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Malik Jenkins

Can I get EDD PFL for caring for sick family member abroad? 8 weeks needed

Hi everyone! My uncle was just diagnosed with a serious heart condition in Argentina and I'm the only family member who can help him during recovery after his upcoming surgery. Need to be there about 8 weeks starting next month. Can I apply for CA Paid Family Leave to care for him? I've worked at my company in California for 3 years and have regular deductions from my paycheck, but I'm confused about how this works for family members who don't live in the US. Does anyone know: 1. Am I even eligible if my family member lives outside the country? 2. What medical documentation would I need? 3. How long does approval usually take? Really appreciate any advice! I'm stressed about both the situation and potentially losing 2 months of income.

Yes, you can absolutely apply for PFL for an out-of-country family member! I did this last year when my mother in Mexico needed care after cancer surgery. Here's what you need to know: - The location of your family member doesn't matter for PFL eligibility - You'll need the DE2501F form completed by your uncle's doctor - Foreign medical documentation needs to be translated to English - Get your uncle's medical records certified with a proper stamp/signature One challenge: the form may be unfamiliar to foreign doctors, so I recommend having a video call to explain what they need to document and why. Start the application process ASAP because international mail can delay things.

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Thank you so much! That's such a relief. Did you have any issues with the doctor filling out the form correctly? My Spanish is decent but I'm worried about explaining all the technical requirements to my uncle's cardiologist.

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just make sure ur uncle is considered a "family member" under california law...not all relatives qualify...pretty sure its parents, kids, spouse, registered domestic partner, grandparents, grandkids, siblings, and parents-in-law

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Oh shoot, I didn't even think about that! I'll double-check, but I think uncles might not be covered. That would change everything... 😟

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Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but uncles are NOT covered family members for California PFL. The exact list is: - Child (including adopted, foster, step, or legal ward) - Parent (including in-laws, adoptive, foster, or stepparent) - Spouse - Registered domestic partner - Grandparent - Grandchild - Sibling Unfortunately, uncles don't qualify. You might want to check with your employer about other leave options like FMLA (though that's unpaid) or ask about a personal leave of absence.

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Thanks for confirming. That's really disappointing. I'll talk to HR about unpaid leave options. I was really counting on at least some income during this time.

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THE EDD SYSTEM IS SO RIDICULOUS!!!!! Why do they get to decide which family members "count"?? What if your uncle raised you? What if he's your only family? The government shouldn't be telling us who qualifies as family we can care for. I had a similar issue when my aunt needed care - I was basically her daughter but NOPE, not eligible because we don't have the "right" relationship on paper. It's INFURIATING!!

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preach!!! the system is so broken. my cousin who i lived with for 10 yrs got cancer and i couldnt get benefits to help him. had to quit my job

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I'm so sorry I gave incorrect information about eligibility. I was thinking of my mother, not realizing uncles don't qualify. One option to consider: does your uncle have any qualifying relationship to you other than uncle? For example, if he legally adopted you at any point, or if he's also your godparent with legal status? Sometimes there are technical relationships that might qualify.

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Unfortunately not - he's just my mom's brother. No formal legal relationship beyond that. I appreciate you trying to help though!

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Does this actually work? I tried calling EDD about my disability claim like 50 times last month and gave up. Been wondering if there's any way to actually talk to a human there!

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It really did work for me! I was skeptical too but I was desperate after trying for 3 days. Got connected within about 25 minutes. The agent was able to explain exactly what documentation I needed for my international claim. Saved me a ton of stress.

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Have you considered checking if your employer offers any compassionate leave? My company has a policy where you can take up to 4 weeks for family emergencies that aren't covered by PFL. It's only half pay but better than nothing. Also some companies let coworkers donate PTO - my friend's office did this when she needed to care for her cousin after an accident. Also I think I read somewhere that California is considering expanding the definition of family members for PFL but it hasn't happened yet. Typical bureaucracy moving so slow!

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That's a great suggestion about compassionate leave and PTO donation. I'll definitely ask HR about both options. Even half pay would be better than nothing, and my coworkers are pretty supportive. Thank you!

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Just so you know all your options: 1. FMLA/CFRA - unpaid but job-protected for up to 12 weeks if you qualify 2. Employer compassionate leave policies (varies by company) 3. Accrued PTO/vacation time 4. Unpaid personal leave of absence 5. Short-term disability IF you have a separate policy (won't cover family caregiving though) For documentation, I recommend getting a detailed letter from your uncle's doctor explaining the condition, surgery details, recovery timeline, and specifically why a caregiver is medically necessary. Have it translated officially. This will help with any type of leave request.

