Just to add on to what others have said - you mentioned "We filed for tax year 2023... For tax year 2024..." Just to make sure - are you actually filing your 2024 taxes already? Because the filing season for 2024 taxes doesn't start until 2025. Did you mean you're filing 2023 taxes now or did you already do your 2024 estimate?

This is a really complex situation that highlights how confusing tax interactions can be at higher income levels. Based on what you've described, I'd recommend a systematic approach: First, definitely verify the W-2 coding as others suggested - compare your final 2023 paystub to your W-2 Box 1 to ensure the DCFSA contribution was properly excluded from taxable wages. Second, at your income level ($445k), you're well above the phase-out threshold for the Child and Dependent Care Credit, so the DCFSA should still provide benefit by reducing your taxable income. The fact that removing it lowers your tax liability suggests there might be an interaction with other provisions - possibly AMT, other credit phase-outs, or even how your tax software is handling the calculations. I'd strongly recommend having a tax professional review this specific situation. The interplay between high income, DCFSA, and various tax provisions can create unexpected results that general tax software might not handle optimally. A CPA familiar with high-income tax situations could identify exactly what's causing this counterintuitive result and help you structure things properly for future years.

Has anyone here actually reported their GoFundMe on their taxes? I ran one last year and got about $12k, used it all for my medical bills, and honestly didn't report anything. Did I screw up??

This is a really thoughtful way to handle the excess funds, Sean! One additional consideration I'd mention is timing - if you're planning to redistribute the $9,000 before the end of this tax year, make sure to space out your donations if you're concerned about hitting the $18,000 annual exclusion limit per recipient. Also, since you mentioned tax season is coming up, keep detailed records of everything: your original GoFundMe description, all incoming donations with dates and amounts, your medical expenses, and then all outgoing transfers to other campaigns. The IRS loves documentation, and having a clear paper trail will make everything much smoother if you ever need to explain the transactions. One last tip - consider reaching out to the recipients of your donations to let them know the funds are coming from your redistributed GoFundMe rather than directly from you personally. This can help establish that you're fulfilling your original campaign promise rather than making independent personal gifts, which could support the "conduit" argument Carmen mentioned above.

Has anyone here used QuickBooks Self-Employed? My tax person recommended it for tracking expenses and estimating quarterly taxes. Wondering if its worth the monthly fee or if theres something better out there?

The shock you're experiencing is totally normal for first-time business owners! What's happening is that your freelance income is being added on top of your W-2 income, potentially pushing you into higher tax brackets. Plus, as others mentioned, you're paying both halves of Social Security and Medicare taxes (15.3% total) since you don't have an employer splitting that cost. Here's what I wish someone had told me my first year: track EVERY business expense religiously. Home office percentage, internet/phone bills, software subscriptions, equipment depreciation, professional development courses, even business meals. These deductions can significantly reduce your taxable business income. Also, consider making quarterly estimated payments for 2025 to avoid underpayment penalties. I learned that lesson the hard way! The IRS expects you to pay taxes throughout the year when you're self-employed, not just at filing time. One more tip - keep detailed records of everything. The IRS can be pretty strict about business expense documentation, so having receipts and clear business justification for each expense will save you headaches if you ever get audited.

Quick tip: If you filed with a IP PIN make sure it was correct, that was my issue last year when this happened to me

I went through this exact same thing last month! The non-filing letter is actually a good sign - it means the IRS has your return in their system but it's still processing. When I was obsessively checking (guilty as charged lol), I noticed the transcripts typically update Friday mornings around 2-3 AM EST. Pro tip: bookmark the direct transcript page and check it Friday mornings instead of multiple times throughout the week. The system only updates once weekly for most people. Also keep an eye on "Where's My Refund" tool - sometimes that updates before the transcript does. Hang in there, you should see movement soon! 🤞

Oof, child support offsets are rough. Been there, my dude. Just remember, it'll get better. Hang in there! 💪

I went through this exact same situation last year! The Treasury Offset Program website (treasury.gov/services/report-payment-issues) has a section where you can request details about your offset. You'll need to fill out Form 8379 if you're married filing jointly and your spouse shouldn't be affected by the offset. Also, your state child support enforcement agency should have sent you a notice within 30 days of the offset - if you didn't get it, definitely call them too. The whole process is frustrating but you'll get through it!