Will remarrying after 60 cancel my Social Security survivor benefits?
I'm in a situation I never expected at this stage in my life. My husband passed away in January 2023 after 32 years of marriage. I turned 60 this past May and started receiving survivor benefits in June 2024 ($1,875/month). In my grief support group, I met a wonderful widower and our relationship has become serious much faster than I anticipated. We've started having conversations about possibly getting married next summer. But now I'm worried - will remarrying affect my survivor benefits from my late husband? I've heard conflicting things from friends. One said I'll lose everything if I remarry, another said it doesn't matter because I'm already over 60. I tried calling SSA but couldn't get through after waiting for 2 hours. Does anyone know for certain what happens to survivor benefits if you remarry after age 60? Would really appreciate some clarity before our relationship progresses further.
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Amara Nwosu
Good news - you can remarry now without losing your survivor benefits! The Social Security Administration allows widow(er)s who remarry at age 60 or later to continue receiving survivor benefits from their deceased spouse. This is specifically addressed in SSA rules to protect older survivors. If you had remarried before turning 60, then yes, you would've lost eligibility, but you're past that threshold now. Just make sure SSA has your updated information if you do get married (name change, etc.), but your benefit amount should remain the same. And congratulations on finding happiness again!
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Liam O'Donnell
•Oh thank you so much for this clear answer! What a relief to know I can move forward with our relationship without financial worries. Do you know if there's any specific documentation I should bring to SSA when I notify them about a potential marriage? Just want to be prepared.
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AstroExplorer
NOT TRUE!!!! My aunt remarried at 62 and THEY TOOK ALL HER MONEY AWAY!!! She had to fight for MONTHS to get it back!!! The SSA always finds ways to cut benefits - don't trust what they say on their website!!!
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Amara Nwosu
•That's unusual and doesn't align with standard SSA policy. Are you sure there weren't other factors involved? Perhaps your aunt's new spouse had a pension subject to WEP/GPO provisions, or there were other benefit calculations at play. The official rule is very clear that remarriage after 60 doesn't affect survivor benefits eligibility.
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Giovanni Moretti
Congrats on finding love again! Im in a similar boat lost my wife in 2022 and started dating again last yr. When I called social security about this the wait was INSANE but when I finally got thru they confirmed what others are saying - after 60 your good to remarry without losing survivors.
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AstroExplorer
•Wait times are RIDICULOUS now!! I tried calling about my Medicare premium issue and gave up after an hour and half on hold. And then they wonder why people get confused about their benefits!!!
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Fatima Al-Farsi
Just wanted to add that while your survivor benefits are safe if you remarry after 60, you should also consider how marriage might affect other benefits. For example, if you qualify for spousal benefits from your new husband someday, SSA will pay whichever benefit amount is higher - either your survivor benefit or the new spousal benefit - not both. Also, if your new spouse receives certain government pensions, it could potentially impact benefits through the Government Pension Offset (GPO) provision. If you want personalized advice for your specific situation, I'd recommend scheduling an appointment with your local SSA office. They can review your complete benefit history and future options.
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Liam O'Donnell
•Thank you! I hadn't even thought about potential spousal benefits from a new marriage. My boyfriend is a retired teacher with a state pension, so I should definitely look into the GPO angle. Sounds like I need professional guidance before making any decisions.
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Dylan Cooper
When I needed to reach SSA about my widower benefits last year, I used a service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me through to an agent in about 20 minutes instead of waiting for hours. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU It was worth it to get definitive answers about my benefits instead of relying on conflicting advice from friends and family. The agent I spoke with confirmed that remarriage after 60 doesn't affect survivor benefits, and helped me understand some other options I hadn't considered.
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Giovanni Moretti
•wait is this legit?? i spent 3+ hours on hold last week trying to fix an underpayment issue!!!
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Dylan Cooper
•Yes, completely legit. I was skeptical too, but it worked exactly as advertised. They basically navigate the phone system for you and call you back when they have an agent on the line. Saved me hours of frustration.
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Sofia Perez
my mom remarryed after 60 and kept her benifits from my dad so your probly fine. congrats on the new relationship btw!
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Liam O'Donnell
•Thank you for sharing your mom's experience! It's reassuring to hear from people who've been through similar situations. And thanks for the kind words about my relationship - it was unexpected but has been a blessing.