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Thank you for laying out all these options! I'll definitely get the documentation from his doctor regardless of which route I end up taking. Really appreciate the clear information.

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my company let me work remote when my grandma was sick in mexico...any chance u can do ur job from argentina for those 8 weeks?

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That's a really good point! My job is partially remote already. I might be able to work part-time from there and use PTO for the rest. Going to talk to my manager tomorrow.

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That's actually brilliant! Even if you can only work 20-30 hours a week while caring for him, that would help stretch your finances. Plus Argentina has decent internet in the major cities. Just make sure to check with your company about any tax implications of working internationally for that long.

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I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle's condition and the stress you're dealing with. It's tough when family needs help but the system doesn't recognize all the relationships that matter to us. Since PFL won't cover your uncle, I'd suggest creating a plan with multiple income sources for those 8 weeks. Here's what worked for a friend in a similar situation: 1. Use all accrued PTO first (full pay) 2. Ask about unpaid FMLA to protect your job 3. Set up a partial remote work arrangement if possible 4. Look into a personal loan or family assistance for the gap Also, have you considered if your uncle might qualify for any local home care services in Argentina? Sometimes having professional help for part of the day can reduce the full-time care burden on family members. The remote work angle mentioned above is really smart - even if you can only work 15-20 hours a week while there, that's still some income coming in. Good luck with everything, and I hope your uncle's surgery goes well!

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This is really helpful advice, thank you! I hadn't thought about combining multiple approaches like that. The idea of using PTO first while setting up remote work makes a lot of sense. I'll definitely look into what home care options might be available in Buenos Aires too - that could make a huge difference in how much hands-on care I'd need to provide. Really appreciate you taking the time to lay out such a practical plan!

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I'm so sorry you're going through this difficult situation with your uncle. It's heartbreaking when family needs help but bureaucratic definitions don't match real relationships. Since PFL won't cover uncles, here's what I'd recommend doing immediately: **Talk to HR about:** - Compassionate leave policies (many companies have these) - FMLA/CFRA for job protection (unpaid but keeps your position) - PTO donation programs from coworkers - Flexible work arrangements **Financial planning:** - Calculate exactly how much income you'll lose over 8 weeks - See if you can work remotely even part-time from Argentina - Look into personal loans or family assistance if needed - Check if your uncle's insurance covers any home care services there **Documentation to get anyway:** - Detailed medical letter from his cardiologist about the surgery and recovery needs - Official translation of all medical documents - Timeline showing why 8 weeks of care is medically necessary Even though PFL won't work, having this documentation will help with any other leave requests. Some companies are more flexible when they see legitimate medical need, even if it's not covered by state programs. Wishing your uncle a successful surgery and recovery. You're a good person for wanting to be there for him.

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This is such comprehensive and thoughtful advice! I really appreciate you laying out all the steps so clearly. The documentation part especially makes sense - even if PFL doesn't apply, having official medical records translated and organized will help with any type of leave request I make to my employer. I'm feeling a bit more hopeful now seeing all these different options people have suggested. Going to start with talking to HR tomorrow about compassionate leave and remote work possibilities, then work through your checklist. Thank you for the kind words about my uncle too - means a lot during a stressful time like this.

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Hey Malik, I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle's diagnosis. What a tough situation to be in, especially finding out PFL won't cover uncles. I went through something similar when my brother-in-law needed care overseas. One thing that really helped was getting a detailed cost breakdown of what those 8 weeks would actually cost me vs. what I could potentially earn/save through different arrangements. Here's what I'd suggest doing this week: - Calculate your exact lost income for 8 weeks - Find out if Argentina has good internet infrastructure where your uncle lives (most major cities do) - Ask your manager about working 25-30 hours remotely while providing care - Get quotes for any home healthcare services available there Also, don't forget to check if your company has an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) - they sometimes offer financial counseling or emergency assistance funds that could help bridge the gap. The remote work + partial PTO approach that others mentioned really could work. Even earning 60-70% of your normal income is way better than zero, and you'd still be there for your uncle when he needs you most. Hope his surgery goes smoothly and you can figure out a workable plan!

