CalFresh recertification with no formal income - how to report boyfriend's cash support?
I'm due for my CalFresh recertification next month and I'm stressing about the income verification part. I've been a stay-at-home mom since my twins were born 8 months ago, so I don't have any paystubs or official income. My boyfriend (not married) gives me about $500 cash each week to cover expenses, but it's not through any formal arrangement - just cash he hands me. How do I report this during recertification? Do I count his money as my income even though we're not married? Will they deny my benefits because I can't show "official" proof? Last time I certified, I was still working, so this is new territory for me. I'm worried they'll think I'm hiding income if I say I don't work, but also don't know how to document the cash from my boyfriend. What paperwork can I possibly show?
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Laila Fury
they'll want you to list him as part of ur household if he lives with you and the kids. if he doesn't live with you, you need to report the cash as unearned income but ask for a "client statement form" where you can explain the situation. they might ask for a statement from him too. but def don't hide it cause that's fraud and they can check bank accounts.
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Hazel Garcia
•He doesn't live with us - he has his own place. So I should tell them about the cash he gives me? I'm just worried because I deposit some of it in my account but not all of it. Will they ask for my bank statements?
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Geoff Richards
For CalFresh recertification, you need to report all income, including cash gifts or support from non-household members. Since your boyfriend doesn't live with you, he's not part of your household, but the money he gives you counts as "unearned income" or "cash contributions." Here's what you should do: 1. On the recertification form (SAR7/SAWS2), report the cash as "other income" or "contributions" 2. Be ready to sign an affidavit (statement under penalty of perjury) explaining where the money comes from 3. The eligibility worker might ask your boyfriend to provide a written statement confirming the amount he gives you Being honest is important. The income might reduce your benefits slightly, but hiding it could lead to an overpayment case later which is much worse. They don't always ask for bank statements during recertification, but they can if they need to verify your information.
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Hazel Garcia
•Thank you for the detailed response! This makes me feel better. I'll definitely report it honestly. Do you know if there's a specific form he should use for his statement, or can he just write a letter explaining what he gives me?
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Simon White
omg i literally went through this EXACT thing last year!!! except it was my baby's father giving me money while i stayed with my mom. they made me fill out a statement saying how much he gives me and how often and they counted it as "contribution income" but i still got benefits! just be honest because they can check ur bank statements if they want to and then you'd be in big trouble for fraud
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Hazel Garcia
•That's such a relief to hear someone went through the same thing! Did you have to show bank statements or anything? And did they make the baby's father sign anything too?
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Hugo Kass
be REAL careful with this! my sister got in trouble for not reporting boyfriend money and they cut her off for 6 months as a penalty. they said she committed fraud even tho she didn't know she had to report it. they made her pay back like $2000 in benefits too. the system is DESIGNED to catch people. they probably already know about your boyfriend from other government databases.
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Hazel Garcia
•Oh no, that's scary! I definitely don't want to get in trouble. I had no idea they could connect information like that. Thanks for the warning!
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Nasira Ibanez
Just to clarify some information shared here. For CalFresh in 2025, when someone not in your household gives you money regularly, it's considered a "regular contribution" and must be reported. However, if your boyfriend isn't living with you AND isn't the father of your children, you don't need to include him in your household. At your recertification interview, explain your situation clearly. You'll likely need to complete a Statement of Facts (SAWS 2) and possibly a supplemental statement about the cash contributions. Be prepared with: 1. A written statement from you explaining your arrangement 2. A statement from your boyfriend confirming the amount and frequency 3. Any bank statements showing deposits (if requested) Also, since you mentioned WIC in your original post - remember that CalFresh and WIC have different reporting requirements, so make sure you're following the correct procedures for each program.
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Geoff Richards
•This is excellent advice. I'd just add that the Income Reporting Threshold (IRT) for CalFresh is important to understand too. For a household with one adult and twins, your IRT is probably around $2,700/month in 2025. The $500/week contribution puts you at about $2,000/month, which is likely below your IRT but still needs to be reported at recertification.
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Khalil Urso
Have you tried calling the CalFresh office? I spent DAYS trying to get through about a similar situation and kept getting disconnected. Finally, I found this service called Claimyr that got me through to a real person in like 15 minutes! You can see how it works at https://youtu.be/eZ19FHRETv8?si=_CXnXqNXbLl26WB8. Seriously saved me so much stress. Their website is claimyr.com - way better than waiting on hold for hours. The worker I talked to was actually super helpful and just had me write out a statement about my situation.
