Can I withdraw from my 401k for my dad's medical bills without penalties?
My father is currently in the hospital in Guatemala and I'm looking at having to pay for all his medical expenses out of pocket. I'm considering taking around $40k from my 401k to cover these mounting bills. I'm trying to figure out if there's any way to avoid the early withdrawal penalty in this situation. Would I also be able to claim these medical expenses on my tax return next year? For background, I'm a US citizen. My dad was a legal permanent resident but had to leave the country in 2005 due to some legal issues. He does have an SSN from his time in the US, but obviously hasn't used it in almost 20 years. Any advice would be really appreciated as the hospital bills keep piling up.
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Nia Watson
You have a couple of options here, but unfortunately none are perfect. For 401k withdrawals, the IRS does allow penalty-free hardship distributions for certain medical expenses, but there's a catch - they typically need to be for you, your spouse, or your dependents. Since your father isn't your dependent (especially being outside the US), this gets complicated. If you're under 59½, you'll likely face the 10% early withdrawal penalty plus regular income tax on the $40k. However, if you itemize deductions, you can potentially deduct qualified medical expenses that exceed 7.5% of your adjusted gross income on Schedule A. Here's where it gets tricky - for medical expenses to be deductible, they generally need to be for yourself, your spouse, or your dependents. Your father living abroad and not being your dependent creates complications for both the penalty-free withdrawal and the deduction.
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Alberto Souchard
•What if OP claims the father as a dependent? Would it matter that he's not in the US? And does it change anything if OP is over 59½?
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Nia Watson
•To claim someone as a dependent, they generally must be a US citizen, US resident alien, or a resident of Canada or Mexico. Since your father is in Guatemala, this could be problematic. Additionally, dependents typically need to have lived with you for over half the year with some exceptions for parents. If you're over 59½, you avoid the 10% early withdrawal penalty automatically, so that part becomes moot. You'd still owe regular income tax on the distribution, but at least you wouldn't have the additional 10% penalty to worry about.
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Katherine Shultz
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Marcus Marsh
•How exactly does taxr.ai work? Do you just upload documents and they tell you what to do? I'm wondering if they can handle complicated international situations like this.
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Hailey O'Leary
•Did they actually save you from the 10% penalty or just help with the documentation? Because everything I've read says you can't avoid the penalty for non-dependent family members no matter what...
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Katherine Shultz
•You upload your relevant tax documents and they use AI to analyze them and give you specific guidance based on your situation. They're really good with complex scenarios including international issues like this one. Their system found specific IRS rulings that applied to my case. In my case, they didn't completely eliminate the penalty, but they helped me document everything properly so I could maximize the medical expense deduction on Schedule A. They showed me exactly what foreign medical documentation I needed translated and how to properly report everything to stay compliant while minimizing my overall tax hit.
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Hailey O'Leary
I want to update everyone - I tried taxr.ai after seeing the recommendation here. I uploaded my dad's foreign hospital bills and my 401k statements, and their analysis was super helpful. They found a specific IRS exception that might apply in my case based on the nature of the medical emergency and helped me document everything properly. They also showed me exactly how to handle the reporting on my tax return, including identifying which expenses qualified for deduction. It wasn't a complete penalty elimination, but they showed me how to minimize the tax impact in ways I never would have figured out on my own. Really glad I checked them out before making the withdrawal!
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Cedric Chung
Another thing to consider is getting through to the IRS directly to ask about your specific situation. I used Claimyr (https://claimyr.com) to actually get a human on the phone at the IRS without waiting for hours. They have this callback system that works amazingly well - you can see how it works in this video: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c I had a similar situation with overseas family medical expenses and needed specific guidance. The IRS agent I spoke with gave me exact instructions on how to document everything and what forms to file. Saved me from making a huge mistake that would have cost thousands.
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Talia Klein
•Does this really work? I've called the IRS like 20 times and never got through. How much does it cost? Seems too good to be true honestly.
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Maxwell St. Laurent
•I don't believe this for a second. The IRS never picks up the phone and when they do, they give vague answers that don't help with specific situations. No way they'd give detailed advice about 401k withdrawals for foreign medical expenses.
