Will my kids' Social Security benefits increase if my wife stops receiving hers and returns to work?
I started collecting early retirement benefits at 62 last month. My monthly benefit is $2,170. I have two children (ages 10 and 12) who each receive $756 in dependent benefits. My wife (age 59) is also currently receiving $756 as a spouse caring for our children. She's considering going back to work full-time and stopping her benefit. Here's what I'm confused about: I've heard conflicting information about what happens to the children's benefits if my wife stops receiving hers. Some people say her portion would be redistributed to the kids, increasing their monthly amount. Others say the kids' benefits remain the same regardless. Does anyone know for sure? We're trying to figure out if her returning to work would actually benefit our total household income. Thanks for any help!
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AstroAlpha
If ur wife stops getting her benefit the amount doesnt go to the kids. Each person gets their own amount up to the family max. My brother went thru this exact thing last yr.
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Connor Gallagher
•Thanks for the quick reply! That's what I was afraid of. Do you know if the family maximum changes at all when one family member stops their benefit?
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Yara Khoury
Your family situation is subject to what's called the Family Maximum Benefit (FMB). This is the maximum amount that can be paid on one worker's earnings record. When your wife stops receiving her benefit, that money typically does not get redistributed to your children. Each qualifying individual receives their own calculation based on your primary insurance amount, up to the family maximum. The family maximum is usually between 150-180% of your primary retirement benefit. Since your retirement is $2,170, and your family members are each getting $756 (totaling $2,268 for the three of them), you're likely already at or near your family maximum. One important consideration: if your wife returns to work before her full retirement age while receiving spousal benefits, she may be subject to the earnings test which could reduce or eliminate her benefit anyway depending on how much she earns.
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Connor Gallagher
•Thank you for the detailed explanation! That makes more sense now. We're definitely near that family maximum then. So basically, her going back to work won't change the kids' benefit amounts at all - they'll stay at $756 each.
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Yara Khoury
•Correct. The children's benefits should remain unchanged at $756 each when your wife returns to work and stops her benefit. The family maximum doesn't change - it's based on your earnings record, not on who is currently collecting.
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Keisha Taylor
DONT LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO DONT KNOW THE REAL ANSWER!! The family maximum limit is what matters here. Your total family benefits are capped at that amount. My husband and 3 kids were in this EXACT situation and when I called SSA they said the kids benefit would NOT change when I went back to work!!!
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Connor Gallagher
•Thanks for sharing your experience - sounds like you went through almost exactly what we're considering. Did going back to work end up being financially beneficial for your family overall despite losing your benefit?
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Paolo Longo
Speaking from experience, the family maximum benefit is definitely the key factor here. When my wife decided to return to work, our children's benefits did not increase. The SSA representative explained that each beneficiary's amount is calculated separately and fixed (except for COLA increases). But there's an important consideration: If your wife returns to work, she might be able to build up additional Social Security credits on her own record. This could potentially increase her own retirement benefit later, which might be higher than what she would receive as a spouse on your record. When I was trying to get clear answers about this from Social Security, I spent DAYS trying to reach someone. I finally used a service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me connected to a real SSA agent within 20 minutes. They have a demo video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU. Saved me hours of frustration and I got the exact information I needed.
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AstroAlpha
•ya thats actually a good idea. better to talk to SSA directly instead of random people online lol
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Amina Bah
My situation was kinda different but might help. I was receiving SSDI with 2 minor children also receiving benefits. My wife was getting spousal benefits. When she went back to work, her benefit stopped but our family maximum stayed the same and our kids didn't get any increase. But in our case it was still worth it for her to work because her salary was much higher than what she got from SS.
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Connor Gallagher
•That's helpful, thank you! I think we're in a similar situation where her potential salary would be more than the $756 she currently receives. Did your wife have any issues with the process of stopping her benefits when she returned to work?
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Amina Bah
•She just called SSA and told them her planned start date for work. They stopped the payments automatically after that. She did have to provide paystubs later to verify her income. Make sure your wife keeps ALL documentation because they sometimes make mistakes.
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Oliver Becker
I'm a bit confused about something here... isn't 59 too young to collect spousal benefits unless you're caring for a child under 16? So wouldn't your wife lose her benefit anyway when your youngest turns 16 regardless of whether she works or not?
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Yara Khoury
•You're absolutely right. The original poster mentioned his wife is receiving benefits as a spouse caring for their children (who are 10 and 12). This is technically the "mother's or father's benefit" which is available to a spouse of any age who is caring for the worker's child under 16. Once the youngest child turns 16, she would no longer be eligible for this particular benefit regardless of employment status.
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Connor Gallagher
•Yes, that's correct. My wife is getting the benefit because she's caring for our children. We know that benefit will end when our youngest turns 16 anyway. We're just trying to figure out if it makes financial sense for her to voluntarily give it up sooner by returning to work.
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CosmicCowboy
You should really consider the whole financial picture. In my case, when my wife went back to work, we lost her SS benefit BUT: 1. She got health insurance through her employer which saved us $580/month 2. She started contributing to a 401k again 3. Her take-home pay was way more than the SS benefit Just some things to think about beyond just the SS payment itself.
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Connor Gallagher
•That's excellent advice and a good reminder to look at the complete financial picture. The potential employer does offer health insurance and a retirement plan, which would be significant additional benefits beyond just the salary. Thank you!
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