Trying to increase child support after ex stopped paying - will his stepkids affect CalWORKs calculation?
I'm at my wit's end with my child support situation and need advice from anyone who's been through this. My daughter (11) has lived with me 100% of the time since birth. Her father and I made an informal agreement for way less than the court would have ordered because he claimed he couldn't afford more since he was supporting his 5 stepchildren. I agreed because I was working steadily at the time. Fast forward to now - he had another baby in 2020 and used that to lower payments AGAIN. Then he completely stopped paying from August to November 2023! Meanwhile I lost my job and I'm struggling to keep up with rent and basics. He has a great job at a dairy company (employed there since 1999) and recently bought a nice house in 2021, plus his wife works full-time too. I've never applied for CalWORKs or Medi-Cal, but I'm wondering if I should? Or should I go directly to DCSS to modify our existing case? What I really want to know is: 1. Can they increase child support even though he has another bio child and 5 stepkids in his home? 2. Will his nice house and cars count against him or will just his income count? 3. Should I try going through welfare first or go straight to DCSS? 4. Is it worth paying for an attorney to handle this? Oh, and he never sees our daughter (hasn't since 2017) and doesn't contribute to any medical costs. Does that matter to the courts? I need help ASAP because bills are piling up!
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Nolan Carter
The most important thing to understand is that in California, child support is calculated using a standard formula that primarily looks at both parents' incomes, how many children you have together, and how much time each parent spends with the child. Since he has 0% visitation, that actually increases what he should pay. His step-children don't factor into the calculation AT ALL - those aren't his legal responsibility in the eyes of the state. His other biological child DOES reduce his obligation somewhat, but not nearly as much as he's probably claiming. Skip welfare for now and go directly to DCSS (Department of Child Support Services) in Visalia. Their services are FREE and they'll help you establish a proper order based on his actual income, not what he claims he can pay. They can also collect the back support he owes you for those missed months.
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Daniel White
•Thank you so much for the clear explanation! Are you sure his stepkids won't count at all? He's always told me the court considers all the kids in his household. So his nice house and cars won't be considered either? I'm just worried the calculations won't be fair.
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Natalia Stone
his step kids definately DONT count in child suport. my ex husband tried that same BS excuse with me. the judge straight up told him those kids r NOT his legal resposibility!!! only his biological kids count in calculaton. and since he dosent see your daughter at ALL that works in ur favor. definitely go to DCSS asap they will help u without u needing to pay a lawyer
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Tasia Synder
•This is mostly right but not 100% accurate. If he's legally adopted any of those stepchildren, they WOULD count in the calculation. OP should definitely ask if any adoptions have taken place. Otherwise, yes, stepchildren don't factor into the guideline calculation.
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Selena Bautista
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Mohamed Anderson
•I've heard about that service. Did they actually help resolve your case or just get you connected to someone?
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Ellie Perry
Don't waste time on welfare if you're just looking for child support help! CalWORKs will force you to pursue child support anyway AND they'll keep most of what they collect as reimbursement for your cash aid. Go straight to DCSS - they handle EVERYTHING for free. I went through this last year. My ex also had a "new family" he prioritized. DCSS got me triple what he was voluntarily paying before! And they garnished his wages so he couldn't just decide not to pay anymore. Also important: They look at his ACTUAL income from tax returns and employer verification - not what he claims he can afford. His fancy house doesn't directly factor in, but they'll definitely question how he affords it if he claims he can't pay proper support!
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Landon Morgan
•Ugh this is why I refuse to put my ex on child support. They take your tax refund too and my cousin said once your on welfare they just keep most of it anyway
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Daniel White
So what I'm gathering is I should definitely go to DCSS directly instead of applying for CalWORKs first? I'm getting mixed information from friends - some say welfare will help me get more money faster.
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Nolan Carter
•If you go on CalWORKs, you'll have to assign your rights to child support to the county anyway, and they'll keep most of what they collect (you'll only get the first $100 per month if you have one child). Going directly to DCSS means YOU get all the child support they collect. And they use the exact same formula either way. Only apply for CalWORKs if you need immediate cash assistance while waiting for child support to be established. The child support case will likely take 2-3 months to get started with payments.
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Mohamed Anderson
To address your questions directly: 1. His stepchildren are COMPLETELY irrelevant to the calculation unless he has legally adopted them. Only his biological children count. 2. His house, cars, and lifestyle don't directly factor into the calculation. However, if DCSS sees evidence of a lifestyle that doesn't match his claimed income, they can investigate for unreported income or ask the court to impute additional income to him. 3. Go directly to DCSS. With CalWORKs, you'd have to assign your child support rights to the county and would only receive the first $100/month (passthrough) - the rest goes to reimburse the county for your grant. 4. An attorney isn't necessary for standard child support cases. DCSS provides all services for free, including legal representation at hearings. Also important: His lack of visitation actually increases his support obligation because the formula takes into account how much time each parent spends with the child. With him at 0% time, he'll pay more than someone who has regular visitation.
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Daniel White
•Thank you for the detailed response. This is exactly what I needed to know! I'm going to contact DCSS tomorrow. Do you know if they can help recover the back payments he missed from August to November? And roughly how long does the process usually take before I start receiving payments?
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Teresa Boyd
My sister went through DCSS and they were able to get backpay for child support, but here's the thing. Once they establish the court order they can only go back 3 months for retroactive support from when you filed. But in your case since you already HAVE an order and he just stopped paying, they can collect on ALL of those missed payments. Make sure you bring documentation of your current order and proof of any payments he did make (bank statements, etc).
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Ellie Perry
•This is right! And once DCSS opens the case, they'll go after his wages directly. My ex's payments started coming out of his paycheck within about 6 weeks after I filed with DCSS. And they'll intercept tax refunds too if there's back support owed.
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Natalia Stone
girl stop letting him manipulate u!!! men always try to make us feel bad about asking for whats OWED to us for OUR CHILDREN!!! u dont need to feel guilty bout asking for proper support. those step kids have a mom and dad who need to support them. ur job is to fight for ur daughter!!
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Daniel White
•Thanks for saying this. I think I've been feeling guilty for too long about asking for what's fair. It's hard when he makes me feel like I'm taking food from his other kids' mouths, but you're right - my responsibility is to my daughter first.
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Tasia Synder
Just to clarify something important that people often misunderstand: The guideline calculator DOES consider the father's obligation to support children from other relationships, including both biological and adopted children. However, it does NOT consider his voluntary support of stepchildren. So in your case, only his one other biological child will be factored in as a hardship deduction, not the 5 stepchildren. This is clearly stated in California Family Code Section 4071. If you go to DCSS, they will handle all aspects of your case including income verification, establishing the appropriate support amount, enforcing payment, and collecting arrears. The timeline varies but typically takes 60-90 days to get established with the first payments.
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Selena Bautista
•when i was calling dcss trying to establish my case it took FOREVER to get thru the phone system most days i would get stuck on hold for over an hour and then get disconnected thas why i mentioned that Claimyr service earlier... made everything so much faster
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Daniel White
I want to thank everyone for the advice. I'm going to contact DCSS tomorrow morning and get this process started. I feel much better knowing the stepchildren won't factor into the calculation like he's been claiming all these years. I also appreciate knowing that going directly to DCSS rather than CalWORKs means I'll get the full amount of child support. I'll update once I get things moving with DCSS!
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Nolan Carter
•Good luck! Make sure to bring any documentation you have of the current order, payments he's made, and his employment information if you have it (the dairy company name and location will help DCSS find him in their system). The more information you provide upfront, the faster they can process your case.
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