approach works well. But if he wants to liquidate soon after receiving them, you might want to factor in the tax impact on his side. Sometimes it makes sense to sell some positions while they're still in your names (especially if you're in a lower tax bracket) and gift the cash proceeds instead, depending on your respective tax situations. Also, make sure your brokerage can handle the transfer properly with correct basis reporting. Some brokers are better than others at tracking gifted securities and providing the right tax documents.

You're dealing with a common but tricky situation. The good news is that gifting stocks directly to your son won't trigger capital gains for you - it's not considered a taxable event for the giver. However, your son will inherit your original cost basis (around $9,000), so he'll owe capital gains tax on the full $96,000 appreciation when he eventually sells. Given the $105,000 value, you have two main paths: 1) **Spread it over 3 years**: Gift $38,000 worth of shares annually (you and your wife each using your $19,000 annual exclusion). This avoids any gift tax paperwork entirely. 2) **Transfer everything at once**: You'd need to file Form 709 for the amount over $38,000, but likely wouldn't owe actual gift tax unless you've already used up significant portions of your lifetime exemption ($13.99 million per person in 2025). Before deciding, definitely check what tax bracket your son is in for capital gains. If he's in a higher bracket than you are, it might actually be more tax-efficient to sell some of the most appreciated positions while they're still in your names, then gift the proceeds. This strategy works especially well if you're in the 0% or 15% long-term capital gains bracket. Also, make sure your brokerage can properly document the gift with correct basis reporting for future tax filings.

One additional tip that might be helpful - you can actually verify that the IRS has your correct address on file by checking your online IRS account at irs.gov. If you create an account (or log into your existing one), you can view your tax records and see what address they currently have listed for you. This can give you peace of mind that your address update from your 2023 return was processed correctly. Also, since you mentioned being worried about correspondence related to your 2022 taxes, keep in mind that the IRS typically has three years from the filing date to audit or send notices about a return (with some exceptions). So if you filed your 2022 return on time in early 2023, you'd generally be looking at potential correspondence through early 2026. Having your address properly updated now should cover you for that entire period. If you do end up receiving any IRS mail at your old address (forwarded by USPS), that could be a sign that their system hasn't fully updated yet, and that would be a good time to file the Form 8822 just to be safe.

Great advice from everyone here! I just wanted to add that if you're still concerned about making sure the IRS has your correct address, you can also call their main customer service line at 1-800-829-1040 to verify. They can confirm what address they have on file for you over the phone. However, I'd recommend trying the online IRS account approach that Nina mentioned first, since it's much faster than waiting on hold. The phone line can be helpful as a backup if you can't access your online account for some reason. Also worth noting - if you do discover that your address isn't updated correctly, Form 8822 typically takes 4-6 weeks to process once submitted. So the sooner you file it (if needed), the better, especially since you mentioned being concerned about potential 2022 correspondence.

my sister used direct express last year took exactly 19 days hope this helps

I'm also waiting on my Direct Express refund! Filed on 1/6 and still showing "received" on WMR. The waiting game is brutal but from what I've read here and other forums, Direct Express follows the same timeline as regular DD. Just hang tight - you filed super early so you should be in one of the first waves. Keep checking your transcript too, sometimes it updates before WMR does.

I know this is slightly off topic from the exemption card, but has anyone else noticed that some online retailers don't charge sales tax even when they're supposed to? Not complaining obviously, but wondering if this is legal or if they're just breaking the rules?

Just to add some context to all the great information here - I work in state tax compliance and wanted to clarify a few things about sales tax exemptions. The diplomatic cards mentioned earlier are indeed real and legitimate, but they're very specific to foreign diplomatic personnel under international treaties. For regular citizens, the most common legitimate exemptions are actually medical-related. Many states offer sales tax exemptions on prescription medications, medical devices, and sometimes even over-the-counter items if you have certain qualifying conditions. Some states also have exemptions for clothing under a certain dollar amount or during specific tax-free weekends. If you're curious about what exemptions you might qualify for, your state's Department of Revenue website usually has a comprehensive list. It's much more limited than what diplomats get, but there are legitimate ways to reduce your tax burden without needing special cards!