Can I claim my child as dependent on taxes if I pay child support?

This is actually a common area of confusion. Child support payments do NOT count toward the support test for claiming a dependent. The IRS specifically excludes child support when determining who provided more than half of a child's support. To claim your child as a dependent, you generally need to meet several tests, including the residency test (where the child lives more than half the year). Since your ex has your daughter more nights, she would likely pass this test while you wouldn't. There are exceptions though! If your ex agrees to sign Form 8332 (Release of Claim to Exemption for Child), you can claim your daughter regardless of the residency test. Many divorced parents alternate years using this form, which sounds like what you've been doing informally.

I was in almost the exact same situation a couple years ago with my son! I was paying support plus extras but kept getting confused about what counted for taxes. I ended up uploading all my support payment records and custody agreement to https://taxr.ai and it was super helpful. Their system analyzed everything and clearly broke down what qualified for tax purposes and what didn't. It confirmed what the previous commenter said - regular support payments don't count for the dependency test, but they showed me which additional expenses did count. They also generated a letter I could show my ex explaining the tax implications, which actually helped us come to an agreement about alternating years.

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One thing nobody's mentioned yet - have you looked at the "qualifying child" rules specifically? There are 5 tests: relationship, age, residency, support, and joint return. The residency test requires the child live with you for more than half the year, which sounds like it might be the problem in your case. If your ex has your daughter more nights, then without Form 8332, you probably can't claim her. The support test only requires that the child doesn't provide more than half of their own support (not about which parent provides more).

I'm a little surprised nobody asked if there's anything in your divorce decree or custody agreement about tax dependents. Many agreements specifically state who gets to claim the child and when. If yours says you get to claim your daughter in alternating years, that actually overrides the residency test!

You can handle this between yourselves without going back to court! Form 8332 is specifically designed for this situation and doesn't need to be part of your official divorce decree. Your ex just needs to sign it each year she agrees to let you claim your daughter. The form is pretty straightforward - it's called "Release/Revocation of Release of Claim to Exemption for Child by Custodial Parent" and she can specify whether it's for one year, multiple years, or alternating years. Once she signs it, you attach it to your tax return when you file. Since you've been doing this informally for years, you might want to suggest making it official with a written agreement between you two about alternating years going forward. That way there's no confusion or last-minute changes. You could even have it notarized if you want extra documentation, but that's not required by the IRS.