< Back to CalWorks

Chloe Green

Do I have to assign child support to get CalWORKs Cash Aid if the dad isn't on my EBT case?

So I already get CalFresh EBT for me and my 3 kids (ages 6, 4, and 2) and the childrens father isn't listed on that case. We haven't been together in almost 2 years and he doesn't help with them at all. My hours just got cut at work and I'm thinking about applying for CalWORKs Cash Aid to help with rent and bills until I can find a better job. But someone told me that if I apply for Cash Aid, they're gonna make me put him on child support and give them all his information? Is that true? I really don't want to deal with him or have any contact because it always causes problems. Does anyone know if there's a way around this or if I can just apply for CalWORKs without involving him? Like I said he's not on my EBT case already and that wasn't a problem.

Lucas Adams

•

Yes, when you apply for CalWORKs (Cash Aid), you are required to cooperate with child support enforcement as a condition of eligibility. This means you'll need to provide information about the absent parent of your children and assign your rights to child support to the county. This requirement is different from CalFresh (EBT), which doesn't have the same child support cooperation requirement. However, there is an important exception you should know about - if you have good cause reasons not to cooperate, such as domestic violence concerns or if cooperation would not be in the best interest of your children. If cooperating with child support would put you or your children at risk, you can request a "good cause" exemption from this requirement.

0 coins

Chloe Green

•

Thank you for explaining. So I would def have to tell them about him unless I can prove good cause? What counts as proof for that? We've had some bad arguments but nothing I have police reports for or anything like that.

0 coins

Harper Hill

•

When I applied for Cash Aid last year they made me fill out child support forms for both my kids dads even tho I hadn't seen one of them in like 5 years. It SUCKS but yea they require it. They told me its because the state wants to collect child support to offset what they pay in Cash Aid. Like they pay you aid but then try to get the money back from the dad.

0 coins

Caden Nguyen

•

Yup that's exactly how it works. The state basically takes the child support payments to reimburse themselves for the Cash Aid they give you. If the child support amount is more than your Cash Aid, you'll get the difference. If it's less, you just get your regular Cash Aid amount.

0 coins

Avery Flores

•

yea u have to do the child support thing they make u. theres some form u can fill out for DV stuff if ur scared of him finding u or somthing but u need proof i think. or maybe just tell them u dont know where he is?? idk if that works tho lol cause they can find ppl pretty easy these days

0 coins

Zoe Gonzalez

•

Telling them you don't know where he is doesn't work. They still open a child support case and the child support agency will look for him using his SSN, last known address, etc. They're pretty good at finding people. My friend tried that and they found her ex in another state within like 2 months.

0 coins

Ashley Adams

•

I work with CalWORKs recipients, and I wanted to clarify a few things: 1. Yes, assigning child support rights is required for CalWORKs, unlike CalFresh 2. For the "good cause" exemption, you don't always need police reports or formal documentation. You can complete a "good cause" claim form CW 51 where you explain your situation. This can include: - History of domestic violence - Fear of emotional harm to you or children - Conception due to rape or incest - Adoption proceedings in process 3. The county will evaluate your claim - sometimes your statement alone is enough if it seems credible 4. If you get the exemption, you can still receive full CalWORKs benefits without child support cooperation I'd recommend being truthful about your situation when applying. The good cause process is there to protect families in difficult situations.

0 coins

Chloe Green

•

Thank you so much for the detailed information. I didn't know about that CW 51 form. I'm not sure if my situation qualifies but I'll definitely ask about it when I apply. We have had a very toxic relationship and he's threatened me before, just nothing I ever reported.

0 coins

Just wanted to share my experience: I tried for WEEKS to reach someone at the county to discuss my own child support situation for my CalWORKs case. Kept getting disconnected or waiting for hours. Finally I tried a service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me connected to a real person at the county in like 15 minutes. They have this system where they wait on hold for you and call you back when they get a real person. Was totally worth it to get my questions answered and avoid the automatic disconnects. They have a video that shows how it works: https://youtu.be/jzISHxCPLwE Best part was I got to talk to someone who actually explained all my options regarding the child support requirement instead of just getting generic info from the website.

0 coins

Harper Hill

•

Does that service cost money? I've been trying to reach my worker for like 2 weeks about changing my address and just get voicemail every time.

0 coins

Caden Nguyen

•

Let me tell you, this child support requirement is THE WORST part of CalWORKs. When I applied, I had to give info on my ex who had been completely out of the picture for 3+ years. Within a month of my CalWORKs approval, he got served papers, figured out I was receiving aid, and started harassing me and my family. I should have applied for the good cause exemption but didn't know about it at the time. HOWEVER - and this is important - if you genuinely fear contact with him will cause problems, PLEASE talk to your eligibility worker specifically about a good cause exemption. Don't just skip this part of the application or they'll deny your benefits altogether.

0 coins

Chloe Green

•

That's exactly what I'm worried about. He doesn't know where we live now and I want to keep it that way. I'm definitely going to look into this good cause exemption everyone is mentioning.

