Married filing separately or jointly? Should we switch after seeing a higher tax bill?

The decision between married filing jointly (MFJ) and married filing separately (MFS) can be tricky, but in most cases, filing jointly provides better tax benefits. What probably happened is that when you added your husband's W-2, the combined income pushed you into a higher tax bracket. Also, when you entered just your income, the software was likely calculating your standard deduction against only your income, which would show a refund. Once both incomes were entered, the total tax liability for both of you was correctly calculated. Before switching to MFS, you should know that many tax benefits are reduced or eliminated when filing separately - including student loan interest deductions, child tax credits, earned income credit, and education credits. The standard deduction is also halved for each spouse. Try running the numbers both ways in your tax software to see which gives you the better outcome, but don't be surprised if MFJ is still better despite owing some taxes.

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Look at your withholding on both W-2s, specifically box 2 (federal income tax withheld). If the combined withholding is less than about 15% of your combined income, that's probably why you're owing money. The issue isn't whether to file jointly vs separately - it's that you didn't have enough tax withheld throughout the year. Filing separately probably won't help and could hurt since you'll lose certain tax benefits. Instead, both of you should update your W-4s with your employers to have additional tax withheld each paycheck. You'll take home slightly less each month but won't get surprised at tax time.

Has anyone tried running the numbers both ways (MFJ and MFS) in their tax software? Most programs will tell you which one gives you the better outcome. When I was in a similar situation, I found that even though I owed money filing jointly, I would've owed even MORE filing separately!