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Kayla Jacobson

Which parent should complete FAFSA when we alternate claiming child on taxes?

I'm totally confused about who should fill out the FAFSA for my daughter who's starting college next fall. My ex and I have a custody arrangement where we alternate claiming her on taxes (I claimed her for 2023, he claimed her for 2024). We've been doing this rotation for years with no issues. But now with this new FAFSA system, I have no idea if it matters which one of us completes the application. Will her financial aid be affected by which parent fills it out? Does it have to be the parent who claimed her on the most recent taxes? We're both willing to help with college costs, but our incomes are pretty different. Any advice would be super appreciated!!

For the 2025-2026 FAFSA, the parent who provides more financial support should complete the application. The FAFSA now uses the 'contributor' approach rather than the old system. If your daughter lives with you more than 50% of the time, you should be the contributor regardless of who claimed her on taxes. If it's equal time, then the parent who provided more financial support should file. Tax dependency doesn't determine FAFSA filing anymore under the new FAFSA Simplification Act.

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Thank you for explaining! We have exactly 50/50 custody, so I guess we need to figure out who provides more financial support. How do we even calculate that? Does paying for her health insurance count more than paying for her car expenses?

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Grace Lee

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im in the same boat with my ex!! we also do the every-other-year tax thing. our daughter is a junior now and we just did fafsa last month. the college financial aid office told us to have the parent with LOWER income do the fafsa bc it would give her more aid. worked for us!

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While this might work in some situations, it's not technically the correct approach according to the FAFSA rules. The Department of Education specifically states that alternating parents on FAFSA based on income is not allowed. The proper contributor should be determined based on who provides more financial support, not who has lower income. Colleges can request verification if they suspect parent switching.

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Mia Roberts

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According to the official FSA guidelines, for dependent students with divorced/separated parents, the FAFSA should be completed by the parent who provides more than 50% of the student's financial support. Tax claiming status is not the determining factor for FAFSA filing. For the 2025-2026 FAFSA, you'll need to determine which parent provides more financial support. This includes: - Housing costs - Food - Medical expenses - Clothing - Education costs - Other essential expenses Documentation of these expenses might be requested during verification, so keep records. If support is truly equal (rare), the parent with higher income would complete the FAFSA.

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This is really helpful information, thank you! We've honestly never tracked who pays for what exactly since we both just cover different categories of expenses. I handle her medical insurance and school expenses, he covers car insurance and most clothing purchases. I guess we need to sit down and actually calculate the totals.

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The Boss

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When me and my ex did the FAFSA last year, we just picked whoever made less money that year to fill it out. No one ever questioned it and my kid got way more aid. I think everyone overthinks this stuff.

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Mia Roberts

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That approach could potentially be considered FAFSA fraud if discovered during verification. The Department of Education can request documentation proving the contributing parent provides more financial support. If they determine parents are manipulating the system by alternating based on income, the student could lose aid eligibility and have to repay funds already disbursed.

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Dealing with the FAFSA as divorced parents is incredibly frustrating! My son's financial aid got delayed for THREE MONTHS last year because we got flagged for verification specifically on this issue. The financial aid office demanded proof of who provided more support. We had to submit bank statements, receipts, and a signed statement from both parents. My advice: do it correctly the first time. Don't try to game the system by picking the lower-income parent if they don't truly provide more support. It's not worth the headache and potential loss of aid if you get caught.

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Oh wow, I definitely don't want to go through that! Did you have to provide exact calculations of who paid what percentage of support? Or was it more of a general statement?

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They wanted actual proof - bank statements showing payments for housing, utilities, medical expenses, etc. We had to create a spreadsheet showing the total annual expenses for our son and what percentage each parent covered. It was a nightmare gathering all those documents. They compared this info to what we reported on the FAFSA to verify we weren't just choosing the lower-income parent to maximize aid.

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That sounds really helpful! I've tried calling FSA twice already and gave up after being on hold forever. What did the agent tell you about determining the contributing parent? Any specific guidance?

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The agent told me to track all financial support for the past year - housing, food, clothing, medical, etc. For split custody, they look at where the student physically spent more nights and who paid more total support. She said many divorced parents make the mistake of just looking at who claims the student on taxes, but that's not relevant for FAFSA. They really emphasized keeping documentation in case of verification.

