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Need deceased husband's SSN for survivor benefits - already approved for Social Security

I just got approved for my own Social Security retirement in March, but then found out I qualify for my late husband's survivor benefits too! The problem is I can't find his social security number ANYWHERE. We've been divorced since 2011 (he passed in 2019) and I've moved twice since then. The SSA rep mentioned something about retroactive benefits going back 6 months from my application date (I applied in January 2025). Has anyone dealt with this? How can I get his SSN without having to hunt through decades of paperwork? Would the SSA office already have it on file somewhere since we were married for 22 years?

Sean O'Connor

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SSA should already have your marriage linked in their system. When you go to apply for survivors benefits, they can look up his record using your information (your marriage date, his name and date of birth). You don't necessarily need his exact SSN if they can locate him in their system. And yes, survivor benefits can be paid retroactively up to 6 months before your application date, but not earlier than when you became eligible. Since you're already receiving your own benefit, they'll pay you the difference if his benefit amount is higher.

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Thank you! That's such a relief. I was worried I'd need to provide his SSN specifically. I do have our marriage certificate somewhere. Should I bring that with me when I go to the SSA office?

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Zara Ahmed

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my mom went thru this last yr. bring ANY paperwork u have with his name/dob on it. old tax returns worked for her. the marriage certificate is good too. they made her wait like 3 hrs at the office tho so be ready for that!!

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Ugh, 3 hours? I was hoping to avoid that. My back can't handle those hard plastic chairs for that long. I think I have our old joint tax returns from 2010 in storage. I'll dig those out. Thanks!

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Luca Conti

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I totally understand your situation - been there! When my husband passed, I couldn't find ANY of his paperwork. The good news is the SSA has all that information already linked to your record. Just make sure you bring YOUR ID and social security card, proof of his death (death certificate), and your marriage certificate if you can find it. They should be able to look up everything else. And yes, the retroactive benefits are real - I got 5 months of back pay when I applied!

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Oh thank goodness. I have my ID and SS card, and I have a copy of his death certificate. I'll need to look for the marriage certificate, but it's reassuring to know they can work with me even if I don't have everything. And that's great about the back pay! That would really help with my roof repair.

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Nia Johnson

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They denied my survivor benefits because I couldn't find my marriage certificate! Said they needed proof even though we were married 30 years! The whole system is rigged against seniors who don't keep perfect records. MAKE SURE you find that marriage certificate or they'll give you the runaround too.

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Sean O'Connor

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That's unusual - SSA typically has marriage records in their system if you were married that long and especially if you ever filed taxes jointly. Did you request a reconsideration? Sometimes the first-level claims representatives make mistakes, and the reconsideration process often corrects these issues. You can also request a copy of your marriage certificate from the county where you were married.

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Nia Johnson

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No I just gave up after they were so rude to me. Maybe I should try again? It's been 8 months now. Can I still appeal?

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CyberNinja

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I've never heard of that before! Is it officially connected to SSA? I'm always wary of third-party services when it comes to something as important as Social Security.

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CyberNinja

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It's not run by SSA, but it's legitimate - they just help you get through the phone system faster. You still talk directly with actual SSA representatives. I was skeptical too but was desperate after waiting on hold for 3+ hours multiple days. My daughter actually found it for me after seeing my frustration.

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Mateo Lopez

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Here's what you need to know about survivor benefits after you're already collecting your own retirement: 1. You'll get the HIGHER of either your benefit or your husband's, not both 2. The 6-month retroactive payment is correct, but limited to months you were eligible 3. For his SSN: bring death certificate, marriage certificate if possible 4. If you were already at Full Retirement Age when you applied in January, you'll get 100% of his benefit amount if it's higher than yours I've helped several family members navigate this. The SSA has improved their record linkage systems - they can almost certainly find his record without the SSN if you provide enough identifying information about him.

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Thank you for laying it out so clearly! I am past my FRA (turned 67 last November). So if I understand correctly, they'll compare my current benefit ($2425/month) with what his would be, and I'll get whichever is higher? His earnings were always significantly higher than mine, so I assume his benefit would be more.

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Mateo Lopez

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That's exactly right. And since you're past FRA, you'll get 100% of his benefit amount (if it's higher), not a reduced percentage. Given that his earnings were significantly higher, you'll likely see a meaningful increase in your monthly benefit. The retroactive payments will be the difference between what you've received since January and what you should have received as a survivor.

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Aisha Abdullah

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i had same problem last year couldn't find my husbands ssn anywhere!!! what worked for me was i found an old life insurance policy that had it listed. check any insurance papers, old tax returns, maybe even old medical bills sometimes they have ssn on them. also if he was military his dd214 would have it.

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That's a great idea! He wasn't military, but we did have joint life insurance policies at one point. I'll check those files too. Thanks for the suggestion!

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Nia Johnson

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Why are you just now applying?? If he died in 2019 you should have applied right away! I bet you lost out on THOUSANDS of dollars by waiting. Social Security doesn't tell people this stuff on purpose so they save money.

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Mateo Lopez

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That's not entirely accurate. Survivor benefits for a spouse work differently depending on age. If the poster wasn't at retirement age when her husband passed in 2019, she may not have been eligible yet, or the benefit amount might have been reduced. Applying now that she's past Full Retirement Age means she gets the full 100% of his benefit amount (if it's higher than her own). The system is complex, but the delay might actually have been financially beneficial depending on her specific situation.

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I wasn't at retirement age when he passed, and I was still working full-time so I didn't even think about Social Security until I was getting ready to retire. I honestly didn't know I could get survivor benefits on top of my own retirement until a friend mentioned it recently.

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Zara Ahmed

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u might try county records office where u got married they can give u copy of marriage license. also check old tax returns that's how my aunt found my uncles ssn

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