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This is really smart advice about doing the financial breakdown first! I think you're right that even 60-70% income would be manageable if I can make the remote work arrangement happen. My uncle lives in Buenos Aires so internet shouldn't be an issue. I didn't even know about EAP programs - definitely going to ask HR about that tomorrow along with everything else. Thanks for the practical approach to planning this out!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your uncle's heart condition - that must be incredibly stressful for you and your family. While it's disappointing that PFL doesn't cover uncles, I wanted to share a few additional thoughts that might help: **International considerations:** - Check if there are any tax implications for working remotely from Argentina for 8 weeks - Look into travel insurance that covers extended stays for caregiving - Research what medical translation services are available in Buenos Aires if you need help communicating with doctors **Alternative funding sources:** - Some credit unions offer low-interest personal loans specifically for family emergencies - Check if your employer has any employee hardship funds or grants - Look into crowdfunding platforms if you're comfortable with that approach **Caregiver support:** - Connect with expat communities in Buenos Aires through Facebook groups - they often have great advice about navigating healthcare and services there - Consider if other family members could rotate visits to share the caregiving load The combination approach everyone's suggesting (remote work + PTO + unpaid leave) really does seem like your best bet. Even if you can only work 20 hours a week while there, that's still significant income. Your uncle is lucky to have someone who cares enough to figure all this out for him. Wishing you both the best during this difficult time!

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These are excellent points about the international aspects! I hadn't even thought about the tax implications of working from Argentina for that long - definitely need to check with our finance team about that. The travel insurance idea is really smart too, especially for an extended stay while dealing with medical situations. I love the suggestion about connecting with expat communities in Buenos Aires. They'd probably have the best real-world advice about navigating the healthcare system there and what services are actually available. Going to start looking for those Facebook groups right away. The rotating family visits idea is interesting, but unfortunately I'm really the only one who can take that much time off work. But you're right that even 20 hours a week of remote income would make a huge difference. Thanks for all the thoughtful suggestions!

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I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle's heart condition, Malik. What a difficult situation to navigate, especially with the distance and financial concerns on top of the medical stress. Since you've learned that uncles aren't covered under PFL, I wanted to suggest one more angle that might help: have you checked if your state has any emergency family leave programs beyond PFL? Some states have additional provisions for medical emergencies that might have different eligibility requirements. Also, when you talk to HR about remote work possibilities, you might want to propose a specific schedule - like working Argentina's morning hours (which would be late night/early morning California time) so you can be available for your uncle during his recovery periods during the day. This could show your employer you've thought through the logistics. One practical tip for the medical documentation: even though you won't need it for PFL, having everything properly translated and organized will help with any employer-based leave requests. It shows you're serious about the medical necessity. Your uncle is fortunate to have someone willing to go to such lengths to care for him. I hope you can piece together a solution that works financially and that his surgery goes smoothly!

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That's a really good point about checking for other state emergency leave programs! I hadn't thought to look beyond PFL - maybe there are other options I haven't discovered yet. The scheduling idea is brilliant too. Working during Argentina's morning hours makes so much sense since I'd be most alert then anyway, and it would free up my days to focus on caregiving. I'm definitely going to propose that specific arrangement to my manager - it shows I've really thought through how to make it work for everyone. You're absolutely right about getting all the medical documentation organized properly. Even if PFL doesn't apply, having everything translated and official will make me look more prepared when I'm asking for other types of leave. Thanks for the practical advice and kind words!

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I'm really sorry about your uncle's heart condition - that's such a stressful situation to be dealing with, especially with the distance involved. While it's frustrating that PFL doesn't cover uncles, I wanted to mention something that might help with the financial planning: some employers have "catastrophic leave banks" where employees can donate unused sick days to coworkers facing family emergencies. It's different from regular PTO donation and specifically designed for situations like yours where someone needs extended time off for serious medical situations. Also, if you do end up working remotely from Argentina, make sure to get everything in writing from your employer about the arrangement - how many hours, which days, time zone expectations, etc. This protects both you and them if any questions come up later. One more thought: Buenos Aires has excellent private healthcare options if your uncle needs any additional support services during recovery. The costs are generally much lower than US healthcare, so even paying out of pocket for things like physical therapy or home nursing visits might be more affordable than you'd expect. I hope you can piece together a workable plan and that your uncle's surgery goes well. It's clear how much you care about him, and I'm sure having you there will make a huge difference in his recovery.

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Thank you so much for mentioning catastrophic leave banks! I had no idea that was even a thing. I'm definitely going to ask HR about that tomorrow - it sounds like exactly the kind of program that could help bridge the financial gap. You're absolutely right about getting the remote work arrangement in writing. I've heard too many stories about verbal agreements falling apart when people actually need them. I'll make sure to get all the details documented properly. That's really encouraging to hear about the healthcare costs in Buenos Aires being lower! I was worried about potential additional expenses on top of losing income, so knowing that any extra care he might need could be more affordable is a huge relief. I really appreciate all the thoughtful advice from everyone in this thread. Even though PFL won't work out, I'm feeling much more confident that I can put together a plan that will let me be there for my uncle without completely destroying my finances. Thanks again!