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Dmitry Smirnov
I understand your concern about remarriage affecting survivor benefits. I just want to add that while your benefits are protected since you're over 60, you might want to consider consulting with an elder law attorney before marriage. They can help you understand implications beyond Social Security - things like inheritance for children from previous marriages, medical decisions, long-term care planning, etc. My sister remarried at 63 and wished she had gotten some legal advice first to protect both their interests.
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Fatima Al-Farsi
•This is excellent advice. Social Security is just one piece of a complex financial picture. Marriage later in life has many legal and financial implications worth reviewing with a professional, especially when both parties may have assets, children from previous marriages, and various benefit entitlements.
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Liam O'Donnell
Thank you all for your helpful responses! I feel so much better now understanding that I can keep my survivor benefits if we decide to get married. I'm going to look into making an appointment at my local SSA office to discuss all the details of my specific situation, including implications related to his teacher's pension. I might also try that Claimyr service someone mentioned if I can't get through to schedule an appointment. And the suggestion about consulting an elder law attorney is definitely something we'll consider - we both have adult children and our own retirement savings/assets to think about. It's strange navigating romance and practical matters at this stage of life, but I'm grateful for all your insights!
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Ravi Sharma
I'm so happy to see this community coming together to help you navigate this situation! As someone who works in benefits counseling, I want to emphasize a few key points that others have touched on: 1. You're absolutely correct that remarriage after 60 protects your survivor benefits - this is a well-established SSA rule. 2. The suggestion about the Government Pension Offset (GPO) is crucial given your boyfriend's teacher pension. This could affect any future spousal benefits you might be eligible for from his record. 3. I'd strongly recommend getting everything in writing from SSA when you do speak with them. Sometimes phone representatives give conflicting information, so having documentation protects you. One additional consideration: if you're receiving any other benefits (like subsidized housing, SNAP, or Medicaid), marriage could affect those programs differently than Social Security. Each program has its own rules about household income and assets. Wishing you the best as you plan for this new chapter! It sounds like you're being very thoughtful about balancing your heart and your financial security.
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Kiara Fisherman
•This is incredibly helpful advice, especially about getting everything in writing from SSA! I hadn't considered how marriage might affect other potential benefits I could be eligible for. Your point about different programs having different rules is eye-opening - I definitely need to do more research beyond just Social Security. Thank you for taking the time to share your professional insights. It's reassuring to know there are knowledgeable people in this community willing to help others navigate these complex situations.
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Ava Johnson
As a newcomer to this community, I just want to say how heartwarming it is to see everyone rallying around Liam with such helpful and supportive advice! Reading through all these responses, I'm learning so much about Social Security rules that I never knew existed. I'm particularly grateful for the practical tips people have shared - like the Claimyr service for getting through to SSA faster, and the reminder about getting everything in writing. These are the kinds of real-world insights you just can't find in official pamphlets. Liam, your story really resonates with me. While I'm not in the exact same situation, I can imagine how overwhelming it must feel to balance new love with financial security concerns. It's wonderful that you're being so thoughtful about all the implications before making any big decisions. Thank you all for creating such a welcoming space where people can get genuine help with these complex government benefit questions!
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Paloma Clark
•Welcome to the community, Ava! I completely agree - this thread has been such a wonderful example of how helpful and supportive this community can be. As someone who's also relatively new here, I've been amazed by the depth of knowledge and genuine care people show for each other's situations. The practical tips shared here really are invaluable - I'm definitely bookmarking that Claimyr service for future reference! And you're so right about getting real-world insights that go beyond what you find in official documentation. Sometimes the most helpful advice comes from people who've actually navigated these systems themselves. It's threads like this that make me feel confident about turning to this community when I inevitably have my own Social Security questions down the road. Thank you for expressing what many of us newcomers are probably thinking!
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Giovanni Colombo
As someone who recently went through a similar process with SSA regarding survivor benefits, I wanted to add one more practical tip that might help. When you do get through to speak with an SSA representative (whether through regular channels or that Claimyr service others mentioned), ask them to send you a written summary of your conversation via mail or through your my Social Security account online. I learned this the hard way when I got different information from two different phone representatives about my benefits. Having that written documentation saved me a lot of headaches later when I needed to reference what was discussed. Also, if your local SSA office offers appointments (some do, some don't), that can sometimes be more reliable than phone calls since you're speaking with someone face-to-face and can ask them to print out relevant information right there. Best of luck with everything, Liam! It sounds like you're approaching this thoughtfully and have gotten some excellent advice from this community.
