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Nora Brooks

Can I deduct personal assistant as a business expense for my side-gig?

I run a health consulting side-hustle from home as a sole proprietorship after my normal 9-5 job. The demand for my services is incredible - I could literally book every single hour from when I finish my day job until I go to sleep. The problem is all the household stuff is eating into potential business time. Making dinner, cleaning up, helping kids with homework, prepping lunches for the next day - it all adds up and cuts into hours I could be earning money. I'm thinking about hiring someone to handle cooking, cleaning, laundry and some childcare so I can focus on booking more consulting clients. This would directly increase my business income. Is there seriously no way to make this type of personal assistant a legitimate business expense that I could deduct? It seems like it would be directly tied to increasing my business revenue.

Eli Wang

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While I understand your reasoning, the IRS draws a pretty clear line between personal and business expenses. Unfortunately, household tasks like cooking, cleaning, and childcare are considered personal living expenses, even if freeing up that time allows you to work more. The general rule is that for something to be deductible, it must be both ordinary and necessary for your business specifically - not just helpful for giving you more time. The personal assistant would need to perform actual business functions like scheduling appointments, handling business correspondence, or managing your business finances. One approach some people take is to hire an actual business assistant who handles business tasks, and separately pay for household help. Only the business portion would be deductible.

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Nora Brooks

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But doesn't that seem arbitrary? I mean if I hire someone SPECIFICALLY so I can work more hours in my business, how is that different from hiring an office assistant? Both directly lead to more business income.

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Eli Wang

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I understand your frustration, but the tax code distinguishes between business functions and personal ones. The test is whether the expense is directly related to your business operations, not whether it indirectly helps you work more hours. The IRS views household services as personal expenses that everyone has regardless of whether they own a business. They consider childcare and household management a personal responsibility, which is why there are separate tax benefits like the Child and Dependent Care Credit for those expenses.

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Have you thought about creating an actual business assistant role rather than a personal one? My accountant helped me structure this - I hired someone who does 60% legitimate business tasks (managing my calendar, handling email follow-ups with clients, processing payments, organizing business receipts) and 40% household support. I only deduct the portion of their salary that relates to actual business functions, and I keep meticulous records of the hours spent on business tasks vs. personal ones. The business portion is deductible while the personal portion isn't. It's not a perfect solution but it does help with some of the cost.

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Nora Brooks

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That's an interesting approach! How do you document the split between business and personal tasks? Do you have them track hours or something else?

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I have them use a simple time-tracking app that categorizes hours by task type. We have clear definitions of what constitutes business work versus personal assistance. At the end of each pay period, I get a report showing the percentage breakdown. I also keep a job description document that clearly outlines the business functions of the role, and I make sure those duties are substantial and necessary for my business operation. My accountant advised this approach to ensure I have proper documentation in case of an audit.

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Riya Sharma

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I've been wfh full time for 3 years and have a side freelance thing too and let me tell u, the IRS sucks with these rules. like my neighbor has his transportation to work covered as a business expense for his corporate job but i cant deduct someone to help with my kids so i can work more??? makes no sense 🙄

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Santiago Diaz

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Actually, commuting to work isn't tax deductible for employees either. Your neighbor might be getting reimbursed by their employer, but that's different from a tax deduction. Or they might be deducting something they shouldn't!

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Laila Prince

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I totally get your frustration! I'm in a similar boat with my consulting business. What I ended up doing was getting creative with legitimate business expenses that actually helped free up time. For example, I now deduct meal delivery services when I'm working late on client projects (business meals), upgraded to a business phone line that handles scheduling automatically, and hired a virtual assistant who only does actual business tasks like client follow-ups and invoice processing. While I can't deduct my house cleaner directly, maximizing these legitimate business deductions gave me more cash flow to afford the household help anyway. Sometimes you have to work within the system rather than fight it. The key is making sure every deduction you take is genuinely business-related and well-documented.

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CosmicVoyager

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That's really smart thinking! I never considered meal delivery as a business expense when working late on projects. Do you have to document that it was specifically for business purposes, or is the timing enough? And how do you handle the virtual assistant - do you use a service or hire someone directly? I'm trying to figure out the best way to structure this so everything is clearly legitimate business expenses.

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Miguel Diaz

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I've been running a consulting business for about 4 years now and went through this exact same dilemma! The IRS rules can definitely feel frustrating when you're trying to grow your business. What ended up working for me was restructuring how I thought about the problem. Instead of trying to deduct household help directly, I focused on maximizing every legitimate business deduction I could find, which freed up enough cash flow to afford the personal assistance I needed. Some things that helped: I started properly tracking my home office square footage (was way underestimating before), began deducting business use of my car for client meetings, and hired a bookkeeper who handles all my business finances and tax prep. The bookkeeper alone saves me 5-6 hours per month that I can now spend on billable work. I also set up a dedicated business phone line and use scheduling software that automates a lot of client communication - both deductible business expenses that genuinely save time. The key is making sure you're capturing every legitimate business expense first, then using that tax savings to fund the personal support you need to scale up.

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This is such a helpful perspective, Miguel! I love how you reframed it from "what can't I deduct" to "what legitimate deductions am I missing." The home office square footage thing is interesting - I think I'm probably underestimating mine too. How did you figure out the proper calculation? And did you need any special documentation for the business use of your car, or is tracking mileage enough? I'm definitely not maximizing my legitimate deductions before even thinking about the household help situation.

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StarGazer101

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I went through this exact same frustration when I started my freelance marketing business! The tax rules around personal vs. business expenses can feel so arbitrary, especially when you can clearly see how household help would directly increase your earning potential. After working with a tax professional, I learned that the IRS is pretty strict about the "ordinary and necessary" test - the expense has to be something that's typical for businesses in your industry AND directly related to business operations, not just helpful for freeing up your time. What actually worked for me was taking a two-pronged approach: First, I made sure I was maximizing every single legitimate business deduction (home office, business meals, professional development, etc.) to free up more cash flow. Second, I restructured part of my household help as a legitimate business assistant role - someone who handles my client scheduling, follows up on invoices, manages my business social media, and yes, also helps with some household tasks. I only deduct the portion of their time spent on actual business functions, and I keep detailed time logs to document the split. It's not a perfect solution, but it helps offset some of the costs while staying completely compliant with tax law. Sometimes you have to get creative within the boundaries rather than trying to push past them.

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This is exactly the kind of practical advice I was looking for! The two-pronged approach makes so much sense - maximize what you can legitimately deduct first, then get creative with structuring roles that have genuine business components. I'm curious about the time logging system you use for tracking the business vs personal split. Do you use a specific app or software, or just a simple spreadsheet? And when you say you keep "detailed time logs," how granular do you get - like tracking individual tasks, or broader categories? I'm thinking of trying this approach but want to make sure my documentation would hold up if the IRS ever questioned it. The last thing I want is to get audited over improper categorization!

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