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Jasmine Quinn

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UGH the new FAFSA is such a NIGHTMARE for divorced parents!!! This stupid "contributor" system is WAY more complicated than the old way. I swear they make this confusing ON PURPOSE so fewer people get financial aid!!! My daughter lost $5,000 in aid because we filled it out wrong the first time. The colleges don't even understand their own rules half the time!!

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Grace Lee

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omg yes!! our financial aid office gave us completely different answers when we called twice about the same question! i ended up in TEARS trying to figure this out. and then they have the nerve to say parents are trying to "game the system" when were just trying to understand their complicated rules!!

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One important point for 2025-2026 FAFSA that no one has mentioned: If you have a legal custody agreement that specifies which parent is responsible for college expenses, that parent should be the contributor on the FAFSA. This would override the financial support calculation. Do you have anything specified in your custody agreement about college costs?

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We don't have anything specifically about college in our agreement. It was drafted when our daughter was in elementary school, so we never thought that far ahead. Sounds like we might need to actually calculate who provides more support then.

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Mia Roberts

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Based on your situation, here's what I recommend: 1. Track expenses for your daughter for the past 12 months 2. Calculate the total financial support from each parent 3. The parent providing more support should complete the FAFSA 4. Keep documentation of these calculations in case of verification 5. Be consistent - once you determine the contributor parent, that same parent should complete the FAFSA each year unless your support situation significantly changes Changing contributors between years without a change in circumstances can trigger verification flags. Also, make sure both parents are communicating throughout this process to avoid misunderstandings.

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Thank you so much for this clear guidance! I'll talk to my ex and we'll start tracking everything. Do you think it makes sense to consult with a financial aid advisor to make sure we're doing this right? I'd rather spend a bit of money upfront than lose thousands in potential aid.

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Mia Roberts

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Yes, consulting with a financial aid advisor familiar with divorced family situations would be very helpful. Many colleges offer free FAFSA assistance, or you could work with an independent financial aid consultant (typically $100-200 for a consultation). The investment is worth it considering how much aid could be at stake. Just make sure they're experienced with the new FAFSA rules specifically for divorced families.

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As someone who just went through this exact situation last year, I wanted to share what worked for us. My ex and I also alternate tax years, but we discovered that doesn't matter for FAFSA at all under the new rules. What we did was sit down together (yes, awkward but necessary) and went through our bank statements and receipts for the whole year. We made a simple spreadsheet with categories like housing costs, food, medical expenses, car payments, etc. It turned out I was covering about 60% of her expenses even though we have 50/50 custody, mainly because I pay the mortgage where she has her own room and handle most of her medical costs. The key thing we learned: keep EVERYTHING documented from now on. Take photos of receipts, save bank statements, track who pays for what. The financial aid office can ask for proof at any time, and you don't want to be scrambling to find documents later. Also, once you determine who the contributing parent is, stick with that same parent for all four years unless your financial situation actually changes. Switching back and forth will definitely trigger red flags. Good luck! It's confusing but totally worth getting right for your daughter's financial aid.

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Quinn Herbert

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This is incredibly helpful, thank you for sharing your real experience! I really appreciate the practical advice about making a spreadsheet - that gives me a concrete way to approach this. You're right that sitting down with my ex will be awkward, but it sounds like it's necessary to get this right. I'm definitely going to start keeping better records of who pays for what going forward. Did you run into any issues with the financial aid office when you submitted, or did having your documentation ready make the process smooth?

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Chloe Taylor

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I'm in a very similar situation with my ex-husband! We've been alternating tax years for our son for about 6 years now, and I was so confused when I started looking into the FAFSA requirements. After reading all these responses, I'm realizing I need to have that uncomfortable conversation with my ex about who actually provides more financial support. We've never really tracked it since we just naturally fell into handling different expenses - I pay for housing costs since our son lives in my house half the time, plus I handle all his medical and dental expenses. My ex covers car insurance, gas money, and most of his clothing and entertainment expenses. It sounds like I should start documenting everything now before we file the FAFSA. Has anyone found a good app or system for tracking these shared expenses? I feel like trying to recreate a whole year's worth of spending from bank statements is going to be a nightmare, but I want to be prepared if we get selected for verification. Also, for those who went through verification - how long did that process typically take? My son is hoping to get his financial aid package early so he can make his college decision.