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I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle's heart condition, Malik. This is such a tough situation - wanting to be there for family but facing financial uncertainty on top of the medical stress. Reading through all the advice here, it sounds like you've got some solid options to explore. The remote work + PTO combination seems like it could really work, especially if you can set up a schedule that works with the time difference. One thing I didn't see mentioned - have you looked into whether your company offers any kind of sabbatical or leave of absence program? Some employers have policies for situations exactly like this where you need extended time for family care that doesn't qualify for FMLA/PFL. They're often unpaid but might give you more flexibility than standard leave policies. Also, when you're talking to your uncle's doctors about the medical documentation, it might be worth asking them about the typical recovery timeline and what level of care is actually needed each week. Sometimes the first 2-3 weeks require intensive caregiving, but weeks 4-8 might be more about companionship and light assistance. This could help you negotiate a gradual return to more work hours as his recovery progresses. I hope his surgery goes smoothly and you can find a solution that works for everyone. Your uncle is lucky to have someone who cares this much!

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That's a great point about sabbatical programs! I hadn't even thought to look into that - some companies do have those longer-term leave options that might be more flexible than the standard policies. The idea about asking the doctors for a detailed recovery timeline is really smart too. You're right that the care needs probably change significantly over those 8 weeks. If I can show my employer that I might only need to work 10-15 hours the first few weeks but could ramp up to 25-30 hours as he recovers, that might make them more willing to approve the arrangement. I'm going to add both of these to my list of things to discuss with HR tomorrow. Having a clear picture of how the caregiving needs will evolve week by week could really help me propose a more realistic work schedule. Thanks for thinking of those details - it's exactly the kind of practical planning I need to do to make this work!

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I'm so sorry about your uncle's heart condition, Malik. This whole thread has been really eye-opening about the limitations of PFL and all the creative solutions people have found. One additional resource I wanted to mention: if you're part of any professional associations or unions, they sometimes have emergency assistance funds for members facing family crises. It's worth checking if you have any memberships that might offer financial support. Also, since you mentioned your Spanish is decent, you might want to reach out to your uncle's hospital's patient services department directly. Many hospitals in major cities like Buenos Aires have patient coordinators who speak English and can help explain what support services are available for international family members. They might know about local organizations that help with caregiving or even temporary housing near the hospital. The combination approach everyone's suggesting really seems like your best bet - remote work, PTO, and employer flexibility programs all working together. It's amazing how this community has come together to brainstorm solutions for you. Your uncle is so lucky to have someone willing to figure all this out to be there for him. Keeping both of you in my thoughts for a successful surgery and smooth recovery! 🙏

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That's such a thoughtful suggestion about professional associations and unions! I completely forgot that I'm a member of our industry association - they might have exactly the kind of emergency fund you're talking about. Going to check their website right after I talk to HR. The idea about contacting the hospital's patient services department is brilliant too. I was so focused on the medical side that I didn't think about all the support services they might have. Having someone there who speaks English and understands the system could make everything so much smoother, especially for things like coordinating care or finding temporary housing nearby. This whole thread has been incredible - I came in feeling totally overwhelmed and now I have a whole action plan with multiple backup options. It really shows how much this community cares about helping each other through tough situations. Thank you for adding even more resources to consider! 💙

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I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle's heart condition, Malik. What a difficult position to be in - wanting to care for family but facing these bureaucratic limitations. Reading through this thread, I'm struck by how many people have faced similar situations where the "official" family definitions don't match real relationships. It's frustrating that the system doesn't recognize how family actually works for many people. That said, the combination approach everyone's suggesting sounds really promising. I'd add one more thing to consider: if your company has a flexible PTO policy, you might be able to "borrow" against future vacation time to extend your paid leave. Some employers allow this for medical emergencies, especially if you've been there for 3 years and have a good track record. Also, when you do talk to your uncle's medical team, ask specifically about the post-surgery care timeline. Heart surgery recovery can vary a lot, and having a detailed week-by-week breakdown of care needs will help you negotiate a more realistic remote work schedule with your employer. Your uncle is fortunate to have someone who cares enough to navigate all this complexity for him. I hope his surgery goes well and you can piece together a financial solution that works. Keep us updated on how it goes with HR!

