Survivor benefits changing when disabled child turns 18 - what will I receive at 62?
I lost my wife last January at age 66. She started taking her Social Security at 63. When she passed, we had two children under 18 living at home - my son who's now 19 and in college, and my daughter who is 16 and has a disability. Currently my daughter and I each receive about $2,450 per month in survivor benefits. My daughter's disability is documented and severe enough that she'll need lifelong care.I just had my 62nd birthday and I'm trying to understand what changes when my daughter turns 18 in about 18 months. Will her payments continue because of her disability? Will my survivor benefits change? Should I switch to my own retirement benefit instead (I've worked full-time most of my life but earned less than my wife)?I'm so confused by all the different benefit types and cutoffs. Has anyone navigated this situation with a disabled adult child and survivor benefits?
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Nia Harris
First, I'm sorry for your loss. To answer your questions: Yes, your daughter can continue receiving benefits after 18 if her disability began before age 22. She'll need to go through an adult disability determination, but if approved, her benefits continue indefinitely.For you, at 62, you have options. You're currently receiving the father's benefit as a surviving parent caring for a child under 16 (or disabled). When your daughter turns 18, you could either:1. Switch to your survivor benefit (71.5% of your wife's full benefit if you take it at 62)2. Take your own retirement (reduced because you're taking it early)3. Take one benefit now and switch to the other laterTypically, the best strategy is to take the smaller benefit first and switch to the larger later to maximize lifetime benefits. I'd recommend calling SSA directly to get calculations based on your specific earnings records.
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Luca Russo
Thank you for the clear explanation. I didn't realize I'm getting a \
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GalaxyGazer
my sister has disable son who got beneft after 18. they did cut off for like 3 month while doing revew then paid backpay. make sure u have all medical records ready they ask for ALOT of stuff
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Luca Russo
That's exactly what I'm worried about. We can't afford to go months without her benefits. Did your sister have to hire a lawyer or anything to help with the process?
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Mateo Sanchez
The benefits system for disabled adult children is incredibly frustrating. When my son turned 18, we had to jump through so many hoops even though he'd been disabled since birth! They reviewed everything and it took MONTHS with no income! The bureaucracy is DESIGNED to be confusing!They will absolutely cut off benefits at 18 until they confirm adult disability. And good luck reaching anyone at SSA to check status - I spent DAYS on hold only to be disconnected!!Start the review process 6 months before her birthday. Document EVERYTHING. Don't trust them to transfer medical records correctly!
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Aisha Mahmood
This sounds similar to what we went through... we started the process 5 months before my daughter's 18th birthday and still had a 2-month gap in benefits. The system is so backed up right now.
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Ethan Moore
I was in a similar situation and finally got through to SSA using Claimyr (claimyr.com). They got me past the hold times and connected to an actual agent who explained my options. Much better than trying for weeks to get through. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puUThe agent I spoke with explained that for your situation, they need to do two separate things: 1) adult disability determination for your daughter and 2) recalculate your benefit since you'll no longer be caring for a child under 16. Starting early is definitely smart.
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Luca Russo
Thanks for the tip - those hold times are ridiculous. I'll check out that service. Did your family member get approved for continued benefits? How long did the whole process take from start to finish?
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Ethan Moore
Yes, my son was approved but it took about 4 months total. We started 3 months before his birthday and still had a 1-month gap. The backpay came eventually, but that month was tight financially. The agent I reached through Claimyr also helped me understand that I could take my reduced retirement benefit at 62 and then switch to a higher survivor benefit later when I reached my full retirement age. That's something I never would have figured out from the website.
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Yuki Kobayashi
I work with families navigating this transition frequently. Here's what you need to know:1. Start the adult disability review process at least 6 months before your daughter turns 18. This is called the \
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Aisha Mahmood
This is super helpful. Quick question - if the daughter gets adult disability benefits from SSA, does that affect any other benefits she might be eligible for like SSI or Medicaid? My cousin's situation got complicated because of this.
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Yuki Kobayashi
Great question! Yes, it can affect other benefits. If she receives SSDI as a Disabled Adult Child (DAC) and the amount exceeds the SSI threshold ($943/month in 2025), she won't qualify for SSI. Regarding Medicaid, it depends on your state. In most states, if she was on SSI and Medicaid before transitioning to SSDI DAC benefits, she can keep Medicaid through what's called the
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Carmen Vega
Just wanted to add that my daughter went through this same process. The most important thing is getting all the paperwork together before you start. They asked for school records, medical records, evaluations, and even wanted statements from her doctors about what she can and cannot do in a work environment. Have EVERYTHING ready because if they have to request something from you, it adds weeks or months to the process.
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Aisha Mahmood
I've been exactly where u are! My husband passed in 2022 and our disabled daughter was 17 at the time. What ended up happening was when she turned 18, her benefits stopped for almost 3 months while they reviewed her for adult disability. We got back pay eventually but it was really tough! For me, my benefit as a parent caring for a child stopped and I switched to widow's benefits since I was over 60. I think the monthly amount went down a bit too. Call them way ahead of time!!
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Luca Russo
Thanks for sharing your experience. Was the adult disability determination difficult? My daughter has Down Syndrome, so her disability is pretty clear-cut, but I'm still nervous about the process.
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Aisha Mahmood
For my daughter who has severe autism, the determination itself wasn't hard, it was just the TIME everything took. They have a list of conditions that qualify for
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GalaxyGazer
dont forget about medicare! if she gets approved for adult disability she gets medicare after 24 months even tho shes young
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Carmen Vega
Another thing to consider is setting up a special needs trust if you haven't already. If your daughter will continue getting benefits, having too many assets in her name could jeopardize future benefits. We learned this the hard way after my mom left my sister some money directly in her will instead of through the trust.
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Mateo Sanchez
YES!! THIS!! So many families don't realize that an inheritance or even too much money saved can COMPLETELY disqualify their disabled adult children from benefits!! We set up an ABLE account AND a special needs trust. Talk to a lawyer who specializes in special needs planning - regular estate attorneys often miss these details!!
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