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Adaline Wong

Can I claim my girlfriend's son's girlfriend as a dependent on my taxes?

I'm trying to figure out if I can claim my son's girlfriend on my taxes as a dependent. I've had her living with me on and off this past year after she had a falling out with her parents. She moved in permanently around February, so that's about 10-11 months total for the year. She's 19, not in college, works part-time at a coffee shop but only makes around $8,000 a year. I pay for most of her food, let her live rent-free, and have been covering her cell phone bill and other expenses. I tried using the IRS dependency test online but got confused about the "qualifying relative" part. It asked if she's my relative, which technically she's not - she's just dating my son. But she has been living under my roof and I'm providing over half her support. Does anyone know if I can claim her as a dependent? Would really help with my tax situation this year since I'm already claiming my son who's still in college. Thanks!

Gabriel Ruiz

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Based on what you've described, you won't be able to claim your son's girlfriend as a dependent. There are two types of dependents: qualifying children and qualifying relatives. For her to be a qualifying relative, she would need to either be related to you in one of the ways the IRS lists OR she would need to have lived with you for the entire year (all 12 months) as a member of your household. Since she only lived with you for 10-11 months and isn't related to you according to the IRS definitions, she unfortunately doesn't meet either requirement. The other criteria you mentioned (providing more than half her support and her income being under the threshold - which is $4,600 for 2024) would have been relevant if she had lived with you the full year. But the relationship test and the full-year residency requirement are deal-breakers here.

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What if he just claimed her anyway? Would the IRS even know or check? Not saying to commit fraud but just curious how they'd even verify living arrangements?

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Gabriel Ruiz

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The IRS has various ways to detect improper dependent claims. They cross-reference tax returns, so if she files her own return and doesn't indicate she can be claimed as a dependent, that raises flags. They also look at address history, prior year returns, and may request documentation during audits. If you claim someone improperly, you could face penalties, interest on unpaid taxes, and potentially even fraud charges in extreme cases. It's always best to follow the rules even when verification seems unlikely.

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Vince Eh

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If I were you, I'd focus on claiming the expenses you CAN legitimately deduct rather than trying to claim her as a dependent. For example, if you paid any qualified education expenses for her, you might be eligible for education credits. Also, if she's living with you next year, make sure she's there from January 1st through December 31st so you can claim her next time around.

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Adaline Wong

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Thanks for the suggestion about education credits, but she's not in college right now. I think you're right about making sure she stays the full calendar year for next tax season though. Do I need any specific documentation to prove she's been living with me the whole time?

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You don't need specific documentation upfront, but you should keep evidence in case of an audit. Things that help establish residency include mail addressed to her at your home, medical bills, school records, employment records showing your address, state ID with your address, or affidavits from people who can verify she lived with you all year. If she has a driver's license or state ID, having her update the address to yours early in the year provides good documentation. Also keep records of any support you provide like receipts for major purchases, utility bills, etc.

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Aria Khan

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Why is everyone overthinking this? Just ask her to file her own taxes and not check the box that says "Someone can claim me as a dependent." The IRS isn't going to investigate your living arrangements unless there's some obvious red flag.

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Everett Tutum

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This is terrible advice. The IRS absolutely can and does check dependent claims, especially if the person you're claiming files their own return. They have automated systems that flag mismatches. Tax fraud over a dependent claim is not worth the hassle and potential penalties!

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