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Kyle Wallace
•This is such excellent practical advice! As someone new to navigating SSA, I never would have thought to ask for written documentation of phone conversations. That tip about getting different information from different representatives is something I'll definitely keep in mind - it must be so frustrating to deal with inconsistent answers on something as important as benefits. The suggestion about in-person appointments is great too. There's something reassuring about having face-to-face interaction when dealing with complex benefit questions, especially when you can walk away with printed documentation. Thank you for sharing these hard-earned insights! It's exactly this kind of practical wisdom that makes this community so valuable for people trying to navigate these systems.
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Jamal Carter
As a newcomer to this community, I'm really impressed by the wealth of knowledge and support being shared here! Reading through this thread has been incredibly educational - I had no idea about the age 60 rule for survivor benefits and remarriage, or about complexities like the Government Pension Offset. Liam, your situation really highlights how important it is to get accurate information from multiple sources. The conflicting advice you initially received from friends shows why communities like this are so valuable - you're getting insights from people who've actually navigated these systems firsthand. I'm particularly grateful for all the practical tips shared here: the Claimyr service for getting through to SSA faster, the importance of getting everything in writing, considering elder law attorneys for the broader financial picture, and the reminder about in-person appointments at local SSA offices. Even though I'm not currently dealing with survivor benefits, I'm learning so much that will help me better understand Social Security rules in general. Thank you to everyone who took the time to share their experiences and knowledge - this is exactly the kind of supportive community that makes navigating government benefits less overwhelming!
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Liv Park
•Welcome to the community, Jamal! I couldn't agree more about how educational this thread has been. As another newcomer, I've been taking notes on so many things I never knew existed - like that GPO provision and the importance of documenting SSA conversations. What really strikes me about this discussion is how it shows the difference between getting generic information online versus hearing from people who've actually been through these situations. The real-world experiences shared here - like the person whose aunt had issues that needed to be sorted out, or the mom who successfully kept her benefits - give such valuable context that you just don't get from official websites. It's also wonderful to see how supportive everyone is being toward Liam as he navigates both the emotional and practical sides of this decision. Finding love later in life is beautiful, but the financial complexities are real. This community is helping him move forward with both his heart and his security intact!
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Liam O'Sullivan
As a newcomer to this community, I'm truly amazed by the depth of knowledge and genuine care shown in this thread! Liam, your story touched my heart - finding love again after loss is such a beautiful thing, and it's completely understandable to have concerns about how it might affect your financial security. The consensus here seems very clear that your survivor benefits are protected since you're over 60, which must be such a relief! But I'm really grateful for all the additional considerations people have raised - the Government Pension Offset with teacher pensions, the importance of elder law consultation, and all those practical tips about documenting SSA conversations. What strikes me most is how this thread demonstrates the real value of community knowledge. You went from conflicting advice from friends to getting clear, actionable guidance from people who've actually navigated these waters. The suggestion about the Claimyr service alone could save you hours of frustration! It sounds like you're approaching this decision with both your heart and your head, which is exactly right. Wishing you and your boyfriend all the best as you plan this next chapter together - you deserve happiness and financial security!
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NebulaNova
•Welcome to the community! I'm also new here and have been following this thread with great interest. Your observation about the value of community knowledge is spot on - it's incredible how Liam went from having conflicting information to getting such comprehensive, practical guidance. As someone who's completely new to understanding Social Security benefits, I've learned more from reading these responses than I ever could from official websites alone. The personal experiences shared here - especially about the importance of getting everything documented and the various complications that can arise - are invaluable. It's also heartening to see how this community balances both the emotional and practical aspects of these situations. Liam's journey shows that major life decisions don't happen in isolation - they intersect with complex government systems that can feel overwhelming without proper guidance. Thank you for welcoming newcomers like us and for highlighting what makes this community so special. The supportive atmosphere here makes navigating these complex topics feel much less daunting!
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Fatima Al-Rashid
As a newcomer to this community, I'm really touched by Liam's story and the incredible support he's received here! The clarity everyone has provided about the age 60 rule for survivor benefits is so reassuring - what a relief that must be for you, Liam. I'm particularly impressed by how comprehensive the advice has been. Beyond just answering the core Social Security question, people have thoughtfully raised considerations about GPO with teacher pensions, the importance of elder law consultation for broader financial planning, and practical tips like using services to get through SSA phone lines faster. As someone completely new to understanding these benefit systems, I've learned so much just from reading this thread. The real-world experiences shared here - from success stories to cautionary tales about getting conflicting information from representatives - provide context you simply can't get from official websites. Liam, it's wonderful that you're finding love again and approaching this decision so thoughtfully. The fact that you can move forward with your relationship while protecting your financial security is exactly what these survivor benefit protections were designed to ensure. Wishing you both happiness as you plan this next chapter together! This community truly demonstrates how valuable it is to have a place where people can share both knowledge and genuine care for one another's wellbeing.