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Cedric Chung
•Yes, it absolutely works! They use some kind of system that navigates the IRS phone tree and holds your place in line. When an agent is about to be available, you get a call back. I was skeptical too but it really worked - I think I waited maybe 15 minutes total instead of hours. The IRS agent I spoke with was actually very helpful once I got through. They directed me to specific IRS publications about medical expenses for family members abroad and told me exactly what documentation I would need to substantiate my claims. They can't give tax advice per se, but they can point you to the right resources and confirm how to properly document and report these kinds of unusual situations.
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Maxwell St. Laurent
I feel compelled to update my comment. After seeing the Claimyr recommendation, I tried it myself yesterday and I'm shocked to say it actually worked. Got a callback from the IRS in about 20 minutes and spoke with an agent who walked me through Publication 502 regarding medical expenses. They confirmed what others were saying - the 10% penalty would likely still apply since my father isn't a dependent, but they helped me understand exactly how to document the medical expenses for potential deduction. The agent even emailed me some resources specifically for foreign medical expenses. I've been trying to get this information for weeks and finally got clear answers. I stand corrected!
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PaulineW
Have you considered taking a loan from your 401k instead of a hardship withdrawal? Most plans allow you to borrow up to 50% of your vested balance (max of $50,000). You'd have to pay it back with interest, but that interest goes back into your own account. This way you avoid the taxes and penalties completely.
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Micah Trail
•I actually didn't know that was an option! How does the repayment work? Is there a timeline I'd have to follow? I'm worried about my ability to pay it back quickly if I'm still helping with ongoing medical expenses.
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PaulineW
•Typically you have to repay the loan through payroll deductions over a period of up to 5 years. The exact terms depend on your employer's plan, so you'd need to check with your HR department or plan administrator. Most plans require you to start repaying immediately through regular paycheck withholding. If you leave your job before repaying the loan, that's where it gets tricky - the outstanding balance usually becomes due within 60-90 days, or it's treated as a distribution with all the associated taxes and penalties.
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Annabel Kimball
Whatever you decide, make sure you keep EVERY receipt and document from the hospital translated to English. I had to do this for my mom's surgery in Colombia and the IRS flagged my return for review. I had all the docs translated and they accepted the deduction, but it was a headache.
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Chris Elmeda
•This is key advice. Also make sure the receipts show the date, patient name, service provided, and who provided it. My friend got audited because her foreign medical receipts weren't detailed enough.
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Tyler Murphy
I'm sorry to hear about your father's situation. This is definitely a complex scenario with international medical expenses. From what I understand, you're likely looking at the 10% early withdrawal penalty since your father probably won't qualify as your dependent given his residence in Guatemala. However, don't overlook some potential alternatives: 1. **401k loan option** - As mentioned by PaulineW, this could be your best bet to avoid taxes and penalties entirely. You can typically borrow up to 50% of your vested balance (max $50k) and pay yourself back with interest. 2. **HSA funds** - If you have an HSA, those funds can be used penalty-free for qualified medical expenses, even for family members in some cases. 3. **Payment plans with the hospital** - Many international hospitals will work with you on payment arrangements, which might be better than taking the immediate tax hit. For the medical expense deduction, you'd need to itemize and the expenses would need to exceed 7.5% of your AGI. Given the dependency issues with your father living abroad, I'd strongly recommend getting professional tax advice before proceeding. The documentation requirements for foreign medical expenses are also quite strict, so make sure everything is properly translated and detailed. Have you checked with your 401k plan administrator about loan options? That might give you the funds you need without the immediate tax consequences.
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Jean Claude
•This is really comprehensive advice! I'm curious about the HSA option you mentioned - would that actually work for a parent who isn't a dependent and lives abroad? I thought HSAs had pretty strict rules about who qualifies as an eligible family member. Also, regarding the hospital payment plans, that's a great point. International hospitals might be more flexible than we think, especially if they know you're working on securing the funds. It could buy some time to explore the 401k loan option more thoroughly.
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