How will my adult disabled son's benefits change when my husband claims Social Security at 62?
I'm trying to navigate what happens to my 30-year-old son who has severe autism and receives SSI/Medicaid when my husband claims Social Security early. My husband turns 62 next month and wants to start collecting his retirement benefits then (even though I've tried to convince him to wait). I'm 58, so I won't be eligible for my own benefits for several years. We're concerned about how my husband filing early might affect our son's benefits. Will my son's SSI payment decrease? Could he lose Medicaid eligibility? Does it matter that I'm not filing yet? We've heard conflicting information from friends about this, and I really need to understand what to prepare for financially. Anyone been through this situation before?
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Mateo Warren
When your husband claims his retirement benefits, it could potentially affect your son's SSI. SSI is needs-based, so if your son lives with you, part of your husband's income could be "deemed" available to your son, potentially reducing his SSI payment. However, this depends on your total household situation. The good news is that your son's Medicaid should continue even if his SSI is reduced, through special provisions for disabled individuals. Look into your state's 1619(b) Medicaid continuation program. You filing or not filing doesn't directly impact your son's benefits at this point since you're not eligible yet.
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Lydia Bailey
•Thank you for this information. Does this deeming apply even though our son lives in a supported living apartment now (though we help him financially)? I'm worried about the exact calculations - is there a specific amount my husband can earn before it starts affecting our son's SSI?
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Sofia Price
My brother with downs went thru this when my dad retired. It's super confusing!!! They didnt tell us anything until his check was suddenly $200 less one month. Then we had to go to the SSA office and wait for HOURS. Make sure u keep all the paperwork they send!!
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Lydia Bailey
•Oh no, that's exactly what I'm worried about! Did your brother keep his Medicaid after your dad retired? That's actually my biggest concern.
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Alice Coleman
This situation requires careful planning. Since your son lives separately in supported living, the deeming rules are different than if he lived in your household. The critical factors are: 1. Whether you provide more than 50% of his support 2. If your son's SSI is standard or reduced already 3. Your husband's projected benefit amount You should schedule an appointment with SSA specifically to discuss this transition. They can run calculations based on your exact situation. Also, look into whether your son might qualify for Disabled Adult Child benefits (DAC, sometimes called CDB) on your husband's record, which might actually be higher than SSI in some cases.
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Lydia Bailey
•Thank you for mentioning the Disabled Adult Child benefits - I had no idea that might be an option. We do provide over 50% of his support even though he's in the apartment. I'll definitely ask about this at SSA.
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Owen Jenkins
u need to check if ur son qualifies for SSDI as a disabled adult child (DAC) instead of SSI. My daughter qualified for this when I retired and it was MUCH better than SSI! No asset limits and Medicare instead of medicaid after 2 years. But he needs to have been disabled before 22.
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Mateo Warren
•This is excellent advice. If your son's disability began before age 22 (which sounds like the case with autism diagnosed early), he may qualify for DAC benefits on your husband's record. These benefits can be higher than SSI, have no resource limits, and come with Medicare after 24 months. He could potentially keep Medicaid as secondary insurance through various state programs.
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Lilah Brooks
The SSA is IMPOSSIBLE to get clear answers from!!! I've been trying for MONTHS to sort out my daughter's benefits when I retired. Every rep tells you something different. My daughter almost lost her group home placement because of the payment gaps when they were recalculating everything. The system is BROKEN!!!!
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Jackson Carter
•I had the same experience trying to get through to SSA about my brother's benefits. I finally used a service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) to get through to a real person at SSA instead of waiting for hours on hold. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU. Made a huge difference in actually getting answers about how retirement would impact his disability benefits. Worth it to avoid the frustration of calling SSA directly.
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Kolton Murphy
When my wife and I faced this with our autistic son (34), we requested something called a "Benefits Planning Query" (BPQY) from Social Security. It's a free report that shows all the benefits he was eligible for and how changes to our situation might affect him. This helped us understand the Disabled Adult Child benefit option which ended up being better than SSI. Just need to fill out an SSA-3288 consent form to request it.
