Can my parents claim my son for CalWORKs if they provide childcare while I work full-time?
Hi everyone, I'm in a complicated situation and really need advice about CalWORKs eligibility. My parents are seniors on Social Security - they only get about $32 per month combined from CalWORKs (separate from their SS benefits). They watch my 4-year-old son Monday through Friday including overnight while I work full-time. I'm a single mom making around $3000/month, but after rent, car payment, insurance, phone, utilities, and everything else, I'm still struggling badly (visiting food pantries regularly just to make ends meet). I don't qualify for CalWORKs because of my income, but could my parents claim my son on their case since he's with them 5 nights a week? If they add me to their household, they'd lose benefits because of my income. But without some help, this arrangement isn't sustainable. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation with grandparents providing childcare?
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Mateusius Townsend
Your parents might be able to apply for a Non-Needy Caretaker Relative (NNCR) CalWORKs case for your son if they can prove they have primary responsibility for him. But there are some important things to consider: 1. They'd need to show they're the primary caregivers (having him overnight 5 days a week helps with this) 2. Your income wouldn't count against their case if you're not in their household 3. They would need to comply with child support requirements, meaning the county would pursue child support from your son's father (if he's in the picture) 4. The CalWORKs benefit would be just for your son, not increased benefits for your parents I'd recommend they contact their eligibility worker to discuss this specific situation. The worker can tell them exactly what documentation they'll need to prove the caregiving arrangement.
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Demi Hall
•Thank you so much! I hadn't heard of a Non-Needy Caretaker Relative case before. His father isnt in the picture at all and doesn't pay support so that shouldn't be an issue. Would my parents need formal guardianship papers or would statements from me and them be enough? I'm worried about making this official in case it affects my custody rights.
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Kara Yoshida
I went thru something similar with my mom watching my kids. You don't need official court guardianship - just a statement explaining the living arrangement. BUT they'll ask you for a bunch of verification - school records showing where he stays, doctors statements, maybe even neighbor statements. They're super picky about it.
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Philip Cowan
•This is correct - they'll need what's called a "Statement of Facts to Support Eligibility" (CW 2.1 form) where both you and your parents detail the caregiving arrangement. Since this is a regular, ongoing arrangement (not just occasional babysitting), they have a good case. If your son is enrolled in preschool, having your parents listed as emergency contacts and authorized pickup people helps too. The key is proving this is a stable, continuous arrangement where they have significant caretaking responsibility.
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Caesar Grant
Your parents actually mite qualify for "child only" CalWORKs which gives money for just ur child without counting there income or your income!!!! Its way more than $32 too. My sister gets like $500 something for her grandson this way cuz his mom is working. But watch out cuz they might ask where you live and if u live together then your income counts again an messes everything up!
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Lena Schultz
•This is wrong information. If they all live in the same house, the county will absolutely count the parent's income. You can't just say the child lives with grandparents if they all share the same residence. That's fraud and can get you in serious trouble. They investigate these situations thoroughly.
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Gemma Andrews
I tried calling the county office about a similar situation when my niece was staying with me, but I was on hold FOREVER and then got disconnected THREE TIMES. So frustrating!! Eventually I found Claimyr.com which got me through to a real person in less than 10 minutes. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/jzISHxCPLwE - definitely made it way easier to talk to someone who could actually explain my options.
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Pedro Sawyer
•I had the same issue trying to reach someone about my CalWORKs case! Does this service cost money? I'm so tired of waiting on hold for hours just to get disconnected right when they finally answer.
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Gemma Andrews
•Yes there is a fee but it was worth it to me because I was able to get actual answers instead of wasting my whole day on hold. They don't answer their phones half the time anyway.
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Philip Cowan
To clarify some of the confusion here: your parents would be applying for what's officially called a "Non-Needy Caretaker Relative" CalWORKs case. Here's what that means: 1. The benefit is only for your child (called a "child-only" case) 2. Your parents' Social Security income is NOT counted against the child's eligibility 3. Your income is NOT counted since you wouldn't be part of that household for benefit purposes 4. Legal custody remains with you - this is about financial benefits only 5. Your child would receive cash aid (likely $550-650 per month depending on your county) 6. Your child would automatically qualify for Medi-Cal However, they must be able to verify that your son genuinely stays with them 5 nights per week. The county will likely request proof like school records showing their address, medical records, and statements from both you and them confirming the arrangement.
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Demi Hall
•Thank you so much for breaking this down! So my son could get around $600/month in aid which would really help with his expenses. Do they look at my parents' rental agreement too? They're not on the lease - they live with my brother who owns the house. Would that be a problem?
