Has anyone tried using tools like MyTaxBill or USAFacts? They're not perfect but they do break down federal spending pretty well. I was surprised to learn how much of my taxes actually go to things I do support, even though there are definitely programs I disagree with. I think the closest we get to having a "say" is voting for representatives who align with our spending priorities. Contacting your representatives directly about specific budget items can sometimes have an impact too, especially if enough constituents do it.

I totally get your frustration - it's maddening to pay tens of thousands in taxes and feel like you have zero control over how it's spent. While we can't currently direct our tax dollars to specific programs, there are actually some interesting developments happening at the local level that might give you hope. Several cities have experimented with participatory budgeting where residents vote on how to allocate portions of municipal budgets. Boston, Chicago, and New York have all tried versions of this. The results have been mixed, but it shows there's growing interest in giving taxpayers more direct input. At the federal level, you might want to look into organizations like the National Taxpayers Union or Citizens Against Government Waste - they advocate for more transparency and taxpayer control over government spending. Even if we can't choose where our money goes right now, organized advocacy can push for reforms that might give us more say in the future. In the meantime, I've found that really understanding where my money currently goes (through tools like the ones others mentioned) at least helps me feel less frustrated about the unknown aspects of it.

I went through something similar last year and learned that documentation is absolutely critical. While bank statements show the flow of money, they don't prove gambling activity specifically - the IRS wants to see the direct connection between your transactions and actual gambling. Here's what worked for me: I created a detailed gambling diary going back through the tax year, listing every session I could remember with dates, locations, games played, and approximate amounts. Then I matched this to my bank statements showing ATM withdrawals at casino locations and deposits after wins. The game-changer was getting my player's club statements from the casinos. Most casinos will provide these even months later if you ask - they show your actual gambling activity with dates and amounts wagered. For online betting, I downloaded every transaction history I could find before they expired. Don't just rely on bank statements alone. The IRS considers them supporting evidence, not primary documentation. You need to show you were actually gambling, not just moving money around. Start gathering additional evidence now - credit card statements showing casino purchases, any photos from gambling sessions (the timestamps help), and even parking receipts from casino visits can strengthen your case. It's a pain to reconstruct everything, but it's way better than having all your loss deductions rejected during an audit. Good luck!

I went through this exact situation during my audit two years ago, and I can tell you that bank statements alone are definitely not sufficient. The IRS auditor was very clear that they needed to see evidence of actual gambling activity, not just money movement. What ultimately saved me was reconstructing a gambling diary even though I hadn't kept one originally. I went back through my calendar, credit card statements, and even social media posts to piece together when and where I had gambled. The key was showing the correlation between my bank withdrawals and actual gambling sessions. A few things that really helped my case: ATM receipts from inside casinos (these are stronger than just bank records), any comp vouchers or promotional materials I had saved, and even Uber/Lyft receipts to casinos that helped establish I was there on specific dates. The IRS agent told me they see too many people try to claim gambling losses without proper documentation, so they're pretty strict about it. But if you can show a reasonable reconstruction of your gambling activity backed up by whatever records you do have, they're usually willing to work with you. Start gathering everything you can find - even small pieces of evidence add up to tell a complete story of your gambling activities. It's tedious work but absolutely worth it to protect your deductions.

Whoever designed these tax programs is evil genius level. They detect you made a retirement contribution, force Form 8880 into your return knowing most people won't qualify for the credit, then charge you for the "premium" form. Absolute scam but totally legal.

Actually, Miguel is incorrect about Form 8880 being required for all retirement contributions. You only need to file Form 8880 if you're actually claiming the Saver's Credit. If your income is above the eligibility thresholds, you don't need this form at all. The real issue is that tax software companies use this as a revenue opportunity. They detect retirement contributions and automatically assume you might qualify for the credit, then charge you for the "premium" version to include the form. But if you know you don't qualify based on your income, you can often work around this by being more specific about how you enter your retirement information. For 2024 taxes, the income limits are $36,500 for single filers and $73,000 for married filing jointly. If you're above these amounts, you can safely skip Form 8880 entirely. The key is finding tax software that doesn't automatically force it or knowing how to navigate around the upsell tactics.

I'm surprised nobody's mentioned this yet - having a negative basis of -50k when your profit/loss/capital percentages are all 16.8% suggests the partnership as a whole might have done a significant refinancing or cash-out refi and distributed proceeds to partners. That's a common way basis goes negative while capital accounts stay positive. Do you remember receiving any large distributions in the past few years? Partnership refinances often create exactly this situation - your capital account stays intact for book purposes but your basis gets reduced by the distributions.

This is actually a really common situation that trips up a lot of partnership investors. The key thing to understand is that your capital account and your outside basis serve completely different purposes and are calculated using different rules. Your capital account (the 120k on your K-1) is like your "book value" share of the partnership - it's what you'd theoretically get if the partnership liquidated everything at book value today. Your outside basis (the -50k your CPA mentioned) is your tax basis in the partnership interest, which determines things like how much loss you can deduct and what happens when you sell or receive distributions. The reason your basis went negative while your capital account stayed positive is likely due to cash distributions you received over the years that exceeded your initial investment plus your share of partnership income. When you receive distributions, they reduce your basis dollar-for-dollar but don't necessarily reduce your capital account the same way. Given that you have 63k in partnership liabilities allocated to you (6k + 57k), your actual "at-risk" basis for loss limitation purposes would be your -50k basis plus the 63k in liabilities, which gives you 13k of basis to absorb losses. This is why tracking partnership basis gets so complex - there are multiple layers of limitations and calculations. I'd strongly recommend getting a detailed basis calculation from your partnership's tax preparer (not just your personal CPA) showing how you got to -50k. You have a right to that information as a partner.

I'm sorry you're going through this - the combination of family health crises and financial stress makes tax issues feel so much more overwhelming. Based on what others have shared here, it sounds like contacting the IRS directly might be your best first step, especially given your budget constraints. A few things that might help ease your anxiety about calling: The IRS has specific hardship provisions for situations exactly like yours. When you call, mention the family medical situations (your mom's terminal illness, your dad's passing, your brother's depression) as these are considered reasonable cause for filing delays and can help with penalty relief. For your kids' FAFSA situation, you might not need to file ALL the missing years immediately - sometimes just getting the most recent 2-3 years filed can unblock their financial aid process. You could ask the IRS agent which years are most critical to prioritize. Also, don't feel like you have to solve everything in one phone call. The IRS agents are used to complex situations and can often work with you on a timeline that makes sense for your circumstances. The fact that you're reaching out proactively (rather than waiting for them to find you) will work in your favor. You've already survived incredibly difficult personal circumstances - you can get through this too.

I want to echo what others have said about contacting the IRS directly - they really can be more helpful than you'd expect, especially when you're proactive about resolving the situation. One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is the Taxpayer Advocate Service (TAS). Since you're dealing with significant financial hardship AND your children's education is being affected, you might qualify for their help. TAS is an independent organization within the IRS that helps taxpayers resolve problems when normal channels aren't working. They're free and can sometimes expedite cases where there's educational or economic hardship. You can reach them at 1-877-777-4778 or apply online. Given that your kids' FAFSA is being held up, this could potentially qualify as causing "significant hardship" which is exactly what TAS is designed to help with. Also, when you do call the main IRS line, ask specifically about "reasonable cause" relief for penalties due to your family's medical circumstances. The IRS has specific guidelines that consider serious illness of immediate family members as valid reasons for filing delays, which could save you thousands in penalties. You've got this - the hardest part is making that first call, and you're already mentally preparing to do it.