IRS mistakenly marked my husband as deceased when I called about filing my late father's tax return
So I'm dealing with this ridiculous situation right now. My father passed away last September, and I've been handling his final tax return as the executor of his estate. Yesterday, I finally got through to an IRS agent after being on hold for almost two hours to ask some questions about form 1310 and how to handle some of his investment income. During the call, the agent was actually super helpful about my dad's return stuff, but then things got weird. At the end of our conversation, she mentioned something about "both deceased taxpayers" and I was like, wait what? When I asked for clarification, she said their system showed both my father AND my husband as deceased! My husband is very much alive - I literally just had breakfast with him this morning! The agent seemed confused too and put me on hold to check something. When she came back, she said there was a "death indicator" on my husband's tax record from a notification they received last month. Has anyone dealt with this before? How do I fix this? I'm worried this is going to cause problems with our joint return this year or mess up his credit or something. Do I need to physically bring my husband to an IRS office to prove he's not dead? This is absurd.
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Esteban Tate
This is actually more common than you'd think. The IRS has what's called a "death master file" that they maintain based on information from the Social Security Administration. Sometimes mistakes happen where the wrong SSN gets flagged. You need to handle this ASAP because it can affect everything from your husband's credit to his ability to file taxes or receive refunds. Here's what you should do: 1. Have your husband visit your local Social Security office in person with his ID and Social Security card. They'll need to verify he's alive and correct their records. 2. After the SSA fixes their records, contact the IRS again and ask them to remove the death indicator. You'll want to specifically request that they update their records to show your husband is alive. 3. Get a letter from the Social Security office confirming the error was corrected. Keep this documentation for your records - you might need it for other institutions that received the incorrect death notification. This can take a few weeks to fully resolve across all systems, so start the process right away.
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Ivanna St. Pierre
•Would it be faster to just file their joint return as normal? Wouldn't that make the IRS realize he's actually still alive when they see his signature and current income?
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Esteban Tate
•Filing the return normally could actually create more problems. The IRS system will likely automatically reject a return that includes a "deceased" taxpayer's SSN as a living joint filer. Their automated systems are designed to flag this as potential fraud. The better approach is to fix the underlying issue with Social Security first. Once that's corrected, you can file your return without complications. If you're up against a filing deadline, you can always request an extension while you sort this out.
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Elin Robinson
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Atticus Domingo
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Beth Ford
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Elin Robinson
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Beth Ford
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Morita Montoya
I feel your pain! I spent THREE MONTHS trying to convince the IRS my wife wasn't dead after a similar mix-up. The worst part was calling the IRS repeatedly and waiting hours just to be told to call a different department. After my fifth failed attempt to reach someone helpful, I used https://claimyr.com to get through to the IRS. They somehow got me connected to an actual IRS agent in under 45 minutes when I had been trying for weeks. You can see how it works here: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c The agent I spoke with was able to see exactly where the error originated and immediately put me in touch with the right department to fix the death indicator. Saved me countless hours of frustration.
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Kingston Bellamy
•How does this actually work? I thought there was no way to skip the IRS phone queue? Are they somehow partnered with the IRS?
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Joy Olmedo
•Sounds like a scam to me. No way anyone can magically get through the IRS phone system faster than anyone else. They probably just keep redialing and charge you for the privilege.
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Morita Montoya
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Joy Olmedo
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Isaiah Cross
When this happened to my cousin, he had to get what's called a "Proof of Life" letter from SSA. Take your husband physically to the Social Security office with LOTS of ID - his birth certificate, driver's license, passport if he has one, and Social Security card. Also, check his credit reports IMMEDIATELY. Once the death indicator spreads from SSA to other government agencies, it often gets reported to credit bureaus too. You'll want to dispute this with all three major credit bureaus right away. The most annoying thing was that even after SSA fixed their records, they had to wait for the correction to propagate to other agencies, which took almost 2 months. So start this process immediately!
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Alice Pierce
•Thank you for the credit report tip! I hadn't even thought of that. I just checked my husband's Experian report and sure enough, there's a "deceased" flag on it already. Will be disputing that right away. We have an appointment at the Social Security office next week. Did your cousin have any issues with his bank accounts during this process?
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Isaiah Cross
•My cousin didn't have issues with his existing bank accounts, but he tried to open a new credit card during this time and was denied. The most important thing is to be proactive with everywhere that might receive this incorrect information. One other tip: have your husband request an Identity Theft PIN from the IRS once this is resolved. After going through something like this, it adds an extra layer of protection to prevent future filing issues. You can request one online through the IRS website.
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Kiara Greene
Has anyone dealt with the reverse problem? The IRS still thinks my grandmother is alive even though she passed away 2 years ago. We've sent death certificates multiple times but they keep sending her notices about unfiled returns.
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Evelyn Kelly
•Yes! It took us three attempts with certified death certificates before they finally updated their system. Make sure you're sending it to the specific IRS department that handles deceased taxpayer accounts, not just the general mailing address. Also include a cover letter with her SSN and date of death clearly stated.
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