Should I take SS at 62 with low benefits or wait for higher spousal benefits from husband who took early retirement?
I'm drowning in confusion about spousal benefits vs. my own Social Security! I'll be turning 62 this December and seriously considering filing early. My situation is complicated - my husband (69) started drawing his SS at 65 because of a heart condition and his construction business tanking during the pandemic. He gets about $1,850 monthly now. I've only worked part-time for the last 12 years after being a stay-at-home mom for decades. According to my statement, my own benefit would be around $375/month if I take it at 62. But I keep hearing about spousal benefits being 50% of my husband's amount? Would that be better for me? I honestly can't keep working much longer - I'm now taking care of my mother with dementia plus helping with our 3 grandkids while my daughter works. My knees are giving out from years of standing at my retail job. Can someone PLEASE explain if I should take my own benefit or if there's a spousal benefit that would be higher? And does it matter that my husband took HIS benefit early? I feel like every article I read contradicts the last one!!!
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Miguel Herrera
The 50% spousal benefit applies when you wait until your Full Retirement Age (FRA), which would be 67 for you. But since you're looking to claim at 62, you'd get approximately 32.5% of your husband's Primary Insurance Amount (PIA) - that's what he would have received at his FRA before any reductions for his early claiming. So if your husband's PIA was about $2,200 (estimating based on his current reduced benefit), your spousal benefit at 62 would be roughly $715 per month. Since that's higher than your own $375 benefit, you'd receive your own benefit plus the difference to bring you up to the spousal amount. And yes, you can claim on his record even though he took his benefits early. His early filing doesn't reduce your spousal benefits - those are based on his PIA, not his actual benefit amount.
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Ava Thompson
AuthorThank you for explaining! So I'd get around $715 instead of $375? That's a big difference! But I'm still confused about one thing - would I be applying for my own benefit or specifically for a spousal benefit? And does Social Security automatically give me whichever is higher or do I need to request something specific when I apply?
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Zainab Ali
DONT LISTEN TO THAT OTHER PERSON!!! They are WRONG about the 32.5%!!! When you take spousal benefits early the reduction is MORE than with regular benefits - it's closer to 30% at age 62!!! My sister did this last year and got WAY less than she expected because nobody told her about the bigger reduction!!! And there's ANOTHER THING no one tells you - if you take ANY benefits early, you're STUCK with the reduction FOREVER even after your husband dies and you switch to survivor benefits! The SSA doesnt explain this clearly AT ALL and then people are SHOCKED when they get tiny checks!
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Miguel Herrera
You're right that the reduction is different for spousal benefits - it's about 30% at age 62 (not 32.5% as I incorrectly stated). However, your information about survivor benefits isn't accurate. Taking spousal benefits early does NOT affect future survivor benefits. Those are calculated separately when the time comes, and you can get the full survivor benefit if you're at FRA when your spouse passes, regardless of when you took your retirement or spousal benefits.
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Connor Murphy
my mom just went thru this same thing last yr. she was gonna take her own benefit but when she applied they just automatically gave her the spousal one since it was higher. u dont have to do anything special they look at both and give u the better one.
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Ava Thompson
AuthorThat's really helpful to know - thank you! Did she apply online or go into the office? I've been trying to call SSA for weeks but can't get through to ask questions.
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Yara Nassar
I want to clarify something important: when you apply for Social Security at 62, you're technically applying for ALL benefits you're eligible for. The SSA will automatically give you the highest amount you qualify for. In your case, you'll receive your own retirement benefit PLUS a spousal add-on that brings the total up to your reduced spousal benefit amount. This is called the "deemed filing" rule. Based on your numbers, if your own benefit at 62 is $375 and your spousal benefit would be around $700 (approximately 32.5-35% of your husband's PIA), you'd receive about $700 total - not both amounts combined. One other consideration: taking benefits at 62 means you'll have a permanent reduction. If you can wait even a year or two, your monthly amount would increase noticeably. But I understand that's not always practical when health and family care issues are involved.
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Ava Thompson
AuthorThank you for explaining this so clearly! I didn't understand the "deemed filing" concept before. Waiting isn't really an option for me financially - with my mom's care costs and needing to quit my job, I need whatever income I can get now. It sounds like I'll get about double what I thought I would, which is such a relief!
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StarGazer101
I experienced the exact same situation last year - I was 62 and my husband had already been collecting for years due to health problems. I couldn't even get through to ask questions at my local office or on the phone - constant busy signals and disconnections. I wasted weeks trying. Finally I used Claimyr (claimyr.com) to get through to a real person at SSA. They connected me within about 20 minutes when I'd been trying for weeks on my own. The agent explained my entire spousal benefit situation and even helped me start my application while on the phone. You can see how it works in their video demo: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU It made a huge difference having someone explain my specific situation rather than trying to figure it out from conflicting online articles. The SSA rep confirmed I'd get about $680/month by taking benefits at 62 instead of the $340 I would have gotten on my own record.