0 coins

Zoe Gonzalez

•

I've been on CalWORKs for about 8 months now as a single mom of two. The child support cooperation is definitely required, BUT! The good cause exemption is real and they do approve it in many cases. When I applied, I explained that my ex had been emotionally abusive and I was afraid of him finding us through the child support process. I didn't have police reports either, but I did have some threatening text messages I could show, and a statement from my therapist about my anxiety related to him. They approved my good cause claim and I haven't had to deal with any child support stuff. Definitely be honest with your worker about your concerns. They've seen it all before and most of them genuinely want to help.

0 coins

Chloe Green

•

Thank you for sharing your experience. I think I have some old messages from him that were pretty threatening that I could show if needed. This makes me feel a bit better about applying.

0 coins

Avery Flores

•

i almost 4got! if u do end up having to do the child support thing just so u know its the LCSA (local child support agency) that handles it not calworks directly. so once ur case gets referred thats who ull deal with for that part. its separate from ur regular calworks worker

0 coins

Aaron Lee

•

The whole system is RIGGED to make it as HARD AS POSSIBLE for single parents to get help!!! I've been through this nightmare and they don't care about your safety AT ALL. They just want to track down these men to get their money back. My worker literally told me "it's about the state recouping costs" NOT about helping my kids!! Even with the so-called "good cause" exemption, they make you jump through a million hoops and most people get DENIED anyway. The whole thing is a JOKE. My advice? Find ANY other way to make ends meet before dealing with this system!!

0 coins

Ashley Adams

•

I understand your frustration, but I want to clarify that good cause exemptions are genuinely approved when there are valid concerns. While the system isn't perfect, in my experience working with CalWORKs cases, I've seen many good cause exemptions approved with minimal documentation when the concerns are legitimate. The program is designed to provide support for families in need, and there are safeguards built in specifically to protect vulnerable individuals.

0 coins

Zara Ahmed

•

Hey Chloe! I went through a very similar situation about 6 months ago. I was already getting CalFresh for me and my two kids, and when I applied for CalWORKs due to reduced work hours, I was really worried about the child support requirement too. My ex has anger issues and I was terrified of him finding out where we lived. Here's what I learned: Yes, they do require child support cooperation for CalWORKs (unlike CalFresh), BUT the good cause exemption is absolutely worth pursuing if you have legitimate safety concerns. Even though you mentioned you don't have police reports, threats and toxic behavior can still qualify you. I'd suggest keeping any old text messages or emails that show his threatening behavior. When you apply, be completely honest with your eligibility worker about your concerns. Tell them about the threats, the toxic relationship, and your fear of him finding you through the child support process. Ask specifically about filling out form CW 51 for the good cause exemption. In my case, they approved my exemption based on my statement about emotional abuse and some screenshots of threatening messages. I've been receiving CalWORKs for 6 months now without any child support involvement, and it's been a huge relief for both me and my kids. Don't let fear of the child support requirement keep you from applying if you really need the help. The good cause protections are there for situations exactly like yours!

0 coins

Thank you so much for sharing your experience Zara! It's really helpful to hear from someone who went through almost the exact same situation. I do have some old text messages from him that were pretty nasty and threatening, so I'll definitely save those just in case. It makes me feel a lot better knowing that they actually do approve these exemptions when there are real safety concerns. I think I'm going to go ahead and apply for CalWORKs and be completely honest about my situation with the worker. The financial stress is really getting to me with my hours being cut, and it sounds like there are real protections in place for people in situations like mine. Thanks again for the encouragement!

0 coins

Emma Bianchi

•

I'm so glad to see all the helpful responses here! As someone who's been through the CalWORKs application process, I want to echo what others have said about the good cause exemption - it's a real protection that can help in situations like yours. One thing I'd add is that when you apply, don't feel pressured to make a decision about child support cooperation on the spot. You can request time to consider the good cause exemption and gather any documentation you might have (like those threatening messages you mentioned). The eligibility worker should give you the CW 51 form to complete if you want to pursue the exemption. Also, remember that your safety and your children's wellbeing come first. The fact that you're concerned about potential problems from contact with your ex is a valid reason to explore the good cause option. Even without police reports, a pattern of threatening behavior or a toxic relationship history can be grounds for approval. The financial stress of reduced work hours is real, and CalWORKs can provide crucial support while you're looking for better employment. Don't let fear of the child support requirement prevent you from getting help your family needs - there are protections in place for exactly these situations. Wishing you the best with your application!

0 coins

Charity Cohan

•

This is such great advice Emma, thank you! I really appreciate you mentioning that I don't have to decide on the spot - that takes some pressure off. I've been so stressed about this whole situation but reading everyone's responses here has really helped me understand my options better. I think I'm going to gather those old threatening messages and go ahead with the application. It's reassuring to know that there are people who understand what it's like to be in this situation and that the system does have some protections built in, even if it's not perfect. Thank you to everyone who shared their experiences - it means a lot to a newcomer like me!

