Can I use Dependent Care FSA funds to pay grandparents for childcare?
Title: Can I use Dependent Care FSA funds to pay grandparents for childcare? 1 I'm in a bit of a childcare pickle and hoping someone can help clarify the FSA rules. Our 2025 Dependent Care FSA account is going to have quite a bit of money left because literally every summer program we applied to for our 5-year-old put us on waitlists and we never got in anywhere! So frustrating. Since we have these extra funds, I'm wondering if I can use my Dependent Care FSA to pay both my parents and my in-laws when they watch our daughter at their homes? They've been helping us out a ton with childcare since we couldn't get into any programs. I've tried researching this and found that I don't need to pay FICA taxes in this situation, but are there other tax implications I should be aware of? Do I need to provide them with any specific tax forms? Do they need to report this income somehow? Any advice would be so appreciated! This FSA stuff is way more complicated than I expected.
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Emma Davis
8 You absolutely can use your Dependent Care FSA to pay your parents and in-laws for watching your child! There are just a few important requirements to keep in mind: 1. Your parents/in-laws cannot be your dependents on your tax return 2. You'll need to provide their SSNs and addresses when you file your taxes 3. You should keep detailed records of payments (dates, amounts, etc.) 4. They will need to report this income on their taxes While you don't have to withhold FICA taxes as a household employer in this situation, your parents and in-laws will need to report this income on their tax returns as self-employment income. This means they'll be responsible for paying self-employment tax on these earnings. Make sure you get a receipt for each payment that includes the date, amount, and services provided. Your FSA administrator will likely require this documentation for reimbursement.
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Emma Davis
•12 Thanks for the info! Do my parents need to set up an actual business or get some kind of license to be considered self-employed? Also, is there a minimum amount they need to earn before they have to report it?
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Emma Davis
•8 They don't need to set up a formal business or get a license - they would just report the income on Schedule C (Profit or Loss from Business) on their tax return as self-employment income. For self-employment income, the reporting threshold is $400 per year. If they earn less than that from childcare, they technically don't have to pay self-employment taxes, but should still report the income on their tax return.
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Emma Davis
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Emma Davis
•7 This sounds interesting - did they explain how your relative needs to handle the tax reporting on their end? My mom is retired and worried about messing up her taxes/social security.
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Emma Davis
•3 Does this work for figuring out if you qualify for the Child and Dependent Care Credit too? I've heard you can't double-dip with FSA and the tax credit but don't understand how it works.
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Emma Davis
•15 They definitely covered how my sister needed to report the income, including potential impacts on social security benefits for retirees. They provided a really clear explanation about the threshold amounts that could affect benefits. Yes, they actually have a comparison calculator that shows whether the FSA or Child and Dependent Care Credit would be better for your situation, or how to optimize both if your expenses exceed your FSA amount. It showed me exactly where the cutoff is to avoid "double-dipping" while maximizing tax benefits.
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Emma Davis
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Emma Davis
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Emma Davis
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Emma Davis
•21 I'm super skeptical of any service claiming to get through to the IRS quickly. I've literally spent DAYS of my life on hold with them. What's the catch? Do they charge a fortune for this?
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Emma Davis
•19 It's definitely real! They use an automated system that handles the hold process for you and alerts you when an agent is about to come on the line, so you don't have to sit there listening to the hold music for hours. No catch - their system just navigates the IRS phone tree and maintains your place in the queue so you don't have to. I was skeptical too until I tried it. You just give them your phone number, they call you back when they've got an IRS agent on the line, and then connect you directly. Completely changed my perspective on dealing with tax questions!
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Emma Davis
21 I need to eat my words about being skeptical of Claimyr! After posting that comment, I decided to try it for an FSA question that had been bugging me for weeks. I got a call back in about 35 minutes saying they had an IRS agent on the line. The agent clarified exactly how to handle the Dependent Care FSA payments when using multiple family caregivers - turns out you need separate provider information for each person on Form 2441, even if they're related to each other. Also confirmed the record-keeping requirements (payment dates, service dates, and provider tax ID/SSN). Saved me from a potential audit headache. That service is legitimately useful if you need actual IRS guidance!
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Emma Davis
5 One thing to consider - if your parents/in-laws earn enough income from watching your child, it could potentially push them into a higher tax bracket or affect their Social Security benefits if they're receiving them. Might be worth running some calculations to see if the FSA reimbursement route makes sense financially for everyone involved.
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Emma Davis
•13 Would it be better to just lose the FSA money than cause tax issues for the grandparents? We're in a similar situation with about $2,000 left in our account.
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Emma Davis
•5 It really depends on their specific tax situation. I wouldn't automatically write off using the FSA funds - just have a conversation with them about it. For $2,000, if spread across two sets of grandparents, we're talking about $1,000 each, which might not dramatically impact their tax situation. If they're concerned, they could consult with their tax preparer to understand exactly how it would affect them. There might be ways to time the payments or balance them between the grandparents to minimize any negative impacts. Don't just forfeit the FSA money without exploring options!
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Emma Davis
23 Another solution might be to look for eligible expenses besides direct childcare! Your FSA might cover day camps (even specialty ones like sports or art camps) if you can find any with last-minute openings. Some FSAs even cover transportation costs related to childcare. Worth checking your specific plan details!
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Emma Davis
•18 Yes! We were able to use some of our leftover FSA funds for a weekend sports camp that had openings. Also, after-school enrichment programs often count too if they provide care while you're working.
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Julian Paolo
Just want to add a practical tip from my experience - when paying grandparents with FSA funds, I created a simple spreadsheet to track everything the IRS and FSA administrator needed. I included columns for date of service, date of payment, amount, which grandparent provided care, and brief description of services. Also, I had each grandparent sign a simple "childcare provider agreement" that outlined the arrangement. Nothing fancy, just a one-page document stating they're providing childcare services, their SSN, address, and acknowledgment they'll report the income. My FSA administrator loved having this documentation when I submitted for reimbursement. One more thing - check if your state has any specific requirements. Some states require childcare providers to be registered even if they're family members, though this is pretty rare for informal grandparent care.
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Hazel Garcia
•This is incredibly helpful! The spreadsheet idea is genius - I've been dreading trying to organize all the payment records. Quick question: did you have the grandparents sign the agreement before you started paying them, or can you do it retroactively? We've already made a few payments to my in-laws and I'm worried I messed up the documentation requirements. Also, when you say "brief description of services" - how specific did you get? Like "childcare from 8am-5pm" or did you need more detail about activities, meals provided, etc.?
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