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Eleanor Foster
•Welcome to the community, Fatima! I'm also new here and have been absolutely amazed by this thread. Your point about the comprehensive nature of the advice really resonates with me - it's incredible how the community has addressed not just Liam's immediate Social Security question, but all the interconnected considerations that come with remarriage later in life. As another newcomer trying to understand these complex benefit systems, I've found the real-world experiences shared here invaluable. The mix of success stories, cautionary tales, and practical workarounds (like that Claimyr service) gives such a complete picture that you'd never get from reading official documentation alone. What really strikes me is how this discussion shows the importance of getting information from multiple reliable sources. Liam started with conflicting advice from friends and has ended up with clear, actionable guidance backed by actual experiences. It's a perfect example of why communities like this are so essential for navigating government benefits. Thank you for highlighting what makes this space so special - the combination of knowledge sharing and genuine care for each other's wellbeing really does make these complex topics feel much more manageable!
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Ava Thompson
As a newcomer to this community, I'm absolutely moved by the incredible support and wisdom shared in this thread! Liam, your story really resonates with me - navigating love and practical concerns later in life requires such courage and thoughtfulness. The consensus here about your survivor benefits being protected after age 60 is so reassuring, but I'm equally impressed by all the additional layers people have helped you consider. The insights about Government Pension Offset with your boyfriend's teacher pension, the suggestion to consult an elder law attorney, and those practical tips about documenting SSA conversations - this community has given you such a comprehensive roadmap. I'm particularly grateful for learning about resources like the Claimyr service. As someone who dreads those endless hold times with government agencies, knowing there are legitimate ways to streamline the process is incredibly valuable information to file away for the future. What strikes me most is how this thread demonstrates the power of community knowledge over conflicting secondhand advice. You've gone from uncertainty to having a clear path forward, complete with actionable next steps. That's exactly what these support networks should provide. Wishing you and your boyfriend all the happiness as you plan this exciting next chapter - it's beautiful that you can move forward with both your heart and your financial security intact!
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Amara Oluwaseyi
•Welcome to the community, Ava! As another newcomer, I'm equally amazed by the wealth of knowledge and genuine support demonstrated in this thread. Your observation about the power of community knowledge over secondhand advice is so insightful - it really shows how Liam has gone from confusion to clarity through reliable, experience-based guidance. I'm also taking mental notes about all these practical resources people have shared. The Claimyr service alone could be a game-changer for anyone trying to navigate SSA's phone system. And the emphasis on documenting conversations and getting everything in writing is such valuable advice that applies to dealing with any government agency. What I find most heartening is how this community has addressed both the emotional and practical aspects of Liam's situation. Finding love again after loss is such a beautiful thing, and knowing that he can pursue happiness while protecting his financial security is exactly what these benefit protections were designed to ensure. This thread has been an incredible education for those of us new to understanding Social Security complexities. Thank you for highlighting what makes this community so special - the combination of expertise and genuine care really does make these daunting topics feel manageable!
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Andrew Pinnock
As a newcomer to this community, I'm truly inspired by the incredible support and knowledge sharing I've witnessed in this thread! Liam, your story beautifully illustrates how life can surprise us with unexpected blessings, even during our most challenging times. The clarity this community has provided about your survivor benefits being protected after age 60 must be such an enormous relief! But what really impresses me is how everyone has gone beyond just answering your immediate question to help you think through all the interconnected considerations - from GPO implications with teacher pensions to the broader financial planning aspects of remarriage later in life. As someone completely new to understanding these benefit systems, I've learned more from reading this single thread than I could have imagined. The practical tips shared here - like the Claimyr service for navigating SSA phone lines, the importance of getting everything documented in writing, and the suggestion to consult elder law attorneys - are invaluable resources I'll definitely remember for the future. What touches me most is seeing how this community has supported you in balancing matters of the heart with practical financial concerns. The fact that you can move forward with confidence in your relationship while protecting your financial security is exactly what these survivor benefit protections were meant to achieve. Wishing you and your boyfriend tremendous happiness as you plan this beautiful next chapter together! Thank you to everyone for creating such a welcoming, knowledgeable space.
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