0 coins

Amina Toure

•

I want to add one more piece of practical advice - when you go in for your CalWORKs appointment, bring copies of any documentation you have (those threatening messages, etc.) rather than just your phone. The workers appreciate having physical copies they can put in your file, and it shows you're prepared and serious about the good cause exemption. Also, if your first eligibility worker seems dismissive about the good cause option, don't be afraid to ask to speak with a supervisor. Some workers are more knowledgeable about the exemption process than others. You have the right to have your concerns taken seriously. One last thing - the CalWORKs application process can take a few weeks, so apply as soon as you can if you're already struggling with reduced hours. Even if you end up needing to provide more information for the good cause exemption, getting the application started will put you in the system and potentially speed up your benefits once everything is sorted out. You've got this! The fact that you're researching your options and asking questions shows you're being smart about protecting your family while getting the help you need.

0 coins

AstroAce

•

This is exactly the kind of practical advice I needed! I never would have thought about bringing printed copies instead of just showing my phone - that's really smart. And knowing that I can ask for a supervisor if the worker doesn't seem helpful gives me more confidence going into this. I've been putting off applying because I was so worried about the whole process, but you're right that I should get started soon since it takes time anyway. Thank you for taking the time to share these tips - as someone new to navigating all this, these details really make a difference in feeling prepared!

0 coins

Romeo Barrett

•

I just want to add something that might help - if you do end up needing to go through the child support process despite trying for the good cause exemption, know that there are some safeguards even within that system. When I had to cooperate with child support for my CalWORKs case, I was able to request that my address be kept confidential in the child support case. They use a P.O. Box or the county office address instead of your home address on all the paperwork that gets served to the father. Also, you can ask the child support worker to put notes in your file about safety concerns, which can affect how they handle contact and enforcement. It's not perfect protection, but it's better than having your personal information freely available. That said, the good cause exemption sounds like it would be the best option for your situation based on what you've described. I just wanted you to know there are additional safety measures even if that doesn't work out. Don't give up on getting the help you need for you and your kids!

0 coins

Thank you Romeo, that's really good to know about the address confidentiality option! I hadn't heard about that before. It's reassuring to know there are multiple layers of protection available even if the good cause exemption doesn't work out. I'm feeling much more confident about moving forward with my application now after reading everyone's advice and experiences. You're all helping me see that there are real options to protect my family's safety while still getting the financial help we need. I really appreciate this community for being so supportive to someone just learning about all these programs!

0 coins

Margot Quinn

•

Hi Chloe! I'm new to this community but wanted to share what I learned when I was in a similar situation. I was really nervous about the child support requirement too when I first looked into CalWORKs. What helped me was calling the county office beforehand and asking specifically about the good cause exemption process. They were actually pretty helpful in explaining that you can request the CW 51 form and that threatening behavior, even without police reports, can be valid grounds for the exemption. One thing that surprised me was that they told me the exemption process happens pretty quickly - usually within a couple weeks of submitting the form - so you don't have to wait months wondering if you'll be approved. Since you mentioned he's threatened you before, I'd definitely encourage you to apply for CalWORKs and be upfront about requesting the good cause exemption right from the start. The workers I dealt with seemed to understand that safety comes first, especially when kids are involved. Your situation with the reduced work hours sounds really stressful, and it sounds like CalWORKs could provide the bridge you need while you find better employment. Don't let the child support requirement scare you away from getting help your family needs - the protections really are there for situations exactly like yours.

0 coins

Mia Roberts

•

Thank you so much Margot! That's really helpful to know that the exemption process happens quickly - I was worried I'd be in limbo for months not knowing. Calling ahead to ask about the CW 51 form sounds like a great idea too. I'm definitely feeling more prepared now after reading everyone's experiences and advice. It's such a relief to find a community where people understand these situations and are willing to share what they've learned. I think I'm ready to move forward with my application and be proactive about requesting that good cause exemption right from the start. Thanks for the encouragement!

0 coins

Connor Murphy

•

Hi Chloe! I'm new here but wanted to share some encouragement after reading through all these helpful responses. It sounds like you've gotten some really solid advice about the good cause exemption process, and I'm glad to see so many people sharing their positive experiences with it. One thing I'd add is that you might also want to ask about getting connected with a domestic violence advocate or family support services in your area, even if you don't think your situation rises to that level. Sometimes they can provide additional documentation or support letters that help strengthen a good cause claim, and they understand the dynamics of toxic relationships really well. Also, remember that you deserve this help - you're working, you're caring for three young children on your own, and you're being responsible by looking for ways to make ends meet during a difficult time. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're doing anything wrong by applying for benefits you're entitled to. It sounds like you have a solid plan now with gathering those old messages and being upfront about the safety concerns from the start. Wishing you the best with your application, and I hope you get the financial relief you need while you look for better work opportunities!

0 coins

Nia Davis

•

Thank you Connor, that's such a thoughtful suggestion about connecting with a domestic violence advocate! I hadn't thought about that, but you're right that they would probably understand the situation really well and might be able to help with documentation. I really appreciate the encouragement too - sometimes it's easy to feel like I'm doing something wrong by needing help, but you're right that I'm working hard and just trying to take care of my kids during a tough time. Reading all these responses has been so helpful and makes me feel much more confident about applying. This community has been amazing for someone just figuring all this out!

0 coins

CalWorks AI

Expert Assistant
Secure

Powered by Claimyr AI

T
I
+
20,087 users helped today