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Lydia Bailey
•Thank you so much for mentioning the BPQY - I've never heard of this! Will definitely request this form. Did your son end up switching from SSI to the Disabled Adult Child benefit when you retired? Did he keep his medical coverage?
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Kolton Murphy
Yes, our son did switch from SSI to DAC benefits when I took my retirement benefits. His monthly payment increased by about $350. He got Medicare after 24 months, but we were able to keep his Medicaid as secondary insurance through our state's working disabled program, even though he only works very part-time. The important thing is to get everything in writing - verbal advice from SSA can sometimes be inconsistent.
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Lilah Brooks
•The BPQY report is USELESS!! When I got one for my daughter it had WRONG information about her work history and benefits! Took MONTHS to correct and meanwhile her benefits were messed up. Just be careful trusting anything they give you!
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Sofia Price
my cousin had to pay back $5000 cuz SSA said they overpaid when his dad retired!!! make sure ur keeping track of everything!
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Alice Coleman
•Overpayments can happen during benefit transitions. That's why it's crucial to report the change in your husband's status promptly. Keep documentation of all communications with SSA, including the names of representatives you speak with, dates, and reference numbers for calls. This documentation can be vital if there's ever an overpayment dispute.
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Lydia Bailey
I'm so grateful for all this information! I had no idea about the Disabled Adult Child benefits possibility, and I'll definitely be looking into that BPQY report. I'm going to try calling SSA tomorrow to set up an appointment specifically about this transition. My husband is still considering whether to delay his benefits after hearing about these potential complications. Thank you all for sharing your experiences!
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Mateo Warren
One last thing to consider: If your husband can financially manage without taking benefits at 62, delaying until his Full Retirement Age (66-67 depending on birth year) would not only increase his own benefit by about 30%, but would also increase any potential DAC benefit your son might receive. This is something to factor into your decision if your son qualifies for DAC benefits.
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Lydia Bailey
•That's a really important point. My husband's FRA is 67, so that's a significant difference. We need to weigh the 5 years of payments he'd get by filing early against the lifetime higher payments for both him and potentially our son. This is giving us a lot to think about.
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Mateo Gonzalez
As someone who went through this exact situation 3 years ago with my 28-year-old son who has cerebral palsy, I can't stress enough how important it is to get everything evaluated BEFORE your husband files. We made the mistake of not doing our homework first. Here's what I wish I'd known: Contact your local Area Agency on Aging or disability advocacy organization - many have benefits counselors who specialize in these transitions and can help you navigate the SSA system. They often know the local SSA staff and can help ensure you get accurate information. Also, don't just rely on one SSA representative's advice. I got three different answers from three different people until I brought in a benefits counselor who knew exactly what questions to ask. The DAC benefits others mentioned could be a game-changer - my son's monthly payment actually went UP by $400 when we switched him from SSI to DAC on my husband's record. But timing is everything, so please get professional help with this decision!
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Fernanda Marquez
•Thank you so much for sharing your experience! This is exactly the kind of real-world insight I need. I had no idea about Area Agency on Aging having benefits counselors - that sounds like it could be incredibly helpful. The fact that your son's payment went UP by $400 is amazing and gives me hope that this transition might actually work out better than I feared. I'm definitely going to look into finding a benefits counselor in our area before my husband makes any final decisions. Did you find the counselor through your state's aging services website, or was there another way to locate them?
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Sophia Russo
I work as a disability advocate and see families navigate this transition regularly. One crucial detail many people miss is that you need to report your husband's intent to file for benefits to SSA BEFORE he actually files - not after. This gives them time to properly calculate how it will affect your son's benefits and avoid potential overpayments. Also, if your son does qualify for DAC benefits, there's something called a "protective filing date" that can preserve his eligibility even if there are delays in processing. Make sure to ask about this when you meet with SSA. The other commenters are right about getting multiple opinions - I always recommend families get at least two different SSA representatives to review their situation, and if possible, work with a SOAR-certified benefits counselor who specializes in disability benefits transitions.