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Thanks for the suggestion about borrowing against future PTO! That's something I hadn't considered at all. With 3 years at the company and a good track record, they might be willing to let me use vacation days I haven't earned yet. That could really help extend the paid portion of my leave. You're absolutely right about getting that detailed week-by-week care timeline from his medical team. I think having that level of specificity will make a huge difference when I'm presenting my case to my employer. It shows I've done my homework and have a realistic understanding of what's actually needed. I really appreciate everyone's support and creative problem-solving in this thread. Even though I'm disappointed about PFL not covering uncles, I'm feeling much more optimistic about finding a workable solution. I'll definitely post an update after I talk to HR tomorrow - this community has been so helpful!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your uncle's heart condition, Malik. This thread has been incredibly helpful in showing both the limitations of the system and all the creative alternatives available. One thing I wanted to add that I haven't seen mentioned yet: have you considered reaching out to the Argentine consulate or embassy? They sometimes have resources or contacts for US citizens who need to provide care for family members in Argentina. They might know about local support services, have connections with English-speaking healthcare coordinators, or even have information about other Americans who've navigated similar situations. Also, since you'll potentially be there for 8 weeks, it's worth looking into temporary resident services in Buenos Aires. Some cities have programs specifically designed to help international visitors who are there for extended medical care situations - things like discounted temporary housing near hospitals, transportation services, or even volunteer companion programs that could give you breaks from caregiving duties. The remote work + PTO + company flexibility approach really seems like your best path forward. Having all these backup plans and resources will make you feel much more prepared when you talk to HR. Your uncle is so lucky to have someone willing to go to these lengths for him. Hoping for a successful surgery and smooth recovery for both of you!

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That's an excellent suggestion about contacting the Argentine consulate or embassy! I never would have thought of that, but you're absolutely right that they might have exactly the kind of resources and connections I need. They probably deal with situations like this more often than I'd expect and could have invaluable local contacts. The idea about temporary resident services is really intriguing too. If Buenos Aires has programs specifically for international visitors dealing with medical situations, that could solve multiple problems at once - housing, transportation, maybe even some companionship support that would let me take breaks to work remotely more effectively. I'm going to add both of these to my research list for this week. Between all the workplace options everyone's suggested and now these international resources, I feel like I'm building a really comprehensive backup plan. It's amazing how many angles there are to approach this that I never would have considered on my own. Thank you for thinking of those diplomatic and municipal resources - they could end up being game-changers! This community has been absolutely incredible in helping me see all the possibilities beyond just the PFL limitation.

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I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle's heart condition, Malik. This has been such an informative thread about the limitations of PFL and all the creative workarounds people have found. One resource I haven't seen mentioned yet is checking if your employer has any partnerships with international employee assistance programs. Some larger companies have agreements with global EAP providers that offer support services for employees dealing with family emergencies abroad - things like translation services, local care coordination, or even emergency financial assistance. Also, you might want to look into whether your health insurance has any international coverage or resources. While it won't cover your uncle's care, some plans have nurse hotlines or care coordination services that work internationally and could help you understand what to expect during his recovery process. The combination approach everyone's suggesting (remote work + various leave options + employer flexibility) really does seem like your best bet. Having talked to HR departments about similar situations, I think showing up with a detailed plan that demonstrates you've thought through all the logistics will go a long way toward getting approval. Your uncle is so fortunate to have someone who cares enough to research all these options and plan so thoroughly. I hope his surgery goes smoothly and you can put together a solution that works for everyone. Please keep us posted on how your HR conversation goes!

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That's a really smart point about checking if my employer has international EAP partnerships! We're a pretty large company so there's a good chance they might have something like that. Even just having access to translation services or care coordination support could make a huge difference in navigating the healthcare system there. I hadn't thought about my health insurance potentially having international nurse hotlines either - that's brilliant! Even if they can't help with my uncle's treatment directly, having someone I can call who understands medical terminology and recovery processes could be invaluable when I'm trying to coordinate his care from a distance or understand what the doctors are telling us. You're absolutely right about showing up to HR with a detailed plan. Reading through all the advice in this thread, I now have so many more options to present - remote work schedules, PTO borrowing, catastrophic leave banks, sabbatical programs, and all these international resources. It shows I've really done my homework and am serious about making this work for everyone. Thank you for adding even more resources to consider! This community has been absolutely amazing in helping me see possibilities I never would have found on my own. I'll definitely update everyone after my HR meeting tomorrow!

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