Can the father claim our child on taxes if we're separated and not living together?

The general rule is that the custodial parent (the parent the child lives with for the majority of the year) has the right to claim the child as a dependent. Since your daughter lives with you full-time, you're considered the custodial parent and have the primary right to claim her. Child support payments don't automatically give the non-custodial parent the right to claim the child. Your ex can only claim your daughter if you sign Form 8332 (Release of Claim to Exemption for Child by Custodial Parent), which transfers the right to claim the dependent to him. Without your signature on this form, he shouldn't be claiming her. If both of you claim the child, the IRS will likely reject the second return filed. If that happens, they'll audit both returns and determine who has the right to claim based on residency, relationship, and support tests. Since your daughter lives with you full-time, you'd likely win this determination.

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After dealing with THREE YEARS of back-and-forth with the IRS because my ex and I both claimed our kid (nightmare!), I discovered Claimyr (https://claimyr.com). I had been trying to get through to the IRS for months to fix the situation but kept getting disconnected or waiting for hours. Claimyr got me connected to an actual IRS agent in about 20 minutes instead of the hours I was spending on hold before hanging up in frustration. I was able to explain my situation, provide documentation proving I was the custodial parent, and get everything sorted out. They have a demo video that shows exactly how it works: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c After the call, the IRS sent me a letter confirming I had the right to claim my child and released my refund that had been held up. Such a relief after all that stress!

OK I need to publicly eat my words here. After calling BS on Claimyr in my comment above, my tax situation with my ex got even worse when we both claimed our son and BOTH our refunds got frozen. I was desperate so I tried Claimyr anyway, figuring I had nothing to lose. I honestly can't believe it worked. Got connected to an IRS agent in about 15 minutes after weeks of trying myself and getting nowhere. The agent was able to see both our returns, confirmed that since my son lives with me more than half the year I had the right to claim him, and started the process to release my refund. They're sending me a letter confirming everything. My ex is gonna have to file an amended return. So yeah, I was wrong. It actually does what they say it does. Saved me from waiting until probably August to get my refund.

One thing I haven't seen mentioned here yet - if there's a formal custody agreement or divorce decree, check if it specifies who gets to claim the child for taxes. Sometimes these agreements include provisions about alternating years or specific arrangements about who claims the child. If there is language in a court order that says your ex gets to claim the child for certain years, that could potentially override the IRS rules - you'd be legally obligated to sign Form 8332 in that case. But if there's no formal agreement OR if the agreement gives you the right to claim your child, then you're absolutely entitled to claim her as your dependent since she lives with you full-time.

Make sure you file as Head of Household if you're eligible! If you're unmarried, paid more than half the cost of keeping up your home for the year, and your daughter lived with you for more than half the year, you qualify. The HOH filing status gives you a higher standard deduction and better tax rates than filing as Single.

Document everything now while it's fresh! Keep records of: - School enrollment showing your address - Medical records with your address as primary contact - Daycare receipts and records - Any text messages where he acknowledges she lives with you - Bank statements showing you pay for her expenses - Utility bills showing she lives at your address Also, consider filing early if possible. While the IRS will sort out duplicate claims, getting your return in first can help avoid delays. If he does try to claim her and your e-filed return gets rejected, you can always mail in a paper return with all your supporting documentation. The stress is real, but you're clearly the custodial parent here. Your ex paying sporadic child support doesn't give him the right to claim her when she lives with you full-time. Stay strong and don't let him bully you into signing away your legitimate tax benefits!