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Hazel Garcia
•I haven't tried calling yet because I was worried about the wait times. I'll check out that service if I can't get through. Did they make you provide any specific documentation for your situation?
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Myles Regis
You need to tell them EXACTLY how much money your boyfriend gives you and how often. Don't round up or down. If it varies week to week keep a log for a month and calculate the average. They'll want you to fill out a "Statement of Financial Support" form. I'm pretty sure they can check your bank records even without asking you first - they have ways to verify everything these days.
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Simon White
•thats not true, they cant just look at your bank account without permission! they can REQUEST your bank statements but you have to sign a release form first. but yea if you refuse it looks suspicious and they might deny your case
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Laila Fury
hey btw dont forget u can also apply for calworks since ur taking care of kids with low income. its cash aid not just food benefits like calfresh. the income limits higher in 2025 too.
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Hazel Garcia
•I didn't think about CalWORKs! Is that different from CalFresh? Would I need to do a separate application? I'm definitely struggling with just the food benefits.
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Geoff Richards
One more thing to consider: Make sure you're claiming all possible deductions during your CalFresh recertification. Since you have young children, you may be eligible for: 1. Child care deduction - even if a relative watches your children occasionally and you pay them 2. Medical expenses for the children if they exceed $35/month 3. Excess shelter costs if your rent/utilities are high relative to your income These deductions can significantly increase your benefit amount even after reporting your boyfriend's contributions. Remember to bring documentation of these expenses to your recertification appointment.
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Hazel Garcia
•This is SO helpful! I do pay my sister to watch the twins sometimes when I have appointments. And our rent is really high - about $1850/month for a 1-bedroom. I had no idea I could deduct these things!
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Brian Downey
i didnt report my boyfriends money for like 2 years and nothing happened lol. they never checked my bank or anything. just sayin
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Nasira Ibanez
•I strongly advise against this approach. While some people may temporarily avoid detection, CalFresh regularly conducts Income Eligibility Verification System (IEVS) checks and fraud investigations. The penalties for intentional program violations include disqualification, repayment of benefits, and potentially criminal charges. It's simply not worth the risk.
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Laura Lopez
I'm a case worker and wanted to add some practical tips for your recertification. When you go in, be upfront about your situation - tell them you're a stay-at-home mom receiving cash support from your boyfriend who doesn't live with you. They'll have you complete a client statement form explaining the arrangement. For the $500 weekly ($2,000/month), this will count as unearned income but likely won't disqualify you - it might just reduce your benefit amount slightly. The key is being honest from the start. If they do request bank statements later and see unexplained deposits, that's when you could face problems. Also, since you mentioned twins, make sure to ask about the dependent care deduction if you ever pay anyone to watch them, even family members. And with that high rent you mentioned in another comment ($1,850), you should definitely qualify for the excess shelter deduction which could help offset the income from your boyfriend's support. Good luck with your recertification!
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Nia Harris
•Thank you so much for the insider perspective! This is exactly what I needed to hear from someone who actually processes these cases. I feel much more confident about being upfront during my recertification now. I definitely want to ask about that dependent care deduction since I do pay my sister occasionally, and the excess shelter deduction sounds like it could really help with our high rent. It's reassuring to know that the $2000/month probably won't disqualify me completely. I really appreciate you taking the time to give such detailed advice!
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Emma Swift
I just went through my recertification last month with a similar situation! I'm also a single mom receiving regular cash from my ex (not through court-ordered support, just informal help). My caseworker was actually really understanding when I explained everything upfront. What helped me was keeping a simple notebook for about 6 weeks before my appointment where I wrote down every time he gave me money and the amount. Even though it wasn't always exactly the same, having that record showed I was being transparent about reporting it accurately. They had me fill out a client statement form explaining the arrangement, and they also sent a form to my ex to confirm the amounts. The whole process was way less scary than I thought it would be! My benefits did go down a little bit, but not nearly as much as I feared. And honestly, having everything documented properly gave me so much peace of mind. Don't stress too much - just be honest and bring any records you have. The caseworkers deal with situations like this all the time.
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Lena Kowalski
•This is such great advice! I love the idea of keeping a notebook to track the amounts - that seems like it would really help show I'm being honest about everything. Did your ex have any issues with filling out the confirmation form they sent him? I'm a little worried about asking my boyfriend to deal with paperwork, but it sounds like it's pretty straightforward. How long did the whole process take from your recertification interview to getting your new benefit amount?
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