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CosmosCaptain
•This is incredibly helpful advice, thank you! I had no idea about needing to report the intent to file BEFORE my husband actually files - that could save us from a lot of headaches. The protective filing date sounds important too. Where would I find a SOAR-certified benefits counselor? Is there a directory or website where I can search for one in my area? I want to make sure we're working with someone who really knows these disability benefit transitions inside and out.
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Paige Cantoni
You can find SOAR-certified benefits counselors through the SOAR website at prainc.com/soar - they have a "Find Training and TA" section where you can search by state. Also try calling 211 (dial 2-1-1) - they maintain databases of local disability services and can often connect you with benefits counselors in your area. Another resource is the National Association of Benefits and Work Incentives Counselors (NABWIC) website, though their directory isn't always up to date. Your state's vocational rehabilitation office should also be able to refer you to qualified benefits counselors. One more tip from my experience: when you do meet with SSA, bring a written list of questions and take notes during the meeting. Ask for the representative's name and a reference number for your visit. This documentation becomes crucial if you need to follow up or if there are any discrepancies later. The fact that you're doing this research ahead of time puts you way ahead of most families I work with. Good luck!
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Ally Tailer
•This is such valuable information - thank you for providing those specific resources! I just looked up the SOAR website and found several certified counselors in my state. I'm also going to call 211 tomorrow to see what local options they have. Your point about bringing written questions and documenting everything is so important - I've already started a notebook to keep track of all the information I'm gathering from this thread. It's reassuring to know that being proactive about this research will help us avoid some of the pitfalls other families have experienced. I feel much more prepared now to have productive conversations with both the benefits counselors and SSA representatives.
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Ravi Gupta
I'm new to this community but going through a similar situation with my 26-year-old daughter who has Down syndrome. Reading through all these responses has been incredibly eye-opening - especially about the Disabled Adult Child benefits possibility. One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is the importance of checking whether your son has any earned income from work, even if it's minimal. My daughter works part-time through a supported employment program, and I learned that this can actually help with the transition between benefit types. There are work incentives that might allow him to keep more of his benefits during the switch. Also, has anyone dealt with how this affects housing vouchers or other state benefits? We're worried about losing our daughter's housing assistance if her federal benefits change. I'm wondering if your son's supported living arrangement has any similar concerns. Thank you all for sharing such detailed experiences - this thread is going to save us so much confusion!
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Olivia Martinez
•Welcome to the community! You bring up really important points about earned income and housing vouchers that I hadn't fully considered. My son does some very part-time work through a day program, so this could definitely be a factor. Regarding housing assistance - this is actually one of my biggest concerns too. Our son's supported living arrangement is partially funded through state developmental disability services, and I'm worried about how federal benefit changes might affect his eligibility for those programs. From what I understand, some housing programs look at gross income while others consider net income after certain deductions, so the type of benefit (SSI vs DAC) might matter. I think this is definitely something to ask the benefits counselor about when we meet with one. It sounds like we both need to get a comprehensive review of how all these different benefit programs interact with each other. Thank you for bringing up these additional considerations - it's exactly this kind of real-world complexity that makes me grateful for this community!
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NebulaNinja
I went through this exact transition with my 32-year-old son who has autism about 18 months ago. Here are the key things I learned that might help: First, definitely explore the DAC (Disabled Adult Child) benefits on your husband's record - this was a game changer for us. My son's monthly benefit increased from $914 on SSI to $1,247 on DAC, plus he qualified for Medicare after 24 months while keeping his Medicaid as secondary coverage. Second, timing matters enormously. We found that filing for DAC benefits the same month my husband filed for retirement actually prevented any gap in payments. SSA can process them simultaneously if you give them advance notice. Third, regarding your son's supported living situation - this actually worked in our favor because he wasn't considered part of our household for deeming purposes, which simplified the calculations. One practical tip: bring ALL documentation to your SSA appointment - your son's disability onset records, proof of his living arrangement, any work records, and your husband's earnings history. The more complete information they have upfront, the smoother the process goes. The transition can be intimidating, but it often works out better financially than families expect. Feel free to ask if you have specific questions about our experience!