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Ava Thompson
AuthorOh my gosh, thank you! I've been so frustrated trying to call. I'll definitely check this out because I really need to talk to someone who can look at our specific numbers and confirm what I'll receive.
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Keisha Jackson
When my wife turned 62 she was in a similar situation. Her own benefit would have been around $400 but she got almost $800 as a spousal benefit even though I took my own benefit early. It worked out fine for us.
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Paolo Romano
But did she work at all? The earnings test can really mess things up if you're under FRA and still working. My neighbor lost almost her entire benefit because she was still working part-time.
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Paolo Romano
Has anyone mentioned the earnings test yet? If you're going to keep working at all until you reach your full retirement age, Social Security will deduct $1 for every $2 you earn above the annual limit (which is $21,240 for 2025). This applies whether you're taking your own benefit or spousal benefits. I learned this the hard way - thought I could work part-time AND collect early Social Security, but ended up having most of my benefits withheld because I earned too much.
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Ava Thompson
AuthorThank you for mentioning this! I'm actually planning to quit working entirely due to caregiving responsibilities, so I don't think the earnings test will affect me. But that's really important for people to know!
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Yara Nassar
Since it seems you've decided to apply at 62, let me share a couple practical tips: 1. Apply online 3 months before you want benefits to start - so September if you turn 62 in December and want benefits to start right away. 2. Have your marriage certificate ready - they'll need this to process spousal benefits. 3. Benefits are paid the month after they're due, so your first payment would arrive in January for December benefits. 4. If you apply online, print or save every page before submitting. The SSA system sometimes glitches and you'll want proof of what you entered. 5. If you do need to speak with someone to confirm your specific benefit amounts, try calling right when they open (8am local time) or try the Claimyr service the other commenter mentioned - the wait times with SSA can be extremely frustrating otherwise.
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Ava Thompson
AuthorThis is such helpful advice - thank you! I'll start gathering my documents now and plan to apply in September. I'm relieved to finally understand how this works!
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Saleem Vaziri
Just wanted to add one more thing that might help - when you do apply, make sure to ask about Medicare enrollment too since you'll be turning 65 in a few years. If you're not getting employer insurance through your retail job anyway, you might want to understand the timeline for Medicare Part B enrollment to avoid any late penalties later. Also, I noticed you mentioned taking care of your mom with dementia - you might want to look into whether you qualify for any caregiver support programs in your area. Some states have respite care or other assistance that could help with the financial and physical burden. The Area Agency on Aging in your county would be a good place to start. Your situation sounds really challenging but it's clear you're making the responsible choice given your circumstances. Don't feel bad about taking benefits early when you genuinely need them - that's exactly what the program is there for.
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Gianna Scott
I just wanted to add one more practical tip that helped me when I applied for benefits - if you run into any issues with the online application or need to upload documents, you can also mail them to your local SSA office. Sometimes the online document upload feature doesn't work properly, and mailing can be more reliable. Also, since you mentioned having trouble getting through on the phone, another option is to schedule an appointment at your local Social Security office if you need to speak with someone in person. You can do this online at ssa.gov even if the phone lines are busy. Sometimes having that face-to-face conversation can help clarify any remaining questions about your specific situation. Your story really resonates with me - so many of us end up in these sandwich generation situations caring for both elderly parents and helping with grandchildren. You're doing an amazing job juggling everything, and taking your Social Security benefits early so you can focus on your family is absolutely the right decision. The extra income will make such a difference in your ability to provide the care your loved ones need.
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Aaron Lee
Thank you so much for the additional practical tips! The mailing option for documents is really good to know - I've had issues with online uploads before on other websites, so having that backup option gives me peace of mind. And I didn't know you could schedule appointments online even when the phones are busy - that's incredibly helpful! It's comforting to know I'm not alone in this "sandwich generation" situation. Some days it feels overwhelming trying to balance everyone's needs, but reading everyone's responses here has really helped me see that I'm making the right choice. The fact that so many people have been through similar situations and are willing to share their experiences and advice means the world to me. I feel like I have a solid plan now: apply online in September, have all my documents ready including marriage certificate, ask for exact calculations during the process, set up direct deposit, and know that I have backup options if the online system gives me trouble. This thread has been such a lifesaver - thank you all for your patience and wisdom!
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