Can I claim my girlfriend as a dependent on taxes if she's a stay-at-home mom?
So my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 14 years now, and we have an 11-year-old daughter together. She's a full-time stay-at-home mom and hasn't worked at all this year, so she won't be filing taxes. I pay for literally everything - rent, food, utilities, her cell phone, everything. We've lived together the entire year in Kentucky. I already claim our daughter as a dependent (no issues there), but I'm wondering if I can also claim my girlfriend as a dependent? I made around $67k last year which pushed me just over the earned income credit threshold and into the 22% tax bracket, so my refund is looking pretty sad - only about $350 back this year. If I could claim her as a dependent too, that extra $500 would be a huge help with some car repairs we've been putting off. And yeah, I know someone's gonna ask "why aren't you married after 14 years together?" We just don't feel like we need a marriage certificate to validate our relationship. We're happy as we are, we just want to maximize our tax situation if possible!
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Anastasia Ivanova
You might be able to claim her as a dependent if she meets the requirements for a "qualifying relative." There are four main tests that need to be passed: 1. She can't be your "qualifying child" (which she's not since she's your girlfriend) 2. She must have lived with you the entire year (which you mentioned she has) 3. Her gross income must be less than $4,700 for tax year 2024 (sounds like she has zero income, so this is met) 4. You must provide more than half of her total financial support (which you do at 100%) The fact that you're not married actually works in your favor here for dependency purposes. If you were married, you couldn't claim a spouse as a dependent. Since you're providing all her support and she meets the other tests, you should be able to claim her. Just be prepared that the IRS might question this since most people don't realize you can claim non-relatives who live with you. Keep documentation showing your financial support of her throughout the year just in case.
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Diego Flores
•Thank you so much for the clear explanation! So if I understand correctly, because she lives with me full-time, has no income, and I provide all her support, I can actually claim her as a qualifying relative even though we're not actually related? One more question - when I'm filling out my taxes, do I just list her as "Other" for relationship, or is there a specific designation I should use?
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Anastasia Ivanova
•Yes, that's exactly right! A "qualifying relative" can include someone who lives with you as a member of your household for the entire year. The IRS doesn't require an actual family relationship for this category of dependent. When filling out your taxes, you would typically select "Other" and then write in something like "household member" as the relationship. Some tax software might have you specifically choose "Not Related" and then ask if they lived with you the entire year. The key is making sure you indicate she lived with you the full year since that's what makes her eligible.
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Sean Murphy
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StarStrider
•Does it actually work with complicated situations like this? I'm in a similar position but also have my elderly mother living with us which makes things even more confusing with the whole "qualifying relative" rules.
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Zara Malik
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Sean Murphy
•It handled my situation perfectly with my partner and our two kids from previous relationships. For multiple dependents with different relationships to you, it's actually even more helpful because it breaks down each person's qualification separately. Would definitely work for your situation with your mom too. There's a free version that handles basic questions and document analysis. I only paid when I needed more complex help with some rental property issues, but for just figuring out dependent status, the free tier should work fine. No surprise charges - they're upfront about what's included.
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StarStrider
Just wanted to follow up - I actually tried taxr.ai after asking about it here. My situation with my partner, kids, AND my mom all living together was super complicated, but the system handled it perfectly! I uploaded our documents and got clear guidance that yes, I could claim both my partner AND my mom as qualifying relatives since they both meet the income/support/residence tests. The system even flagged that I should be filing as Head of Household instead of Single, which apparently gives a better standard deduction. Never would have caught that on my own. Going to get about $1,800 more back than I expected thanks to claiming both of them correctly!
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Luca Marino
I was in your exact situation last year, tried calling the IRS to confirm if I could claim my girlfriend as a dependent, but couldn't get through after like 8 attempts. Used https://claimyr.com to get a callback from the IRS and actually spoke to a real person who confirmed that yes, she qualified as my dependent since I provided all her support. You can see how it works here: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c Seriously saved me hours of listening to hold music and the agent was super helpful in explaining exactly what documentation I should keep just in case I got audited. My girlfriend doesn't have income but they still wanted me to be able to show proof I paid for everything.