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Hi Chloe! I'm new here but dealing with the exact same situation. For tracking expenses going forward, I've heard good things about apps like Splitwise or even just a shared Google Sheet where both parents can log expenses in real time. That way you're not scrambling later trying to piece everything together from bank statements. From what others have shared here, verification can take anywhere from a few weeks to several months if you don't have your documentation ready. It sounds like getting that uncomfortable conversation with your ex out of the way sooner rather than later is key - especially if your son wants his aid package early for decision making. I'm definitely taking notes from everyone's advice here about keeping detailed records from now on. This whole process seems way more complicated than it should be, but at least we're not alone in figuring it out!

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I'm dealing with this exact same situation right now! My ex and I have been doing the alternating tax claim thing for years, and I had no idea it didn't matter for FAFSA until I started researching this week. What's really stressing me out is that we never kept track of who pays what - we just naturally divided expenses without thinking about percentages. I handle her school fees, extracurriculars, and most medical stuff, while he covers car expenses and takes her shopping for clothes and things. Now I'm trying to figure out if that adds up to me providing "more than 50%" of support. Reading everyone's experiences here is both helpful and terrifying! The verification process sounds like a nightmare if you're not prepared. I think I'm going to follow the advice about sitting down with my ex to create that spreadsheet, even though it'll be awkward. Better to have an uncomfortable conversation now than deal with delayed financial aid later. Thanks to everyone who shared their real experiences - it's so much more helpful than the confusing official guidance!

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I totally understand that stress! I'm in almost the exact same boat - my ex and I have been winging it with expenses for years without really tracking who pays what percentage. Reading all these stories about verification delays and having to provide detailed documentation is definitely eye-opening. One thing that's helped me feel less overwhelmed is breaking it down into categories like others suggested - housing, medical, education, transportation, etc. Even if you can't get exact numbers for the past year, you can probably estimate pretty well based on your regular payment patterns. Like if you consistently pay school fees and medical bills while he handles car stuff, that gives you a starting point. I'm also planning to start tracking everything from now on using a shared spreadsheet so we don't end up in this same situation again next year. It sounds like most people here learned the hard way that the new FAFSA rules are way more strict about documentation than the old system was. Good luck with that conversation with your ex! At least we're all figuring this out together!

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I just wanted to add one more perspective as someone who works in financial aid at a community college. I see this confusion with divorced parents ALL the time, and honestly, the new FAFSA rules have made it more complicated for families like yours. Here's what I always tell parents in your situation: Start with where your daughter physically spends most of her time. Even with 50/50 custody agreements, students often end up spending slightly more time at one parent's house due to work schedules, school location, etc. The parent where she spends more nights should generally be the contributor. If it's truly equal time, then yes, you'll need to calculate financial support. But don't stress too much about getting it down to the exact dollar - the Department of Education understands that divorced families don't always track every expense perfectly. They're looking for clear evidence that you made a good faith effort to determine who provides more support, not a perfect accounting. One tip: If you end up being very close (like 52% vs 48%), consider who has better financial aid eligibility (lower income, assets, etc.) as a tiebreaker. The rules allow some discretion when support is nearly equal. Most importantly - whatever you decide, be prepared to explain your reasoning if asked. Keep it simple and honest!

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Thank you so much for this insider perspective! It's really reassuring to hear from someone who works in financial aid and sees these situations regularly. Your point about looking at where she physically spends more time is helpful - even though our custody agreement says 50/50, you're right that in practice she probably ends up at my house a bit more due to school pickup logistics and her work schedule. I really appreciate you mentioning that they don't expect perfect accounting down to the dollar. I was getting overwhelmed thinking I needed to track every single expense from the past year! The idea of using better financial aid eligibility as a tiebreaker when support is close also makes a lot of sense. Your advice about being able to explain our reasoning simply and honestly is exactly what I needed to hear. I feel much more confident about moving forward with this process now. Thank you for taking the time to share your professional insight!

