For 2025, can I claim my college student as dependent when I'm the noncustodial parent?
I have a full-time college student who's 18 years old, and I'm covering 100% of his college expenses including tuition and his on-campus housing. He used to live full-time with his father (my ex-husband), but now lives primarily in the dorms. The university, my home, and his father's house are all in the same general area, and he divides his time between me and his father during summer breaks and holidays from school. His dad has him on his workplace health insurance plan. I've gone through the Form 1040 instructions several times, but I'm really confused about how the "who he lives with for more than half the year" rule would apply in his situation since he's living on campus most of the time. Does campus housing count toward either parent's time? Honestly, claiming him as a dependent doesn't give me huge tax benefits. It just increases my state income tax deduction somewhat and would transfer the FAFSA responsibilities to me. But I want to make sure I'm doing everything correctly for 2025 taxes.
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Freya Pedersen
The residency test works differently for college students! For children who are full-time students, temporary absences from home (including attending school) are counted as time lived with you. However, since you're the noncustodial parent, you'll need to look at the special rule that applies in your situation. For divorced or separated parents, the child is generally treated as the dependent of the custodial parent. However, the noncustodial parent (you) can claim the child if the custodial parent releases the claim by signing Form 8332 (Release of Claim to Exemption for Child by Custodial Parent) and you attach it to your return. Without that form, you generally can't claim him as your dependent even if you pay all educational expenses, unless your divorce decree specifically gives you that right for tax purposes.
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GalacticGuru
•Thanks for explaining! Our divorce decree doesn't specifically address who claims him during college years. So even though I'm paying 100% of his college expenses, I would still need his father to sign Form 8332? Is that something he has to do annually, or just once?
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Freya Pedersen
•The Form 8332 can be signed for a single year or for multiple years, depending on what you and your ex agree upon. It's a formal release of the dependency claim from the custodial parent to you. Since you're paying all the college expenses, this might be something your ex would consider reasonable. If your divorce decree doesn't specifically address college years, then yes, you would need this form to claim your son as a dependent despite paying all his expenses. This is because the IRS residency test would likely still count your ex as the custodial parent based on pre-college living arrangements and where your son returns during breaks.
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Zara Rashid
I've been through this exact situation with my college student! From my experience, the key factor is which parent the college student returns to during breaks. If he spends more time at your ex's house during summer and holidays, the IRS would likely still consider your ex the custodial parent. Since you're paying 100% of the educational expenses, the fairest solution would be to ask your ex to sign Form 8332. But if he refuses, you might want to look into the American Opportunity Tax Credit instead - sometimes the parent who pays the expenses can claim the education credits even if they can't claim the dependent.
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GalacticGuru
•That's really helpful info about the education credits! Would claiming the American Opportunity Tax Credit require any cooperation from my ex-husband, or could I do that independently since I'm paying all the college costs?
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Zara Rashid
•You can claim the American Opportunity Tax Credit independently since you're paying the education expenses, even if you can't claim your son as a dependent. You'll need to use Form 8863 to claim the credit. The credit can be worth up to $2,500 per eligible student, which might actually be more valuable than the dependent exemption itself. You'll need to have the 1098-T form from the college showing tuition paid, and keep records of your payments for other qualified expenses like books and required supplies.
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Luca Romano
Watch out for FAFSA implications! If you're trying to get dependency for FAFSA purposes, the FAFSA rules are completely different from IRS rules. For FAFSA, if you're the noncustodial parent, your income generally isn't considered for financial aid calculations regardless of who claims the student on taxes. But this is changing with the new simplified FAFSA for 2025-2026. They're now asking which parent provides more financial support rather than which parent the student lives with.
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Nia Jackson
•This is correct about the FAFSA changes. I work in college financial aid, and the new FAFSA is focusing on the "provider of more financial support" rather than the residency test. Since you're paying 100% of education costs, you'd likely be considered the supporting parent under the new rules.
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