Married Filing Jointly - Does it matter who is the primary filer for state returns?
My wife and I are having a bit of a dilemma with our state tax returns after relocating to a new state in 2023. We've always filed our joint federal returns with me as the primary filer. But now we need to file our final state return for our previous state. Here's our problem - I'm completely locked out of the state tax portal. Wrong password, and when I try to reset it, I'm getting the security questions wrong (I swear I never set those answers!). My wife, on the other hand, can still log into her account that she had back before we got married in 2019. The catch is, she didn't have any income in that state in 2023, but I did - about $78,000 before we moved. If we file through her account where she initiates the tax return and then adds all my income information, would that create any issues? Does it actually matter which spouse is listed first on a married filing jointly state return? I assume it shouldn't make a difference, but wanted to check before we submit anything.
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Jade O'Malley
This is a really common question and I deal with it frequently. For married filing jointly returns, it generally doesn't matter which spouse is listed as the primary filer from a tax calculation perspective. The primary filer is simply the one whose name and SSN go first on the return. When you file through your state's tax portal, using your wife's account to submit the return is perfectly fine. The important thing is that all income from both spouses is correctly reported, and that you maintain consistency with your filing status (married filing jointly) that you used on your federal return. Just make sure when completing the form that you indicate she's the primary taxpayer and you're the spouse, which is opposite from how you've filed federally. This shouldn't affect your tax liability or cause any issues with processing.
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Hunter Edmunds
•But won't this cause problems since they filed federal with him as primary? I thought they had to match exactly or you'd get a rejection letter.
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Jade O'Malley
•Great question. For federal and state returns, the primary/secondary designation doesn't need to match between them. The IRS and state tax authorities don't cross-reference who was listed first on the forms. What matters is that the same filing status (married filing jointly) is used on both returns, and that all income is properly reported. The primary/secondary designation is mainly an administrative detail for processing the return.
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Ella Lewis
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Andrew Pinnock
•Did you have to pay extra for that? I'm always suspicious of tax tools that aren't the major ones like TurboTax or H&R Block.
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Brianna Schmidt
•Does it handle multiple state returns? We moved mid-year and I'm freaking out about having to file in both states.
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Ella Lewis
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Brianna Schmidt
Just wanted to follow up - I tried taxr.ai after seeing it mentioned here and it was super helpful! I was really stressing about our multi-state situation after moving, but it analyzed all our documents and explained exactly what needed to go where. The breakdown of income allocation between states was super clear and it confirmed that it didn't matter which spouse was the primary filer on our state returns. Now I actually understand what I'm filing instead of just hoping I did it right!
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Alexis Renard
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Camila Jordan
•How does this even work? The state tax dept never answers their phones when I call - I've tried dozens of times!
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Andrew Pinnock
•This sounds like a scam. There's no way to skip the phone queue for government agencies. They probably just keep you on hold themselves and charge you for it.
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Alexis Renard
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Andrew Pinnock
I have to admit I was completely wrong about Claimyr. After posting my skeptical comment, I decided to try it anyway out of desperation when I couldn't reach my state tax office about a refund problem. Got connected to a real person in the state tax department in about 15 minutes! The rep actually helped me resolve my issue and I didn't have to spend hours on hold. Definitely worth it for anyone dealing with state tax departments that never answer their phones.
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Tyler Lefleur
Has anyone else noticed that sometimes the state doesn't even care who the primary filer is? Last year I accidentally filed our state return with my husband as primary (opposite of our federal) and there were zero issues. The state tax department told me later they just care that the SSNs match and all income is reported.
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Caleb Stark
•Thanks for sharing this! That's really reassuring. I think we're just going to go ahead and file through my wife's account then. Did you use any special software to make sure everything lined up correctly?
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Tyler Lefleur
•Not really, I just used TurboTax and made sure all our income was entered correctly. The important thing is that all your income gets properly reported - the state mainly cares about collecting the right amount of tax, not about which spouse is listed first. One tip though - make a note somewhere about how you filed this year so you remember for next year, especially if you need to amend or refer back to this return later. I forgot which way we filed and it caused some confusion when I called with a question months later.
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Madeline Blaze
Quick question - will this affect your refund if you're getting direct deposit? Like if the bank account is in the name of whoever was originally the primary filer?
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Max Knight
•Nope, shouldn't matter. My wife and I file with her as primary but use my bank account for the refund deposit. The name on the account doesn't have to match the primary filer.
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Ravi Choudhury
Just to add another perspective here - I work as a tax preparer and can confirm that for married filing jointly returns, the primary/secondary spouse designation is really just an administrative detail. The actual tax calculation and liability remain exactly the same regardless of which spouse is listed first. Your situation is actually pretty common, especially with couples who have moved states or had account access issues. Filing through your wife's account with her as the primary filer is completely fine. Just make sure all your income ($78,000) gets properly reported on the return, even though she had no income in that state. The key things to verify: 1) Use the same filing status (married filing jointly) as your federal return, 2) Report all income accurately, and 3) Make sure you're filing as a part-year resident if you moved mid-year. The state tax software should walk you through the part-year residency calculations automatically. Don't stress too much about this - you're making the right choice by moving forward with what works rather than getting stuck on account access issues!
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Alice Fleming
•This is exactly the kind of professional insight I was hoping to see! As someone new to filing taxes after getting married, it's really reassuring to hear from an actual tax preparer that this is a common situation. The part about part-year residency is especially helpful - I hadn't even thought about that aspect yet. Thank you for breaking down the key things to verify, that gives me a clear checklist to follow when we file through my wife's account.
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