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Philip Cowan
•That's a good question. They'll need to verify your parents' residence. If they're not on a lease, they can submit a "Statement of Facts - Housing" form explaining their living situation. Your brother would need to provide a letter confirming they and your son live there. The county may ask for proof that the housing is adequate for your child (has enough space, is safe, etc.). This isn't usually a problem, but they do need to establish that your parents have a stable living situation where your son stays regularly.
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Pedro Sawyer
I just want to warn you that applying for this can be SUPER frustrating!!! When my mom tried to get benefits for my kids while I was working, they kept sending us in circles with paperwork. Then they'd lose documents we already submitted and make us start over. The whole process took almost 3 months and we had to file an appeal before they finally approved it. Just be prepared to be patient and keep copies of EVERYTHING you submit!!!
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Kara Yoshida
•OMG same thing happened to me!!! I submitted the same proof of address THREE TIMES because they kept "losing" it. So annoying.
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Mateusius Townsend
One more important thing to consider: If your parents get approved for CalWORKs for your son, they should also immediately apply for CalWORKs childcare assistance. Since they're providing childcare that allows you to work, they may qualify for subsidized childcare payments through the CalWORKs Stage 1 Child Care program. This is a separate application process, but it could provide additional financial support to your parents for watching your son. Also, make sure they report this change to their current CalWORKs worker right away. Their current tiny benefit might change or end when they start a new child-only case for your son.
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Demi Hall
•Wait, they could actually get PAID for watching him too? That would be amazing! My mom had to stop her part-time job to watch him so we could save on daycare costs (which were more than I could afford). Is there anywhere I can learn more about this childcare assistance program?
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Lena Schultz
Just pointing out something important - if your parents get approved for a child-only case, they'll have to submit a SAR-7 report every 6 months and a SAWS-2 recertification once a year. Make sure they report accurately and on time or benefits can stop. Also they need to report within 10 days if your living arrangement changes (like if your son stops staying with them 5 nights a week). The county sometimes does home visits to verify living situations for these types of cases.
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Caesar Grant
•they dont do home visits anymore since covid!! they just ask for papers now
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Demi Hall
Thank you everyone for all this information! I'm going to help my parents apply for the Non-Needy Caretaker Relative case for my son. We'll gather all the documentation showing he stays with them during the week while I work. I'll also look into the childcare assistance program - that could be a game-changer for us financially. I really appreciate all your advice and warnings about the application process. I'll make sure to keep copies of everything and follow up regularly. This community has been so helpful!
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Philip Cowan
•Good luck! One last tip: when your parents apply, make sure they specifically ask for a "child-only" or "Non-Needy Caretaker Relative" case right from the start. Sometimes eligibility workers automatically try to include all household members, which would complicate things. Being clear about the type of case they're applying for can save a lot of confusion. Come back and let us know how it goes!
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Isabella Costa
Just wanted to add that when your parents submit their application, they should ask for expedited processing if possible. Since you mentioned you're visiting food pantries and struggling financially, they might qualify for emergency assistance which can speed up the approval process. Also, if your son is already enrolled in any programs like WIC or receives free school meals, bring those documents too - it helps establish his needs and your family's financial situation. The eligibility worker should also inform your parents about other resources like food stamps (CalFresh) that your son might qualify for as part of their household. Every little bit helps when you're trying to make ends meet!
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Isla Fischer
•This is really great advice about expedited processing! I didn't know that was even an option. My son does get free breakfast and lunch at his preschool, so I'll make sure my parents bring those documents. And yes, we definitely need to look into CalFresh too - every bit of help would make such a difference right now. Thank you for mentioning the emergency assistance possibility - with how tight things are financially, that could really help us get through while we wait for approval.
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Marcus Patterson
I'm new to this community but wanted to share that I went through a very similar situation last year with my grandmother caring for my daughter. The Non-Needy Caretaker Relative case was a lifesaver for us! A few things that helped our application go smoother: 1) We had my daughter's pediatrician write a letter confirming she receives regular care at my grandmother's address, 2) The preschool provided documentation showing my grandmother as the primary emergency contact and daily pickup person, and 3) We kept a simple log for a month showing which nights she stayed where (even though it was consistent, having it written down helped). The whole process took about 6-8 weeks, but the $587/month we now receive for my daughter has made such a huge difference. Also definitely apply for CalFresh at the same time - my daughter qualified for about $200/month in food benefits as part of my grandmother's household. Don't give up if they ask for additional documentation - it's normal and they're just making sure everything is legitimate. Wishing you and your family the best!
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