This thread has been incredibly helpful! I'm dealing with a CP140 notice myself (just received it yesterday) and I'm taking notes on everyone's strategies. One question I haven't seen addressed yet - for those who successfully got interest or penalties removed, how long did the whole process take from start to finish? I'm trying to decide whether to pay immediately to stop additional interest from accruing, or wait to see if I can get some relief first. Also, did anyone run into issues with the IRS claiming they DID send previous notices even when you have proof you didn't receive them? I'm worried about getting into a "he said, she said" situation where they insist notices were sent but I have no way to prove I didn't get them.

I want to add one more resource that hasn't been mentioned yet - the Taxpayer Advocate Service (TAS). If you're having trouble getting the IRS to respond to your requests or if you're facing financial hardship because of this situation, you can contact TAS at 1-877-777-4778. They're an independent organization within the IRS that helps taxpayers resolve problems when normal channels aren't working. TAS can be particularly helpful if you're dealing with systemic issues like notices going to wrong addresses repeatedly, or if the IRS isn't responding to your abatement requests within reasonable timeframes. They have the authority to issue Taxpayer Assistance Orders that can stop collection actions while your case is being reviewed. I used TAS last year when the IRS kept insisting I owed money that I had already paid, and they were able to get everything sorted out within a few weeks when my own calls and letters weren't getting anywhere. It's a free service and they really advocate for you against the IRS bureaucracy. Worth keeping in your back pocket if the standard approaches don't work out.

Don't forget to look at your state tax rules too! In my state (Virginia), the rules for who can be claimed as a dependent follow federal rules, but the tax benefits can be different. My daughter works part-time while in college, and I claim her federally, but there's a special deduction in our state that she can claim on her state return even while being my dependent.

Just want to emphasize something that might save you stress later - make sure you and your dad are on the same page about who's claiming you BEFORE you both file. If you accidentally file as independent and your dad also claims you as his dependent, the IRS will send notices to both of you asking for documentation to prove who has the right to claim the exemption. This happened to my friend last year and it delayed both of their refunds by months while they sorted it out. The IRS basically freezes both returns until you provide proof of support. Since your dad is paying tuition and most expenses, he should definitely claim you, but just coordinate so you both file consistently from the start. Also, even though you're filing as a dependent, you might still be eligible for the Earned Income Tax Credit if your income is low enough, which could increase your refund beyond just getting back withheld taxes.

Something I don't see mentioned is that sometimes these billionaires DO sell stock. Musk has sold billions in Tesla stock at various points. When they do need to sell, they often offset gains with losses elsewhere in their portfolio (tax-loss harvesting) or time sales to coincide with charitable donations that provide tax deductions. They might also time some sales for years when they have business losses to offset the gains. It's not that they never sell - they just do it strategically and as a last resort, preferring to use the loan strategy for most of their cash needs.

One thing that's worth mentioning is that this strategy also depends heavily on having assets that consistently appreciate over time. The "buy, borrow, die" approach works great when your stock portfolio is growing at 7-10% annually, but it can become problematic during extended bear markets. If someone borrowed heavily against their portfolio and then the market crashed (like in 2008 or early 2020), they could face margin calls requiring them to either put up more collateral or sell assets at exactly the wrong time. This is why most wealthy individuals using this strategy maintain conservative loan-to-value ratios and have diversified asset bases. For billionaires like Musk, they often have multiple revenue streams and can weather market volatility, but it's not a risk-free strategy. The timing and amount of borrowing is crucial to avoid forced liquidations during market downturns.

Make sure you file as Head of Household if you're eligible! If you're unmarried, paid more than half the cost of keeping up your home for the year, and your daughter lived with you for more than half the year, you qualify. The HOH filing status gives you a higher standard deduction and better tax rates than filing as Single.

Document everything now while it's fresh! Keep records of: - School enrollment showing your address - Medical records with your address as primary contact - Daycare receipts and records - Any text messages where he acknowledges she lives with you - Bank statements showing you pay for her expenses - Utility bills showing she lives at your address Also, consider filing early if possible. While the IRS will sort out duplicate claims, getting your return in first can help avoid delays. If he does try to claim her and your e-filed return gets rejected, you can always mail in a paper return with all your supporting documentation. The stress is real, but you're clearly the custodial parent here. Your ex paying sporadic child support doesn't give him the right to claim her when she lives with you full-time. Stay strong and don't let him bully you into signing away your legitimate tax benefits!

This is such great timing! I was just about to start working on my 2022 taxes and was dreading the cost of tax software. I have a pretty straightforward situation - just W-2 income and standard deduction - so Free Fillable Forms sounds perfect for me. I really appreciate everyone sharing their experiences here. The tips about saving frequently and double-checking all the numbers are exactly what I needed to know. And it's good to hear that it stays available through the deadline since I'm definitely more of a March filer than a February filer! One thing I'm curious about - for those who've used it multiple years, do you find it gets easier the second time around? I'm wondering if I'll remember the process better next year or if it's still going to feel like starting from scratch each time.

This is super helpful! I've been using TurboTax for years but my situation is pretty straightforward (W-2, some interest income, standard deduction) and I'm tired of paying $60+ every year for something I could probably do myself. The tip about making a list of needed forms from last year's return is brilliant - I never would have thought of that. And good to know about the math limitations, especially around the actual tax calculation. I'm comfortable with basic math so that shouldn't be a problem. Quick question for anyone who's made the switch from paid software - did you feel like you missed out on any deductions the first year you switched to Free Fillable Forms? That's my biggest worry about doing it myself.