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Luca Romano

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As a newcomer to this community, I'm finding this discussion incredibly valuable! I'm actually in a very similar situation with my ex-wife and our twin daughters who will be starting college in the fall. We've also been alternating tax years, and I had no idea that wouldn't matter for FAFSA purposes. What I'm finding most helpful from everyone's experiences is the emphasis on documentation and having that awkward but necessary conversation with the ex about who actually provides more support. It sounds like many of us divorced parents have been operating on informal arrangements without really tracking the percentages. One question I have after reading all these responses: If we determine that I should be the contributing parent this year, but next year our financial situations change significantly (like if one of us loses a job or gets remarried), are we allowed to switch who files the FAFSA? Or once we establish the pattern, do we need to stick with the same parent for all four years regardless of changing circumstances? Thanks to everyone for sharing their real experiences - this is so much more helpful than trying to decipher the official FSA guidelines alone!

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Amina Toure

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Great question about changing contributors! From what I've learned researching this, you ARE allowed to switch the contributing parent between years if there's a legitimate change in circumstances - like job loss, remarriage, or a significant change in who provides more financial support. The key is that it needs to be based on actual changes in your situation, not just trying to maximize aid by picking whoever has lower income that year. The Department of Education expects consistency unless circumstances genuinely change. So if you determine you're the contributing parent this year because you provide more support, but next year your ex-wife gets remarried and starts covering more of the twins' expenses, then she could become the contributor. Just make sure you can document the reason for the change if asked during verification. As someone also dealing with twins heading to college, I feel your pain on having to navigate this times two! At least with twins you'll only need to figure out the contributing parent once since it applies to both kids. Good luck with that conversation with your ex-wife - sounds like we're all in the same boat of having those awkward financial discussions we've been avoiding for years!

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Dmitri Volkov

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As someone new to this community but dealing with the exact same situation, I can't thank everyone enough for sharing their experiences! My ex and I have been alternating tax years for our daughter for the past 8 years, and I was completely lost trying to figure out the FAFSA rules. Reading through all these responses, a few key things are really clear: 1. Tax dependency has NOTHING to do with who files FAFSA anymore 2. It's all about who provides more than 50% financial support 3. Documentation is absolutely critical in case of verification 4. Don't try to game the system by just picking the lower-income parent What's been most eye-opening is hearing about people who got flagged for verification and had to provide months of bank statements and receipts. That sounds like a nightmare I definitely want to avoid! I think my next step is going to be that awkward conversation with my ex to go through our expenses and figure out who actually provides more support. We've been pretty informal about splitting costs, but it sounds like I need to get serious about tracking everything going forward. One quick question for those who've been through this: when you calculated "financial support," did you include things like the value of providing housing (like if your daughter has her own room at your house)? Or was it more about direct expenses like medical bills, school costs, etc.? Thanks again to everyone for making this so much clearer than the official FSA guidance!

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Mason Kaczka

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Great question about housing costs! Yes, you should definitely include the value of providing housing when calculating financial support. If your daughter has her own room at your house, that counts as a significant contribution to her support - think about what it would cost to rent a similar room elsewhere. The FSA considers housing one of the major support categories along with food, medical expenses, transportation, clothing, and education costs. When I went through this calculation with my ex, we estimated the housing value based on what a comparable room would rent for in our area, then divided by 2 since she splits time between both homes. It actually ended up being one of the largest expense categories in our calculation. Keep track of utilities, property taxes, and maintenance costs too if you're the homeowner where she stays. The key is being reasonable with your estimates and being able to explain your reasoning if asked during verification.

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Brady Clean

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Welcome to the community! I'm also new here and dealing with a very similar situation with my ex-husband. We've been alternating tax years for our son, and I had no idea until recently that this doesn't matter at all for FAFSA purposes under the new rules. After reading through everyone's incredibly helpful responses, I'm realizing I need to have that uncomfortable conversation with my ex about calculating who actually provides more financial support. Like many of you, we've been operating on an informal system where we just naturally cover different categories of expenses without tracking percentages. One thing that's really stood out from all your experiences is how important documentation is going to be, especially if we get selected for verification. I'm definitely going to start keeping detailed records from now on so we don't end up scrambling later. For those who mentioned creating spreadsheets to track expenses - did you find it helpful to categorize things like housing costs, medical expenses, education costs, etc.? I'm trying to figure out the best way to organize this information when I sit down with my ex to go through everything. Thanks so much to everyone who shared their real experiences - this has been incredibly more helpful than trying to navigate the official FSA guidance alone!

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