That's actually super helpful! We are planning to set up a joint account right after the wedding, but I hadn't thought about the refund issue. Did you have any problems updating your name with the IRS after you got married? I'm taking his last name so I'm a little worried about that process too.

The name change process wasn't too bad, but make sure you update your name with Social Security first before doing anything with the IRS. The IRS system checks against the Social Security database, so if the names don't match, it can cause processing delays. For the refund situation, you could either wait to file until you have a joint account set up, or you could always have the refund sent to just one of your existing accounts temporarily. Some people even choose to get paper checks for this reason, though that takes longer.

What wedding expenses could possibly be tax deductible??? I've never heard of this!

How do you handle items that are partially personal and partially for business? Like if I get a pedicure and use it both for content but also just for personal reasons?

You need to calculate a reasonable business-use percentage. For example, if you get a pedicure primarily for content creation but also enjoy it personally, you might deduct 70-80% as a business expense. The key is being reasonable and consistent with your approach. If you're using something like a cell phone for both business and personal, you'd calculate what percentage is business use. Same with internet, clothing items, or beauty treatments. Just be prepared to explain your calculation method if ever questioned. And always keep good records showing the business purpose of each expense.

Yes! I use an independent CPA (not one my family knows) and just say I'm a "digital content creator" or "online media producer." They know what questions to ask about expenses and deductions without needing specific details about the content. Just find someone who works with a lot of social media people and online businesses.

Is the Credit for Other Dependents the same as the Foreign Dependent Credit mentioned earlier? Or are these two different credits I could potentially claim? And would my children still need to meet the residency test to qualify for this credit?

The Credit for Other Dependents is the official name of what some people call the Foreign Dependent Credit. They're the same thing - a $500 credit for dependents who don't qualify for the full Child Tax Credit. This is exactly what was created for situations like yours. No, your children don't need to meet the US residency test for this credit, which is why it works for dependents living abroad. They still need to qualify as your dependents under tax law, meaning you provide more than half their support. You'll claim this on your Form 1040 in the same section where the Child Tax Credit would be, but you'll indicate they qualify for this $500 credit instead.

That's incorrect advice and could get you in trouble. The IRS residency test requires the child to have the same principal residence as the taxpayer for more than half the year (183+ days). A 31-day visit doesn't meet this requirement.

That's a good point, I hadn't thought about that! When we switched payroll systems, I don't think I filled out a new W-4 for the second one - they might have just used default withholding which would explain the issue. Do you think it's worth asking my HR department if I can see what withholding settings they had for me on both systems?

Absolutely ask your HR department! They should be able to tell you exactly what withholding instructions they had on file for each system. Default withholding typically assumes you're single with no dependents and only one job, which often results in underwithholding if that's not your situation. I'd recommend getting copies of both W-4s they have on file, then filling out a new one with the correct multiple job calculations. The IRS has a good tax withholding estimator on their website that can help you get it exactly right for your situation.

It's not really that payroll systems are terrible - they're doing exactly what they're designed to do. The problem is they only know about the income they're processing. It's actually on us to tell our employers to withhold extra when we have multiple income sources.

That makes sense, but it still feels like the system is unnecessarily complicated. Like why can't the IRS just figure out how much I should be paying based on what I made last year and tell my employers? Seems like they deliberately make it confusing so people mess up and they collect penalties.

We don't have any student loans left fortunately, but my wife does have some consulting income on top of her regular job. That's a great idea about accelerating some business purchases - she was planning to upgrade her home office setup in January anyway. Is there a minimum amount of 1099 income needed to make this worthwhile?

There's no minimum threshold for 1099 income to take business deductions. As long as your wife's consulting work is a legitimate business activity (not just a hobby), she can deduct ordinary and necessary business expenses against that income. Since she was already planning the office upgrade, accelerating it into 2023 makes perfect sense. Just make sure the purchases are actually made and put into service before December 31st - ordering isn't enough, you need to receive and start using the items this year. Keep excellent records of the purchases and how they relate to her consulting work.

Donor-advised funds are amazing for tax planning! We did this last year and it worked great. You can even donate appreciated stock directly to the fund and avoid capital gains taxes completely while still getting the full deduction.