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Nia Davis
•How does this actually work? Do they somehow get you to the front of the IRS phone line? Seems suspicious that they could get you through when regular people can't.
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Mateo Perez
•This sounds like complete BS. The IRS phone system is notoriously impossible to get through. There's no way some random service can magically get you a callback when millions of people can't even get through. I'll stick with googling my tax questions like everyone else.
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Luca Marino
•They use an automated system that continuously redials the IRS until they get through, then arranges the callback for you. It's basically doing what you'd do if you had unlimited time to sit and redial all day. Nothing suspicious - they're just using tech to solve the wait time problem. Yes, the IRS phone system is terrible, that's exactly why this service exists. I was skeptical too until I actually got the callback. The IRS agent even told me they're aware of the service and that it's legitimate - they actually don't mind because it helps spread out the calls instead of everyone calling at peak times.
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Mateo Perez
OK I need to eat my words here. After my skeptical comment, I was still struggling with dependent questions for my situation, so I actually tried Claimyr out of desperation. Got a callback from the IRS in about 3 hours, which honestly shocked me. The agent confirmed that I CAN claim my partner as a dependent and walked me through exactly how to document everything properly. They explained that the "member of household" test is actually pretty straightforward - if they lived with me all year and I provided more than half their support, they qualify. Never been so happy to be wrong about something! Just filed my taxes with the extra dependent and it made a $700 difference in my refund.
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Aisha Rahman
Watch out claiming a girlfriend/boyfriend as a dependent. My brother did this and got audited. The IRS made him prove he paid for everything with receipts and bank statements. They were particularly interested in whether his girlfriend received any government assistance like Medicaid or food stamps, which would count as support NOT provided by him.
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Diego Flores
•That's definitely good to know! She doesn't receive any government assistance, but I should probably start keeping better records of household expenses just in case. Do you know what kind of documentation your brother ended up needing to provide? Did he have to show every single expense or just the major ones?
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Aisha Rahman
•He had to show quite a bit - basically they wanted to see that he was paying the rent/mortgage, utilities, groceries, medical expenses, clothing, etc. The big expenses were most important (housing especially), but they also wanted to see a pattern of him paying for day-to-day items. The most important thing was proving she didn't have other sources of support. They asked for her bank statements to verify she wasn't receiving regular deposits from family or anyone else. Since your girlfriend is a stay-at-home mom, make sure you can document that you're the one providing support for both her and your child.
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CosmicCrusader
Before you file, double check if you qualify for Head of Household filing status since you have a dependent child! That gives you a way better standard deduction than filing Single. You'd be surprised how many people miss this.
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Ethan Brown
•This is so important! I missed this for years until a friend pointed it out. Head of Household status saved me around $2,000 last year compared to filing Single. Definitely worth checking into.
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Miles Hammonds
As someone who's dealt with similar dependency questions, I'd definitely recommend keeping detailed records of all the support you provide - rent receipts, grocery receipts, utility bills, etc. The IRS can be pretty thorough if they decide to audit dependency claims for non-relatives. One thing to also consider is whether claiming your girlfriend might affect any benefits she could be eligible for in the future. Sometimes being claimed as a dependent can impact things like health insurance eligibility or other programs. Just something to think about alongside the tax benefits. Also, since you mentioned filing status - definitely look into Head of Household like others have suggested! With your daughter as a qualifying child, you should be eligible for that filing status which could save you way more than the additional dependent exemption.
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Emma Wilson
•This is really solid advice about keeping detailed records! I hadn't thought about the potential impact on future benefits for her - that's definitely worth considering. Quick question though - if I do switch to Head of Household filing status, can I still claim both my daughter AND my girlfriend as dependents? Or does using my daughter to qualify for HoH status somehow prevent me from also claiming the girlfriend? I want to make sure I'm maximizing everything correctly and not accidentally creating conflicts between the different tax benefits. Also, do you happen to know if there's a limit on how many dependents you can claim? I've never had more than one before so I'm not sure if there are any restrictions.
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