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Lucy Taylor
•This is incredibly reassuring to hear from someone who's been through the exact same situation! The increase from $914 to $1,247 is substantial - that really shows how much better the DAC benefits can be compared to SSI. I'm particularly encouraged that you were able to keep both Medicare and Medicaid coverage. Your point about timing the applications simultaneously is crucial information that I haven't seen mentioned elsewhere. I'll make sure to coordinate with SSA so my husband's retirement filing and our son's potential DAC application happen at the same time to avoid any payment gaps. The fact that supported living worked in your favor for the deeming calculations is such a relief to hear. I was worried that might complicate things, but it sounds like it actually simplifies the situation. I'm definitely going to follow your advice about bringing all the documentation upfront. Better to have too much information than to have delays because something's missing. Did you find that having your son's early autism diagnosis records was particularly important for establishing the before-age-22 disability requirement for DAC benefits? Thank you so much for sharing such detailed and practical insights from your experience!
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Alfredo Lugo
I'm new to this community and currently facing a very similar situation with my 35-year-old daughter who has intellectual disabilities. She's been receiving SSI for years, and my husband is considering filing for his Social Security benefits early next year when he turns 62. Reading through all these responses has been incredibly helpful - I had no idea about the Disabled Adult Child (DAC) benefits possibility! Like many of you mentioned, I've been dreading how his retirement might negatively impact her SSI, but it sounds like DAC could actually be much better. My daughter lives in a group home and works about 10 hours per week in a supported employment program. Based on what I'm reading here, her living situation and minimal work income might actually help with the benefit calculations. I'm definitely going to request that Benefits Planning Query (BPQY) report that was mentioned and look into finding a SOAR-certified benefits counselor in our area. The idea of getting everything evaluated BEFORE my husband files seems crucial based on everyone's experiences. One question I have - for those whose adult children successfully transitioned to DAC benefits, how long did the whole process take from application to receiving the first payment? I want to make sure we plan for any potential gaps in coverage. Thank you all for sharing such detailed experiences. This thread is giving me hope that this transition might actually work out better than I feared!
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Evelyn Rivera
•Welcome to the community! Your situation sounds very similar to what many of us have navigated. The group home living arrangement and supported employment actually put your daughter in a good position for the DAC transition - similar to what others have mentioned about avoiding household deeming complications. Regarding timing, from what I've seen in this thread and other discussions, the DAC application process typically takes 3-6 months if all documentation is in order. The key is applying simultaneously when your husband files for retirement benefits to avoid gaps. Some people have reported getting retroactive payments if there are processing delays, but it's definitely better to plan ahead. I'd also suggest documenting your daughter's work income carefully - those work incentives mentioned earlier can really help maintain benefits during transitions. The BPQY report should give you a clearer picture of all her options. It's encouraging to see more families discovering that these transitions often work out better than expected. The fact that you're researching this a full year ahead puts you in a great position to make informed decisions. Keep us posted on how the benefits counselor consultation goes!
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Kiara Fisherman
As a disability benefits specialist, I want to emphasize a few critical points that haven't been fully addressed yet: 1. **Asset limits matter**: If your son transitions from SSI to DAC, he'll no longer be subject to the $2,000 asset limit that restricts SSI recipients. This means he could potentially save money or receive gifts without losing benefits. 2. **State supplemental payments**: Some states provide supplemental payments to SSI recipients. Check if your son receives any state supplements, as these might be affected differently than federal benefits during the transition. 3. **ABLE accounts**: If your son doesn't already have one, consider opening an ABLE account before the transition. These accounts allow disabled individuals to save money without affecting benefit eligibility and can be especially valuable when moving from SSI to DAC. 4. **Medicare enrollment timing**: If your son qualifies for DAC, he'll be eligible for Medicare 24 months after his disability onset date for DAC purposes (not necessarily when he first became disabled). Understanding this timeline is crucial for maintaining continuous health coverage. The consensus here about exploring DAC benefits is absolutely correct - in most cases, it results in higher payments and more flexibility. Just make sure to get everything in writing from SSA and don't rely solely on phone consultations for such an important decision.
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